Unless you’ve been living under a rock for the last decade, you would have noticed the rise in demand for daddies among younger sub-groups of twentysomething gays. We know it, you know it, and HBO knows it, but none of it was official until today, when New York Magazine published an unofficial poll claiming “Daddies” are “on the rise.”
Everybody knows sub-groups aren’t official until a major publication “discovers” them.
New York Magazine reporter Mike Albo offers a breakdown of every type of daddy, from leather daddies to sugar daddies, and “femme” daddies to “young” daddies, in a piece published this morning titled “Rise of the ‘Daddies’: A New (and Sexy) Gay Niche.” It’s new! It’s on the rise! Are you shocked?
via NY Mag:
But like everything else in our culture, where even grumpy cats become memes and multiply, it seems the gay daddies are moving beyond leather land, especially for a new generation of twentysomething gays. An informal poll of men reveals that there seems to be an uptick of younger men who are interested in guys of my “seasoned” age bracket.
Though he makes sure to note the term “daddy” has been around for ages, Albo spends some time exploring how the term “daddy” has evolved over time. Pointing to famous gays like Andy Cohen, Anderson Cooper, and Tom Ford, he says the term has “gone from being a porn thing to defining a broader range of men.”
Perhaps the mainstreaming of the daddy trend could be because of statistics: Guys my age — men in our forties — are the largest demographic of gay-identified males to grow old. (The few out and older men I know, now in their late fifties and sixties, are definitely daddy types, because they’re tough, wise, brave guys who survived the harrowing early days of the AIDS crisis.)
The fact that men in their forties “are the largest demographic of gay-identified males to grow old” is a great point to make—one that has value far beyond a silly piece about the “daddy” explosion. For the most part, it’s true, and should be considered a major accomplishment for the community as a whole.
It’s not about getting older or fitting into a sexual stereotype—it’s about visibility. In 2013, a subgroup of gay men have positive role models in the media, a voice, and a glowing review in a major publication to boot. Now that’s progress.