Pegging. It’s not just for gay men. More and more straight guys aren’t just getting into the act, they’re, ahem, opening up about it to others. A new article published by Sunday World takes a deep dive into the not-so-new phenomenon sweeping the straight community.
27-year-old Kamogelo describes the first time he brought up the topic with his girlfriend.
“I told her I wanted to be penetrated with a dildo,” he recalls.
She immediately wanted to know if he was gay.
“I assured her I would not be with her if I were gay,” Kamogelo says. “I just enjoy sex when I’m being penetrated.”
“When she did it, I reached climax in the most satisfactory manner. I have never felt like that before; it was amazing.”
Another man named Keegan says first tried pegging himself with a sex toy in an effort to better understand what the experience of sex was like for his girlfriend.
“It is just the feeling of wanting to feel how women feel when we are inside them,” he says. “I wanted to know how deep should I go to reach her G-spot.”
After giving it a few tries, Keegan says, it quickly became “addictive.”
“I won’t lie though. After that experience, I wanted to feel like that often, but I never ever considered exploring it with men. I bought myself a dildo and started using it [on myself].”
He continues, “I hid it from my girlfriend because when we spoke about our fantasies and I mentioned a woman penetrating me, she cringed, so I left it alone.”
Eventually, Keegan turned to other men to fulfill his deep-seated need to be pegged.
“For me it is about filling the sexual void,” he reflects. “It is just sad because when you talk about it with some friends think you are gay. I believe not all straight guys who sleep with gay guys are gay. Gay guys just give us what our girlfriends do not want to give us.”
But Keegan is hardly the first guy to become “addicted” to pegging. Phindile Ngubane says her ex-boyfriend’s extreme fondness for the activity eventually “suffocated our relationship.”
“I loved him a lot, so you can imagine that I did everything I could to make our sex life interesting and fulfilling,” she recalls.
Eventually, however, she “got tired” because “he wanted nothing else.”
“One day, I asked him that we should go back to our missionary position and he refused,” she says.
Looking back, Ngubane says she always wondered if perhaps her boyfriend was gay. She no longer thinks so, though, as he is “still with a woman and they are married with kids.”
Sexpert Dr P. Ratshabedi has written and spoken about pegging extensively. Though he enjoys relationships with women, he says he used to frequent gay bars and clubs just to be around other guys who wouldn’t judge him for his fantasies.
“It had nothing to do with being gay or hiding my sexuality,” he says. “As men we have fantasies. I have been in a situation where I wanted to have sex with three women. I had the chance to live that fantasy. I asked that they penetrate me using their fists.”
He considers pegging a “sexual preference,” and one that has been around since the dawn of time.
“There are even gay women who enjoy being penetrated, does that make them straight women? No.” he says. “It is a sexual preference.”
h/t: Sunday World