Los Angeles-based singer-songwriter Tom Goss has just released his latest video. He told Huffington Post that “La Bufadora”, was inspired by a trip to Mexico with his husband.
Whilst there, he saw La Bufadora: a marine geyser or blowhole located on the Punta Banda Peninsula in Baja California, Mexico. When the ocean slams into the rocks, it shoots up from the opening in a spectacular explosion.
The phenomenon reminded Goss of how arguments in relationships can explode – sometimes spilling over into domestic violence.
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For the video, Goss recruited actor Daniel Franzese to play his fictional partner. The two men are shown enjoying good times but also arguing, with Franzese at one point grabbing Goss by the throat.
If you’ve ever found yourself in a similar sort of relationship, be warned you may find the video triggering.
“As humans, we can be so volatile or wounded at the drop of a hat,” Goss told Huffington Post.
“Sometimes it is a choice we make, sometimes it is the deep-seated triggers that live within our bodies and minds. Just like La Bufadora, we ebb and flow, rest and explode.”
The video concludes with Goss walking away from the relationship. The film, directed by Michael Serrato, carries information on domestic abuse helplines. Goss says he wanted to remind people they possess, “the power to change their own lives”
Of working with Goss, Franzese said, “I think what Tom is doing here is showing a real vulnerable side of him and sharing fears and also bad memories along with really intimate thoughts and situations that most artists don’t always let us see.”
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Franzese will appear in two more films with Goss, which will be released to coincide with the latter’s new album, Territories, out October, 11.
Proceeds from the “La Bufadora” video will be donated to The National Domestic Violence Hotline and the Los Angeles LGBT Center’s Intimate Partner / Domestic Violence Outreach.
Tweeting about the video yesterday, Goss reminded anyone experiencing abuse to reach out for help: “Domestic violence is alive in well in the LGBTQ community. It is up to us to stop it. If you need help, the @ndvh & @LALGBTCenter are standing by.”
Domestic violence is alive in well in the LGBTQ community. It is up to us to stop it.
If you need help, the @ndvh & @LALGBTCenter are standing by.https://t.co/hblnnSMgft
— Tom Goss (@tomgossmusic) September 24, 2019
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Issues cannot be addressed until acknowledged.
Yes, there is, of course, positive elements in gay life. But gay people were raised by (mostly) straight parents, and they inherited some of what they saw growing up. Some people need to see these kinds of videos so they do not think they’re crazy “Oh, he didn’t mean to hit me. Besides, I provoked him.”
Balance is the key. Hiding and pretending problems do not exist in ANY culture serves no one. It just makes some people feel better, usually the ones who don’t want to see the seamier side of life. (As in gay rights, women’s rights, Black rights, transgender rights.) We are FAR far a “healed” community, and having been around 70 years, I’ve seen quite a bit of that “unhealed side.”
The video is courageous for addressing this.
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I meant, “we are FAR FROM a healed community.”