Dave Tyson is a person trainer from Virginia. Last month, he made a big reveal on his Instagram page when he announced to the world that he’s a submissive bottom and he’s not ashamed to say it!
“Topping’s cool but it doesn’t do it for me,” he wrote. “I am a proud submissive bottom and I refuse to be ashamed of that any longer!”
Now, Tyson has another message for the world. This time, he’s taking aim at all the gay men who give him crap for being a muscle queen.
Tyson says he’s sick and tired of guys who carry prejudice towards people like him. Too many guys think that all he has to offer are his muscles and nothing else. So in a new Instagram post, he boldly asks: “Have you ever thought that’s not the case?”
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In the post, Tyson goes on to explain that there is so much more than meets the eye. His real reason for working out is simple: He likes to take care of himself.
“I care about my health and doing what I can to prolong my life for and with my loved ones as much as possible,” he explains.
And he’s drawn to other guys who work out because they like to take care of themselves, too.
“The body is lovely but guys like me recognize that’s only a by-product of him wanting to take care of himself,” he writes.
So stop hating!
“Gay people talk of unity but yet, difference is so intolerable in this community,” he writes.
“The LGBT community who claims to want unity doesn’t see how they bully others. I mean really, in today’s world people get picked on for taking care of themselves and wanting that quality in a partner.”
Tyson concludes the post by saying he “gets” that “some people who hit the gym are insecure so they rely on their bodies for appeal.” But for him and many guys like him, that’s simply not the case.
“I want to remain healthy. The body that comes with me training is just a byproduct of my decision to live a happy healthy life,” he writes.
“Most guys know they should be taking better care of themselves. They just lack the drive and ambition so they want to ridicule us who don’t lack those two things. Or who value fitness is an important aspect of our lives.”
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GayEGO
I find it unusual that it would matter to the majority of gay guys whether Tyson is a top or bottom, most would enjoy his appearance.
rozz01
Amen
Troyfight
^i agree….i thought most guys (well, speaking for myself) are simply thinking what they’d like to do with him….and in that case, he’s saying exactly what I would like to hear him say….and when they don’t, well, damn, just wish a guy well and move on. Shouldn’t be a big deal either way.
Creamsicle
There’s someone for everyone e out there. And I’m sure he’ll find no shortage of guys looking for a submissive muscular bottom with a mind and some compassion.
There are also bitter bitchy queens on the Internet and they will find you if you post about yourself online, because they don’t know how to improve their own lives. The fact that they’re zeroing in on how an individual lives their life without harming or even effecting anyone else, shows how little substance they themselves must have.
Come on, people, there’s an entire planet full of bigger problems than the fact that you can’t wrap your head around a submissive bottom who is stronger than you.
Paco
I wonder who is shaming his body? Fat queens or the twinky anorexics?
Maybe he is just getting crap for being narcissistic. He could try to balance out the shirtless bathroom pics with some featuring clothing and activities away from the mirror?
tdh1980
I’m inclined to agree with you. Instagram is replete with seldom-clothed, muscular men who use their bodies as commodities and have thousands of followers to show for it. There always will be a critical vocal minority, but most people who use the app don’t do so for intellectual stimulation. Something tells me he’s projecting more than anything.
dwes09
This is the second article on this guy in less than 4 weeks, both having to do with his proclaiming he submissive bottom position to the world, and bitching about others’ opinions. The first was on him proclaiming it to his family. I find that rather odd, given how many more interesting and actually titillating things are going on in the world on a daily basis.
The need to post so many selfies indicates a certain level of both self absorption and low self esteem more than a desire to vanquish shamers. The shame may well be self-imposed. I have friends who are trainers with incredible bodies, but their Instagram accounts are filled with instructional videos, inspirational photos, photos of clients and friends, landscapes, records of their other activities (especially social and philanthropic). Mostly naked selfies are rare and rants about haters and shamers are absent. They’re selling their skills and personalities…not their flesh and gripes.
AndThenTheresMax
People forget the old adage, “The butcher he is. The more of a nelly bottom he is.” What I can’t stand is lazy-ass people shaming people for growing muscle.
Troyfight
^AndThenTheresMax…..I laughed hard at your first comment, man. Truth to it. But yeah, shaming others for muscle growth or lots of indulgent selfies….really shouldn’t be a big deal.
epmcdaniel
It’s his personal choice to go to the gym and keep himself fit, and it’s his business if he likes to be a submissive bottom. However, I wonder if he spends just as much time body shamming others? Looking at his Instagram I see a lot of images showing his body (his prerogative). But it’s been my experience individuals like him are the first to shame other’s because they don’t “fit” their idea of body image. If he has any “hook-up” apps, I wouldn’t be surprised that he has a list of “not into”, then again I could be wrong.
Either way, I don’t care what his sexual habits are, hell I would never have known if he hadn’t shown up on Queerty.
JerseyMike
Like my bottoms in the gym… I don’t see the problem… I think he is making it up…
Kangol
Somebody wants attention, and like Queerty and everyone else who responded to his IG posts, we all just gave it to him. He looks great, has a beautiful body and is a proud bottom, so what’s not to like?
Armiya
So someone who felt the need to be histrionic when coming out to their family, but also informing them how he likes to be buggered, and then this? Seriously I don’t think I’ve ever some across someone in social media so desperate for the type of attention he’s seeking. People shaming him for the gym? Come on dude. The only reason I believe this is considered “news” here, is because Graham finds him hot and the writer once given the label “best writer in San Francisco without a book” feels the need to give him attention because he lusts after him. So transparent.
CastleSF
How utterly distasteful for a man — any gay man as a matter of fact — to disclose the disgusting detail of his bedroom preference that should have been kept private all along. In addition to being an attention seeker, one can only imagine what kind of lifestyle he has been pursuing.
Armiya
CastleSF You just seem to hate everyone and have an opinion on everything that is so hateful and negative. Your “revolutionary”ideas of how you basically want everyone older than you to act like pre Stonewall, is very sad. I’m sorry you are dissatisfied with the community and those of us who are older than you, but no matter how awful you think we are, we paved the way for you to be the pompous ass you have become. So you are most welcome. Is it time for your dose of Haldol yet?
Heywood Jablowme
@CastleSF: Why is it “disgusting” for someone to say if they’re a top or a bottom?
It may be weird to tell that to random strangers, it may be “TMI,” and I guess it’s of no particular interest to anyone who doesn’t know him personally. But why “disgusting”? That’s an oddly extreme reaction.
CastleSF
Heywood, when he adds “submissive” to the equation, it introduces a new layer of undignified quality to his behavior. Granted, not everyone feels the same about his private preference he so publicly declares but I feel disgusted. I am not asking others to feel the same way I do but we are all entitled to our feeling on certain subjects.
Armiya
Undignified he says. Wow. Everyone bow down to the valedictorian of woke and manners! I imagine your relationships don’t last long and it’s the fault of everyone else and not you.
PinkoOfTheGange
Have you not met our champion of hetero-normality and crown prince of judgemental tsk tsking?
Depending on the time of day he can make for a fun drinking game.
Armiya
Yeah I’ve seen his posts and he seems extremely miserable sadly. He seems to dislike anything having to do with the very community that he is a part of. It will hopefully change as he gets older, as he already sounds like a very bitter old Queen in the vein of Norma Desmond.
CastleSF
Armiya, you are certainly entitled to your surmise of who I am but you just can’t bring me down to your below average level.
Armiya
Awww obviously I hit a nerve. And you’re entitled to your own opinion too but keep trying. Below average level? Lmfao that’s rich. Keep trying. You’ve yet to impress me or anyone else for that matter.
Armiya
I’m sure dear boy that you have a LOT to contribute to the world and our community, but one would hope that we can unite rather than be torn apart by negativity.
Cylest Brooks
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I haven’t deleted any comments yet, but I will if this continues. Let’s get back to the subject matter or drop it altogether, please.
Troyfight
^The top/bottom/submissive thing. None are disgusting, CastleSF. This guy’s declaration just makes it more ok to enjoy the horny pleasures sex – & people are different. It’s not a big deal at all.
PinkoOfTheGange
This is really a thing? People bitching about others going to the gym?
Get over yourselves if you don’t like Instagram posters that are half naked all the time don’t follow them.
There simple.
wiley
Maybe he misunderstood and they are shaming him for that flabby, undefined mid-section.
Armiya
Care to post pics of your body to be ripped apart? Yeah, I thought so.
Kangol
He’s got a nice bit of thickness there. Looks good to me.
frankcar1965
Really? Is it necessary to come out to your family and then to add as a proud submissive bottom at that? This is what we get with the narcissistic social media attention whores. I’m so glad I’m on FB as under an assumed name and only have two friends and really didn’t want those. Now we know FB is a toxic and dangerous place for everybody.
djmcgamester
It’s time people understand that levels of “masculinity” or “femininity” do not equal “top” or “bottom”.
OrchidIslander
“Too many guys think that all he has to offer are his muscles and nothing else. So in a new Instagram post, he boldly asks: “Have you ever thought that’s not the case?”
The fact that he posted the above comment accompanied by a shirtless picture – which I did enjoy – doesn’t exactly add weight to his argument.
That being said, I do love muscular submissive guys – so sign me up!
DHT
He is asking for the impossible…gays to stop bullying one another over anything that they possibly can. After a lot of self doubt over my body, my face, my personality, my intelligence I eventually realized… I am really not the problem, they do it from their own insecurities. They do it to take advantage of you and to feel superior. I very rarely go to gay bars, they are toxic environments. The only way to stop this behavior is to limit your exposure to it.
DHT
As an example, as a white man when I was first coming out I was asked by other white men if I would date a black guy, I responded that yes I thought a lot of them were very handsome and they seemed nice. That got interpreted to my having a preference about someone’s “size”. I have still never lived this down and actually I really never cared about someone’s “size”.
DHT
or, as a matter of fact, I have never cared about someone’s race either.
Troyfight
^Good, though sad points, DHT ….despite it all, the more confidence we have in ourselves the more the bullshit you mentioned falls to the waste side. Because there are some positive people out there, too. But more to your point: it’s not easy!
Aaron
When your Instagram is full of pictures of you shirtless, in tiny underwear, and posing, you don’t really get to complain that people are only interested in your body. Whatever you put out in the world is what people will respond to. Try putting something else out there first, rather than expecting others to do it for you.
davio2
I’m confused why this is even a story? Someone feels they are getting shamed for having a nice body? Ya, I personally hate the fact that people think I’m so good looking. Its one of the worst things EVER!