Antonio Tejado is a reality TV star from Spain who is currently fielding a gay sex scandal.
It all started after Tejado, who is perhaps best known for appearing on the Spanish version of Survivor, was spotted at the Bagdad Room, a popular gentlemen’s club in Barcelona, where he purportedly engaged in a public sex act… possibly with another man.
Shortly after the rumors began swirling, a man came forward to say he wasn’t the least bit surprised by the story since he himself had engaged in a sexual encounter with Tejado in the past.
Not just that, but he claimed to have video of their rendezvous, which happened in the backseat of a taxi.
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“It happened five or six years ago”, the man told the Spanish tabloid TV program Sálvame (“Save Me”) in an interview. “There’s a video in the taxi from us, it’s true.”
“What I can say?” the man added. “What I experienced was not his first time, believe me.”
Well, this week, Tejado hit the media circuit to deny the claims. Sort of.
He appeared on Sálvame to say the story was “totally false”, but he wouldn’t elaborate too much more beyond that. Things got heated pretty quickly and he soon erupted into anger.
Antonio Tejado: “Niego categóricamente lo que se está diciendo de mí” #yoveosálvame #tejadosado https://t.co/9M8YeZkHRg pic.twitter.com/ZcZmKHgCId
— Sálvame Oficial (@salvameoficial) July 10, 2018
“I do not have to say anything,” he raged. “I’m not going to tell you whether it’s true or not that I’ve had sexual experiences with men!”
30-year-old Tejado continued, “I am heterosexual. If someone wants to shove me out of a closet, I do not care!”
He went on to say he “categorically denies” having sex with a dude in the back of a taxi and that he’s now considering legal action against the guy.
“I do not have to explain my private life,” Tejado said, “and it’s not because I’m afraid to admit it. I’m very modern!”
To help drive the point home, Tejado took to Instagram to post a photo of himself engaged in a passionate lip lock with his girlfriend in a pool along with the caption: “Cada minuto puede ser una epopeya” which translates to “Every minute can be epic.”
Curtispsf
It only TAKES a few minutes to give a fabulous blowjob, so yeah, every minute IS epic.
Donston
Whether it’s true or not, if a guy isn’t unabashed about being legit into guys I tend not to care. I couldn’t care less about a dude getting hook ups in bathrooms here and there. If his girl knows what’s going on then it’s no one else’s business. However, he is a lowly reality TV personality not some A-lister. So, he should have known that they were gonna grill him.
Paco
That bathroom mirror selfie does not help his case. That look has every detail one would associate with a certain gay archetype.
GetReal101
What are you seeing in his selfie that leads you believe that he is even remotely gay? He looks like a perfectly normal straight dude to me.
charlietex
But certainly not you’re gay archetype roght? Which one is that again? Self hating gay troll?
Paco
@GetReal101 = What are you seeing in that selfie that leads you to believe he is straight? He looks like a gay man to me.
@charlietex = and I don’t even know what you are on about.
JoeyRamone
You’re one of those deluded fools who spends so much time on what “looks” gay, you probably have no clue what you are seeing.
The dude looks like a lot of guys, straight and guy. Probably you should get out more.
Paco
@JoeyRamone – He looks like a gay man to me. Not sure why that requires any snark from you. You sound like it is offensive or something. Gay isn’t bad, asshole.
Paco
@JoeyRamone – and further, If I said he looked straight, would your feathers have gotten as ruffled? I’m guessing not.
Kangol
Chiquita, come on now, we see through that glass closet door. Or taxi door. Or whatever door you’re badly hiding behind.
Ttrotski
Who cares? He’s a homophobic closet case. What is this fascination gay men have with having “straight” men? They aren’t straight if the have sex with men!
Donston
According to the new rules of “queerness” anyone can identify as anything they see fit. So, why can’t a guy who perhaps has regular sex with guys and maybe even legit side relationships dudes say he’s “straight”. Some men say they’re gay but they’ve had relationships and sex with women and even admit to some attraction towards women. But besides the “bi pride” extremists no one bothers them too much.
I’m tired of policing identity. The dude at this point clearly doesn’t want to legit be with a guy and may have female romantic and sexual preferences. So, I don’t care.
Chrisk
@Donston. He probably doesn’t take it up the ass or suck dick. Now that would be gay. He’s a macho guy, he’s a modern guy, he’s a complete douchebag.
Chrisk
Oh and it’s clear as day that he’s had sex with guys. Why not just come out and say I’m bisexual. I just don’t get it.
radiooutmike
Yeh, but they always deny it. Why should an E-lister deny shit!
surreal33
I beg to differ occasionally getting your dick sucked is not enough to be gay.
Being gay entails real emotional connections to men not just busting a nut.
Gay men should know this better than anyone else.
Tombear
Those Spaniards are so good looking and the men’s bars and dance clubs all have back rooms!
Jaroslaw
So good looking Tom? I would say his mirror photo is better than the shirtless photo but still he is only average. I agree with others – if his girlfriend knows there is no scandal.
GetReal101
Anyone with a beard and is hairy is super good looking to Tombear. He has no other standards.
Tombear
Be nice ladies! Everyone has a different taste in men and YES, I find hairy, bearded men much more attractive then a “hairless wonder!” It takes all kinds to make a world.
JoeyRamone
You’re right. He’s elfin’ hot, like a lot of guys there.
OzJosh
Queerty’s definition of “TV star” is ever widening.
Young Timer
Haha… “me theenks tho doth protest way too much”
batesmotel
He is very sexy. Love that pent up passionate anger he was displaying. Yummy. Although he is right, he doesn’t need to say or not say anything. It’s a ridiculous question to ask someone in an interview. Do you sleep with men and women? Good lord. These are intelligent journalists?
Donston
It was probably a semi big story and controversy, at least by random reality performer in Spain standards. So, while the question was inappropriate, he probably should have seen it coming.
And please get off his dick. Non gay-identifying dudes seem to be the only type you ever have hard-ons for.
Chrisk
He’s the one that started this media Circus by going out there to prove his straightness.
da90027
Never heard of him like 90% of the people Queerty features. LOL
Kangol
Well, now you have, and you even posted about him, so consider yourself informed.
tham
I’m going to file this under “Meh”
Giuseppe
This guy is 30???????? Yikes!
Chrisk
I would have pegged him at 40
JoeyRamone
you’re like 60, so I’d say he looks great for his age.
jjose712
Calling Antonio Tejado a tv star is sci fi. The guy is known for being married with the niece of a famous singer (his aunt is a famous singer too).
He is on tv a lot but famous is not the word that i would use to describe him.
And he is straight, in fact he is known for cheating on his wives multiple times
Sanjo
Maybe if people stopped sensationalizing sex, it wouldn’t matter. It seems to be important to some to categorize and label people. If he is a “heterosexual” who likes having sex with men, that’s his business. What’s wrong with choosing our own labels?
DCguy
“”“I do not have to say anything,” he raged. “I’m not going to tell you whether it’s true or not that I’ve had sexual experiences with men!” “”
Said every closet case caught ever.
Aires the Ram
Wellllll, Men in Spain and most Central American and South American countries happen to do a lot of messing around with other men, it doesn’t have a name, it’s common, and it’s not used as an identifier for them. Here in the US, and other Western countries, we seemingly have to put absolutely everything into a distinct category, label it, and carry signs up and down the street. Perhaps our way of doing this is just a bit f&c*&k&e**d up?? Ya think maybe?
GayEGO
If it was just about sex, you could be right. But my lifetime partner of 56 years, married 14 years, have love for each other and sex was secondary. We are all different and we should understand that instead of smacking each other down.
DCguy
What a shock, one of the screenames that regularly defends Trump, and anti-LGBTQ bigotry also wants to defend the closet.
Sorry, but it DOES have a name, you are lying. It has been legal in Spain for over 13 years. Same sex marriage is LEGAL in multiple Latin American Countries. So there is a name for it, it is legal, it is open.
And again, no surprise that the same screename that regularly defends anti-LGBTQ bigotry would try to defend the closet and attack the idea of being open.
You bigot defending accounts aren’t even TRYING to hide anymore are you?
GayEGO
Oh my! He just wants to get his willy satisfied…….however he does it. I have heard of straight guys corn-hauling sheep in Colorado!
Tête Carrée
I think it’s corn-holing. That would mean the hole that corn sometimes comes out of. I imagine the straight guys would go for the female sheep and the hole the lambs come out of (lambs with their face on it)!
Sam6969
I had a glance at the interview and people looked so serious and inquisitive that it seems they were judging a criminal offence, just like in a (travesty of a) trial.
If he says that he is straight and we know that he has had occasional same-sex experiences, he can still be straight or mostly straight, according to the well-known Klein sexual orientation grid .
This grid takes into account several dimensions to define your sexual orientation (sexual attraction, sexual behavior, sexual fantasies, emotional preference, social preference, lifestyle, self identification in the past, present and ideally). Other dimensions are missing, but it still is an interesting tool.
Here is the test .
So, if someone has, let’s say 15% of same-sex attraction and had some sort of homosexual experiences in the past, he has elements of bisexuality in himself, but one can say he is mostly straight or even simply “straight”. It still is in the range of heterosexuality, as defined by Fritz Klein.
Paco
The problem with these tools is that they do nothing except reinforce heterosexuality as the default because those that still identify as straight, even though they engage in same sex sexual activity, do not want any of the discrimination that comes with identifying any other way. There needs to be a strict clinical standard that bypasses how one “feels” and objectively analyzes the behaviors of the subjects.
Sam6969
@Paco: it is a point that can be raised, but it is a bit more complicated.
Actually, for some reasons the test I put here does not give many details in the results (with figures). For now, I can just give you a more explicit test…in French. Sorry for those who cannot read it.
Here: Klein sexual orientation grid by Psychomédia
The rest tomorrow.
JoeyRamone
@paco. Um, what world do you live in. Heterosexuality is the default. Doesn’t make it necessarily better, but it’s the norm and the basis for human existence. Get over it. Too many gender classes at an elite college.
Sam6969
@Paco:
To my knowledge, there is no such thing as a “strict clinical standard” able to determine anyone’s sexual orientation with certainty, as too many variables need to be taken into account such as the level of self-awareness and age of the person (neuronal routes in the brain may not be yet there, even in young adults), their fantasies, behaviors, emotional proclivities, ideals that influence thoughts and behaviors, etc.
For instance, the genital plethysmograph does not always work, particularly with some homophobic people with visceral reactions; and for other people, it may just record some sexual excitation without telling much on their full sexual orientation itself. It just tells us that there may be a pattern of sexual attraction there, but what about the sexual fantasies, actual sexual behaviors and emotional preferences, for instance?
It seems that whatever the technique and just like in any other human science, results depend to some degree on the subjective factor. We may approach a faithful description of one’s sexual orientation by combining several techniques, including questionnaires, but it will likely never be an exact science.
Questionnaires allow individuals to self-assess to some degree their current sexual orientation, not their potential sexual orientation that can be revealed to them (and others) later in life…or never. The social influence plays such an important role in the process, locking or unlocking possibilities, that we have to take into account what the person thinks at the time the test is taken rather than what he could think in a different social setting. He or she may also make a crucial encounter that triggers a punctual or lasting change in their usual love and sexual habit. So, you see that’s not an easy task to devise reliable instruments to assess sexual orientation and it’s not necessarily a bad thing…
As to the Klein sexual orientation test, you may have noticed that the score breakdown is as follows:
7-24: heterosexual orientation
25-35: bisexual orientation
36-49: homosexual orientation
The offset 7 is due to the fact strict heterosexual orientation is 1 and there are 7 variables (sexual attraction, sexual behavior, sexual fantasies, emotional preference, social preference, heterosexual/homosexual lifestyle, self identification). So, a strict heterosexual individual scores at 7.
Then, up to 24, they are still considered straight in the Klein model. The closer the score to 7, the stricter the person is heterosexual. In-between there are all kind of heteroflexibility
nuances and even bi-curiosity , but not quite bisexuality, starting at a score of 25, as defined by Klein.
A controversial point might be that even if you have only homosexual behaviors, attractions and fantasies, self-identification weighs heavily in the assessment and you are labeled bisexual at the end of the test instead of homosexual. So, it is true the more you are honest with yourself and the more the result is accurate, but let’s say you are not ready for the “gay” label, the test simply reflects what it is for you in the moment. Not what will happen next year, when something happens and you finally identify yourself as gay, or you start having straight relationships after what was an episode in your life…who knows?
Donston
Sexuality in general is too random, has too many variations and is driven by too many things to truly be pinned down. There are some men (like myself) who are sometimes aroused by women’s body parts and have had sex and relationships with women but never established genuine sexual or romantic fullfillment and contentment towards females. There are men who are sometimes turned on by men’s body parts but never establish genuine sexual or romantic fullfillment towards guys. There are men who are only turned on by a penis or vagina or titties or ass or a particular gender’s face or “energy” but not really anything else. There are some men who just like sexualy dominating different types of people or being sexually dominated by different types of people. The are some men who have romantic feelings for guys but little to no sexual attraction or fullfillment. There are men who have romantic feelings for women but little to no sexual attraction or sexual fullfillment towards females. And so on and so forth. Hell, one of my female friends “went lesbian” for a few years simply because she was grossed out by sperm. And you have very homo-leaning men who identify as bi/fluid/pan/queer because, though they’re not that particularly into women romantically or sexually, they’re turned on by straight sex and are obsessed with “straight guys”. Then you guys have guys who are only into the kid/teenage version of a particular gender. And none of this gets into the scale or gay/homo-leaning contending with self-doubt, self-resentment, obsession with heteronormalcy, etc. All this and more is why identities in general are so problematic and in many circumstances can serve little point other than political. I go with “gay” (though not homo) because, ultimately, I only really want to be with a man and can only have substantial and sustained same-sex romantic, sexual and emotional fullfillment. I’m also married to a man. So, there’s really no sociological need for me to go with something else unless I simply don’t want to be seen as “gay”. But my romantic and sexual life and fulfillment is too homo-based for me shun being seen as “gay”. I just wank off to some lesbo porn every couple months and keep it pushing. And I really didn’t start to feel genuine self-comfort until I started identifying as “gay”.
I have gotten to the point where, identity aside, if a dude doesn’t have unabashed feelings and unabashed interests in men I just don’t care all that much what else is going on.
And no, there still is no standard test that can determine anyone’s orientation. In fact, the last several real clinical studies on male bisexuality has resulted in almost all of the men being seen as gay and a small percentage fitting into straight. However, fluidity has some legitimacy. And sexuality and orientation is not simply about arousal. I’m not quite one of those “I don’t believe in labels” people yet. But it’s important to look beyond those identities and have real, honest, non-cliche conversations, because too much of the identity games are often so driven by ego, politics and/or sociology.
Sam6969
Yes, Donston, there are all kind of fetishes, paraphilia and paths that make each of us different. Actually, fetishes are the norm for hetero, homo and bisexual people. Also, the way you live your sexual orientation, in conflict with yourself or not, does not necessarily equate the fact you do not or cannot identify as gay or bi. You can contend with self-doubt, self-resentment, obsession with “heteronormalcy”, etc. and still identify as gay and it does not give you less rights than others. The inner struggling is part of the path.
Sigmund Freud considered that what is not genital sexuality is partial sexuality, whether it is homo, hetero or bisexuality. Nowadays, modern psychoanalysts, such as Dr Stéphane Clerget, consider you can have genital sexuality even in anal or oral sex, as organs can be invested indifferently by oral, anal and genital sexual urges. So, being homosexual or heterosexual does not mean you necessarily have a partial or complete sexuality and we do not distinguish that fact when we say someone is homo or hetero. It is not a good idea to discriminate against homosexuals who only have partial urges (anal and oral). There would not be many homosexuals left in this virtual “acceptable area”.
The same reasoning applies to those who only or mainly have homosexual fetishes and do not or cannot have satisfying romantic relationships. They are part of the homosexual community too.
Let’s take the word: “hetero-worship”, you use pejoratively. As a top, you may not be aware of it, but many passive homosexuals have a fetish for manhood, self-assured and prominent masculinity; and straight guys fit perfectly the bill. They embody the very essence of unabashed manhood and for some, what they feel they are lacking. So, it is not uncommon they are part of their fantasies. It does not change the fact those fetishists can have a fulfilling relationship with a gay male partner or will be able later in their life. It is their fetish not yours.
You wrote: “I go with “gay” (though not homo) because, ultimately, I only really want to be with a man and can only have substantial and sustained same-sex romantic, sexual and emotional fullfillment.”
Yes, a snapshot of your current sexual orientation in a test more sophisticated than Klein’s may make you an homosexual whose sexual cursor can stretch to homoflexibility and bi-curiosity, maybe bisexuality for authors with a wider definition of the term. You are right to say the term “gay” can be seen as insisting on a political identity (not for everyone though).
“I have gotten to the point where, identity aside, if a dude doesn’t have unabashed feelings and unabashed interests in men I just don’t care all that much what else is going on.”
Your feelings about those people do not change their right to identify the way they want and many times, rightfully so. In contesting this, you would behave condescendingly just like the nobles did with the people. Furthermore, if you really got to the point you do not care about their way of life if they do not have “unabashed feelings” towards men, then you are mature enough to not have strong feelings about or against them.
“In fact, the last several real clinical studies on male bisexuality has resulted in almost all of the men being seen as gay and a small percentage fitting into straight.”
It would be great if you could mention your sources, so that we know what methods were used.
“I’m not quite one of those “I don’t believe in labels” people yet. But it’s important to look beyond those identities and have real, honest, non-cliche conversations, because too much of the identity games are often so driven by ego, politics and/or sociology.”
Sure, it all plays a great part in the game, but everyone brings something to someone. It might not be you, but it may be someone else…It may also be the collectivity at some level. Also, people “playing the game” usually do not do it malevolently. Maybe you read hidden intentions that are not there.
Identity is closely related to ego, personality features and personality disorders. To which degree can we really be honest? Isn’t that an ideal horizon? Is everyone ready for full self-knowledge, at any time? Who says when it is the right time for someone?
That being said, you are right to suggest human consciousness pushes its way towards deeper self-understanding and honesty…but let’s not be too much rigid towards others. We already have a lot to do ourselves in that department, haven’t we? Ideally, yes it is great when self-understanding LGBTQ people show on TV their deeper feelings, whatever this means, but I think it is in a large proportion not specific to LGBTQ.
Donston
I’m aware that almost none of the things I mentioned are uncommon. Most of them are pretty frequent, which is why I tend to be obsessed with pushing the conversation beyond “labels”. The next evolution for sexual politics and understanding is people not being so dependent on indentity, cliches and phrases. But politics, self-resentment and sociology is only allowing that to happen at a very slow pace.
It took me a while to realize that unless you are absolutely, 100% inherently and conventionally hetero or homo then not only do you fit in the “spectrum”, but there’s also different compartments of yourself that you have to confront and be honest with yourself about. Attraction and arousal and excitement are all overhyped when discussing orientation. They are aspects of orientation, but those things don’t even equate to sexual pleasure yet alone sexual preferences, romantic instincts, romantic fulfillment or emotional contentment.
Sam6969
Yes, indeed and the term “homosexuality” does not help in making people aware of all the non-sexual dimensions this orientation can encompass. And yes, pleasure without love is not the same as pleasure alone.
Something we must be aware is that labels help people not to talk publicly about more intimate aspects of their life on purpose, whatever their sexual orientation. It is part of the traditional decorum and simply, common sense of modesty. So, they package their sexuality and the rest into labels or just show the surface of their life: their wife, husband, kids and the nice house. I agree sometimes we would need LGBTQ people to put further details. It may be particularly useful for the youngest of us. There are aspects of what you want to see in younger people, such as the kid who put online he had some misfortune with a 10-inch dick he was deep sucking .
Maybe, being that open to divulge the details of one’s sexuality is where we are heading? There is a sense of freedom coming from this story and a lesson of self-acceptance and self-revelation…or just boundaries issues, immodesty, or unawareness of the social dynamics and potential implications.
I understand you are impatient things change more quickly. It is frustrating for most of us that full acceptance is slow to come and that there are ebbs and flows on that matter.
However, even people using LGBTQ labels as foils may help us to spread acceptance. At least, I think they do not do harm. Let’s not be too nitpicky.
Also, LGBTQ who experience self-resentment won’t change if we point the finger at them to shame them. To the contrary, they must be supported. It is not their fault if this society is intolerant and that they internalized, sometimes since childhood, that intolerance turning it into self-resentment. I think we should be more understanding for those who do not actively harm others. Most of us went through issues(less maybe in the last generation) and maybe still have elements of self-resentment in ourselves. Also, we do not know how someone turned out homo. Traumas are not uncommon and sometimes, it needs a life (or more) to heal wounds. So, let’s be tolerant with each other.
Donston
I agree that pointing the finger doesn’t help, at least in most circumstances. Although social media has in some ways helped people be more open it’s also made it easier to manipulate your public image and has made us even more identity and cliche dependent and has as well put greater sociological pressures on some. A guy saying he’s gay but he has some attraction to women or doesn’t mind hooking up with women sometimes would send a ton of people up in arms. A guy saying he sees himself as “straight” but has some attraction to dudes would send even more people crazy.
I do know that once I was able to separate “gay” from “homosexual” and see gay as more a reflection of substantial, sustained romantic, sexual and emotional fullfillment and contentment it became much easier for me to explain myself and easier to gain genuine self-acceptance and self-comfort. So, I do understand how indentity can be key to certain breakthroughs and certain self-understanding.
Sam6969
Yes, identities are useful to lay the ground where you can feel safe and carry on building and growing up.
Yes, there are contradictory movements on social media: the main one is very critical and judgmental of people’s sexual life and base its opinions on stereotypes and images; and another one is shameless, reckless and somehow flip the fingers at those people (but still based somehow on image).
Of course, as usual, people who do not fit the safe and distinct boxes (homo, hetero) are the most criticized. If they see you as straight and you behave even a bit differently (not even talking of being bi), slightly effeminate for instance, some of them would try to make you ashamed to make you changed, but as soon as they discover you are gay then they are relieved and treat you as a gay. I caricature a bit, but that is not far from the truth.
Donston
I will say that some of what you’re putting out does come off as slight hetero worship. Submissive bottoms are not the only ones who indulge hetero worship and see “straight men” as superior, especially since there are plenty of openly gay/homo-leaning men who strictly or mostly top. Many dudes who only top say that they prefer “straight guys”. Many guys who present themselves as super macho and are resentful of more effeminate men in reality come off a lot less conventionally masculine than they think or come off as macho gay caricatures. And there are men who say that they have zero romantic or sexual interests in guys who say that they’re gay. That’s one of the few reasons I embraced “gay”. I just didn’t have time to deal with a dude like that.
In general, the pressure is hyper focused on people identifying as something (including “straight”) and fitting into a sociological bubble rather than understanding yourself and being honest about yourself and what you want.
Sam6969
First of all “hetero worship”, as you describe it, is just another fetish trip, i.e. a partial sexuality in Freud’s terminology. The straight man is reduced to a part of himself, a quality empowered with real or imaginary distinctive power (the phallus). The “straight” fetish can just be a fantasy, a role play with a gay partner, in the context of a balanced and complete sexuality, but it can also reach to the degree of an active and exclusive search for real or imaginary heterosexual partners. Even in this extreme though, there is room for a complete sexuality, if the person finds the right guy…it is just much more complicated. However, if it is obsessive compulsive and the partner is completely reduced to the fetish, then it can be seriously problematic for the latter on the long run, if not before.
If everything is not clear since the beginning between the lovers, particularly if the fetishist demands his partner to negate his identity to fit to the fetish, then there is no real relationship. After experiencing such a relationship, particularly if the partner had feelings for the fetishist, I understand how he can become obsessed with authenticity, self-revelation and can tend to generalize straight fetish and preference to self-resentment. It happens, often maybe, but that’s not an exclusive.
I also agree bottoms are not the only one to fantasize straights guys, though their fetish trips for them can be a bit different. One wants to possess the masculine power, the other wants to submit to it (and conversely, as there are power bottoms too!). There can be in this fetish the notion of difficulty to capture a rare specimen, the so-called “genuine” masculinity, etc.
Seamus66
Any actor who states he’s “not into guys” but is also “very modern” usually means he prefers women, but will make out with a guy on screen, just so he can try and get roles. Seen it before. Same old song and dance. Boorrring.
Kangol
Except this dude wasn’t just making out with guys onscreen, he was getting busy with them in a taxi (with video allegedly to prove it) and at one of Barcelona’s most famous sex clubs. So whatever he calls himself, he clearly has an interest in sex with men.
djmcgamester
The more we made this a drama piece, the harder we make for guys to start just being with who they want to be with, regardless of gender.
Sam6969
Agreed.
DCguy
No, the more people come out and are open the easier it is for people to come out.
Supporting the closet as an excuse to make lgbt life easier is exactly the opposite of helping.
Sam6969
@DCguy, we did not interpret the same way what @djmcgamester wrote.
To me, he meant that to make a public drama out of someone’ same-sex experiences (and sexual orientation) is sending out the message that it is a big deal to have that kind of relationships or affairs. Insisting so rudely that someone talks about their sexual affairs (outside the primary relationship) when they do not want to, just feeds the stereotype that same-sex experience is shameful and homosexuality/bisexuality/bi-curiosity related to infidelity. They highlight these points, not the fact he is proud to have occasional homosexual intercourses. In what ways is it useful for us? In what ways this specific case is useful for (young) people who want to come out of the closet?
It is great if there are many people out of the closet, but not at the expense of our dignity as a community and beyond, as voyeurs of someone else’s intimate life. They mind a business between him, his girlfriend and the alleged lover that is not theirs and not ours.
If @djmcgamester meant something else, he may tell us.
Ptar1
Does anyone really care? Just prurient curiosity, nothing more.