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Breakin’ up is hard to do
If you’ve experienced the exquisite joys of building a life with a lover, chances are you’v also endured the indescribable pain that comes with a breakup.
To appreciate the highs you must experience the lows, or some bullshit like that.
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Below, guys who are going through it vent on Whisper.
What’s your worst breakup nightmare story?
Glücklich
A week does not a relationship make. Grow some pubes. The upcoming pep rally will lift your spirits.
Arcamenel
These guys really need to tone down the dramatics like by a thousand. One bad break up does not and should not be an indictment on being gay.
Ladbrook
Well… breaking up with an LTR is actually a very difficult experience to endure, especially if you just can’t figure out how to “flip the brain’s love switch” to the off position.
I redesigned my entire life (town, job, finances, etc…) after finally finding “The One” for what I just knew would be a lifetime commitment. That lasted 5 yrs, then he ended it. We have remained close friends, but just having dinner with him is painful. 4 yrs later, I still do it every week, and he has absolutely no idea that I’m still in love with him. The whole set-up is self-inflicted insanity, and yet I still do it – so I can’t criticize anyone for holding a torch or having a hard time dealing with lost love. Love is crazy… or more specifically, it can make us crazy.
Captain Obvious
@Arcamenel: Well it’s a bunch of whiny tales from Reddit that probably never actually happened in reality but in their own minds.
That site is full of drama queens who consistently throw hissy fits over nothing. Many of them are also r@cist, privileged, young, and ignorant. It’s pretty well documented on non-white/non-male sites across the board that Reddit is only for young white males and anyone else who tries to join in will be chased out as soon as they realize you’re not one of them. You have to mirror their silly opinions and childishness for upvotes or be silenced by downvotes.
They make witty “jokes” on articles about death, murder, rape, molestation, and more. That should say everything that needs to be said about that site. It’s very telling that Queerty not only reads the site but creates articles about it here.
Captain Obvious
Oh sorry, didn’t realize this was an advertisement for an APP with old Reddit
“stories” attached because recycling is very green.
hyhybt
He loves you and wants to spend his life with you, but not yet?
Chris
Actually, a lot of these stories sound like things I’ve seen people go through. The worst is when someone gives up everything, moves to a new place because his boyfriend’s gotten a job, and then the BF breaks up with him. Adding drama to one of those events was that the BF secretly had a partner elsewhere and the guy had gone to work for his BF’s firm. I told the guy to sue his ex- for palimony; not sure if he followed my advice.
We get filled with so many stories and fairy tales about true love, the one who completes us, soul mates, and so forth. Gads, as I look back, I realize that it took me a while to work my own way through all that stuff when I first came out. So my heart breaks for these people — well, at least those who are telling the truth. At the risk of stealing something being used elsewhere: “It gets better” 🙂
My craziest breakup was with a guy who analyzed everything to death. On top of that, he was nonstop drama over the analyses. One day, from out of the blue, he emailed me to say that we should stop seeing each other because he wasn’t sure about how genuine everything was and he wanted to date men younger than him. This sent me reeling; but took him at his words and got on with my own life. A few months later, we bumped into each other at a bar; he told me he realized he’d made a mistake; and sure enough, we agreed to see each other again (yeah, I’m a slow learner). We made plans for me to join him at his company picnic, and then, that very night, he sent me another email which I deleted and blocked him entirely from phone and email contact. ….. And people wonder why I have zero tolerance for drama.
Realitycheck
@Glücklich: LOL I love you!!!
You always have the best replies!!!
Finrod
@Chris: “The worst is when someone gives up everything, moves to a new place because his boyfriend’s gotten a job, and then the BF breaks up with him.”
Thus the concept of “put a ring on it.” Life’s not a Disney movie. You have to be nuts to make yourself completely dependent on one person without any kind of legal protections.
Lvng1Tor
oh for f’ sake…in other words breaking up is hard to do no matter what gender or sexuality you are…all of this..”and I’m gay” and “gay love” or “and we’re both gay!” what a bunch of drama queens…gay ain’t got nothing to do with it
alanMCclever
Gotta love that native advertising!
jag4313
I met my boyfriend when I was 19 and he was 30. We both knew we wanted to spend our lives together but at the same time I was young and wanted to explore. We dated on and off for 4 years so I could experiment and test the waters. We are back on and just celebrated 13 years together. xoxo
stanhope
@Arcamenel: Spoken like someone who has never been loved.@Arcamenel:
Glücklich
@jag4313:
Highly sensible and very admirable of your partner. Congrats to you both.
Glücklich
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iUrzicaiRLU
Bauhaus
@Ladbrook:
No judgement from me. I went down a dumb dumb dumb path with a straight friend (I fell for him, he didn’t fall for me), many years ago, and it took a lot of will to extricate myself from the situation. For him, it was just a matter of stopping the sex and continuing on as buds. *I* left the country in an effort to gain some perspective. He was completely bewildered and hurt as to why he couldn’t accompany me, as a friend.