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Hetero New Yorkers, Please Don’t Get Married This Weekend


In an open letter on NYMag.com, writer Dan Amira pleads with straight New York couples considering heading to City Hall to tie the knot on Sunday, July 24—the first day gays and lesbians can legally wed in New York State—to stay home. It seems that so many gay New Yawkers wanna get hitched on the historic day that the city has had to create a lottery to deal with demand. “The last thing we want is for couples to wait on line for hours and hours, only to walk away upset on what was supposed to be the happiest day of their lives,” says Mayor Michael Bloomberg. The lottery provides access to the City Clerk’s offices for 764 couples, gay or straight—though more than 2,600 couples have already begun the application process before today, when couples can officially enter the lottery. And almost 1,000 of those betrothed are breeders. Amira, who identifies as heterosexual, makes an impassioned plea to his tribe to pick another day.

Hear this, straight people: Maybe it’s convenient for you to get married over the weekend, or maybe you just like the novelty factor of tying the knot on a historic day. But the opportunity means a hell of a lot more for gay couples. Every spot in the lottery occupied by one of you means a gay couple misses out on an experience with much deeper personal significance. This is no way to act, straight people. Sunday is supposed to be a beautiful day. Why not go enjoy some outdoor straight-people activities, like attending a baseball game, or drinking an unnecessary amount of beer, perhaps while attending a baseball game. Or stay cool with some popular indoor straight-people pastimes, like watching the new Transformers movie while wearing pleated pants.

We appreciate Amira’s request, but we don’t think it goes far enough. We’d politely request that heterosexual couples abstain from marrying for the next few weeks altogether. We can’t afford all the presents and we don’t want to have to choose between two weddings on the same day. Lets face it: If the choice is between Cousin Judy’s affair, (disposable cameras, buffet dinner, DJ) and our ex’s ceremony (duck confit, ice sculptures, Ricky Martin), it’s really no choice at all.

On:           Jul 19, 2011
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    • Dorothea from Germany

      “makes AN impassioned plea”

      Jul 19, 2011 at 3:04 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • jcknck

      Wow, I guess they were right. Gay marriage DOES ruin straight marriage…

      Jul 19, 2011 at 4:36 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Mike in Asheville


      I thought the idea of marriage equity was for all marriages of straight and gay couples to be equal.

      Jul 19, 2011 at 4:58 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • ewe

      Obviously the haters are still attempting to recruit.

      Jul 19, 2011 at 7:05 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Steve

      I’m waiting for the attacks from NOM about how gays are trying to now stop straight people from marrying…

      Jul 19, 2011 at 8:11 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Steve

      Even more — Gay couples who do not “need” to get married immediately, should wait a couple weeks, so that the couples who do urgently need to get married, can.

      There are some couples in which one of them is very ill, close to death. There are some couples that are very close to having a child. Some others are within a few days of closing on buying a house. Let them go first, if they want.

      Those who are healthy and do not have an urgent need, can choose to wait a couple weeks.

      It takes time to plan a party, anyway. And, family and friends will want to attend.

      Jul 20, 2011 at 7:59 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·

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