Bradley Birkholz has nothing against gay men who enjoy anal sex. He’s just not one of them. But for reason, many gay men seem to have a lot against him.
“I’ve been getting used to getting a slew of hateful comments,” Bradley writes in a new op-ed and vlog post published on Gay Star News. “When I wrote about identifying as a side, someone who doesn’t like anal sex, the trolling was off the scale.”
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Bradley was called everything from a self-hating homophobe to a “an overly sensitive, upstart snowflake crybaby twink.” And all because he had the gall to say, publicly, that he’s not that into backdoor entry.
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“I’ve unwillingly come to accept that trolling is something you have to deal with,” he writes. “But what surprises me is they almost always come from members of our own community.”
What’s happening, Bradley says, couldn’t be clearer: “I’m being bullied,” he says. And tha’ts not cool.
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“As a community, I think we need to draw a finer line on when bullying is happening,” he writes. “How do we do that? Start by asking yourself: Is your comment polite and constructive? No? Then maybe re-think whether your ‘honesty’–because it is just a guise for bullying.”
Watch.
ChrisK
Trust me. Sassy, negative and catty is not an issue with me or my friends. Maybe you need to look in around or in the mirror.
Frank
If you have to turn your behavior to “bitchy, catty, sassy, etc” to make your point; you are not an authentic person you are a caricature of a person. You are clown putting on a show.
Also STOP the BS of this is who you are; because you do not use that “bitchy, catty, sassy, etc” behavior when you go for a job interview, buy a movie ticket, checking in at the airport, etc.
It is used when you want to gain the “false” upper hand and frankly it is a ploy of distraction because your words really do not have merit.
Have some respect for yourself and others no matter what you feel towards them and if you feel nothing say nothing and walk away!
troyfight
….true, Frank…..basically he could give answers to world hunger & I couldn’t listen to him….
myrdraal2001
Who is this child and why does anybody care about his personal sexual preferences? Unless I’m going to have sex with you it isn’t my, or anybody else’s, business. Don’t make it.
Brody
Those who don’t do anal are twinks?
This is certainly news to me.
DesertDudePalmDesert
same here – I prefer HOT FROTTING myself, and I am CERTAINLY NOT a TWINK!
Kieran
I guess my question would be why Bradley cares about the b*tchy and intolerant people in the “community” who want to bully him for his personal choices. We know these disagreeable queens exist. They seem to live to be offended by something or someone. Personally, I’m amused by the haters who think I would ever care that they get angry over my support for President Trump. I know people like them aren’t worth my time. My attitude is: Eat your heart out.
PinkoOfTheGange
Well he isn’t a “crybaby twink” because of what he does or doesn’t do in bed.
And a “side” wtf is that? What ever happened to I don’t firetruck?
crowebobby
Seems to me you repeated thesame things 15 times in your effort not to offend people who richly deserved to be offended. And how can you be so surprised that the bitches are birches. Today the ultimate sin is to lust after straight men . . . and, Mary, the bitches will let you know about it in no uncertain terms. In the 1950’s, the most ridiculed thing was to lust after another queen. “Bread on bread” was the sneering, derisive term hurled at these ridiculous kai-kai (however you spelled it) queens. Sneering derision has always been the reaction to anything anybody likes that you don’t like. I was always up for top or bottom, just in case anyone’s wondering, but it still gives me a tiny involuntary shock when I see “bottom only” under a doppelganger for Liam Hemsworth. Not so much because he is one, but because he can so freely advertise it to the world . . . though of course there’s no reason why he shouldn’t feel free to advertise it. It’s a generational thing.
Tobi
“I was always up for top or bottom”… as long as it was still warm.
Juanjo
Rather unclear on reality, isn’t he? I know a number of men who do not do anal. I rarely engaged because it is not anything that gives me great pleasure as the inserter. Likewise, I did not indulge with others as the insertee unless I knew the person well and was certain that they knew what they were doing. Far too many men seem to think enthusiasm makes up for a lack of skills. Now that I am married, only the husband gets access.
DesertDudePalmDesert
Amen!
chris33133
Four minutes into the video and not a word about anal. This is more about sassy/catty than anything else. ….. Queerty, you need to hire a headlines editor.
Godabed
If he wants to look at men and not have sex with them, it has no affect on me and my life. Do you boo. More booty for me *shrugs*
judysdad
Godabed, since when is sucking dick NOT having sex? Jesus Christ, some people!
surreal33
There is a consistent effort to bully gay men into same tire narrative of femininity, anal sex, and drugs. Gay men can exist and thrive without anal sex, drugs, and fem-bot syndrome.
Tobi
Umm, no, homosexual men can, gay men can’t.
DCguy
So in other words, he purposely picked a topic that is fairly universal in the gay community so he could take an opposing stance to drum up attention, and now he is pretending that the attention he wanted wasn’t what he wanted so he can get MORE attention.
He is even less subtle about wanting attention than the Kardashians.