What do you do when your boyfriend who’s married to a woman starts cheating with another dude who’s also married to a woman? That’s what one guy wants to know.
“I’ve been dating an (unhappily) married bisexual man for five years,” he writes in a letter to advice columnist Carolyn Hax at the Washington Post. “I’ve allowed him to support me financially. His wife does not know about me, his sexuality, or my being male. I’ve urged him to come out to no avail.”
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The man continues: “I’ve put up with his marriage until recently, when I found out he cheated on me with another man my age, who is married to a woman with two young children.”
And it doesn’t stop there.
“It turns out he financially supports this man as well,” the man writes. Now he wonders: “Am I right to feel jilted or is this just the universe hurling justice at me?”
In her response, Hax tells the guy that enough is enough. It’s time to put himself first for a change and to ditch his three-timing married bisexual boyfriend.
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“I think you’ve made this about your feelings long enough,” she begins. “Long enough plus five years.”
“His actions are wrong,” she continues, “his silence is wrong.”
But it’s not just the boyfriend who’s at fault here. The man seeking advice is just as guilty, Hax says.
“Your bought-off complicity is wrong and has been throughout,” she writes. “His re-infidelity changes not a thing.”
She concludes by urging the guy to “dedicate today and as many tomorrows as necessary to restoring your independence and integrity. ‘Put up with his marriage!’ This is me having officially now seen it all.”
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JerseyMike
Remember how you got him.. That’s how you will lose him.
miserylovedme24
If someone is already married to someone else, you’re not dating them. You’re having an affair with them.
Xzamilloh
This can be whittled down to “I’m a sugar baby with no self-respect.”
Bob LaBlah
What the boyfriend should do is find his wife and start singing this song to her:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MVIb3413dus
Chris
Karma. Now you know how his wife will feel when she finds out.
Opine2
Sounds like someone is being used as a door mat..
Kick him into the long grass or even better grass him up to both his wife and other lover, then move state, NOT Louisiana.
Mack
There are dogs and then there are DOGS.
Paco
Aww poor thing. He thought he was special by enabling a man to cheat on his wife. Guess the home wrecker found out he wasn’t so special after all to the cheater. I have known too many like this, men and women, and they never learn. They seem to go out of their way to get mixed up with a married cheater over and over again, and then cry about it when they get cheated on.
No sympathy for them.
Me2
I never understood how someone “dates” a married man and expects fidelity.
ErikO
Why is this guy who is helping a married person cheat (unless the man and his spouse are in an open marriage of course) surprised that this guy is cheating on him? I wouldn’t be surprised if the guy who is complaining about being “cheated on” by a married man, is also cheating.
Audran
@Danny279: Not necessarily. Been there. Except i found out about the wife when i confronted him about the other guy
Sluggo2007
That’s what happens when you’re a whore with no self-respect.
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