A new survey on people’s sexual journeys has wielded some interesting and even unexpected results.
The survey, which was conducted by DrEd, an online resource that connects patients with doctors, looked at 1,000 people from the U.S. and U.K. who came from various age groups, sexualities, and backgrounds
Now, let’s look at some of the findings…
When it came having their first “sexual awakening,” gay people reported some of the earliest awakenings, averaging at just under 14 years old. But when it came to actually losing their virginity (whatever that means anymore), they were one of the last groups, averaging at almost 18 years old. (17.9 years, to be exact.)
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Bisexuals, on average, reported having their sexual awakenings at 15.4 years, and losing their virginities shortly thereafter, at 16.2 years. Meanwhile, straight people, on average, also had their awakenings at 15 years, but didn’t lose their virginities until 17.6.
Related: What counts as losing your virginity when you’re gay?
When broken down by generation, the average sexual awakening for a Millennial was 14.9 years old, with V-card loss at 17.4. For Gen Z, sexual awakenings happened at 14.3, and the V-card was spent by age 16.2.
When it came to who or what sparked their first sexual awakenings, 62% of respondents said it was an actor or actress who they found hot. 30% said it was a sibling’s friend. And 14% said it was a teacher.
Other catalysts for sexual awakenings included cartoon characters, sexy dentists, online friends, G.I. Joe, and foreign exchange students.
“The vast array of catalysts for sexual awakening could be an indicator of just how different our tastes can be when it comes to sexual exploration,” a spokesperson for DrEd says. “Or, perhaps these people and images just happen to be in the right place, at the right time!”
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nmharleyrider
What the hell is a V-card?
DawnTrans
Its a riddle……..Lost at 15 16 or 17 and starts with a V, could it be virginity?
robert_salazar
Valentines Day. Personally I keep my cards. I never give them away.
GayEGO
I would say that V means virginity. The problem I have is what constitutes virginity with a gay guy. I was 7 when another kid and I messed around, no intercourse, just feely touchy. Does that mean I lost my virginity then.
mujerado
Unless we insist on a clinical definition of “virginity,” meaning penetration of an orifice, then it just means inexperienced. Once we have an experience we’re no longer virgin in that regard. Even frottage to orgasm but without penetration means we’re no longer sexual virgins. If two (or more!) guys mutually masturbate, they’ve technically had sex with each other. That’s how I see it.
Andy
Good question! Its a millineum thing maybe?
eddiesocket
Really? Couldn’t crack that one, Columbo?
Brody
I believe it’s girl-talk for “virginity.”
baggins435
I’m 56 and “V-card” dates from before I was in high school.
Theweatherman
Virginity = V
Damien
When 3 cherries pop up and you hit the jackpot. Or not. Depends how much trouble it is really worth.
JodyBoy
G.I. Joe, lol
dean089
I wonder how the survey phrased the question. My ‘V-card’ was taken from me when I was nine, I never ‘gave it up,’ yet over the years many guys have told me how “lucky” I was to have begun my sex life so early (no, I do not consider it “lucky” or anything of the sort). So with this kind of attitude out there the “whatever that means anymore” question is anyone’s guess.
Kevan1
dean089,
In all sincerity, I am sorry someone took your virginity at any age. Not to mention at such a tender age when our comprehension of sex might go as far as what constitutes the difference between a boy and a girl.
Lacuevaman
i was molested by my older brother when I was three and it lasted until I hit puberty. I loved my brother very much during that time. No one ever suspected. He would say “never ever do this with anyone else or they will call you queer.” I never had innocence. Cant remember a time when I was not sexual. Odd really.
Lacuevaman
oh yeah, he was 15 years older than me
GayEGO
What constitutes virginity? I was 7 when another kid and I fooled around, feely, touchy stuff, no intercourse.
Josh447
What the H is a “sexual awakening”? Define it.
My god this writer is clueless.
I was having sexploration at 5 w a neighbor boy.
And vcard? That is? Yeah whatever.
cory_orsborn
I AM STILL A VIRGIN….am i ugly?!?!?
Dives
Why would you think that?
Andy
No you’re actually cute 🙂
Bfrenz
Kidding right?
NateOcean
“A new survey on people’s sexual journeys has wielded [sic] some interesting and even unexpected results.”
Indeed! Don’t bludgeon me with the data!
Hillers
I’m bruised and battered by the stats! Save me, Queerty!
JamJewel
Realization @ 4; first experience @ 9. Sorta, actually, seduced the 40-year-old guy but was shocked when he went for the cherry; didn’t expect that!
Andy
Began doing the “thing” at about 12, then more things at 13/14 and gave up the Christmas goose at 16 to a local cop. Never regretted a moment,
Juanjo
I guess it depends on what you mean by virginity. I started sucking dick at age 11 and did so enthusiastically for 4 years before I gave up the booty. So did I lose my virginity at age 11 or age 15?
Gigi Gee
What if you never give up the booty, still a virgin?
buzzy58
Would LOVE to hear more about your early experiences.
gaym50ish
According to Bill Clinton, that doesn’t count. (“I never had sex with that woman…”)
startenout
When discussing their sexual awakening, 62% said it was an actor they thought was hot, 30% said a friend’s sibling and 14% said it was a teacher… so that’s 106% and there are only 3 options. Weird maths.
Frank McGinness
1+1=chair
Everyone please sit!
Tombear
Dam, I was cruising the public restroom at #Lands end when I was 10.
Andy
I was a late bloomer, I was 12 🙂 .
buzzy58
Hi Tombear. I would LOVE to hear about your experiences. I love public restrooms but didn’t discover them (for fun) until I was 20.
Bfrenz
I lost mine when I had sex with a senior girl when I was a sophomore, my first gay sex was by age 18.
buzzy58
Andy….tell me more.
draven
Crap survey. What about baby boomers and older people. I guess we don’t matter wow this read as age. Most now have age issues you only get older if you don’t die young. Aging isn’t for sissy’s.
SiamSam
Damn, I lose my V-card at least once a week.
JerseyMike
Very late bloomer here… First gave up the d!ck at 21 and gave up the booty at 25
He BGB
My high school friend Vicki always claimed to be a virgin from the waist up. (Notice how I distracted there)
isxios
V-card? Are we 12 or Evangelicals here?
Brian
It’s difficult for me to put myself in the mindset of others. These numbers all seem so late! What were these people thinking for so many years? Were they assuming they were straight, or were they just essentially asexual?
I knew I was gay by age 7, perhaps earlier. Made perfect sense to me. I’m always mystified that people couldn’t/didn’t know.
(Depending on the definition of “v-card,” that was gone by age 16-18.)
hansniemeijer
Depends on the person and the kind of “lost virginity”. Blow Job? Anal? Fisting? Watersports? Wearing rubber? Some people might have a small deck of cards.
radiooutmike
Gee, it gets complicated…
13 – Jackpot year. Started masturbating, experimenting with anal play and blowing my best friend.
19 – PIV sex with women
47 – Anal sex with men
Sebastian
I guess I’m making up for Lost time lol .. my first experience was at age 16… lost my “V-Card” at 19… geesh wtf lol