If you’re bisexual, you know that the journey is anything but easy. From constantly explaining your sexual orientation to people who just don’t understand, to coping with biphobia and bi erasure, it can feel like you’re constantly fighting an uphill battle.
Thankfully, the internet has allowed bisexual people to create a thriving online community – one where bi folks can share their experiences, provide support for one another, and, yes, share painfully relatable bisexual memes that perfectly sum up bi culture.
Here, we celebrate bisexuality with a list of 21 of the most relatable bisexual memes we’ve seen on Instagram. These funny bi memes encompass the good, the bad, and the ugly of the bisexual experience.
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1. “Are You Gay Or Straight?” Yes.
Sometimes, explaining bisexuality to other people can be exhausting. Especially when you come across someone who can’t seem to wrap their heads around the idea of being into more than one gender. As such, some bisexual folks have resorted to using the word “gay” as a shorthand for their complex romantic and sexual orientation. While some may argue that it contributes to bi erasure, for others, it’s just a quick and easy way to explain that, yeah, we like people of the opposite gender and the same gender too.
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2. When Someone Needs To Read The Bisexual Manifesto:
There is a common misconception that “bisexuality” means being attracted to both men and women. But in fact, according to the 1990 Bisexual Manifesto, bisexual people are those who are attracted to people of the same and different gender.
Take it from this passage form the Bisexual Manifesto:
“Do not assume that bisexuality is binary or duogamous in nature: that we have “two” sides or that we must be involved simultaneously with both genders to be fulfilled human beings. In fact, don’t assume that there are only two genders”.
Bisexuality is not, as many people wrongly assume, binary or trans and non-binary exclusionary. Unfortunately, a lot of people still believe this outdated definition, and so memes like these exist as a way for bi folks to express their frustration!
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3. Double The Chances, Double The Trouble
Do bisexual people really have double the chances of finding a date? Well, between having to prove your “queerness” to the gays and having to deal with biphobia from the straights, we’d say the jury’s still out on that.
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4. The Bisexual Dating Curse
“So, now that you’re dating (your SO’s name), does that mean you’re no longer bi?”
If you’re bi and in a relationship, it’s very likely that you’ve been asked this (incredibly frustrating) question. If not, count yourself lucky! There’s a pervasive myth that bisexuals stop being bi the moment they enter a relationship. But no, bisexuality isn’t a phase, it doesn’t go away once you enter a relationship, and it’s totally possible to be a girl with a dude and still be attracted to girls!
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5. Bisexual But Now Annoyed
No, bisexual guys aren’t closeted gay guys who are too afraid to come out. And no, bisexual girls aren’t straight girls who just want attention. Bisexuality is real, and having anyone suggest otherwise can get very, very annoying.
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6. Painfully Devoted (To Girls)
While yes, it’s true that bisexual people can be attracted to men, women, and non-binary folks, there’s a running gag among the bi community that bi girls can be very particular about the kinds of men they’re willing to entertain, while being whipped for pretty much any girl that gives them the time of day. The result? There is no shortage of hilarious bisexual girl memes like this one.
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7. Shy, Bi, And Ready To Cry
Remember what we said about how being a bisexual doesn’t always mean you double the chances of finding a date? Yeah, sometimes, being bisexual only means you double your chances of being painfully awkward around attractive people!
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8. The Trials Of Bi Fashion
They say bi culture means not knowing how to use chairs, cuffing your jeans, and tucking your shirt into your pants. With that being said, this has to be one of the most relatable bisexual memes of all time.
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9. Threesome? No Thanks.
Here’s another frustrating bi stereotype: That bisexuals are always down for a threesome. Oftentimes, this myth is perpetuated by straight dudes who want to fulfil their sexual fantasies of sleeping with two women.
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10. You’re Not Bilingual, You’re Just Confused
Imagine if we subjected bilingual people to the same myths and stereotypes about bisexual folks. Then you’d realize how ridiculous they actually sound!
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11. The Bisexual Bob
The best bisexual memes are the ones that take you way back to when you were still questioning your sexuality.
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12. Every Season Is Cuffing Season If You’re Bi
Bisexual folks love to cuff their jeans almost as much as gays love to have their coffees iced. A moment of silence for all the gays and bisexuals who must freeze in the name of queerness this winter.
13. The Bi Pie
Some people think that bisexuality is like pie, where one’s attraction is divvied up into equal parts. But really, bi attraction is diverse and difficult to quantify. Here’s one of our favorite bisexual pride memes that covers this:
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14. The Ultimate Bi
What do leather jackets, flannel shirts, and hoodies all have in common? They’re all part of bi culture. Layer all three and you become the ultimate bi.
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15. Always Has Been
Here’s a reminder that bisexuality is and always has been inclusive of trans and non-binary people!
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16. Things Bisexual Folks Are Confused About
Bisexual folks may be confused about a lot of things, but they’re not confused about their sexuality!
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17. Distracted Bi-friend
The best thing about dating a bisexual? Getting to appreciate your crushes together.
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18. You Are Valid
Here’s one of the most relatable bisexual memes out there. Even if you have never dated another gender, have yet to come out, or have never even dated anyone before, if you feel bi, then you’re bi!
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19. Reject Modernity, Embrace Tradition
The tradition being the bisexual love for puns. Check out this pun-tastic photo of the co-founder of the first bisexual political organization at a 1984 demonstration.
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20. Yep, Still Bi
A lot of bisexual memes tackle the issue of bisexual invisibility, especially in hetero relationships, because bi erasure still happens so often! While we don’t encourage threatening anyone with a knife, we totally get the frustration. Bisexuality doesn’t magically go away when you enter a relationship. Period.
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If you’re a bisexual person who’s been dealing with biphobia from other people, these bisexual memes should make you feel better. They might even help you laugh about your experiences and get through them easier!
Think you have the best bisexual memes? Share your favorites in the comments!
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SamB
I couldn’t finish. These are SO BAD. Boring. And why is the, assumed, bisexual guy in the title pic wearing make up?
cliche guevara
Same reason you come around here with you crappy troll shtick, it’s what he wants to do.
SamB
Are they trying to imply all bisexual men really want to wear make up? Can’t we see just a regular guy?
cliche guevara
“Are they trying to imply all bisexual men really want to wear make up?”
No,
“Can’t we see just a regular guy?”
He is a regular guy. People come in all shapes, sizes and express themselves in different ways. And it’s all totally normal.
What’s funny about your comment is how it highlights your particularly narrow world view is and your ridges compliance to heteronormativity. There are three men in that picture, two of which should meet your definition of “regular” guys. So the issue isn’t representation, it’s that you can’t tolerate anything that you deem abnormal.
Are you even an LGBTQ+person or are you just some straight person that tries to troll us? Totally curious.
SamB
I’m a gay man alright. Very open and comfortable with it. But we’re not allowed to think independently anymore. If we don’t fall into the hivemind of “fluid sexes” and embracing being feminine instead of masculine the collective “they” are going to cancel you. And don’t even start with the “internalized homophobia” because no, I don’t have any.
cliche guevara
“ But we’re not allowed to think independently anymore.”
I’m guessing you don’t see the irony of saying you you can’t think independently anymore after saying a person expressing their independence via their appearance isn’t normal. There are certainly people that can’t stand independence and you are squarely in the thought conformity camp.
S.anderson
I think they’re trying to depict bisexuals as confused transgender or nonbinaries who have been misled by some old nonrelavant sexual minority community.
cliche guevara
@s.anderson
So there are seven people in that photo. To get to the conclusion you have decided on sexuality if everyone involved and ended up with only one of them being bisexual. You have then further deduce this person’s gender identity and invented a malevolent force that is controlling them.
Says a lot about your biases and active imagination. You might be best becoming a shut in. The outside world is probably a little overwhelming for you.
S.anderson
@cliche guevara Of course I am talking about the whole package here and not just the picture. I have read your points and find that they only work if the reader agrees to ignore the same facts that you have, and to consider the situation by your tailored rules. In other words, propaganda.
SamB
Cliche: That photo is probably a stock photo Queerty bought to use. Why did they choose to picture an alleged “bi” guy (assuming he’s supposed to be bi because of the story), as effeminate? That’s the issue. Why not just an average guy?
S.anderson
@SamB I think your point is valid. This is a banner photo for an article that supposedly explains bisexuals. I certainly don’t buy cliche’s indignant argument that we can’t assume who the bisexual in the image is just because there are others there. Every other person in the image is a background figure. The person in the center is unquestionably the focus of the photo. The article is modern revisionist propaganda and the photo preprograms receptive readers with an image to go along with the pansexual/nonbinary narrative that follows.
S.anderson
@SamB We used to (still do) see this kind of setup where a photo of drag queens is the opener for an article about homosexuals. :/
cliche guevara
@samB
Why is it an issue that the guy is effeminate? You seem to be saying that by using a picture of an effeminate guy the message is only effeminate guys are bi. Using that reasoning your desired picture of an “average” guy is equally misleading because readers would think only “average” guys are bi.
cliche guevara
@ S.anderson
That response literally makes no sense. Whole package? You mean all the pictures of gender conforming people in the article?
S.anderson
@cliche guevara No, what I object to is the insinuation that bisexuals could be concrete steps! Or rock walls! Or rectangle shaped! 😀
cliche guevara
@ S.anderson
Queerty has a large number of trolls that suck at trolling. Maybe try something else?
S.anderson
@cliche guevara
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BigJohnSF
Blue eye shadow is an abomination, whoever is wearing it. So the guy in the picture must be either bi or straight – he couldn’t be gay!
cliche guevara
@BigjohnSF
IDK, maybe from the Midwest 😉
Donston
Some of these memes definitely have some truth. But “bi culture” can be just as toxic as anything else, especially online: labeling folks “bi” when they don’t embrace that identity, having to prove your “bi-ness” to other bi-presenting folks because you don’t have sex and/or relationships with multiple sexes/genders, altering your identity or lying about your dimensions based on your social group or who you’re trying to appeal to, folks getting pissy when some non-problematic people don’t wish to fully embrace a bi identity any longer, being hetero-leaning and hetero-commitment but constantly using “queers” for money and ego and social media gains, the percentage of homophobia, femme-phobic, masculine insecurities, toxic masculinity, homo inferiority perspectives being just as high among bi-presenting folks as gay-presenting folks if not higher. Everything has its degree of toxicity. Yet, most “bi presenting” folks refuse to call out their messiness or any other “bi presenting” people’s messiness.
That’s why as I got older I realized that at least 30% of the population is probably in the queer spectrum. And within that spectrum everyone has their own sexualities, their own dimensions, their own preferences, their own experiences or non-experiences with fluidity or questioning or contradictions, their own place in the gender, sexual, affection, romantic, emotion, commitment spectrum. That perspective is much easier than trying to fit everyone into categories or trying to fit in with whoever.
Heywood Jablowme
This makes me laugh again about the HBO show “Hacks” which has a bisexual character (Ava Daniels). Yet another show that Queerty has never even bothered to mention.
The elderly comedian (Jean Smart) asks her young new writer, point-blank: “Are you a lesbian?”
The young writer is offended and says that’s an inappropriate question for an employer to ask, hmph, how dare you… but since you ask, she’s had numerous relationships with both men and women… and she goes into a long tedious recounting of said relationships.
Comedian says, “I only asked because you’re dressed like Rachel Maddow’s mechanic! I wasn’t expecting a f*cking TED talk!”
barryaksarben
Why do trolls come here every single day to complain about people living their own truths and lives? Do they really believe we BELIEVE any of their obviously stupid supposed logic? Are they really that ignorant>? YES
S.anderson
This article is assimilationist propaganda.
It does not ring true with the bisexual culture of many decades past.
It reads like “bisplaining” written by a pansexual queer who is laying out the groundwork to dissolve the bisexual community and fold it into pansexuality and transgender queerness.
Nice try “Editors”, but it’s just so painfully obvious what your objective is here.
Jaquelope
Why should today’s Bi culture ring true with the bisexual culture of many decades past? Should Gay or Lesbian culture ring true with the past? This an entirely different Century, and I, for one, would like to hope we’ve all progressed.
You have your own opinions, and that is your privilege, but your opinions are not shared by everyone, unlike the way it was (or seemed to be) in decades past.
S.anderson
Oh, but @Jaquelope, I’m not writing propagandistic articles telling people what their beliefs and truths should be. I’m informing the readers that the article is inaccurate, based on my own lived truth spanning decades. People disagree with this article’s opinions, friend. Go tell them the same thing you just told me. Instead of trying to cull any public disagreement. And BTW, “progress” does not mean to throw decades, even centuries of culture into the trash, and rewrite it for a modern audience. Complete with a bunch of statements like “bisexuals have, of course, ALWAYS agreed with [this thing which is a purely modern narrative]”, and other such gems. That’s revisionist propaganda. You kids best wait til us old dinosaurs are all dead before you take up this hobby of rewriting our lives and misrepresenting our beliefs.
cliche guevara
Choosing to move into irrelevance was your extinction event. No need for anyone to delay anything on your behalf. And seriously where else do you put garbage other than the trash?
S.anderson
@cliche guevara Well it’s good to see the real you expressed on these pages. All the kids who are looking for answers need to know the intentions behind the sources of information they stumble upon, and why there’s this pernicious activity to distort history and homogenize the narrative under a guise of “correcting” it. Have a nice day comrade.
cliche guevara
I wouldn’t express anything but the real me.
The reality is we likely aren’t far off in age and your attempt to spin a bunk historical narrative isn’t going to fly.
Cheers
jaimedance3
I’m just so sick of labels! If we didn’t have any just think how many more men would just be themselves!
Openminded
But them we would have to call them “Bob” or “Tom”. How much fun would that be?
S.anderson
@cliche guevara I know you adore the bunk, revisionist narrative of the article’s anonymous authors, and are threatened by the counter-point of an actual bisexual with decades of involvement and awareness of sexual minorities. We continue to disagree. And our tactics are different. I provide facts and honest testimony, and you create a hostile environment which you hope drives away anyone who contradicts you, especially those who are good at explaining why. But, I’m not here to change your mind. I’m only here to let you expose what motivates you and how poorly you support your own position. If you would like to hiss again and take yet another swipe at me, go ahead. I’d rather you don’t because you bore me, but as you’re technically an adult, I can’t stop you. Cheers.
cliche guevara
Ohhh that was funny. Tell us more jokes.
Hank31
Apparently, being a bisexual man means wearing women’s makeup and wanting to be a female. Thanks Queerty!
Openminded
I’m bisexual and very little of this relates to who I am and how I feel, and I couldn’t care less about that. If you want to debate how I feel, go right ahead, you’re gonna lose.
BrodyB
Well I’m bisexual for most of my life. I’m in my fifties going back to the 1980s; the same exact shit people keep talking about…yes there are truly bisexual people 30% of bisexual really do relate to it…..another 30% would be those going through a phase and the other percentage would be those who ust haven’t fully admitted they are attracted to one specific gender because of social pressures from their family……..Keep in mind if you don’t want to be labeled don’t put labels on people…….LABELS ARE FOR CANS!