Grandpa Disowns Homophobic Daughter For Kicking Out His Gay Grandson


After his daughter kicked out his grandson for telling her he was gay, a concerned grandfather let her know — in no uncertain terms  — that there was only one real “shame in the family.”

Dear Christine,

I’m disappointed in you as a father. You’re correct that we have a “shame in the family”, but mistaken about what it is.

Kicking Chad out of your home simply because he told you he was gay is the real “abomination” here. A parent disowning her child is what goes “against nature.”

The only intelligent thing I heard you saying in all this was that “you didn’t raise your son to be gay.” Of course you didn’t. He was born this way and didn’t choose it anymore than he being left-handed. You however, have made a choice of being hurtful, narrow-minded and backward. So, while we’re in the business of disowning our children, I think I’ll take this moment to say goodbye to you. I now have a fabulous (as the gay put it) grandson to raise, and I don’t have time for heartless B-word of a daughter.

I[f] you find your heart, give us a call.


Ooooh, someone got in trooooouublllllleeee. For being a homophobic biiiigggoooot. Meanwhile, how awesome is this grampa? Hopefully he and his fabulous (as the gays put it) Chad will get along just fine and maybe Christine can get her shit together and realize that blood is thicker than whatever Haterade she’s been sipping on.

h/t: FCKH8

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  • 2eo

    You sir deserve a medal. Beautiful.

  • Cam

    Great letter, I’m sure the trolls will soon try to claim that this woman is a victim for not being allowed to throw her son out of the house in peace.

  • Ron Jackson

    Good for you Gramps!

  • Dxley

    You go, Grandpa :D

  • jwrappaport

    A heartwarming start to my day. What a mensch.

  • Polaro

    Totally fabulous. So fabulous, we all agree.

  • Boytoy

    And the best Grandpa of the year award goes too…

  • Boytoy

    And “The Best Grandpa Of The Year Award” goes too…

  • Mikah

    Best.Grandpa.Ever. :D

  • Fael

    To me it sounds more like a Grandma… But if the supporter says so…

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  • fagburn

    In no way was this made up!
    Enough of the “gay letters gone viral”…

  • 2eo

    Wondered when the c*nt Fagburn would be in to hate on gays and the people who view them as human. Seems he can fall under the tiniest of expectations.

  • Leonardo

    Ha!! Well all right Grandpa. How can you not love this man?!
    I hope Mom realizes what she has done and comes to her sense, sooner, rather than later.

  • liandro

    But it makes me sad. Grandpa is right,of course, but there’s a lot of pain in this whole deal. I have a married daughter and two granddaughters. Under the same circumstances (though that would never happen–my daughter is as much an advocate for equality as I am) it would be terribly painful to have to disown an intransigent daughter, and what a disappointment to boot to witness the fear, hate and ignorance in her heart. And the kid, lucky to have such a grandpa, but how difficult this must be for him.

    So grandpa and grandson can bond over what a witch the mother is. I’m sure grandpa’s love will prevail, but their time together ain’t going to be easy for a while. They’ve both lost a loved one, and perhaps forever.

    But at the same time Chad is so lucky; there are countless other kids in the same or worse circumstances with no Grandpa to offer redemption, support and unconditional love.

  • DonW

    I do love these heartwarming letters BUT they always seem to circulate anonymously like urban legends. I’d like a little more evidence they are real. Who scanned the letter and posted it? Gramps before sending it? Homophobic b*tch mom on receiving it? Neither sounds likely. And really, how many straight granddads joke about “fabulous” and “the gay”? Also, it seems unlikely that such a loving guy would call his own daughter a “heartless B-word,” no matter how disappointed he is in her.

    Just doesn’t pass the smell test. There’s more than enough news about supportive straights out there without re-posting fabrications.

  • EvonCook

    Thanks to Grandpa and the wisdom and perspective of age, so often discounted in this day and age!  As someone who actually began acting on my natural instincts at age 5, but didn’t get fully outed until 16, and then was sent out of the house to a willing relative, I can really sympathize.  It doesn’t mean everything is going to be easy and peachy keen!   There is a lot of growing up and learning about life to do (often through bad experiences, disappointments and hurt as well as good things). The first thing I did was to jettison the horrendous, self-righteous intolerant monotheisms (ALL of them) with their bigoted condemnation and paralyzing guilt;  multi-deity religions are so much more tolerant and peaceful if you need religion at all. Then I watched an awful lot of old movies and read great novels to learn about relationships and how people could and did act.  I found I had numerous, almost endless wonderful, warm and helpful “uncles” who wanted to help me if only I listened and respected them instead of thinking I knew it all.  I also had to put at arms length Victorian visions of the perfect love (rare indeed, usually transient and not worth pining away for) and marriage (originally totally designed for property rights) to discover the history of MY tribe, gays, and how we differed and could in fact improve society (I’m not an assimilationist), and what a warm, alive and sensual group we are celebrating our bodies and sexuality while the prudes stunt and shun theirs.  Amazingly,  we are among the most aesthetic, artistic, creative, outstanding and inventive people of all time. It really set a high bar to work towards, but it has made for a wonderful, amazing and fulfilling long life with lots of loved and loving friends who are my real, chosen family now.  As you travel all over the world there is a magical bond and commonality that gay people instinctively share which helps to make life, society and the world a better, happier and more wondrous place. As they say, Chad, it gets much better!!!

  • midraf

    What an awesome Grandfather, as for this boy’s mother I just can’t believe a parent could ever kick out there child you throw out your trash not your child just because he’s gay!? Coming out a gay child needs more love from he’s / her mother and father, I can’t help but to think he’s mother didn’t love him at all, but I like to think I’m wrong about her, hopefully she’s just profoundly shocked or disappointed but will learn to understand her child and see this is who he is. my father told me he was disappointed with me but he also told me he loved me and actually told me that he would never kick me out, he told me that because I asked him if he was going to. me and my father became closer he was a good parent and I’ll love him forever for it. I hope with love this mother will be there for her son, we can only hope.

  • stranded

    this is nice, but without validating the authenticity of it. I’d rather not get heart warmed over it.

  • Sebizzar

    Grandpa of the year award!!! Wish my grandparents were open minded :(

    And let’s hope the mom learns her lesson and accepts her son.

  • EGO

    Kudos Grandpa! You are a real man for standing up for what is right. Hopefully, the wrong lessons taught to people like Christine when they were younger will stop. It is getting better and eventually civilization will be in a much better place.

  • DarkZephyr

    @fagburn: Do you do anything that is actually pro-gay? Or are you just out to “burn” all the “fags”? I definitely don’t get you.

  • krystina rose

    if my crazy momma my granpop woulda shot her with his shotgun (giggle) just ask me bout putting my fingers into grandpop’s shotgun

  • 2eo

    @DarkZephyr: He’s slagging off the UK Same Sex MArriage law today.

    Sadly people think it’s good old British snark when it’s really the opposite, he isn’t clever enough.

    Ask Fagburn why he lost his DJ job in Brighton *cough* Anti semitism *cough*

  • Jerry12

    The question in most stories like this is — “Who released the letter? I do not think Momma did. It couldn’t be Grandpa since he sent it to Momma. OH! It was the Postman that sneaked a look inside the envelope that did it!

  • James

    @DonW: I have some friends who are grandparents to a gay boy.- The mother is a total bigotted bitch.- The grandparents have disowned the daughter as long as she continues to disown her son.
    Even though this situation does not happen very often, It DOES Happen.
    Weather or not this story is true, situations like this DO happen.-

  • James

    @midraf: We can hope; but speaking from personal experience, I sincerely believe that the mother will NEVER change.-

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