Porn would have you believe that size matters—in the “bigger is better” sense.
But in the r/askgaybros forum on Reddit, one self-proclaimed bottom has flipped the script with a “message for small-dick tops.”
Here is that (NSFW) message:
Different size dicks obviously feel different inside. Girthy dicks feel great because the stretch feels good. Long dicks feel good ‘cause it gets deep, but our G-spots are, like, 3 inches inside, mine 3.5 inches. So for me, a 3.5-inch, rock-hard dick working on my G-spot—that is f—king incredible! Smaller dicks tend to be harder (I think), and tops normally like to go balls-deep, which pushes bigger dicks past the G-spot but has the 3.5-inch dick constantly working the G-spot. So be happy if you have a small dick and learn how to work the G-spot.
The so-called “male G-spot” is, of course, the prostate, a gland located just below the bladder and about 2 inches inside the rectum, as Healthline explains.
And on Reddit, the message about less-endowed tops has gained more than 1,000 upvotes, as well as the endorsement of many other users.
Some representative comments from the thread:
“The two best tops I’ve ever had were both [of] average/small size. It was mind-blowing, hands-free cum with one of them and everything.”
“The best dicks I’ve had were average length (or maybe slightly shorter) but real girthy.”
Related:
Gay guys sing the praises of smaller & average-sized men
Bigger doesn’t always mean better.
“From my personal experience, white straight/gay men are notorious for fetishizing big dicks and ‘BBC.’ Even though I know I’m bigger than average, the pressure makes me super uncomfortable. All sizes can be great! I wish we worked more towards defying those stereotypes. This post helps with that!”
“Some of the best f—ks I’ve had were from smaller dicks. There’s so much more to a hot scene than dick size.”
And finally: “Smaller dicks are friggin’ phenomenal when the top knows how to use it.”
Another commenter, meanwhile, brought historical facts into the discussion.
“Fun fact: the Ancient Greeks thought the ideal male form would essentially include smaller packages. To them, larger pecker parcels were bestial and a sign of lacking self-control. Tiny and tidy was the name of the game.”
So yes, size matters… but perhaps not in the way people—and XXX casting agents—might think.
Related:
winemaker
Finally a column on something all of us can realte to. How many of us who’re avenrage, nice looking and have nice personalities are rejected ’cause we aren’t huge doiown there? Really you’ll notice this at the gay gyms, especially the show in the shower and the locker room. It seems if you’re not hot (whatever this means) or hung you’re not worth getting to know. It’s sad that some of the men in the community still are as superficial and shallow as they come after all these years.
Just.my.opinion
It all comes down to knowing how to use what you’ve got.
mildredspierce
Sorry, but for me to be sexually aroused and to remain physically attracted to a man his genitalia has to have an aesthetic. Not shallow. Necessary. I am an unapologetic size queen.
Hayden
Good. Be unapologetic because nowadays people think you have to have sex with anyone or you’re some kinda phobic. You should like what you like without judgement.
storm45701
Exactly, Hayden. People think you’re being discriminatory toward them if you don’t want to have sex with them, whereas it’s just an attraction issue. Sorry, I didn’t sign up to sleep with a trans person; and I had a person in a wheelchair harass me because I wouldn’t go to bed with them. If I ever find myself attracted to someone with those qualities, then it’ll happen. Until then, free world.
mikhailmaui
I think we all should be able to like what we like. Some of the absolute best sex I have ever had is with a guy with less than 6″. Not saying I do not enjoy bigger, but this guy knows exactly what he is doing.
sterlings8
Ya’ll, c’mon. Big and Thick is beautiful. Always and forever. XL
barryaksarben
Actually the best sex only partially is on size, without a hot man topping you and by hot I mean, clean , nice , smart funny a bit kinky and wanting you then it doesn’t matter all that much how big or little they are . When I was younger I was a size queen but a smaller than average guy who had hit on me. so many times I lost count wore me down and he was TREMENDOUS SEX. And I should know having been around before AIDS and living in West Hollywood where. we were having it constantly
305Ghuy
This is one of the best top/bottom articles I’ve read in years.
Black gay guy here, early 50s, cut 5″ with a mushroom cap that faucets… Cowpers from the get go. While “daddy don’t need no viagra”, I don’t just walk around the ‘men’s only’ clubs with a woody. White guys with ‘Mandingo fantasies’ paw at my crotch and get a handfull of 501’s; then walk away. Like what bat are you bringing to the park to play with?
I have many repeat suitors. As a 70/30 bottom I ‘do unto others as I like done unto me’. Yes I can shoot a meter if the company’s good.
… and like one of the queried in the article, the 3-4 hands free climaxes I’ve had in life have been on the receiving end of studs btw 4½ and 6 (O.M.F.G.!!!)
eagerbeaver
Drumroll please …..
“It ain’t the size of the boat, it’s the motion of the ocean”.
GayEGO
Well, after 42 years, my other half, known as Big Dick, got married and were together 15 more years! Now, I am a widower, not a size queen!
Slutster
Speaking as a bona fide whore, I have experience with all sizes, and I’d say it’s how attracted to them physically and if you have ‘chemistry’ as to how hot the sex is, not the size. I’ve had sex with plenty of men I wasn’t attracted to at all, probably just out of boredom tbh, but when you have chemistry with them, you don’t care about the size. I’ve had plenty of guys that were 10+ inches but were duds, and those that were average size but super hot. I do have to say, however, that if you find yourself having to ask “Is it in yet?” then it’s not a good sign. Those micro-dicks are not good. Personally I’d just rather be shopping.
nm4047
the more annoying aspect is, some guys with big dicks are the biggest bottoms. 🙁
BStewart27
I’d love to see high quality normal dick porn. It’s not a fetish, is it? I love to engulf the whole thing any way I wish to.