Those of us who live in big gay meccas are no strangers to the concept of polyamory — it’s an idea that many straight and gay people alike find more suited to them than lifelong monogamous partnership.
But what happens when the two systems are combined?
Well, you get this: A traditional-looking marriage ceremony for three people.
These three Thai men, identified only as Joke, Bell and Art, thaied (zing) the three-way knot earlier this week in a traditional Thai water-pouring ceremony.
How about we take this to the next level?
Our newsletter is like a refreshing cocktail (or mocktail) of LGBTQ+ entertainment and pop culture, served up with a side of eye-candy.
They shared the following batch of wedding photos, which elicit all sorts of questions. But mostly, the three look happy.
One photo comes with text, which reads:
Pure love cannot be seen by your eyes. If you want to know what its worth you have to see it with your heart.
We can’t argue with that one. The wedding, however, was only symbolic in nature. Gay marriage nor three-way marriage are recognized in Thailand.
Here are more photos of the happy throuple:
h/t GayStarNews
PRINCE OF SNARKNESS aka DIVKID
Attention whores whore for attention be it positive or negative. Next.
Ladbrook
One Top, one bottom, one vers?
Realitycheck
Great another weapon for religious zealots and super conservatives to use against us gay, polygamy…..
Congratulation to the three froggies, BHA!
Realitycheck
@Ladbrook:
One ugly, one scary, one creepy us more like it…….
1EqualityUSA
Polygamy is unlawful to both straight and gay communities, so inequality doesn’t come into play. If straights were allowed polygamy and LGBT weren’t, there would be inequality. RealityCheck is so right about this giving fuel to the Tedious Right.
middleagespread
Good luck. I wish I was being spit – roasted. I admit it, I am jealous. 3 incomes, and 2 d1cks everyday. As, a hungry bottom, 2 guys daily would hit the spot. 🙂
PRINCE OF SNARKNESS aka DIVKID
IMO the only legitimately practical use for such a set-up would be a monogamously-inclined couple where one of the partners was bisexual and struggling with their other desire. Ideally the third partner would be bi and equally in love/lust with this couple — everybody wins! Otherwise any other combo risks encouraging competition for the same limited role and breeding insecurities and jealousies.
bobmister250
@Realitycheck: Agreed. Even though it’s in Thailand where anything goes, let’s start a countdown until religious zealots in the US start using this. Disappointed in Queerty for even adding fuel to their fire.
Miss Understood
Wow, so much negativity on here. You want to be accepted for YOUR kind of non-conformity, but everyone else’s is wrong?
With all of the awful injustices in the world to be outraged about and you are ranting against someone’s relationship? You’re as bad as anti-gay folk, all upset about something that doesn’t affect you.
Billy Budd
Times have changed,
And we’ve often rewound the clock,
Since the Puritans got a shock,
When they landed on Plymouth Rock.
If today,
Any shock they should try to stem,
‘Stead of landing on Plymouth Rock,
Plymouth Rock would land on them.
In olden days a glimpse of stocking
Was looked on as something shocking,
But now, God knows,
Anything Goes.
Good authors too who once knew better words,
Now only use four letter words
Writing prose, Anything Goes.
The world has gone mad today
And good’s bad today,
And black’s white today,
And day’s night today,
When most guys today
That women prize today
Are just silly gigolos
And though I’m not a great romancer
I know that I’m bound to answer
When you propose,
Anything goes
When grandmama whose age is eighty
In night clubs is getting matey with gigolo’s,
Anything Goes.
When mothers pack and leave poor father
Because they decide they’d rather be tennis pros,
Anything Goes.
If driving fast cars you like,
If low bars you like,
If old hymns you like,
If bare limbs you like,
If Mae West you like
Or me undressed you like,
Why, nobody will oppose!
When every night,
The set that’s smart
Is intruding in nudist parties in studios,
Anything Goes.
If love affairs you like
With young bears you like,
Why nobody will oppose!
Billy Budd
I repeat: Anything Goes. As long as nobody is harmed, let it be. All is good.
Realitycheck
@Miss Understood:
Actually we believe it will effect us in a negative way, you are right what they do is their business, but here in the USA we are at war right now for equal rights, and this does not help us in the least, some time a bit of diplomacy and
cleverness is much needed, this is one of those cases.
Sweet Boy
Thai manwich !!!!..sounds delish
vive
@realiutycheck, @1equalityusa, check your bigotry.
Hope you are happy living on eggshells worrying what the Right thinks of you. That is not liberation.
You can’t expect people to accept your families and then be just as intolerant of others’ families as the worst haters on the Right are. Gay people should be the last to judge alternative family structures between consenting adults.
You don’t deserve the liberation others fought to win for you. Many of those who fought for your rights are in fact those people you don’t approve of. You are parasites.
DarkZephyr
Not my cup of tea, but I hope they’re happy.
Thomathy
@Realitycheck: Wait, what?
You do realise that gays have significantly fewer rights in Thailand than in your country, right? That they have a significant uphill battle to fight not merely for marriage but for a whole host of basic rights against a culture that has come about as far on the issue of homosexuality as your deep south has on racism (read: not very far at all).
What they’re doing in their country has about as much an effect on you as Floridian counties refusing to marry people has on them (read: none). These are not mutually exclusive things and the fight you’re fighting in your country and the fight that they’re fighting can happen simultaneously. Because, you know, they probably don’t get to worry about legal marriage until even the semblance of anti-discrimination laws.
(By the way, you did read the story, right? Because their marriage ceremony …it was ceremonial …)
Also, if you think that the conservatives in your country are going to even notice this, I suggest you refamiliarise yourself with how insular, xenophobic and bigoted they are and focus your own attention back home.
Alexboogiez1
Let them do what makes them happy who cares what people think!
AlliterationAddict
It’s not like this is hurting anyone. Nor is this an exclusively gay thing; just look at Mormon polygamy. So if it makes them happy, then I guess I’m happy for them.
T101
@ middleagespread – you’re gross
Josh447
Polygamy is just as wrong to deny people as is gay marriage. We’ve won gay marriage (Judge Ginsberg) obviously so we can drop the freak out over this throuple.
Let’s get the root canal over with and get all this handled now.
A Utah judge just recently found laws banning polygamy unconstitutional. Boom. Next!
Miss Understood
@Realitycheck: Nope. Equal rights are not gained by people putting on a show to impress anyone. You sound like those fools who want to ban drag queens from Gay Pride. You don’t deserve your rights any more than they do. Your kind of gay is not superior than their kind of gay.
Milk
@Realitycheck: Those against homosexuality will not change their view regardless. Why are we tending to their hurt feelings how they will react to anything remotely gay? Like all the advances we accomplished were the results of their approval. SMH! The biggest damaged to this are the gays who behaving like the homophobes beating down their own community. Like the old cliche, who needs enemies when you have friends like that?
Realitycheck
@Milk:
True conservatives will not change their mind, and every victory we have achieved is obtain trough fighting.
But what ever, you or others like it or not, polygamy is illegal in the USA, and
our fight is with in the USA law, and we are winning, with legal challenges in the court system.
And by the way you are doing exactly what you are accusing others to do, you disagree
with my opinion and you beat down with judgment, is that right ? LOL
@Miss Understood:
It is not a show to win as we are doing by working with in the system, it is a solid victory.
And not everything is acceptable to everybody.
To have rights in a democracy doesn’t mean no limits, there will always be some kind of limits,
some thing that is acceptable and some thing that is not, and frankly this article is a huge joke.
Real love is for two not twenty, the sandwich comment few posts above istotally appropriate
because this is about sex and immaturity, nothing more.
This article is not about anyone rights, it is 100% about a photo shooting
and sex fantasy, it might even not be real…….
Charlie in Charge
Geez folks, they aren’t hurting you, why not be happy for them?
MarionPaige
There was a gay threesome making the news here in the US and THEY ARE LEGAL in that they’ve formed a company together (a gay adult company).
Polyamory in the US have embraced the LLC for their relationships. Meaning their relationships are legal in all 50 states and internationally AND that The State is not a party to their sexual relationships. I don’t doubt for a minute that the “traditional mormons” in Utah (and possibly the Mormon Church) will champion the LLC and NOT having the State a party to marriage ( in other words that the Mormon opposition to gay marriage is STRATEGIC).
What the Gay Marriage Aholes have done is to trade the quest for NOT HAVING THE STATE IN OUR SEXUAL LIVES in engage for the State agreeing to license marriage between two people of the same sex. This is not a revolution, it’s more like whoring or like the Gays in Nazis Germany ratting out the Jews in exchange for legal gay marriages.
The demographic in North American that can benefit most from same sex marriage and marriage of three (or more) people ARE THE ELDERLY (who live on fixed incomes and can benefit from sharing expenses).
MarionPaige
with respect to the argument about conservatives using polyamory against Gay Marriage. Well, how much have you heard about it? Polyamory have embraced the LLC since 1996 and I know of not one organized hate group against people forming LLCs in stead of marrying. Using the LLC for estate planning is a legal legitimate INDUSTRY that has been around for decades.
There is so much content out there for heterosexuals using the llc for estate planning (Family LP, or Family LLC) but almost nothing about Gay Couples using the LLC for estate planning.
Here you have the EFFECTS of PROPAGANDA. That Gay People benefit more from a marriage license than by forming an LLC is PROPAGANDA
MarionPaige
finally, those three guys in Thailand could legally have form a legal LLC in the US and not only use that fact for planning their estates BUT ALSO IN THEIR QUEST TO LEGALLY IMMIGRANT TO THE US as business owners.
MarionPaige
There are a whole lot of people waiting for f-king Gay Marriage to go the f away. Once the gay idiots who WANT the State a party to their sexual lives get what they want, THE REAL MARRIAGE REVOLUTION CAN BEGIN – the marriage revolution of NOT having The State a party to out sexual relationships.
Milk
@Realitycheck: Why are you talking about polygamy in the US? This is clearly the article about Thailand. Crying the sky is falling a bit early aren’t we? I’m “beating down your judgement” not you personally. But your judgement is beating down these three Thai nationals who wants to have a relationship you do not approve of. Big difference.
MarionPaige
go to almost any polyamory website and you can see a reference to forming a LLC and this has been the case since 1996. The revolution began in 1996, it’s just that dumb gays haven’t been part of that revolution.
Arconcyyon
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No NO NO is like the thailands new happily no ! Very sucess is very living healt kins .
jwtraveler
@Miss Understood: Thank you. My thoughts exactly. Just shows that gay people are just as judgmental and intolerant of other people’s life choices as Christian fundamentalists are of ours.
I see 3 beautiful, happy men living their lives as they choose without hurting anyone. More power to them. I wish them nothing but the best, but I confess I’m a little jealous.
jwtraveler
The only thing I don’t like about this is the word “throuple”. It sounds like a Dr. Seuss character or a growth in your body. I prefer trio, triad or threesome. How about “a poly”, a group or a family? Just suggestions.
Boricuaex
I really don’t know what the hubub is all about. No one seems to mind when it’s two men and a woman, or two women and a man. Seriously, it’s ridiculous.
What I don’t like is the pic by the railroad tracks. It’s stupid. I’m shocked that their suits didn’t get dirty in the process; maybe the pic was retouched to erase the dust and grime.
[email protected]
Good for them. I wish them a long and happy life together.
Kangol
@middleagespread:
Seeee! This is what Gay Liberation fought for, not to mimic heteronormative straight people but to create adult consensual relationships that work for us. Good for them, and I hope they have many years of three-way bliss!
spiffy
@Boricuaex: I didn’t mind the pics by the railroad tracks; but whoever fitted their clothes should have been fired for hemming their pants like that.
GayMafiaKingpin
I don’t know why I don’t learn to avoid reading the comments here. There are always some judgmental catty people bitching and moaning on here that someone else isn’t living up to their standards, while complaining about people judging them.
Yes, some people have poly relationship. If you were unaware of that, then your head has been buried in the sand. Of course the ultra conservative Reich-wing nut-jobs will say the same things you’re saying (interesting that you’d say the same things that they would say, hmm?). I would expect no less than for them to be judgmental of any lifestyle which deviates from their idea of what is “normal.” Interestingly, though, even their Bible advocates poly relationships, so they wouldn’t have much of a leg to stand on, when it comes to griping about it.
OzJosh
It always amazes me that gays can be as mean-spirited and narrow-minded as the worst conservative bigots. You presumably want the freedom to live your life as you choose, but will happily decree what is acceptable for others. Polyamory is a whole lot more common – even in the benighted US of A – than you know. And the fact that you haven’t noticed only goes to show it’s not hurting anyone. Get off your high horses and try opening your pathetically closed minds.
Realitycheck
@GayMafiaKingpin:
Thank you for taking everything I said out of contest and going
right for crazy, bottom line either we think like you or we are
just like “ultra conservative Reich-wing nut-jobs”
You remind me of the early AIDS days when PBS had periodical HIV
awareness shows,
to talk about the AIDS crisis and explore what could be done and where
medical research were.
Guess what, there was always a gay nut case hell bent on derailing the
entire show by demanding the show host admit to everybody that he
was actually a closet case, I guess that was more important then actually
trying to expose and educate the general public about HIV.
I wonder how many sockpuppets are on this board …….
Realitycheck
@Milk:
Milk, I didn’t say anything about Thailand, so I have no idea what you are talking about, my comment
was pretty much self explanatory and got few people giving me the thumbs up, why?
This is a .com USA web site and I was simply pointing out how the above article can be taken out of contest,
bu ultraconservative religious zealots here in the USA.
Naturally few Queeny come lately, one can always count on those, have proceeded to totally misrepresent
and to take out contest what i said even assuming my position on many gay subjects.
Smooth!!!
CATTMAN1
@Billy Budd: aaaaah, someone has resurrected the past for me https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UVD39bDowQo
robho3
The republicans will have a field day with this story.
Milk
@Realitycheck: Why are you so concern about how the ultraconservative religious zealots reaction over an article published on a USA website? Why are you so eager to seek approval from such hate group? The fact that you call your fellow gays Queeny speaks volume of your own personal discomfort about this article than whatever group you cited may or may not react. I sense an attempt to use this hate group to hide your effemiphobia. That’s to me is disingenuous at best. By the way this is the internet. Not a beauty pageant at a world stage. A few up votes is not something you can cash out in a bank.
jason smeds
These Thai guys look ridiculous and pathetic.
I’ve heard Thai men in general have little dicks.
jwtraveler
@robho3: Who cares?
jwtraveler
@bobmister250: @Thomathy: First of all I do not claim to be the authoritative voice on homosexuality in Thailand. However, I have traveled to and around Thailand many times and have gotten to know many Thai people, gay and straight. The notion that “anything goes” in Thailand is a fallacy promoted by men whose only experience with Thailand is the sex tourism scene in Bangkok and Pattaya. On the other hand attitudes about LGBT people are far more progressive than in almost all Asian countries and compare favorably to racial attitudes in the South and other right-wing parts of the U.S. Homophobia exists in Thailand as it does everywhere in the world, particularly in the expectation of families that children will marry opposite-sex spouses and have children. While there are few legal protections for LGBT people in Thailand, there is also not much outward discrimination or violence. Transgender people are quite popular in entertainment and live quite openly around the country, even in small towns.
bobmister250
@jwtraveler: I’m happy to hear of your experiences in Thailand and am pleased to hear that our Thai brothers and sisters don’t experience discrimination as much as I thought. I don’t however concede my assertion that this will be picked up by conservative pundits/media at some point and used to argue against our civil rights. While I don’t resent the ‘thruple’ (a couple is two), I remain concerned about how it will impact us here in the USA.
Milk
I really do not get those who are so concern about what this image would do to the progression of the gay movement. The fear of how the wing nuts would push back because of this one assumption of polygamy from another country. The LGBT community has been oppressed by this very same group since the very beginning. Did not stop us from fighting the good fight because of all the excuses they use to deny us the right. Sadly, some of us give in to pressure creating more fraction within our community. We uses all kind of label to be as hetero as possible. As if bisexual is better than totally gay(not denying the existence of bisexual, they do exist but we know those who goes from bisexual to fully gays don’t we?) and my favourite the muscular, straight acting gays. Like your you are going to straight acting into the hearts of those bigots! I call these victim of abuse symptoms. One get oppress so much, they become so eager to please and would deny their true selves and behave how their oppressors want them to behave. If we can’t fully embrace ourselves how in the world will the rest of the world embrace us? Homosexuals community is exactly the same as the heterosexual community as any other community. It consist of a wide variety of people except their same sex preference for mate. Why are chastising other minority group just like the hetero society do to us? Have we not learn anything from our own struggle? How many of you been in the situation like Stonewall riot? Have any of you ever been to a protest march face to face with the police on the ground in the front line of the struggle? Where were you when even the president denied the existence of AIDS? What role did you play in all these struggles against the power that be? If your role only involve in voicing your opinion behind a computer please just shut up and sit back down. You know nothing about effecting political and social change!
Realitycheck
@Milk:
At the contrary I despite them, what I did was a simple logical comment,
this is exactly the kind of things a religious right wing nut case would try to use his support base.
The real question is why do I care about such a thing, they will not change, right?
2 Reasons:
One, one should not give more weapons to the enemy, at the contrary the objective is ti disarm.
Two the democratic majority of this
country doesn’t believe in shouting to get what they want, there is a political
process at work, and in the process is where things can be inflamed or deflated.
I am all for freedom, everybody should do as they please as long as they
do not hurt anyone, after all we all different backgrounds, cultures, and emotional needs.
And, I do not believe (for example) in the loud screaming gay guy that thinks he can get what
he wants by simply yelling louder then anyone else, at bar or the party,
it does’t work, at the contrary it turns people off, like some of the posts above, they use insults as
a way of “I am right you are wrong”, and it makes people look down on them, and it show character
weakness and emotional problems.
Years ago a friend came to see me and told me about the impressive demonstration he was part of,
it was holded in front of a NYC hospital emergency room effectively blocking all traffic for several blocks.
the demonstration was about better HIV care and related rights, a worthy affair no doubt.
I told him I had seen the demonstration as I was walking down 7th avenue with my BF and I asked him,
“did you realize you guys were not only holding traffic for several blocks, but also few ambulances trapped
in the traffic, and they had sick people and were ringing their emergency light as loud as they could?”
One of the ambulance was trying to get the sick person out with a bed, but there was so many cars around them
it was extremely hard.
I told him “you could have killed some one with a hearth problem”, and may be you did.
He said nothing, he turned his ass around and walked away, that showed me how irresponsible and incapable of
thinking of the consequences of his own action he was, meanwhile I was in my early twenties and I could see a simple
and sad fact, some one that night had suffered for a demonstration that could have been hold off the street and on the side walk.
With out holding sick suffering people in traffic.
Again may be some one did die while waiting for the demonstration to move on, heart problem or burn victim, who knows.
But hey, some people idea of freedom of speech is to simply tell every body else “F U all, I am more selfish and I am more entitled”
unfortunately we all live in and share the same world, and it doesn’t work that way.
Realitycheck
@jwtraveler:
thanks for the explanation, when I was young I has a life changing
and unfortunately not long lived loving relationship with a Thai guy studying
in the USA, after 8 months he had to go back to Thailand and that broke
both our hearts for a long while.
What he told at the time was, the general attitude of Thai people to many
situations in life, including having a gay son was, “it’s life”.
Of course how wide spread that mentality was, or if it mostly represented
his life experience is another thing.
Realitycheck
@jason smeds:
Jason my former Thai BF was extremely well gifted LOL
do not believe in those stereotypes, the largest I have ever seen was
on a Japanese man that literally had a third leg between his legs or
perhaps a more appropriate way to describe it would be “a weapon of ass destruction”.
Maude
I’ve had threesomes, and I’ve participated in orgies of greater numbers in NY, SF, CHI,
and many other cities…….also France, Italy, and Greece, but the biggest one of all belonged to a 18 year old Eagle Scout I met while still in high school……..He was the brother of my sister’s best friend…..I was 17, and in the closet, but he said his ‘gayder’ picked me up during a pool party for his sister’s sweet sixteen birthday.
He was a ‘John Holmes’ before there was a “John Holmes”
Maude
@Realitycheck:
Sounds like the modus operandi of some of the labor unions that demonstrate wherever and whenever it will do the most harm/damage…..Like that person that turned and walked away,
IMO, even when such consequences are considered, they do it anyway, because it’s all about them,,,,and phuck everybody else.
jwtraveler
@bobmister250: I’ve always thought gay liberation was about the freedom to be who we are and to live our lives on our own terms as well as defining our own relationships. Unfortunately the prevailing attitude, encouraged by such assimilationist groups as HRC and LCR, is that we should seek to emulate heterosexuals as much as possible in order to make ourselves palatable to the society at large. This is not liberation; it’s capitulation.
Bigots, bullies and religious zealots will always find reasons to hate and oppress those who they want to hurt. Walking around on eggshells to try to avoid offending them isn’t reasonable, healthy or effective. The best way to fight oppression is with courage and bold defiance, not by hiding in the closet hoping they won’t notice us.
onthemark
@Realitycheck: “simply pointing out how the above article can be taken out of contest, bu ultraconservative religious zealots here in the USA.”
WHO CARES?
It’s IN context here, and you’re Queerty saying should have censored itself and not published it at all?
onthemark
@GayMafiaKingpin: I love your photo!
onthemark
What’s strange about some of these comments is that we never hear them about actual promiscuous sex.
It’s hard to imagine Realitycheck or any of his ilk saying, “Queerty shouldn’t even have articles about Grindr, it gives ammunition to the religious right.” I doubt anyone has ever said that in the history of Queerty or Grindr (or Craigslist, or bathhouses, or the entire gay media, like, ever).
But a harmless, apparently vanilla three-way in a far-off (and non-Christian) country… somehow THAT gives ammunition to the religious right?
Realitycheck & co. are not really worried about the “religious right,” they’re bothered by something else entirely, but I can’t figure out what!
papacleetus
I love it! Damn, they’re HOT!
jwtraveler
@onthemark: Good point. I’d add that we don’t hear anyone say we shouldn’t have unprotected sex or make videos that encourage the transmission of HIV and STD’s because it will give fuel to the religious right. As a matter if fact my mere mention of these topics will no doubt provoke an onslaught of vicious responses about how my suggestion that men use condoms is an attack on gay men, sexual freedom and human rights.
Madox
My partner is a colossal pain in the ass. I can’t imagine having 2 of them
Xzamilio
@1EqualityUSA: A woman wearing yoga pants gives fuel to the religious right. Kids not being weirded out by LGBT people gives fuel to the religious right. Anything not bathed and deep fried in Christianity is a threat to them. Normally, I’d say who cares, but with so many of these fundies in power, they really are looking to impose their own little Sharia law on the US
Milk
More pathetic in here is when someone does not like your opinion, they flag it as spam. That’s exactly what the wing nuts are doing.
jwtraveler
@Madox: Maybe you need another to soothe the pain.
Maude
@CATTMAN1:
Billy Budd…..Been that, did there!
tvleavitt
@PRINCE OF SNARKNESS aka DIVKID: Umm, no. That’s really not how it works.
Lynnette McFadzen
@PRINCE OF SNARKNESS aka DIVKID: Looks like 3 queer people in love to me. However they make it work is okey dokey. Do me a favor. If you aren’t bisexual keep your misguided rules to yourself. You don’t have to have a bisexual involved to have a polyamorous relationship.