Editor’s note: We’ve asked online comedian, voice actor and chest hair model Sam Kalidi to create a new meme each week for Queerty readers. This week he helps you get prepared for the long, um, ebullient White Party weekend in Palm Springs. He looks forward to all your hate mail. You can find him on Twitter, Facebook, Instagram and at your local glory hole.
Glücklich
Good, glad I’m the first.
I anticipate there will be a lot of bashing the White Party and before those pro- or anti- get into whipped up into a tizzy, let’s keep in mind how unattractive all of the negativity on this week’s Queerty posts have been, especially in the wake of the Miami event charging over 40’s a cover price.
If, like me, you’re not a fan of circuit parties, just leave it at that. Try not going on a tirade about “sweating meth” and ageist, shallow, alcoholic twinks.
If you plan to attend or enjoy these events, more power to you. Have fun and be safe.
Really, I love to piss and moan as much as the next gay but to get whipped up about circuit parties or what makes a man attractive or not, or getting all provoked by the usual suspects about “gross”, “gay-dead” over-30’s/40’s/50’s or “vapid”, “skanky” 20-something “ho’s” takes a lot of energy. Being angry takes energy we could all be focusing on more meaningful things in our own lives.
Try just letting something like the White Party go. It’s unimportant.
Kumbaya – There I’ve said my piece AMEN!
Enron
You need to be on PREP 2 weeks in advance for it to be effective or if you are going to do PEP, you need Truvada plus Isentress and remember to take it within 72 hours for it to work.
Taskebab
If it’s a white party, why is the tiny underwear pink?
Clark35
Where’s the picture of crystal meth?
heavylifter
@Clark35: And the medical pics of genital warts etc?
Pete
@heavylifter: I was going to say HIV blindsides us to all the other nasty STDs out there. HPV (i.e. genital warts) can lead to anal cancer, which is why I think all younger gay guys should get the Guardasil vaccine. Probably too late for us old sluts . . .
Pete
@Taskebab: I was gonna say . . .
Personally I’d wear my plain white CN2 briefs with the sling that pushes my junk forward!
Pete
Circuit Parties have their place. It’s great to go to some event where it’s ‘just sex’, where you can do it with some guy or guys whose name(s) you don’t know — all you know is that he’s/they’re hot — preferably with lots of other boys watching! And believe it or not these are loving encounters, pure eros, boys recognizing and satisfying the most basic need in each other!
Male/male sexuality is different and only a repressed prude would attempt to impose ‘heteronormative’ (God do I hate that word!) standards on it.
heavylifter
@Pete: I’m very fussy and can’t imagine getting into orgies unless I got to hand pick all the participants otherwise there would bound to be some opportunistic fuglies trying to get in on the action 🙂
Realitycheck
@Pete: And Hepatitis C,
another nasty infection curable but super expensive and
insurance companies will not pay for it.
From what I read Guardasil is beneficial for gay men as well,
a quick article you will find more if you google.
http://www.aidsmap.com/Gardasil-protects-against-recurrence-of-pre-cancerous-anal-lesions-in-HIV-negative-gay-men/page/2234343/
Saint Law
@heavylifter: Bitch, please. You will die a virgin.
Saint Law
@heavylifter: And not ’cause you’re ‘fussy’ – because no self respecting man or woman would touch your decayed arse with a tazer.
da90027
Hopefully most will grow out of those parties. I know quite a few who dropped out after being unable to find a stable relationship or burnt out and depressed from the drugs. I went to my first one at age 50 in 2011 and found it to be expensive and overrated. But if that is what some want let them do it. The smart ones move on and find better ways to spend 1200-2000 bucks. I have met some that went to a few too many and look ten years older and have trouble paying attention in a conversation you never get those damaged brain cells back.
wpewen
@Pete: Yeah,male/male sexuality is different. While I and friends were busy listening to Neil Young, circuit parties appeared. Wow. How guy can you get? At the Galleria in S.F. Seems more like a night out with the girls than anything else. I like men,not go go boys on drugs. Reason #537 for why the men’s gay community fell apart after Harvey Milk.
jwtraveler
@Pete: I’m sure you’re a fan of Viagra and all the happy pills. Are condoms too heteronormative for you, or is HIV part of the “hot,…loving encounters”?
jwtraveler
Trying to figure out which word(s) caused my comment to be Queerty-flagged.
“@Pete: I’m sure you’re a fan of [ED treatment] and all the happy pills. Are condoms too heteronormative for you, or is HIV part of the ‘hot,…loving encounters’?”
jwtraveler
Got it first try. I guess I should use 701 instead of the “V”-word.
Reginald Augustus Salazar Magpayo
Ugh!