Another Prominent “Ex-Gay” Activist Comes Out As Gay (With Bisexual Tendencies)

Randy-black-leather-coatFormer “ex-gay” activist and executive VP of the defunct Exodus International Randy Thomas has come out of the closet… Again.

In a blog post titled “A Peaceful Disclosure – I Am Gay,” Thomas writes:

have read many stories of people who have “come out again” or accepted they are gay after some time in the ex-gay world. Many of their stories are compelling and well-written. But, sometimes I wish they would get to the point right off the bat. Just say it and then tell the story. So that is what I am going to do: I am gay.

Thomas then spends the next several paragraphs detailing his journey from gay, to ex-gay, to gay again.

It all started back in January 2013 when a man Thomas dated 24 years ago committed suicide.

“We remained good friends up until his death,” Thomas writes. “His death was shocking and I still mourn his passing. Michael had several difficult issues contributing to his suicide, and I know he also struggled with his faith and sexuality.”

Thomas says Michael’s suicide “shook me to my core” and forced him to reflect on himself and his life’s work. After having a long, hard think about everything, he came to the following conclusion:

I am gay with some level of bisexual tendencies. The truth is, that my primary sexual attraction is toward men. It is also true that to date the love of my life has been a woman. I was attracted to her in every way. Many people won’t believe me but what I just shared is true. I would be lying by omission if I didn’t share that side of myself. For me, developing strong sexual attractions is driven by emotional attachment more than anything else. My relational history has shown that I can indeed have attractions to either gender if the emotional attachment is there.

Thomas goes on to write that he has been celibate for the past 24 years and is in no hurry to change that, though he could eventually see himself in a relationship with a man (or maybe a woman). Right now, however, the only relationship he’s focused on is the one he has with Jesus H. Christ.

“I rest in God’s grace and trust Him to be the Good Shepherd He has proven, over and over, to be,” Thomas says. “Whatever happens, loving Jesus is at the core of who I am. Regardless of any relationship I have or will have, abiding in Christ will always be my ‘Home.'”

Thomas concludes by saying that he hopes the gay community will welcome him back into the fold, though he understands if some people are hesitant, given his past work.

“Even though I have issued two apologies to the gay community (here and here) and found my first sense of identity and community as a gay youth/young man, I am not sure many will accept my apologies or this disclosure,” he writes. “I would definitely understand some people’s reluctance given my history. That said, while I care about what others think, I am doing this because I feel it is the right thing to do.”


H/t: The Bilerico Project

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