When it comes to tops and bottoms, there are no absolutes. There are twink tops, tall bottoms and everything in between.
That includes tops and bottoms who listen to all kinds of music. But that revelation caught one apparent Grindr user by surprise.
A viral post floating around the gay corners of X (sounds hedonistic) contains a screenshot of a Grindr post from a user who seems flabbergasted that tops could listen to boppy pop music.
The offending artist in this case was Selena Gomez.
Yes, we’re expressionless, too.
“Ok you have dom top in your name but I could hear Selena Gomez blasting through your beats,” said the apparent Grindr user in question.
The stereotype here seems to be that tops–and “Dom tops” in particular–are toxically masculine and…can’t enjoy pop music?
Or is it just Selena Gomez?
Someone needs to write out a rulebook at this point.
but tops listen to selena gomez and bottoms listen to ariana grande
— angel (@seIIevacion) September 12, 2023
Dom tops can like Selena too
— Jeffrey Still (@JeffreyStill123) September 12, 2023
what are tops supposed to listen to? technical death metal? power electronics? new country?
— DREWDANIEL.BLUESKY.SOCIAL (@DDDrewDaniel) September 12, 2023
This startling screenshot came to light just days after the toxicity of straight men was exposed in a new study, which says 49% of heteros are uncomfortable being naked in the men’s room, and 48% think it’s weird to cry in front of dudes.
Interestingly, 45% of straights are uncomfortable saying “I love you” to their platonic bros, while 44% say they would be uncomfortable in a gay bar. It seems like there could be some voyeurs in the sample…
Sadly, gay men aren’t immune to gross gender stereotypes, as the aforementioned Grindr message shows. And this is far from the first time biases about tops and bottoms have been discussed online.
For years, there’s been a roiling debate about the validity of twink tops, though one recent Reddit exchange indicates those constricting beliefs may be history (Troye Sivan celebrates).
Commenters were salivating at the concept!
“I absolutely love a twink top,” wrote one, complete with a drooling emoji.
“They’re the hottest, and the world needs more of them,” added another.
While we’re on the topic of tops, many gays have asked in the past whether anybody could actually be a “total top,” or if those making the bold declaration are just bottoms with bowel issues.
The descriptors aren’t mutually exclusive, of course, but…
It’s certainly a contributing factor
— J (@jdstewart1983) June 1, 2023
Some of us are tops who just happen to have ibs
— Jenna Maroney at the White Lotus (@suburban_queer) May 31, 2023
I’m a top because of market forces😂
— tvbloke (@tvbloke) June 2, 2023
The Imodium tops are gonna cancel you 🤣
— PowerVersChicago (@PowerVers_Chi) June 1, 2023
Now the real question is: can tops with IBS listen to Selena Gomez?
We’re sure Grindr will provide an answer.
bachy
They’re missing the nuance here. Which Selena Gomez hit was it?
nm4047
sounds like one of those, let’s make up a story to get a response. Gyms will play their own music and most people would wear earbuds or oversize headphones to listen to their own choice of music.
Fahd
The stuff about the poll of what straight men find embarrassing was all over the mainstream media today….interesting way of working it into a Queerty post.
I always have found the psychology, the gratifiction of needs, of the ¨true versatile¨most difficult to (I don´t want to write ¨penetrate¨) understand. More on that please.