
Hi Jake,
Recent West Hollywood transplant here. I think I’m an attractive enough guy, but the beauty standards in my new neighborhood are high. Back home, I was always a 9 or 10, but here, I’m basically like a 6 or 7. There are so many beautiful guys everywhere! I feel like I get lost in the crowd.
I know there are the traditional things I can do to try and improve my looks. I’ve dabbled in botox and I try to go to the gym several times a week. But the biggest Issue I have with my appearance is the shape of my face. I just don’t have that Henry Cavill square-shaped jawline with strong cheekbones.
I recently went down a rabbit hole on TikTok about this, and came across a couple home remedies. One is called “mewing”, where you keep your tongue on the roof of your mouth in an attempt to emphasize your cheekbones and make your jaw look square.
The other is called “bone-smashing”, which I know initially sounds crazy. Apparently, though, by hitting yourself in the face with a hammer, bottle, massager, or other blunt object, your broken bones will actually remodel themselves with newly laid bone which is stronger and thicker, restructuring the look of your face.
I know it sounds extreme, but I’m desperate. Is there anything to this?
Saving Face
Dear Saving Face,
Unfortunately, you are one of the many victims of an internet phenomena called looksmaxing (or looksmaxxing), where young men critique each other’s looks online and suggest DIY fixes, often as a joke.
The problem is that distinguishing between authenticity and a twisted internet prank can be difficult for those struggling with positive self-image.
Looksmaxing is now a trend that’s spread beyond small online forums to mainstream platforms like TikTok and Instagram, fueled by fitness and wellness influencers. The term has its origins in the incel community: an online movement of involuntarily celibate men who believe no one will never date them.
But here’s the lowdown: there’s absolutely no evidence to support the idea that any of these home remedies really work, and in fact, they can be extremely dangerous.
When defending their case, people who believe in bone-smashing cite Wolff’s Law, a 19th-century medical theory that says bones adapt to the stress they’re subjected to, and by breaking them, they will actually heal differently and alter your look for the better. However, it’s just not true, and exposing the face to repeated blunt trauma can come with extreme risks.
“It’s understandable why people would want to have a chiseled jawline or wider chin, but here’s no evidence whatsoever something like bone smashing is going to do much for it,” Dr. Sanjay Trikha tells VICE.com.
“In terms of people using Wolff’s Law as justification, there’s no evidence for that whatsoever,” he continues. “When you traumatize an area, you can get local inflammation, and that may seem like it’s bigger, but it’s going to go down. It won’t come back harder and stronger, and it can actually cause permanent damage.”
Other doctors like @drpremtripathi on Tiktok, in the below video, actually warn guys about bone-smashing leading to a condition called “malunion”, where a fractured bone heals in an abnormal position. This can lead to impaired function of the bone or limb, and can even even cause disfigurement.
As for mewing, there is also no credible research that proves it can permanently alter your jaw structure. In fact, Vice.com reports that John Mew, the orthodontist who created this method in the 70s, even had his dental license stripped for his unconventional practices.
At the end of the day, if you want the jawline of Timothée Chalamet, an internet hoax is not the answer, so it’s best to look elsewhere.
Do you have a sense of humor? Are you a caring person? Do you have integrity? Are you a good listener? These traits give you value as a friend, family member, or romantic partner.
Above all, always consult a doctor before trying out any medical advice you hear online from a stranger. If not, your disappointment may be… bone crushing.
Ask Jake is our advice column by Queerty editor and Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist Jake Myers. If you have a question for Jake, please email [email protected] for consideration.
still_onthemark
If you want a ‘chiseled’ jaw, obviously you need to use a chisel. A hammer just isn’t going to have the right effect. Duh!
FreddieW
If you aren’t a figment of Jake’s imagination, please see a psychiatrist before you harm yourself. And consider moving from LA back into the real world.
abfab
Like Memphis.
FreddieW
Suburban Memphis. I don’t recommend to people that they move to Memphis. But it still beats LA. We have rain and real trees here. Real grass in our yards, too.
Gay Thomas
Memphis does not beat LA in any positive way. Nashville native here who’s traveled to both numerous times. My ex grew up in Bartlett. So please, stop.
COTTONTOP
Anyone stupid enough to believe that claim should just go ahead and do it. This guy clearly has much bigger issues he should be dealing with.
abfab
In the ”anyone stupid enough” department, we have an assortment of GOPTROLL wackos to chose from;
inbama
diplomat
retrans
shaver
winemaker
the baroness
hi, welcome back btw
Diplomat
Oh abless, you try so hard. The only thing I’m GOP about is destroying the wak woke trans nb agenda at its roots. Round Up aimed and ready. Ready for your close up dear?
abfab
dick
Rambeaux
Absolutely you should do it.
Just do it in the parking lot at an Emergency Department. They will become your immediate best friend.
Baron Wiseman
I know the beauty standards of West Hollywood as I moved to Los Angeles several years ago. Thankfully, I never felt intimidated by the appearance of others.
In my youth, I was always clean shaven as it was popular and I wanted everybody to see my face. However, today there are more ways to present yourself that are popular. Thin lips? Grow a moustache. Weak chin, bad skin, weak jaw grow a beard. The hair from a beard can hide many “flaws” and give one the confidence to face even the West Hollywood beauties.
abfab
I think you mean you wanted to see your p u s s y. You’ve lived everywhere yet somehow you remain an old, provincial hag.
dbmcvey
This is fake. No one is doing this.
KissBananaPeels
There is a difference to being a secure gay man and a vapid fag…choose wisely
bachy
Insane trend. There are ways to make yourself more beautiful – but this is not one of them.
Would be interesting to see an article about the history of utterly stupid (and dangerous) things men and women have done to accentuate their beauty.
Creamsicle
[Elizabeth Bathory has entered the chat]
abfab
Foot-binding, which started out as a fashionable impulse, became an expression of Han identity after the Mongols invaded China in 1279. The fact that it was only performed by Chinese women turned the practice into a kind of shorthand for ethnic pride.
Ron Desantis has elevated this practice to a new level.
abfab
@Creamsicle. How interesting, Thank you. It’s nice to learn about these historical figures. More please.
Openminded
I once heard if you cut your penis off it would grow back thicker. (I think I got that right)
still_onthemark
Did it work?
abfab
No answer.
Creamsicle
1. Kids out here watching the Handsome Squidward episode of SpongeBob too many times
2. Where the hell else do you put your tongue when your mouth is completely closed besides the roof of your mouth?
Mr-DJ
Stupid people deserve the consequences so yeah, go ahead. And wouldn’t a sledge hammer work even better?
RIGay
Thank you, Queerty, for promoting this absolute garbage that should never have seen the light of day. Your morals and ethics are spot on.
powersthatbe
“Stupid is as stupid does.”
Forrest Gump
scotty
tik tok also says the word gullible isn’t even the dictionary.