He’s not trying to insult anyone — he thinks everyone should love who they want to love. But he’s completely straight, see — yet his parents think he’s gay and are desperately trying to get him to come out.
“For the last six years of my life, I’ve been met with monthly, off-the-cuff talks about how it’s okay to be gay,” says Redditor wakaawak.
The university student now feels stifled and dreads going back home because he “can almost feel the curiosity whenever [his mom’s] friends are having a cup of tea over at our house.”
His mother’s chatty as all get out, and he’s certain she’s told them she thinks he’s gay.
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He further explains:
Studies, relationships, and career aside, this is number one thing in my life that is seriously bothering me. Very lucky that I can say that, but this is a first world problem.
What can I do to shift their opinion while I’m at home for the next 3 months (it’s summer break)? The only people I can think of asking out on dates go to university, so will rarely be able to meet them up in the holidays (or bring them back home).
Is it literally a case of putting up posters of supermodels in my room?
Rushed this, tell me if I’ve missed any detail out which you need to understand the predicament.
The virtual peanut gallery was quick to weigh in on this peculiar predicament.
A Redditor named kanuut suggests, “Next time they give you ‘the talk’, flip it on them and say you’ll love them no matter what, and that you know a guy/gal who’s into older men/women if they want introductions.”
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As they say, Spiritofchokedout doesn’t just sympathize, he empathizes:
This is the fun part of young adulthood where you’re allowed to talk back a bit more. Find your spine and stand on it.
My parents did the same “oooo” thing and I hated it, so now if they infantilise or mock my sexual identity I literally halt the conversation and tell them to shove it. They play it off condescending, but once you stay consistent you’ll notice less of the behavior and more respect for you as an independent adult with his own sex life.
thesaltwatersolution thinks he shouldn’t let his parents emasculate and control him with their overbearing, passive-aggressive maneuverings:
To be fair I never really felt comfortable discussing or talking about my relationships with my parents, it’s just not their business and I’ve never felt comfortable bringing that stuff up with them. My father is an emotional brick wall. Mine would make the ‘ooooooooooohhhh’ noise as well.
Firstly you don’t have anything to prove to them. Secondly, be yourself. If you want to put up posters, then put up posters but do it for your benefit not theirs. Equally if you feel like sitting down and talking to them about things then do that, I think you’ve explained things pretty clearly here. Having a direct conversation might be the best thing and also have an exit strategy so that it doesn’t dwindle on. The main point is that you don’t have to do anything for them. Do whatever works for you.
I’m sorry that your parents have made you feel paranoid. Pluck up the courage and speak to them.
What advice would you give this young man? Should he tell his parents to STFU or should he cave into their demands and just have really hot gay sex whether he likes it or not? Sound off in the comments below.
Ksb1978
Really don’t care about cis straight people and their problems.
MacAdvisor
Perhaps if the guy didn’t wear just a touch of eyeliner to make his eyes pop, wasn’t always breaking into songs from Broadway musicals, dropping a phrase in French every now and then, didn’t worship Barbara Streisand and Liza, and wear an ascot, he’d stand a better chance at convincing his mom’s friends he wasn’t gay.
crowebobby
I admit I thought the caption was funny. Reminds me of Bo Burnham’s – “My whole family thinks I’m gay.” But I can see where it would be really annoying after a while, even assuming he didn’t consider being gay to be a negative in any way. I’m openly gay and it pisses me off when someone, straight or gay, assumes I’m lying if I say I’m not into something they think all gay people must be into and roll their eyes when I assure them I’m not. Not because I think whatever it is is sick or beneath me, just why the hell would I bother to deny anything to them. I doubt there’s anything this guy can do to convince his family he’s straight if they’ve made up their minds.
NateOcean
Prearrange to have a prostitute come over so when your parents come home from the movies, they will catch you banging her on the dining room table. That should be proof enough.
Or, for an extra treat, be caught going down on a “boyish” friend. And when your parents think you are sucking-D, pull back to reveal your are muff-diving.
Hopefully, that will shut them up.
DCguy
Another article about a straight guy.
Chris
Tell em it’s none of their business and when you introduce them to someone, then it is.
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gayand gray
I am the youngest of 4 children. Starting at age 7 I was the one that every Sat. helped my Mother clean house, start cooking dinner, washing up and doing the laundry. Both my older sister and my brother could escape doing anything to help her. By age 10 all I heard was ” Boy, someday you are going to make a great wife.” When at age 21 , I kicked down the closet door and told my family I was gay , all I heard was we had no idea that you were “That way”. Tell them to calm down, stop pushing you into the arms of some burly man. If you really want to piss them off, ask your Mom to take you dress shopping. Ask you Dad if he would like to join a gym and work out with you? Gee Dad , all those men lifting weights. It gets me really hard …if you know what I mean. Trust me they will shut up about your sexuality .
Alan down in Florida
Try it, you might like it. Mothers almost always know before their gay sons do.