Thanks to the advent of social media sites like Reddit and Whisper, we are now privy to people’s most intimate thoughts and desires.
More and more straight men have been using these anonymous online platforms to share their deepest, darkest secrets. We’ve seen them open up about accidental visits to gay bathhouses, their love of anal play, and doing gay things while stoned. And it never ceases to fascinate, amaze, and excite to us.
Scroll down to read straight men’s confessions about their secret gay desires…
TrueWords
why should we care…its not like these men’s faces are shown but rather these childish and inane comments that the writers at Queerty could have made up…also what is with all this straight baiting…
Mikah
The complexity of male sexuality and it’s secrets are undeniable.
lauraspencer
I would suggest that 70% of these comments are not from straight men. They are from guys who have yet to come out.
As for these two comments..
“I love to finger myself, I’m a straight guy” and “I’m a straight guy and want to use a dildo on myself” do not suggest these guys are gay. How does this make someone gay? They are both getting off by themselves. The act of butt play isn’t owned by gay men. If these guys wanted a penis attached to a living breathing man in their butts or wanted another guy to finger them then we have some gay action.
Giancarlo85
Um, if you’re doing most of these things you’re not straight. You’re probably bi. Or at least bi curious.
Rocinante
I have surmised on my own that human sexuality can be described by a probability curve with bisexuality as the mean or the norm. This would suggest that 68 %(1 std deviation) have varying degrees of bi-sexuality. The more you move left and right on the curve the more you find a single sexual preference. The reason you get a rather small population of singularly gay people is that it’s a rarer thing (2.5 std deviations or 90%. The only reason we don’t see more bi-sexuality is societal pressures and lack of openness to it. I was curious if anyone ever tested this premise and found this paper that pretty much says the same thing.
http://www.examiner.com/article/human-sexuality-as-a-bell-curve
Ladbrook
I long ago stopped caring how many of us are straight, gay, bi, or other. As someone who has spend the last few years hooking up online, I’ve learned that a surprising number of “straight men” can experience curiosity to the point of experimenting with a stranger.
When I interact with straight men at work or elsewhere, I pretty much assume that there’s a 30-40% chance he’s a weee bit bisexual and at some point he scratched the itch or will scratch it at some point in the future…. not with me necessarily, but with someone. But seriously, who cares.
jwtraveler
Attention Queerty writers: All straight men are not secretly gay. Most straight men are not secretly gay. As @lauraspencer: astutely points out, enjoying the feel of a finger, dildo or other object in your ass doesn’t mean you’re not straight. There are straight men who like being fucked by women wearing a strap-on. That doesn’t mean they’re gay. Sexuality is not a function of what you like to do; it’s a function of who you like to do it with. Also, fantasy is not reality. Fantasizing about killing someone doesn’t make you a murderer. And finally, having a girlfriend and claiming to be straight doesn’t mean you are. Ever heard of bisexuality.
Numlocker
This is a sad piece.
I’m glad they haven’t discovered the types of “straight” men I have who rely on me to plow their butts every 7 to 14 days. One I’ve been doing for 9 years. The other I’ve been doing for 12, both married and only come over to get rimmed and plowed. Great looking guys.
pjm1
hmmm, some may be legit and others may be
Victor/Victoria . . .
gay/bi men, pretending to be straight, pretending to have homoerotic desires.
onthemark
But what exactly is so “fascinating” about straight men? (or even “straight” men)? You keep saying they “fascinate” you but I don’t get it. Seriously, they seem pretty boring to me! That’s one reason why when I was younger, I kind of liked bathhouses because they require ID (in the U.S. anyway) and the “straight” guys being too terrified to show ID wouldn’t go there, so I didn’t have to deal with their inept, bad sex and ridiculous questions.
I guess maybe straight men are fascinating if you’re a gay guy with self-hating homophobia issues or self-esteem issues. Other than that, I don’t get it.
onthemark
And I’ve said it before, but the Queerty staff must keep several therapists in business! Although it’s debatable how good a job the therapists are doing.
martinbakman
😉
‘I’m a straight guy that likes to do gay things when I’m stoned….’
WHO KNEW????
martinbakman
@onthemark:Straight me, haunted by their own deepest, darkest, depraved zexy thoughts! Ooh la la!!
Xzamilio
Teach guys to play with their prostates. These guys just seem like they like their butts played with, but of course societal views on that still for the most part associates that with homosexuality. It’s okay, straight dudes.. play with yourselves.
NoCagada
One thing for sure…most straight men don’t know how to wash their ass.
jason smeds
I think these guys have a same-sex attraction but are not interested in a homosexual relationship. Same-sex attraction (SSA) is a natural inclination in most straight-identifying men but homosexual relationships are generally reserved for those who are committed to the same sex.
SSA manifests as a desire in straight-identifying men who wish to experience. It’s part of the natural curiosity of male sexuality. Keep in mind that straight-identifying men have very high and constant sex drives which can defy boundaries when the temperature of the drive rises, and when women are absent.
In the absence of women and shame, straight-identifying men will experience whatever turns them on. Much of it is fetishistic, too, such as the guy who wants a finger in his bottom or the guy who wants to have another man force himself onto him. These are fetishes.
This is why I think the word “gay” is so out of date. It’s basically a brand word that was invented to put a kind face on homosexual relationships. However, it ignores the very wide variety of motivations, including those which motivate men to have experiences as opposed to relationships.
Giancarlo85
Nothing is fascinating about straight men to me. I respect them for who they are (and generally they respect me). Some gay men are fascinated with so called same sex attraction that exists in straight men.
Most straight men do not have same sex desires/attractions. So why would I dream about it? I think the problem is this… certain gay men don’t like other gay men so they think about straight men. Certain gay men infact can’t stand certain feminine gay men, so they try to think about someone they can’t have because the attraction would not be mutual.
And when so called “straight men” have gay attraction or has gay sex, they aren’t straight. They are at least bi or bi curious.
Giancarlo85
BTW, I didn’t elaborate enough on point… I did not say all gay men are feminine. All I am saying is some gay men in general don’t like other gay men as a whole, so they fantasize about straight men.
Why don’t we respect certain boundaries and stop posting plastic articles like this one?
nocibur61739
Oh comeon now,… Who really cares who you share your desires and body with anymore. As long as it is between two consenting adults, what does it matter? As per Sigmund Frued/Alfred Kinsey stated,(and other people NOT being ignorant,) sexual attraction has a matter of being in a “gray” area. EVERYONE has fantasies about not only the same but, opposite sex. Those who wish can “play” on their instincts or they can try to avoid them. No one is “supposed” to be 100% str8 nor is anyone “supposed” to be 100% “gay”. Just live YOUR life and don’t worry about what other people think. It’s YOUR life, NOT theirs. If they cast the first stone, build you a house from it. NO ONE needs to know what goes on in YOUR personal life. I’m over this pointing finger $h1t…Robert
demented
Not shocking. After reading a lot of personal remarks on it, I assume that most straight-identified and gay-identified men are at least a small amount bisexual (not all, but most). There’s massive social/personal pressure to “choose,” and condemnation from both groups if you don’t rigidly stick to it. Throughout human history most people were bisexual, and a truly one-gender orientation was a rarity (like the Emperor Hadrian vs Marcus Aurelius, Julius Caesar, etc). Now you “are” whatever your sexual orientation is, it’s considered a huge integral part of your identity instead of just one piece, and you’re regarded very differently and have different social interactions depending on how you identify yourself.
So now it’s easiest to just go with whatever you tend to like the most.
There are so many gay-identified and straight-identified people who have admitted that yeah, they have had sex or real relationships or just sexual yearnings that are outside their specified orientation. Or they are just a little TOO adamant that no, they’re NOT and they NEVER have and they NEVER will, meaning they are closed off to the idea so same/opposite sex feelings would never be even acknowledged because they have a social identity or self-identity that they are maintaining.
Because of this I really have trouble believing that this is a rarity. Same with historical figures like Robert Mapplethorpe or Casanova. The people today I’m inclined to believe are the ones who say, “I haven’t, but I might someday.”
Tebn
That’s a fallacy. They are not straight men but they are BISEXUAL men who are HETEROGAMOUS.
The most of people are, probably, bisexual and the most of them tend to repress their homosexual feelings (because of the homophobic attitude of the society) and develop only their straight feelings. However, this process of psychological repression, at a rational level, is imperfect and those repressed gay feelings, frequently, emerge from the unconscious.
jason smeds
These are straight-identifying men, not bi-identifying men. They identify as straight because that is where their virility takes them – ie to reproducing with women and continuing the human race.
Sure, you could say that since they crave sexual activity with men, they are technically bisexual. However, the word bisexual is not a precise word. It is a whole new spectrum in itself. There is a vast difference between a technically bisexual man who might have sexual activity with a man once in 10 years and a technically bisexual man who has sex with men every month.
Thus, the word bisexual is pointless.
MarionPaige
Ah yes. Those amazing “straight” guys who don’t have the gay gene. We can only look at them across the fence and wonder how different our lives would be had we not been born this way.
Mack
I have also known married guys who love to do gay things when they’re drunk or stoned. It’s possible they’re closet bi-sexuals because the rest of the time they’re very “straight”.
Saint Law
The noose in the top photo…
“I’m straight but I kinda want a man to execute me.”
Black Pegasus
Has anyone actually used this juvenile app Queerty keeps promoting? It’s a bunch of attention whorish comments paired with eye catching photos posted by bored people. I tried it for sh!ts and giggles. You made up the most nonsensical self-deprecating comments you can think up just to recieve “likes”. It’s a harmless waste of time, and nothing posted there should be believed.
And as others have stated, these comments regarding straight men secretly fantasizing about gay sex are nothing but frauds.
RyanD
@demented: You made some interesting points, but I take issues with some of them.
First of all, you suggest that people in the ancient world were mostly bisexual, but offer no proof other than the lives of several people in those time periods. I’m not doubting your statement that they may have been more open-minded when it comes sexuality, but find it hard to believe that the majority of the population could be deemed bisexual.
Second of all, you compared straight and gay men having sex and relationship with people that were outside of their orientation as if the situation were the same. Gay men had to form relationships with women in order to survive and/or to avoid suspicion. Straight men on the other hand had no reason to other than maybe curiosity.
As for the denying of their supposed attractions to same-or opposite attraction, perhaps they were being as clear as possible to clear all ambiguity regarding their sexuality, while you took it as more like “the lady doth protest too much, me thinks”.
All in all, I see it more of a difference of perception. If a straight guy told me he wouldn’t mind having sex with a guy when he’s really horny, I really won’t think of him as any less straight, he just wants to get off. But I know others who would love to peg him as bi.
I hope this was coherent. I’m not really proficient at writing things down, especially with English not being my native language.
Low Country Boy
Meh.
Giancarlo85
@jason smeds: Do you even read what you post? Or do you just post it without thinking? Bisexuality does not exist? You are quite wrong. But please go tell that to the Governor of Oregon.
And goodness me… if you think sexuality is defined by sex acts your entire argument is a failure. Sexuality is defined by attraction. Not by the act.
Your argument is just a load of… *shakes head*
money718
I can only stomach straight men for a few minutes at a time. They do not interest me at all.
Seattleguy
I’ve been an erotic masseur for over 20 years now. 80% of my clients are bi not gay. It has been so surprising to me to see how many guys go for 40 or 50 years or more never having thought about wanting sex with a man, but end up trying it when they are middle aged. Most of the bi guys I meet never do anything with a man till they are over 30. These are all guys who if they took a survey about sex in their 20’s would see themselves as 100% heterosexual. But over the course of their lives they are in fact bi. I think gay and straight men are the minority. I think most men are bisexual.
MarionPaige
from puberty to adulthood, the main objective guys have is to have sex. and, having sex equates with with having sex with women.
Once guys have actually had sex with women, they realize that the only minutes they can stand being around women is the minutes they spend having sex with them.
Anybody who thinks “straight men” like women, haven’t spent much time around straight men.
jason smeds
MarionPage,
You make a very good point.
jason smeds
Giancarlo,
I’m not saying that male bisexuality doesn’t exist. I’m simply saying that the word “bisexual” is pointless because it fails to be specific. It is not a specific word like “heterosexual” or “homosexual”.
Using the word “bisexual” in the same context as “homosexual” or “heterosexual” is flawed because it equates them in a way which suggests they are all specific, which they aren’t.
Put it this way: bisexuality is a spectrum, homosexuality and heterosexuality are NOT spectrums.
DannX68
No, their desires do not mean that they are really gay or even bi; it is possible, no matter what you preferred gender is, to be curious abot how it would be to be with the opposite gender of that. If I were to have sex with a woman and didn’t like it, I would not consider myself bi. Same goes for these men; theymay have the fantasy and then discover that they don’t like it.
Giancarlo85
@jason smeds: Again that is wrong. It isn’t a spectrum. Bisexual means attraction to both genders. It is very specific. You are trying to make it into something it isn’t. Lucky for all of us you don’t control words of definitions. You are using language that shows a certain level of disgust and even discrimination against bisexuals by saying they don’t really exist. You are a hypocrite.
And for the last time can guys on here stop equating sexual orientation with a sex act. If someone is a virgin and attracted to men they are gay. Having sex doesn’t validate ones sexual orientation. I know a gay man who was in serious denial about who he was and he had a girlfriend and they had sex. That went on for two years before he realized he had to stop lying to everyone including himself. Again, he isn’t bi. He is gay. Sex acts don’t define sexual orientation.
Giancarlo85
And with that said I realized I made an error myself of equating sex acts with sexual orientation in my first post. But I do stand that being curious to both genders make one bicuroous or possibly bi.
John Mulholland
Not sure I believe these whispers all came from straight guys, but I do know, from personal experience, that men are just as sexually fluid as women. Even given that a certain percentage of straight guys who have hit on me — and that I have hit on — are simply not yet aware of their homosexuality, there are a great many straight men who enjoy sex with another man. Why this is so under the radar, and seemingly never shows up in sex surveys, I am not sure, but from my anecdotal POV, many straight men enjoy sex with other men,
vive
I don’t think a hanging noose is quite an appropriate symbol for a bondage fantasy.
Chaz
I’ve used Whisper on and off and it’s a fun app not to be taken seriously at all. I’ve seen and spoken to people who often post just to rile others. I’ve also posted made up whispers to try encourage discussion. So when I see whispers re-posted in a piece as some kind of social measuring stick, I get a slightly depressed smile as to what now constitutes “research” of sorts supposedly informing us as to social trends.
jason smeds
Giancarlo,
The word ‘bisexual’ refers to completely disparate states of mind depending on where you lie on the bisexual spectrum.
Giancarlo85
@jason smeds: No it doesn’t. It refers to bisexuality which is: “The sexual attraction towards two genders”. Stop trying to invent different meanings for words you don’t like.
Giancarlo85
@Giancarlo85: *towards both genders.
Hopefully I don’t get in trouble with a certain trans troll, but I am just referring to BIOLOGICAL male and female here.
tricky ricky
in my life I have been hit on by so many straight men I’ve lost count. nothing surprises me.
money718
@tricky ricky: They are not straight if they hit on you. Smh.
stranded
we really need to send the message that anal stimulation is not a gay only thing or a gay fantasy. If you finger yourself and/or use anal toys it doesn’t make you anywhere near gay.
Clark35
@Giancarlo85: Exactly, they’re bisexual, aside from the people who play with their ass and simply don’t have any sexual attraction to the same gender.
John Mulholland
Wonder why there is so little discussion about straight men who enjoy sex with other men? Women’s apparent sexual fluidity is part of the mainstream discussion; indeed, women are not at all hesitant about openly discussing their same-sex affairs. Why are men afraid to discuss this? Even if a certain percentage of the straight men I’ve had sex with over the years are in reality closeted gay men, this cannot hold true for all of them.
musclemutt
More “image not available.” Why can’t Queerty download and link rather than rip off other people’s band width by hot linking. It’s not enough that the titles seldom deliver the content; the content can’t even deliver. Fooey.
Jalen stegman
wish i could meet these so called straight guys