You know that guy who messages you on [insert gay dating app of choice here] relentlessly?
And even though you never respond to his greetings — which are almost always one-syllable variations of “hey” and “sup” — he just never takes a hint?
If only there was a way to put an end to the infinite string of messages.
We imagine apps like Grindr could build a sort of “go away” button. But what would it be called…
How about we take this to the next level?
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Well until developers come up with a solution, one life-hack has popped up on Reddit.
“I’m gay and whenever a guy won’t leave me alone on Grindr – I use Housewives’ quotes,” one user writes.
He even supplies this handy example:
In case you want the full context, here’s that quote, in its entirety, to use at your discretion:
“You really think I want to get naked like this around Cary? How much fun do you think she’s going to make of me then? Why is it so f*cking important to Cary to come for me all the time? Because I’m gonna do something. She’s gonna come for me one day and it isn’t going to be pretty. Her husband gets his dick sucked at the Round-Up. I know the boys who did it. I didn’t grow up with a silver spoon in my mouth. I grew up with a lot of things in my hands and they’re not knives. They’re just hands. But they work quite well.” — LeeAnne
See? It all makes perfect sense when you read the whole thing.
If you find this technique works for you, here’s some more material you can work into your unwelcome chat threads as needed:
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gravityyaoi
I really hate people who feel they have some right to make fun or toy with other people like that. Just say no thanks or block them. It’s that easy. Stuff like that doesn’t make you cool, it makes you a jerk.
startenout
Oh please, he ignored the idiot for over a month and then when he finally did respond, the answer was obviously not one that invited further discourse, yet he persisted. This dude’s funny response is everything Instagram accounts are made for. LOL
Stache
Actually you can easily block them so it seems he enjoyed the game.
michel_banen
What also works is deleting the app 🙂 Never used any dating app but then I was lucky enough to meet my 1st boyfriend in real life over 20 years ago and we’re still together. I realise not everyone is that lucky so if an APP works for you…. have fun & stay safe.
Frank
First of all these are NOT dating apps…they are hook up for sex apps…
Stache
They are what you make of them.
mhoffman953
Whenever I’m on Grindr and some transgender guy who thinks he’s a woman messages me, I reply back with, “I’m sorry but this app is for men”. They lose their minds over that
Frank
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YWZGVv8mtrI
mhoffman953
@Frank
Are you saying that the app is for men or women?
Last time I checked, Grindr is for men, but I suppose based on your response, I can’t expect to get an intelligent reply from you
Crystix
Does that make you feel like a man, mhoffman? Make ya feel like youre sitting at the big boy table and ready for your first big diesel truck? Get TF off your pedestal and stop hating on people you don’t know. How about you just block them instead of showing what a giant douchebag you are. But I guess its grinder. If you don’t have a giant dick, be one. #justsayin
mhoffman953
@Crystix
What pedestal? Grindr is an app for gay and bisexual men, not women. If someone identifies as a woman, they shouldn’t be on an app for men seeking men. There are plenty of other apps like Tinder, Plenty of Fish, etc.
If you think women should be allowed to use Grindr to find men, then you must think straight people should flood Grindr as well.
Unless, you’re saying that people who identify as women aren’t really men at all but are truly men in drag. Which is it?
mhoffman953
@Crystix
Additionally, I forgot to add, how am I “hating on people”? If a man identifies as a woman and I remind “her” that this app is for men, I’m recognizing that transgender person as a woman. Wouldn’t referring to “her” by the wrong pronoun be considered hateful? So you’re saying I’m being hateful by referring to this person by the politically correct pronoun. None of this makes any sense
StupidBoy
Meh, this is stupid. I have messaged guys I have things in common with, but said something stupid like “‘sup” before. If they block me, that’s fine, but I have had conversations with guys that replied back that were well worth the while. Just because you don’t have a killer opening line doesn’t mean that you are a douche or a robot. It means I don’t have a great opening line because I don’t mack out on guys online all the time and whore myself out to everything that responds. Maybe if dating apps weren’t more than “a minute to win it”, things might be different, but people what responses crafted from dating movies they aren’t a part of applied to them. So, go on, I can find another minuteman.
MasterJake
I have a rule, If I have said no many times already I reserve the right to ignore subsequent emails.
surreal33
Why is Queerty, working overtime promoting Grindr?
Notright
Really though? It’s not that serious. I’m a little disturbed by how into grindr some people are. I use it when I want to get off and that’s it. Talk to people in real life. It’s better
Creamsicle
I stumbled on a similar simple trick to stop 90% of grindr messages. I listed myself as Asian and all of a sudden nobody was interested in chatting with me.