Self-love

‘Sologamy’ is a growing trend for singles who want to marry themselves

Opponents of same-sex marriage warned us that if gay people were ever allowed to marry, it would open the floodgates and pretty soon people would start marrying everything from their pets to their family members to inanimate objects.

Well, it looks like that self-fulfilling prophecy is finally coming true.

Sologamy is growing trend among people who are happy being single but who also yearn to be married, so they wed themselves.

37-year-old Erika Anderson considers herself a “sologamist.” She says sologamy is all about saying “yes” to oneself and not giving into the pressure society places on single people to pair up.

“It means that we are enough,” she tells WUSA-9 news, “even if we are not partnered with someone else.”

Last year, Anderson said was so sick of people always asking why she was still single. So she planned a wedding, spent a ton of money, invited all of her friends and family, and got married… to herself.

Afterwards, she took herself on a solo honeymoon to Mexico.

Believe it or not, there’s actually an industry for this sort of thing. “Marry Yourself” in Canada offers consulting and wedding photography for sologamists. There’s also IMarriedMe.com, which describes itself as “a self-wedding is a symbolic ceremony–about reconnecting and staying connected with you. Wear the ring to remind you every day to LOVE YOURSELF.”

IMarriedMe.com offers sologamy ceremony kits, including “self-wedding bands,” daily affirmation cards, and vows, as well as an “I Married Me Self-Wedding In-A-Box” kit that retails for $230.

The site was created by jewelry designer Jeffrey Levin, who tells WUSA-9, that he believe sologamy has “increased over the years, and it’s something that’s becoming more understood and more accepted.”

But not everyone agrees.

Amanda Prestigiacomo at The Daily Wire calls it “the saddest trend you’ve ever heard of” and Michael Arceneaux at The Root describes it as “some white nonsense, and y’all’s black selves better not duplicate their silliness.”

“You don’t need to marry yourself to prove you’re OK with being single,” Arceneaux writes. “Just masturbate and ignore the world. Tell people to mind their damn business. … There—I saved you on your future fake divorce settlement. You’re welcome.”

What do you think about the idea of sologamy and self-marriage? Sound off in the comments below…

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12 Comments

  • throwslikeagirl

    If there was some sound legal and financial reasons for this, I’d be on board. As it is, it seems like something one can do on their own, much like coming out.

  • Chevelter

    Did you get this story from The Onion?

  • KaiserVonScheiss

    There are times when I feel hope for the future. This is not one of those times.

  • DistingueTraces

    As someone who is happily and probably permanently single — this is stupid.

  • mujerado

    The most unfortunate aspect I see in this article is that someone saw fit to characterize the phenomenon racially. Silliness indeed!

  • Blackceo

    :::::Michael Arceneaux at The Root describes it as “some white nonsense, and y’all’s black selves better not duplicate their silliness.”::::::

    LOL…I love my people. Anywho…this reminds me when Carrie Bradshaw married herself in order to get those Manolos back that someone stole. I think this is a bit extreme but I get it. I know people who are perfectly happy being single and child free and have no intentions on getting married or having children. I was that person at one time. I said no to my now husband 3 times before I decided that I would marry. But marrying yourself? I mean do you but really girl?!!!

    • Danny595

      Racism and effeminacy. You’re the complete package. I would feel really sorry for your husband, if he actually existed.

    • Heywood Jablowme

      hmmm… I’m not sure if it’s a white-only thing.

      But I’d LIKE to think it’s a FEMALE-only thing.

      Wishful thinking, perhaps!

  • Heywood Jablowme

    They don’t have to get married, they can just go f u ck themselves.

  • Jack Meoff

    This is the most ridiculous thing I have ever heard. In the eyes of the law you would still be considered single so where is the benefit? If you are a special little snowflake who feels judged for being single then I would suggest you have bigger issues to deal with.

  • DCguy

    “””37-year-old Erika Anderson considers herself a “sologamist.” She says sologamy is all about saying “yes” to oneself and not giving into the pressure society places on single people to pair up. …

    Last year, Anderson said was so sick of people always asking why she was still single. So she planned a wedding, spent a ton of money, invited all of her friends and family, and got married… to herself. “”””

    So it’s about not giving in to “The pressure society places on people to pair up” and to prove that, she did exactly what society was pressuring her to do. Spend a ton of money on a big showy wedding that just happened to not have a groom.

    She did EXACTLY what society said to do, she just did it in a way that was a combination of Sad and narcissistic. So weddings have now become so much about living out a princess fantasy that people can still have the ceremony and they don’t need to waste any time on dating or finding anybody to get married to.

    This sounds like a joke somebody in the wedding industry made, that the P.R. folks said “Hey, lets give it a try and see if people are this ridiculous.”

  • calabrazy99

    Is this another DUMB gay identity? Cis, for example. How dumb young gays are getting

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