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DJ Zeke Thomas refuses to let being raped define him, releases powerful PSA

It’s estimated that one in six men are sexually assaulted. Now, DJ and musician Zeke Thomas is doing his part to put a stop to that.

“Sexual assault touches all genders, all races,” 28-year-old Zeke tells BET in a candid new interview. “It’s a human issue and it’s something that isn’t talked about. And we gotta start having those conversations.”

Last month, Zeke opened up to New York Magazine and Robin Roberts at GMA about being a survivor of sexual assault. Now, he just announced he’s the newest ambassador for the National Sexual Violence Resource Center.

Speaking to BET about his new role with the Center, Zeke says:

What I hope to achieve in my ambassadorship is if I can help you through my story–giving a voice to the millions of men who are abused or have been raped before–if I can help point you in the right direction the same way allies have helped me, that’s what I want to do.

The first time Zeke was sexually assaulted was when he was 12 years old. He recalls:

I didn’t realize what had occurred. I knew it was wrong. I knew something wasn’t right about it. But it wasn’t until much later that I started talking about it with my therapist and actually told my mother that this had happened to me.

Related: Zeke Thomas opens up for the first time about being sexually assaulted by a man from Grindr

Then in February 2015, it happened to him again. He connected with a man on Grindr, they met up for drinks, he passed out, and the next thing Zeke knew, it was morning and, as he described to New York Magazine last month:

My ass was destroyed. Destroyed. I’m bleeding. And I’m just like — terrified. I can’t move. I didn’t move from my apartment for two days. I didn’t move. I didn’t talk to anybody. I froze.

After the attack, the man blocked Zeke on Grindr. To this day, he has not been able to find him. But Zeke tells BET he doesn’t blame the app for what happened.

“These apps that everybody uses — from Bumble to Tinder to Match.com got an app now — these apps aren’t the problem,” he explains. “It’s people. There are bad people in this world who do want to do harm.”

Related: Brave documentary breaks down taboos surrounding male rape by giving voice to ‘The Voiceless’

Zeke hopes by sharing his story with other victims and survivors of sexual assault, it will help them closure to their own experience.

He explains:

It’s never a day that I don’t think about it, that I don’t question it, that I don’t relive that moment. Even now speaking about it, you feel that pain. But the pain didn’t defeat me and I’m not going to allow it to. But you keep on doing that work, you keep on talking about it, you still go to therapy and do what you have to do to take your power back.

Watch Zeke’s powerul PSA below…


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5 Comments

  • Roan

    Wouldn’t it be great if Grindr could access his app history and find the rapist so he could be prosecuted ad locked up before he rapes anyone else?

    • AdrianS

      I’m not victim blaming, but he says he met with this guy a couple of times and went to his studio. He rally can’t remember his name or how he looks??? He did not describe (in the main article about the rape) a fling in an alley for 5 mins. He actually should know the name of the guy and his face (the guys is a singer), So There’s no need for the Grindr profile. Besides, the guy might have blocked him but not necesarilly erased his profile. Other phone with a new account would work. So not sure why Zeke is not persecuting a legal situation here…

    • ErikO

      I also am wondering that AdrianS?

  • Blackceo

    Very proud of Zeke for sharing his story and bringing awareness to this issue. In my own social circle, there are several of us who were victims of sexual assault and its not even that big of a circle so….can just imagine how many men are out there dealing with this.

  • o.codone

    Rape ain’t easy on the head bro, not easy at all.

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