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Death Of Adult Film Performer Dimitri Kane, 20, Ruled A Suicide

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Last week we shared the unfortunate news that gay porn performer Dimitri Kane had passed at the all-too-young age of 20.

At the time, there was some confusion over the cause of death.

Now an autopsy has confirmed that the young man from Jersey Shore, whose real name was Constanti Moraitis, did in fact take his own life on November 22.

Related: Gay Adult Film Performer Zac Stevens Dead At 25

The South Florida Gay News reports that friends and family were shocked. “He was entirely happy on Saturday evening,” they said. “Nothing seemed to be wrong.”

However, in the last year Kane had reportedly been living at the Banyan Treatment Center in Pompano Beach where he battled drug addiction.

Kane performed for various studios over the years including ManRoyale, Pride Studios, Men.com and NextDoorStudios.

Kane’s family, who lives in New Jersey, were reportedly all aware and supportive of his profession.

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92 Comments

  • Ben Stimpson

    I hope he finds whatever peace he was looking for

  • Grant Mealey

    How sad…..godspeed

  • moldisdelicious

    Well.. sex work is a dead end job figuratively and literally.

  • Victor Barry

    Suicide is a bad choice. There is always a way out better than this.

  • Joseph Davoli

    Give rest to the soul of thy child Constantine , let perpetual light shine upon him .

  • DDstar1me

    I’ve often wondered how people could have sex with complete strangers with no attraction for money. I can’t imagine what that does to the soul.
    R.I.P

  • Stache

    @moldisdelicious: The only ones that count are his friends and family who were supportive of his professional. Thankfully, he didn’t know any judgmental pricks like yourself.

  • Kenneth Myrnes

    I find it disturbing that so many young adult movie performers are choosing suicide …

  • Stache

    @DDstar1me: Who says there was no attraction. He worked with other guys like himself who were very attractive.

  • Cam

    “Kane’s family, who lives in New Jersey, were reportedly all aware and supportive of his profession.”
    _____________________

    “Reportedly” aware and supportive. Reported by whom?

  • KiwiJello

    I am sure something was wrong well before he joined the sex workforce. Being in porn was probably a bigger symptom of the underlying depression he was hiding. It’s a shame on so many levels. RIP.

  • ingyaom

    @DDstar1me: I’ve often wondered how people could go to jobs they hate every day for money, but lots of people do… and I do know what that does to the soul.

  • moldisdelicious

    @Stache:

    Womp.womp.womp. it’s funny how so many gay men are quick to show love when another man is destroying himself like this young man right here but if you’re one of the few guys that actually desire to be seen as anything besides a sex object or be seen beyond your looks where you’re doing something meaningful, most of your very own gay peers don’t give a fuck about you. They don’t think you’re being “gay” enough or are ashamed of your sexuality. Smh.

  • sportsguy1983

    It seems Felicia was a weak person

  • moldisdelicious

    @Stache:

    So no I don’t give a fuck about your opinion. It’s guys like you that lead to these kids killing themselves because they become dead from all the dehumanization that is going on. You only care about what they can do for you in terms of your dick

  • Kenover

    How could any sane family be “supportive” of their child’s decision to work in gay porn?

  • Cagnazzo82

    He wasn’t fulfilled in life. Sex work might pay the bills, but it’s likely not that fulfilling.

    You always see the pattern where the smiling 18 year-old fresh meat full of life eventually ends up with a 20 yard cold stare by the time they reach 25.

    Unfortunate.

  • mmedesevigne

    @sportsguy1983: Why do you think that everyone on earth is named Felicia?

  • Vincent Tran

    RIP Dimitri , so sad , too young to gone

  • Captain Obvious

    Lmao @ all the guys who only care about a guy giving them an erection but don’t want them to get out of that seedy ass “career” choice run by the literal mafia.

  • AtticusBennett

    @Kenover: there are parents out there who don’t support their gay children, even those with jobs deemed “respectable” by society. i have friends who’ve been, or are in, the adult entertainment industry. not all who enter the field are broken; some are sexually liberated and enjoy the work.

    the downside to it for those who don’t have that mindset and stability, though, is the emotional toll of being commodified; as well, porn doesn’t really pay that well. it doesn’t. it’s more-often-than-not how an escort ups their desirability, and can charge more.

    not all pornographic performers are depressed drug users, but i think the porn communities themselves need to have a stronger support network for their co-workers and peers.

    i mean, not to totally compare, but there are organizations to help former child-actors, as there has been a marked and documented history of former-child-actors struggling with depression and drug use as they grow up.

  • DDstar1me

    @Stache &ingyaom ….Hhhhhhh…ok

  • onthemark

    @KiwiJello: “underlying depression he was hiding” etc. Not necessarily. This says he had “drug addiction” (unspecified) problems so it may have just been a very short term chemical imbalance. Not every suicide is the result of long term depression.

    @Cam: ““Reportedly” aware and supportive. Reported by whom?” Reported by his last employer in a press release (see the previous story on him).

    @mmedesevigne: “Why do you think that everyone on earth is named Felicia?” Sportsguy1983 is used to talking to his cat, who is named Felicia!

  • Sweetie Pie

    I hope he’s in heaven…..I wonder what heaven is like for gay porno actors

  • David Quirk

    We all like to be ‘oh no big deal’ about all things in 2015 but if someone is in porn, they are hurting. case closed.

  • kevininbuffalo

    @onthemark: Very often drugs and alcohol are self medication for depression. I know, I’ve been there.

  • Doughosier

    Porn didn’t kill him. We know nothing about his upbringing and his life, except that he battled drug addiction. That can kill anyone. It’s sad when someone so young gives up.

  • Eli O. Salinas

    how sad that a young man like himself would take his life…this was just the beganing of this life in whatever path he chose to so. i dont understand on anyone can choose to take his or her life. RIP

  • Bob LaBlah

    My guess is that around age fourteen or fifteen he went online and started meeting guys who turned him on to “partying” and it was all down hill from there on. Only he was too young to realize it.

    At twenty-years old of course being paid $1500 or so for two or three hours of “work” was a lot of money. Only problem is the job came with no benefits nor pension. But he was too young to see that side of the industry.

  • enlightenone

    @moldisdelicious: “…it’s funny how so many gay men are quick to show love when another man is destroying himself like this young man right here but if you’re one of the few guys that actually desire to be seen as anything besides a sex object or be seen beyond your looks where you’re doing something meaningful, most of your very own gay peers don’t give a fuck about
    you.”

    It’s called SHALLOW!

  • Hussain-TheCanadian

    There really should be a study on the mental health of anyone working for the Porn industry, gay or straight, just so we can get a better understanding if we as Human beings are really able to work in the sex industry without heavy repercussions on our self-esteem and mental health.

  • enlightenone

    @Kenover: “How could any sane family be “supportive” of their child’s decision to work in gay porn?”

    Not sure if “sane” is the right word?…

  • enlightenone

    @AtticusBennett: “sexually liberated?” Really? How so?

  • enlightenone

    @Hussain-TheCanadian: “…There really should be a study on the mental health of anyone working for the Porn industry, gay…”

    Maybe Adam Ramzi who is now a “porn star” and a “therapist” will lead the way!

  • Cagnazzo82

    @AtticusBennett: You’ve just stated it yourself. There’s no growth or stability in porn (no pun intended, obviously).

    You basically sell your body, and then once you reach a certain age you’re ‘washed up’… as the new smiling freshmeat just pops out of highschool to take your place for the next couple of years.

    I can’t see how that field wouldn’t leave a number of people with serious psychological issues… depending on whether or not they have a support network.

    Some porn actors have SO’s who are OK with their profession. They probably have a better shot keeping grounded and/or moving on (if the time arises) compared to those winging it and out there all on their own.

    That guy in the picture, btw, doesn’t look happy to me. Not that you’re supposed to necessarily be smiling doing porn, but his eyes just look like they’re hiding deep sadness.

  • alphacentauri

    Very sad.

    Rest in peace.

  • alphacentauri

    @moldisdelicious: Very true, most hookers die of overdoses or suicide. What Captain Obvious said is true that the porn biz is a trap, and that porn, being a hooker, and drugs are all linked and have been for decades.

  • Gerard Sikora

    soo sad for these young men…..

  • CWM85

    I hope queerty is trying to warn young men not to go into porn not to put sex workers on a pedestal as if its a commendable choice to make money. Given the nature of many deaths it should not be promoted or glorified and many of queerties content suggest irresponsible glorificaruon of problematic people

  • enlightenone

    @CWM85: “I hope queerty is trying to warn young men not to go into porn not to put sex workers on a pedestal as if its a commendable choice to make money…”

    Too late and that goes for many commenting as well and making people like you and me as the judgers! I judge the behavior choices, unfortunately, you can’t separate the chosen behaviors and lifestyle from the person. The suicidal death of this troubled young man is tragically another case in fact!

  • joe

    i’ve had (and still do) many friends in the porn biz, many also escorted and some still do. honestly i have seen them range from a doctor,a dentist and even a lawyer. many were (are) well educated as well. i have also seen many that were in the porn and escort business because they just were not capable to do anything else. it was always my experience that those with a solid education, a solid “day job” and a distinct understanding that porn is rarely a life long successful job seemed to do the best in the porn biz. also many of my porn friends did not d drugs and the difference between those that did and those that did not was always very evident. the bottom line as i see it is if the guy has a strong sense of self confidence, and something other to fall back on then,they were able to just have fun with it. young people just out of high school see stars easily and when that doesnt come through the results can be sad.

  • enlightenone

    @Stache: “Rylan Knox, a popular adult film performer, has been found dead of an apparent suicide. Knox died after hanging himself in his boyfriend’s apartment on April 29. His body was found later the same day….”

  • AL Quin

    He was very cute to leave this earth to soon may he rest in peace.

  • enlightenone

    @joe: “…i’ve had (and still do) many friends in the porn biz, many also escorted and some still do. honestly i have seen them range from a doctor,a dentist and even a lawyer. many were (are) well educated as well…”

    And do their licensing boards and bar associations know they are doing sex work on video?

    • joe

      i’m not sure about the doctor this was a few yrs ago ive lost touch, however the dentist was from san fran and he said his office knew, the 2 lawyers i know are still lawyers although corporate ones not the kind in court rooms doing trials.

  • Hussain-TheCanadian

    @enlightenone: LOL – Lets get Dr. Oz too while we’re at it.

    I think its a legitimate question – I don’t mind regulating prostitution, nor do I mind that we have a system to get people out of prostitution if they want to leave it – but it is fair to ask if this kind of work, sex on demand, with people you don’t care for, has any mental impact(s) on the workers.

  • Claude Peterson

    pourquoi un acteur gay porno se suicide a 20 ans seulement ?

  • BigG

    His issue was addiction and probably depression. The porn probably didn’t help, but it wasn’t the main issue. Addiction doesn’t discriminate on looks or age. He was living in a sober facility so he was well aware how bad his addiction was. It’s rampant in the gay community. Really sad he cut his life short before he could really live it clean and sober.

  • Alex Rothwell

    That’s to bad he couldn’t have gotten help, very sad.

  • Barb Kipper

    Sad, but sometimes it is just too hard to go on.

  • dean3000

    RIP

    This will not make me popular but the most trouble I’ve had in my life is with gay men. My first bf gave me Coke and got me hooked my last tried to pass me around to his friends. We are so used to being filmed it may seem like no big deal but as seen it has a huge consequences on wellbeing. If you’re good looking and fit you will attract a certain type who want you as a trophy to prove their self worth. Then that type will create dependence to keep you. Then make you pay for those “treats”.

    I’m sure this guy didn’t wake up one morning and say I’m going to do porn.

    Now I’m into early nights up at 5 am for a run, reading, making music and finishing off my degree and I’m definitey doing a masters. It’s a shame these things are not respected in this community.

  • dean3000

    I’ll add I googled him and those wonderful porn sites still have his videos up. Classy

  • enlightenone

    @BigG: “His issue was addiction and probably depression. The porn probably didn’t help, but it wasn’t the main issue…”

    …And YOU KNOW this how?

    Sex work/PORN can exaserbate depression and drug dependence!

  • enlightenone

    @joe: “…however the dentist was from san fran and he said his office knew, the 2 lawyers i know are still lawyers although corporate ones not the kind in court rooms doing trials.”

    The porn users in his office don’t count. They areN’T the professional regulatory bodies who can suspend or revoke a dentist license to practice and the same for attorneys no matter the type of law practiced. In short, no one filed a complaint against the sex workers (your friends) and the regulatory bodies haven’t discovered their UNETHICAL CONDUCT!!!!

    • joe

      @enlightenone: yes thats correct was just in their town and the other lawyers in the practices, same for dentist, this was several years ago all are still in their profession. also i just remembered a few that are in the nursing profession as well a very famous early 2000 one “blake harper” is an optical (eye) nurse at a special eye hospital in canada. i think these guys did well with prn because they had a fall back and did understand porn was just a fun kind of part time job, not a serious career choice. also theres one in miami area that was a teacher, he was fired but then rehired as he had already stopped doing porn

  • enlightenone

    @AL Quin: “He was very cute to leave this earth to soon may he rest in peace.”

    …And if he wasn’t ” very cute?”

  • Sansacro

    Saw the videos with this guy. Very sexy, but he seemed sad and, yes, wounded. Breaks my heart.

  • Tracy Pope

    @enlightenone: I’m not sure the ABA would consider working as porn entertainer as unethical conduct (especially in states where making porn is legal). There are several attorneys who are semi-famous for that very reason but haven’t been disbarred. That they’re female attorneys might be the reason but it shouldn’t make a difference.
    A side note – every time I read your posts I misread your name as enlighten none.

  • moldisdelicious

    @enlightenone:

    Exactly, sad how way too many gay men have this type of mentality where they objectify themselves and others solely off of sexual gratification purposes then turn around demanding respect from other people. They don’t even know how to respect themselves.

  • moldisdelicious

    @enlightenone:

    The word shallow minimizes whats going on8. Let’s just call it out for what it is. Dehumanization, degrading someone, sexual objectication, fetishization, and etc. Basically stripping away someone’s humanity from them in order to make it easier for ones needs.

    Porn is not real. It’s acting. Unfortunately, a lot of these porn actors don’t separate their acting personas from who they are off camera. They let their acting role become them. They often put them hand to hand together and then it usually blows up in their face. That’s why I can’t cosign that shit. Porn is entertaining and I watch it but most of these folks aren’t right in the head or have issues. They have no business doing porn and need to seek a damn shrink or drug counselor.

  • GymJockTX

    It’s sort of striking to me how many people posting on here preach with a litany of cliche’s about the porn business, and some resort to downright spiteful barbs.

    Back in 2000 I started dating a hot bodybuilder type, Jim, who I met at a club when I was visiting Dallas. We both knew that the 200 mile commute to/from Austin would probably prevent us from pursuing anything other than a casual relationship, so we became occasional f-buddies, and enjoyed our times together.

    In 2001, Jim met a well known gay porn star at a gay bar in Dallas, and they went home together, hit it off, and the Big Name stud convinced Jim to give porn a try. I had no issues with it, our sexual bond was strictly a fun, no strings time, so I got a pretty good bird’s eye view of the porn business through Jim.

    Jim made about 20 films over a period of 2 years, had a blast with the guys who topped him (he was a self-described power bottom), and was a popular actor since he had a masculine, hot, muscled up look that was punched up fairly dramatically with steroids and HGH. He also made no b ones about the fact that he was also dick-dancing cross country, as well as escorting. Contrary to some of the judgmental comments made on this site, Jim was completely drug free (other than the glandular supplements he was on), always kept his corporate day job, and never had any illusions about making his porn star alter ego the center of his life. He knew the films and the escorting were just a temporary indulgence (and a way to make some extra cash), so he got into it, had some fun for about 18 months, and then he walked away.

    I think it’s really sad about all the gay porn star suicides. More than anything, I wish that these guys had a better understanding about the very real service they’re providing, i.e., that their on-screen work is helping gay horn dogs like me stay off the streets and cut down on bar hopping by enjoying their sexuality occasionally (ok, a lot of times for me) in front of the flat screen at home. To me, gay porn films are an art form, just as surely as paintings and sculptures at an upscale gallery.

    As for all the bitchy, jealous queens who post judgmental crap about a “destructive PORN STAR lifestyle”, a lot of that, to me, is just armchair experts spouting off about things they have no clue about. Jim clarified for me that there are actually a good number of professional, friendly people in the business; mainly, a lot of these guys are having loads of sexual fun, a lot more than most of us (yes, pun intended).

  • junk4sts

    I won’t claim to know anything about porn work, and I will not pass judgement on Dimitri. I do want to say that although some don’t seem to care about him and write off his passing to lots of bad choices, I think a death like this does matter, it matters because he had a public image and a minor following. He wasn’t a big name star but a lot of people knew of him because of what he did for a living. In my opinion, a little bit of a porn performers real personality comes out over time, the more scenes they are in the more we start to get a sense of who they are, and like it or not, a little bit of a ‘connection’ is made at least for the viewer.

    It’s not that Dimitri’s passing is any more or less important than the gay man down the street who takes his life quietly, it’s just that more people know about Dimitri, know at least a little something about him, but most of us don’t know anything about the gay salesman at the local car dealer, or the gay computer programmer who works for the fortune 500 company. But when the unknown people die tragically from suicide, there are people who will mourn for their loss as well, people who worked with them, knew of them and felt maybe just a little bit of a connection with them. The tragic deaths of the unknown will not be posted on Queerty, but they are no less important, and, no more important than Dimitri’s death.

    Like Rylan Knox, Dimitri Kane, had an impish quality about him, both cute/good looking in their own way. Both fun to watch in their scenes. Both deaths are kind of shock because both seemed “healthy and happy” on screen.

    When guys like Dimitri or Rylan appear on the porn scene, a part of me hopes that porn gets them to the next phase of their lives, for some that could be a long and successful run in front of the camera, for others, it may just be a way to pay the bills for a while, so that their other dreams and plans have time to take root and grow, either way it is sad when we hear that for whatever reason, there won’t be a next phase.

    For Dimitri and Rylan, and others we know about because of whatever small amount of fame they enjoyed, and for those we do not know, who have chosen to end their journey too soon, Rest in peace.

    Ignoring the mean spirited comments here, there are a lot of people who are saddened by the loss of Dimitri, and if there is any lesson to be learned by his passing, it’s this, although we may not know who they are, we are all having a positive impact on the people around us – someone out there cares about us and want’s us to be around as long as possible.

    If you are considering suicide, get help, start here: http://www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org/ or talk with your family and friends.

  • Dan Steele

    Drugs kill, plain and simple.

  • Mane Stelzer

    SchDe um jeden und jede die keinen anderen Ausweg mehr erkennen .???

  • alphacentauri

    @GymJockTX: I would not be surprised if that guy is HIV+ or has other STDs; but he wrecked his body with steroids so he’s not that intelligent.

  • enlightenone

    @moldisdelicious: “…Dehumanization, degrading someone, sexual objectication, fetishization, and etc. Basically stripping away someone’s humanity from them in order to make it easier for ones needs.
    Porn is not real.”

    Sex work/(someone commented “loads [no pun intended] of fun”)is REAL that’s what makes for “sexual objectification” that for many is or begins to feel dehumanized, DEGRADED (especially when they and others in their lives, now and in their FUTURE, can see in instant, repeated PLAYBLACK!).

    I would say having an orgasm and cumming is a physiological response not “acting,” and letting someone cum on your face, etc. is not “acting!” Just my perspective.

    That said, we’re on the same side of this discussion!

  • enlightenone

    @GymJockTX: “…our sexual bond was strictly a fun, no strings time…”

    Given your perspective, your comments are consistent. For me a “sexual bond” is serious and impacts my life, how I see myself, and has an impact on my soul and mental wellbeing, but that’s just my perspective personally and professionally!

  • enlightenone

    @Tracy Pope: “…A side note – every time I read your posts I misread your name as enlighten none.”

    You can only be enlightened if you are mentally capable, value it and/or open! “Legal” and “ethical” are NOT synonymous. Of course, they shot the porn in the few states that allow it “legally.”

  • Cam

    @dean3000: said… “This will not make me popular but the most trouble I’ve had in my life is with gay men.”
    ________________________

    Gee, could that be because that’s who you date? IF you only date gay men it isn’t as if you’re going to have a lot of problems with Latina women over 65.

    That would be the same as a straight guy going “Women are the most trouble, because I’ve had the most trouble with them” yes, because that is who he dates. Sheesh.

  • Stache

    @alphacentauri: How do you know that and why does it matter to you? So what. He did steroids. Lots of people do for whatever reasons. Seems that you’re just trying to look for something negative to say like always.

  • Stache

    @enlightenone: “our sexual bond was strictly a fun, no strings time…” OMG so horrible that someone is out enjoying sex just because.

  • alphacentauri

    @Stache: Nope, not being ‘negative’ just telling it like it is. Who in their right mind besides an idiot would want to attempt any sort of ‘relationship’ with a person that does porn and who is a whore?

    • joe

      @alphacentauri: well you dont need to be a porn star to be a whore, what is a whore exactly anyway?? some people think having sex outside of marrage is being a whore, others like you think its being a porn star. i had / have some great friends that do/did porn. they dont do drugs, many dnt even drink, two love playing board games at home. they have sex on camera because for them its fun, exciting and different. it doesnt make them bad people

  • Manchester

    People on here defending porn “stars” like they’re Dr. Jonas Salk inventing the polio vaccine. GTFOH with that bullsh. Unbelievable.

  • enlightenone

    @Manchester: “People on here defending porn “stars” like they’re Dr. Jonas Salk inventing the polio vaccine…”

    …And that’s the CORE post-adolescent psychological cognitive dissonance of many commenting and these males and not so young males choosing SEX WORK “for tons of fun” and dollars! However, it is understandable given the micro and macro-aggressions perpetrated on gays/homosexuals during the adolescent developmental stage and into adulthood. These young and not so young deaths by suicide, drug dependence, etc. is the fatal result for one too many!

  • dave lopes

    Try to think outside the box.

    The only thing wrong with porn is society’s judgement of it.

    Just as the only thing wrong with same sex attraction and coupling is society’s judgement of it.

    If society had treated porn just as another form of entertainment, like athletes and models and actors using their bodies and physical skills, there would not be an issue.

    The problem is the demonization of sex in society.

  • dave lopes

    Thank You to all these beautiful porn performers who helped me better understand and accept my sexual desires as a youth.

  • GiacomoLorenzo

    Eternal Rest grant unto him Oh Lord and let Perpetual Light shine upon him.
    Comfort his family and loved ones and show him Mercy and peace.

  • talonwings

    This report is incorrect. He did not die from suicide. He was hit by a car and died at the hospital. I knew him and his family and went to the funeral. You can’t believe everything that’s posted.

  • BlogShag

    Why do so many of these video prostitutes off themselves?

  • BlogShag

    @joe: , Well if you knew anything about the English language, you would know that a whore is a person who has sexual contact with other people in exchange for monetary compensation

  • LAguy77

    I have always had much empathy for these young men. When I was in medical school in my early 20s (would have been early 2000s), it seemed that some sort of scouts from the gay pornography industry would approach me in regard to working for whatever company. Although flattering to some degree, I simply could not get past the fact that my parents or siblings may someday hear about it, let alone SEE it. Besides, I was of the opinion that I had more to offer, both then and now, than only my physical appearance. Clearly, this was simply not an option for me. That being said, I do not judge others on what they may choose to do, so long as it doesn’t cause harm to anyone. We all have our reasons for what we do or did, and I am perfectly imperfect and flawed, giving me no right to judge anyone. Perhaps they felt as if doing pornographic work was their only means of escaping a bad situation; I may only speculate. I am not here to argue with anyone regarding morality, ethics, or whatever another feels is right or wrong. That is not for any person to decide. What I will say is that these young men taking their own lives is really sad. No one in this world should ever feel worthless. They are people just like you and I who have real feelings and emotions. I suppose the fact that they are discarded like garbage as soon as they do not look 22 doesn’t help, sort of like that guy with whom I spent last night (distant past) doesn’t want to be friends or anything else thereafter. I just wish that there was a way in which I might help them.

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