A young man has shared the disgusting racist messages he received from a guy he met at Pride.
Twitter user @TEEZBabyCakes had a great time at Toledo Pride last weekend. He spent the afternoon chatting with people, being social, and making new friends.
But the next day, he received a message on Grindr. It read:
Please stop talking to my boyfriend. You tried to talk to me and my boyfriend at pride last night by the booth? We’re boyfriends we don’t want to hookup with you.
@TEEZBabyCakes responded:
How about we take this to the next level?
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Maybe I was being social cause it’s Pride? You know that event where actually try to make more gay friends? Side note: Dick cruising gets old and takes a lot of energy.
And that’s when things took a truly vile turn. The man’s replied:
Even if we were looking for a threesome, we would never hookup with someone like you… we don’t like dark skin, or dark burn culture. We are classy like America. We don’t twerk and do stupid sh*t that fat black people do. We are civilised people. Please don’t bring your burn culture into ours its already good thanks.
Oh, but it gets worse. The man continued:
Blacks are too dark and have ruined beauty for us queers. Take ur fried chicken and fatty foods elsewhere away from us. You n*gers…you can’t even get a nice job. You all are so poor. Can’t even afford a new car.
But if you thought that was bad. Just wait until you read what he said next:
Black people have black skin and is nasty and discussing and unappealing. Stop talking to us whites. We don’t want dark or burnt skinned friends or sex partners… Blacks are unattractive and ugly to even look at… Like you don’t deserve to have the attention of a white man…. I don’t want my clean big d*ck in some dark boy p*ssy or black skinned mouth. I would feel ashamed and disgusted.
Wow.
@TEEZBabyCakes shared the messages on social media. As horrible as they were, he says he was unfazed by the whole thing.
Tried being cordial and friendly with a white gay couple at Toledo pride yesterday. These are the messages I get the day after. ? pic.twitter.com/AhFBByPVuy
— TEEZ™ & Chill ???? (@TEEZBabyCakes) August 20, 2017
Sadly, this sort of thing is not uncommon. A survey conducted by the Gay Men’s Sexual Health Charity in the U.K. earlier this year found that more than seven in 10 gay Black men reported experiencing racism in the LGBTQ community.
Related: This dating app is for ‘lovers of diversity’ who are sick of seeing racist trash on Grindr
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Xzamilloh
What even is this??? I’m torn between believing this is real, because that kind of racism is so on the nose trollish that if someone really is that vile, they really have no business being on Grindr. And the racist guy goes on Grindr and finds him the next day and proceeds to unleash this racist spiel against him? Was he jealous? Because he seemed to have taken it upon himself to speak for the boyfriend, who maybe liked the black guy. I don’t know… this does not appear to be real to me, but maybe it is.
In any case, if this is true, that’s the kind of racist gay guy I wouldn’t be sad to see get hate crimed. Sorry bout it. These black dudes obsessed with white daddy… love yourself.
Xzamilloh
And I just checked out his Twitter… *side eyes like crazy*
ChrisK
Good call. The shithead saw a connection between his BF and this guy and wanted to make it very clear he wasn’t ok with it.
dre_brown
Yeah, I just looked at his Twitter and Instagram, and they both speak VOLUMES. Sometimes you have to get smacked in the face every once and awhile. Brings you back to Earth.
Jus’ sayin’
mhoffman953
I think it’s fake too
Queerty says anyone who says whites only is racist. Apparently this black guy only is interested in white guys. Isn’t that a fetish based on race and thus racist? *Queerty writer’s head explodes*
2ndcoming
Calling out racist has nothing with loving yourself. I bet you wouldn’t be saying the same thing if it was some straight guys gay bashing some white dude. Double Standards is real smh.
Xzamilloh
@2ndComing
Why would straight guys be at Pride with as a couple, and then on Grindr the next day being racist to a white-obsessed black guy who apparently went on Grindr asking “Is black okay?” when talking to white guys? I’m sorry, but even my sellout Uncle Tom ass — according to some on here who know who they are — sees how lowly this guy views himself. That doesn’t excuse any kind of racism towards him, but like I said, that exchanged seemed like something straight out of the wet dream of Tumblr.
Bob LaBlah
After talking to a few guys who are my age (59) or older about internet hookups we all agreed more or less that the reason why we aren’t into online hookups is because there is no proof who that is sending those text messages or behind the pics posted online. Forgive me for saying this but this person is a whiner. Did the thought go thru his mind at least once that it might be one of the other guys saying those things? Was he there when the message was being typed? Did he stop and ask himself it might be a black person like himself who masquerades as white just to mess with the minds of young black gay men whom he might not be able to hookup with because of his appearance? This is a non-issue to most of us as it should be. You let this type of shit roll off of you instead of whining about it in public.
Xzamilloh
Exactly, Bob!!! I am 32 and let people’s opinion of me get to me for so long. It’s exhausting caring what other people think of you, so let them have it. As if I would ever let a racist or stupid person mess up my day or my life
Paco
“We are classy like America”
——-
I always have a good chuckle when basic white trash consider themselves to be classy. The evidence of their level of class (or even education) is always contrary to their deluded claims about themselves.
White skin does not equal class. Just FYI.
Paco
Queerty, your site is broken on iPhones. I have to endlessly scroll down to the comments now.
ChrisK
It’s doing that on my computer too.
radiooutmike
When I hear or read this, I just imagine ‘classy’ with K! Klassy!
Lindoro Almaviva
But but but No blacks, no Jews, no Asian, white only are just preferences….
/sarcasm.
ChrisK
If you’re only into White it is just a mere preference. Simple as that. That or maybe you do everyone and should be an example to us all.
Ummmm Yeah
So you totally edited out the responses from black men he got on twitter bashing him for trying to date white men huh? I’m not surprised though.
Franklin
Ummmmm, I think guys were more giving him side eye because he seems to only have a preference for white guys. He has the hashtag #teamswirl on his twitter profile.
Ummmm Yeah
They were giving him racist comments just like the white guys did.
gjg64
I bet it was this couple…..
https://www.queerty.com/meet-gay-couple-trumps-ohio-rally-20161014
LilMesican
Boo-hoo, a White guy said nasty things to me, boo-hoo!!!
Get over it, not everyone is going to like me and they may say nasty things. I don’t like every person I meet. Do I send them nasty messages? NO.
Have I been ignored, discriminated against, or put down because I’m Mexican? Yes. I walk away and find someone that does like my beautiful brown skin. I found my boyfriend on-line and we both love our cinnamon colored skin.
I stopped living in someones else’s hate and chose to live in someones happiness.
Try it!
Smith David
Uuuuummmm…..what? Lmao…so you just wanted us to know you have a boyfriend? lol. Did you even read the article? At what point was the black guy sending nasty replies? Girl bye!
PinkoOfTheGange
You missed the point of the sharing. It was extremely vile while at the same time ironically entertaining. It wasn’t about sharing hurt feelings.
It was about exposing utter stupidity.
Chris
That white guy was being presumptuous as well as racist. I kept looking for the reply: “Don’t flatter yourself,” followed by three snaps in Z-formation.
Danny595
Grindr is an inherently degrading and dehumanizing experience. If you go on an app to select sexual partners from a menu of torso pics – as if human beings are slabs of meat at the butcher’s shop – then you don’t get to whine about how people aren’t treating you with respect and civility.
In an era of marriage, love, and monogamy, you have chosen to dwell in a digital sewer. So expect to be to be treated like crap.
SumSay
Please drama queen, get a clue. Just because you failed to find love with it that doesn’t mean the app’s bad. (Might be time to look within?) Besides, you’re missing the bigger picture here. Racism=bad.
ChrisK
Christ. One day I hope someone gets horny enough to do you because this is really getting old. You’re worse then the one million moms.
alllowercase
You are probably someone who blames a rape victim because of the way they dressed, or drank too much, or flirted too much.
The fact is, nobody deserves to be treated in this way! Doesn’t matter if he was looking to get laid or looking to get married, the white trash who was berating him asserting his superiority was wrong and brings shame not just just to caucasians everywhere but to humans in general.
jhon_siders
Well The way the black community has been acting lately I can see this happening they have to admit they are part of the problem and clean there own house to get more respect When I said this at a council meeting they went off but as I said back facts are facts now deal with this .
Godabed
Pump your breaks, last i checked my history books…it was white people who forced black people to conform to their ideology to progress in this country not the otherway around. When they adopt white people’s hateful ways shame on them for being conditioned to think a certain way.
White people in this country are still the majority, and even if you reduced their numbers by half they still outnumber all the black in the US. 330 million 17 million is Black. So when are you going to get a handle on the bigger issue, the white community and their homophobia, racism, last i checked they are still the majority in every house and senate in this F*cken country. And depending on which states you live in let’s say Ohio where our dear sweet Vice president and next President is from he actually rolled back LGBTQ rights. So you should be less concerned about the black community, and more concerned about the white community.
Get rid of your racist propaganda and actually pick up a history book.
mhoffman953
@Godabed
I think you’re the one pushing racist propaganda. You’re angry that there are more whites in America than blacks. Are you calling for the phasing out of the white race? Isn’t that anti-white propaganda?
So what if there are more whites in America than blacks? Globally, whites are in the minority. Should we do something about that? What if I turned your argument around and argued that Africa has too many black people and not enough white people? You’re the one spewing racist propaganda
Then you state, “it was white people who forced black people to conform to their ideology to progress in this country”. That’s wrong too. It was blacks who sold other blacks into slavery to whites. One of the first slave owners was actually a black man who owned a tobacco farm. During the slavery era, there were 171 black slaveholders just in South Carolina, American Indians owned thousands of black slaves, in 1830 there were nearly 3,800 blacks who owned black slaves, black-on-black slavery was brutal in Africa for thousands of years, and it was white people who ended slavery. I think it is you who needs to pick up a history book
PinkoOfTheGange
Go To Bed honey
I get your point so you don’t need to misstate the AA population; it was 42 million in 2010 with the expectation to rise by about 1.5% per year.
Felecia
Hey Godabed…check YOUR friggin’ history books; Mike ‘The Neo-Nazi’ Pence was our Governor here in Indiana, not Ohio, until Trump picked him for Veep…he plays golf with David Duke, former Grand-Poohbah of the KKK, and has no qualms about anybody knowing it. Pence defends Duke; says that he is a ‘fine man’ and a loyal American patriot. Nevermind The Donald…Pence will start the Fourth Reich with or without him, and LGBT America will be soon riding boxcars to a gas shower and mass grave-pits. Believe it…I know, ANOTHER conspiracy-theory, lol…but when that last census was taken in the United States, it was the first time we were asked if anyone in the household was gay or lesbian. Why, I wondered; nobody was required to identify as straight. The form didn’t have a check-mark space for THAT, and I was suspicious of the census-taker’s claim that it ‘would help the Government know what programs to fund in the future’. A bunch of baloney, I had to think…I’m 54, and have pretty much seen a lot of homophobic bullsh*t in my day. Now they have a damn ‘list’ of us, throughout the country, masquerading as a ” we only want to help you” service. Yeah, help us get on that train to New Auschwitz, lol…..
mhoffman953
@Felecia
“ANOTHER conspiracy-theory, lol…but when that last census was taken in the United States, it was the first time we were asked if anyone in the household was gay or lesbian…I’m 54, and have pretty much seen a lot of homophobic bullsh*t in my day. Now they have a damn ‘list’ of us”
Um…I hope you know this but the last census was in 2010 under the Obama administration and when the next census rolls around, President Trump has the gay question removed. Your bizarro world conspiracy doesn’t make sense.
griffin87
jhon – you clearly are the delusional one. I did not condone it when Hillary denounced the deplorables. However you sir, are the definition of trailer park deplorable. No wonder you were chastised for your senile behaviour at a council meeting, spouting off irrelevant garbage. If you are so pronounced to your idiot-o-ology; perhaps feel brave enough to post your Facebook link down below. Get a clue and welcome to the 21 st century.
And mhoffman- Godabed didn’t say anything about being angry about being more whites or wanting to phase out the white population… he is merely stating that the amount of ignorance from likes of you and jhon is what’s holding back this country so stop spreading “fake news” and go sit on a dick Mary..
DCguy
And let me guess, you think that rape is women’s fault because they shouldn’t be walking around with vaginas right?
mhoffman953
@griffin87
“Godabed didn’t say anything about being angry about being more whites or wanting to phase out the white population”
Yes he did. His entire rant condemned the white population as a whole. He didn’t say some, most, or a few. He specifically stated the following:
“you should be…more concerned about the white community”
“So when are you going to get a handle on the bigger issue, the white community and their homophobia, racism”
Then he had to bring up whites being the majority in this country as if it means something. What point is he trying to make by bringing up that whites outnumber blacks in America? It seems irrelevant to discuss. It blatantly comes across as saying the white community as a whole is homphobic, racist, and according to him shouldn’t be the majority.
If that’s wrong, hopefully he (or you since you claim to know his thinking) can clarify these words. Is it a bad thing that whites are the majority in this nation?
griffin87
@mhoffman
Paraphrasing what he wrote:
“White people in this country are still the majority”..
TRUE
“Last time I checked, they are in every house and senate”…
TRUE
and since they are the lawmakers of this great nation.. “Our dear old Vice President… rolled back LGBTQ rights and freedoms with the help of congress in house.
ALSO TRUE
“So you should be less concerned with the Black community and more concerned with there White community” that is encrouching on our rights that gays and lesbians before us have paved the way and enjoying the rights to, are now in jeopardy of because of the current administration.
Don’t know why your perception is skewed, and don’t know what he’s thinking but Seems pretty self explanatory to me.
mhoffman953
@griffin87
Nothing of what you wrote addresses my points.
My points were, why does it matter that whites are the majority in this nation? Is Godabed hinting that it might be a bad thing?
(Side note: LOL You labeled his statement about Mike Pence being from Ohio as true but made sure to leave out where he wrote he’s from Ohio. He was never the Governor of Ohio.)
griffin87
@mhoffman
Your points were, “why does it matter that whites are the majority in this nation?”
It doesn’t. I reread his piece, twice. And it doesn’t elude to anything hinting that it might be a bad thing either.
It’s just stating the whites have a larger ratio, therefore control many of the policies that govern the nation. That includes a reversal on LGBT issues and rights.
(Yes, he was incorrect about the state however I left out the Ohio part because it was a moot point.)
mhoffman953
@griffin87
“It doesn’t. I reread his piece, twice. And it doesn’t elude to anything hinting that it might be a bad thing either.”
Then why even bring it up if it’s irrelevant to the discussion? I could bring up the ration of Asians, Latinos, and Native Americans in this country but I don’t see how that is relevant to this discussion unless the point you are making is that whites being the majority of the population is a bad thing. Maybe Godabed should clarify this himself instead of having you be his interpreter.
“It’s just stating the whites have a larger ratio, therefore control many of the policies that govern the nation. That includes a reversal on LGBT issues and rights.”
But the majority of whites support gay marriage. Are you claiming whites as a whole oppose gay issues as compared to other races regarding the same topic?
Kangol
@Godabed, there were over 38 million African Americans, not counting mixed-race people, according to the 2010 US Census. The number is higher now. “17 million” is waaaaaay off!
griffin87
@mhoffman
Your statement about me being Godabed’s interpreter is about as true as you being Jhon_siders advocate.
Like I said, reading his comments, it doesn’t elude to anything hinting that is might be a bad thing either. Perhaps you are the one that is clearly conspiring or perceiving otherwise.
And “Are you claiming whites as a whole oppose gay issues as compared to other races regarding the same topic”? LOL Put down your pitchfork and torch sweetheart. Why is it you resort to putting words into people’s mouths when you run out of reasoning?
Did I say this?? Clearly Not.
Reread what I said about congress being majority white and rolling back LGBT rights. I’m more disturbed by the comment by jhon_siders referencing that “the black” community as a whole has been acting lately and admitting to being part of the problem.” If you agree with jhon (not sure if you do), then the majority of whites, as you say, supporting gay marriage should get congress to reevaluate the policies that have been reversed.
[email protected]
This sounds more like a Trump rally than pride Torn between feeling sorry for the poor pathetic thing and wanting to push him into the Grand Canyon
Felecia
Jesus Christ, when will the racial problems between blacks and whites here in America end…apparently Martin Luther King’s ‘dream’ only went as far as desegregating public bus systems and lunch-counters, and THAT is sad enough. Even a black President now seems like just a token effort, since nobody let Obama do anything he wanted to do, and white cops shooting unarmed black citizens went on without fear of his administration being pissed about it, either. And ATTENTION, Racists; SKIN COLOR IS MERELY A DAMN PAINT-JOB, like your cars…what REALLY matters is what’s under the hood, right…??? As a Native American, I’m disgusted by how MY country got stolen and was replaced by a bunch of idiotic EuroTrash looking to get rich in the slave game. These people were NOT ‘classy’…the politicians now are always busted with hookers in fancy hotel rooms, or having affairs with underage teenagers who were assigned to them as intern assistants and pages. DEFINITELY not classy, lol…Trump admits he grabs women by their genitals; and is married to a Ukrainian former high-end ‘escort’ call-girl. Ooooh, the class is so thick here in the United States that it’s a miracle we all don’t smother in it, lol…that couple who met this man at Pride should be ashamed of themselves. It’s very simple; if you aren’t interested, just tell the man you’re flattered, but he isn’t your type. There was absolutely no need to be such an a**hole and send that ugly rant to him. Yet it does prove that not every gay man is the TV stereotype of funny wit and intelligence, lol. Those two should avoid Pride Week next year because they are nothing to be proud OF….as for the gentleman who was sent the messages from the hater…I am deeply sorry you experienced that crap. It DID sound as if the douchebag’s boyfriend was more than a little interested, and that had him freaking out, lol….:)
ivanw222
If a white guy is only interested in white guys, or a black guy is only interested in black guys…or any other is only interested in his/her other, that’s fine with me. However, it’s no reason to slam someone who isn’t what you’re looking for. Maybe he is far from your sexual interests, you might still make a good friend. This response is just vile.
PinkoOfTheGange
here here.
surreal33
Funny how everyone is dancing circles around the core issue. RACISM is real!!! RACISM is the foundation of America. Therefore, no revelation that the gay community is teeming with racism. Perhaps if the ad nauseam time and energy spent rationalizing, justifying, denying, racism was redirected toward addressing racism the world might change for the better.
Armiya
Yeah. This happens daily to people of color. But since the person sharing this has nearly 10k followers, it warrants coverage here on Queerty.
JerseyMike
black, asian, latino, middle eastern only please… it’s just a preference
surreal33
Douche, asshat, scumbag, ignorant wanker, please… it’s just an observation.
JerseyMike
@ surreal… I am not rac!$t… it’s just a preference. Some of my best friends are white.. I even work with some…
JerseyMike
@ surreal… I am not rac!$t… just a preference. Some of my best friends are white.. I even work with some…
He BGB
This happened at Toledo Pride but there is a statistic reference to gays in the UK. Clarification would help even though this could happen any where. Maybe it’s a Canadian article since Toledo is near the border.