A young man on Reddit claims that what was supposed to be an innocent discussion with his girlfriend about their sexual fantasies went unexpectedly awry.
“The other morning, me and my apparently sane, rational girlfriend were fooling about in bed,” the post begins. “All is well, we are naked and having fun, discussing things that we might like to try sexually together.”
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The topic of “prostate play” came up.
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The man explains: “I have experimented before with prostate play, both solo and with partners, and we have even tried prostate massage together so I expressed an interest in pegging. I had to explain to her what that was… and she lost it.”
The woman “burst into tears” before grabbing her things, getting dressed and running out of the apartment. She stopped answering her boyfriend’s texts and calls and even went so far as to block him on Facebook.
Days later, he says, “I got an email.”
The girlfriend wrote that she believed he was deeply closeted and said she wasn’t interested in being the vehicle on his road to homosexuality.
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“Apparently I ‘revealed my latent urges’ by asking to be pegged, and I will ‘inevitably crave the real thing’,” he writes. “She has expressed sorrow for running out on me, but apparently is leaving me for my own good so that I can ‘follow my true self’.”
But it gets worse, he says.
Days later, he writes, “I … had literature put through my door on accepting yourself, how to come out, anti-homophobia stuff and PHONE CALLS FROM MY PARENTS. Apparently she rang my mother to let her know I came out to her (the ex) and would need some support.”
“Seriously,” he says, “WTF??”
Now the man claims mutual friends are reporting that she’s telling everyone on Facebook that they’ve broken up because he’s into “prostate play” because he’s gay.
“What the hell do I do here,” he wonders, “other than never speak to the crazy cow again?”
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Stache
She’s either had an experience of dating a closed gay guy or just a crazy bitch.
trell
What’s worrying isn’t so much the girl’s misconception that guys who enjoy anal stimulation are also sexually attracted to other guys. It’s the very shocking actions in outing him to his family and forcing leaflets through his letterbox.
He’s got two choices. Either he can try one last ditch effort to get the message through that straight guys like getting their prostate stimulated and get her to clear up the mess she’s made, or he can cut his losses and leave the sorry confused homophobic bitch.
robho3
I have noticed lately that queerty is getting alot of stories from Reddit….. This is a disturbing trend. I guess it’s easier than writing something original. And we all know there is no other gay topics to write about than a straight man wanting his girl to peg him and gay frat house boys.
Brian
Women can’t cope with the idea that their man MIGHT have expressed homosexual desires. Even if it’s pegging and does not involve cheating, she gets it in her head that her man MIGHT have homosexual tendencies. Her response can be very homophobic.
Women find even the suggestion of male homosexual desire in their boyfriends quite threatening. She views it as personal rejection as well as a rejection of a woman’s right to force male lovers to be totally dependent on women for pleasure.
It’s clear from this Reddit story that the woman’s fear of homosexual desires in her man is causing her to push him into the “false gay” category – ie to prevent him from challenging her self-esteem as a woman.
Jack Meoff
@robho3: I agree with you. Queerty seem to like these bisexual Reddit stories so much I’m beginning to wonder if it is Queerty editors who are posting the stories on Reddit in the first place just be cause they want to report on the topic here. It’s becoming a little suspicious.
Chris
And why should I care what some straight guy’s girlfriend thinks about their sex life?
PRINCE OF SNARKNESS aka DIVKID
Queerty keep milking dat Reddit prostate and Reddit needs to catch a wad of that revenue stream
Jay
This reminds me of something my brother once said. One evening when I was visiting him to help with a project, his wife said something particularly bizarre that I now can’t recall. When I raised a quizzical eyebrow, he replied, “Oh, you have no idea how lucky you are to be gay. Sometimes it’s like living with a different species”. There’s really only one way out for this guy. Get as much distance between him and the psycho b**** from hell as he can, as quickly as he can. Hopefully, the rest of his friends and family aren’t as nuts as his ex, and this’ll blow over. With any luck, it’ll lead to his next girlfriend having a better sense of adventure in bed.
nitejonboy
OOH,honey, you may not be gay, but you need to learn how to bitch slap, cause she needs it!! Telling your parents, that’s crossing the line!! She needs to be slapped hard!!
desertboy
He should dump the bitch.
Billy Budd
Having anal pleasure has nothing to do with sexual orientation. The girfriend is a bitch and an idiot.
Laurabion
wow..if you want your Ex back..contact [email protected]…He is the best..
nj_rifai
Okay, I get how she might be upset. I can see her point of view. Bu why does she have to go and out him to his friends and family, and bully him?
Tobi
@Brian: You need to keep up-to-date, Brian, women are saying bisexual men ‘are better lovers and better fathers than straight partners’.
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-3759244/Women-say-bisexual-men-better-lovers-better-fathers-straight-partners.html
Ruhlmann
@Jay: My brother once said “well one advantage to being gay is waking up with intelligent company”. Of course that’s sexist and not even close to true but it sure made me laugh.
surreal33
Congratulations to your former girlfriend for NOT being a stupid, clueless, bitch.
Sugar coat it however you want NO HETERO MAN, I REPEAT NO HETERO MAN, would ask his woman to fuck him in the ass!!! Most women are too stupid to see the signs clearly your former girlfriend is not living in fantasy world. I don’t agree with her publicly shaming you however, she is 100% right that you are NOT HETERO.
Billy Budd
@surreal33: feeling pleasure in the butt has nothing to do with what kind of aesthetics you are attracted to. Many men like to get fucked or fingered by their girls and they are indeed straight.
Billy Budd
@surreal33: you are extremely closed minded.
Tête Carrée
Guys shouldn’t waste their manhood on these dumb punts. Sticking it in a knothole in the wall would be a better option.
Maybe she would be convinced of his heterosexuality if he slapped her around a (“little”) bit.
natasha_hayes
wow..if you want your Ex back..contact [email protected] …He is the best.
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desmond_perrotto
Those who know someone will understand that the woman is absolutely crazy and has no clue how human sexuality works. You can enjoy many different fetishes regardless if you’re straight or gay. I’ll bet she holds her girlfriends hands without any interest in sexual enjoyment of being with another woman. I mean if she enjoys getting licked down there it can easily be said (falsely) that she might be gay as well. It will blow over and you will find someone who understands your needs and encourages them.
Jimmy
for years i have it was safer for straight men to marry gay men only, simply because of sows like her.
salumbre
Well, she’s obviously a crazy bitch. One thing is to be uncomfortable with something, but to run around “outing” her boyfriend? A straight man who is this open about his desires in bed deserves a cool, open-minded woman.
TimberWolf
since this is an article from another site Reddit, like everything else its been watered down and edited leaving things out. Taking the article as is. Close minded people never grow up in life. Whatever the sexual interest intimately between should remain between two. To call the parents and start a fire of rumors on sexuality assumption is unforgivable and immature. If anyone pulls such a stunt they are not worth working anything out. Clearly the girlfriend has issues about other things not just sexual intercourse stimulation, to label and call out family members she has deeply rooted insecurity issues and probably prejudices that will only surface. Best thing he can do is continue to be himself, there are plenty of men and women who enjoy sexuality without labels he just needs to find the right one .. she is out there.
Atomicrob
LOL..sounds like his girlfriend needs a course in remedial sex education and anatomy. What does she like in bed? Why isn;t he allowed to have pleasure. She also sounds narcissistic, not to mention simply dumb.
brettstein
Why is it that women are the only ones who get to have their “G” spot stimulated during sex, men are just as entitled to have theirs stimulated, the problem is where the male spot is. Americans are so stupid when it comes to their sexuality and things associated with it. What needs to come out here is the simple fact of where the male G spot is and what happens when it is stimulated while the male ejaculates, it is an unbelievable feeling. This girl needs an education, she needs to have information presented to her just as she has to him. Her reaction is quite bigoted if you ask me, along with being very uncaring. Her way of exposing all this is just as we have called such things in the past “a women scorned” too bad for both in this situation. I do hope this guy finds someone who is understanding and that he is able to have a frank talk with his parents to explain the situation.
johnd_cox
Does she want to be probed for a prostate?
dm10003
Several thoughts:
People who demand honesty then punish it when they get it are fools.
She has no gay friends to educate her.
She could be looking for a reason to split with him.
This can’t be the first time she has harassed and taken revenge on a friend or loved one.
What about her own sexuality is she terrified of?
cdndmf
So, a lot of queer misogyny on display in these comments, which is troubling, but maybe what you get for re-directing Reddit stories. As for this guy, I think he should exploit this occasion in his life where everyone already thinks he’s gay to just go give the real deal a whirl. Get pegged by a live dick, boo, then come back and tell Reddit – and the rest of us – all about it.
Mother_Nebula37
Oh,honey, she’s a idiot. Using a finger or even a stimulator doesn’t equal being gay. Now if you were interested in having a male or a male member stimulating your prostate, then yeah, maybe, but this is normsl. The fact that she’d react so severely and passive-aggressive is disturbing. She also needs not to tell everyone your business. It’s like she’s trying to hard to prove that she isn’t homophobic that instead she’s got almost a complex of almost fear. What a damn uneducated and close minded moron….
batesmotel
If this is true, then she’s not worth knowing.
avesraggiana
Good God. Here we go again.
Kirk99
@surreal33: @surreal33: @surreal33: I always thought that what you like to do in bed doesn’t define you as gay, straight,etc., it’s who you do in bed that defines you.
richardhclark
If you are even remotely interested in trying or discussing anything that might even be the slightest bit construed as “gay”; or even simply casually mentioning that another guy looks great or hot or something keep it to yourself. Unless you plan on coming out (or have to come out because it’s killing you inside) in the future, never, never, never, ever, ever, EVER say a word or tell you girlfriend or wife without a professional mediator who has experience with these situations.
Women do not see things the same way that a guy does. Sex is not just “sex” even if they seem to agree or THEY bring it up at the time. Don’t be defensive or homophobic; just say “Uh huh”. and talk about something else. Don’t tell her about the college best bud. Never. Never, Never. You will create a rift that cannot possibly be bridged, not even after many years of trying or “therapy” after the fact.
I have seen such tragedy and so many families broken up because of an idiot irrational belief by a woman that “their” man is a homo, and no amount of explaining or anything ever works. And the kids are the ones that suffer the worst. She may use that as a club against you. If you have to err, do so on the side of caution. And no, you can’t talk to anyone about your feelings about these sorts of things unless (only once) it’s a long time trusted friend or colleague who is a Kinsey 4.5 or higher who your wife doesn’t know and you are sure will never meet; and then only on how to proceed to get a professional mediator.
Of course, you are reading this advice in Queerty and that single fact, in and of itself, could be problematic if found out.
Minerva pomerantz
I liked this better when, before it was a Reddit chew over, it was a Dan Savage column about ten years ago.
Q, it’s much better to steel from Dan than Red,
jdboston617
Another Reddit retell? It’s becoming so boring this website. Over it.
NateOcean
Yeah, the “…road to homosexuality…” hehehee.
Sometimes it’s a long road…
Sometimes it’s a hard road…
Sometimes it’s a thick road, er, I mean, wide road.
Sometimes the are many holes in the road to homosexuality.
Sometimes the road is dry, other times it’s well greased.
Ah, the “road to homosexuality”…
He BGB
How many times have i heard What a waste about a nan being gay? Some straight women don’t like gay men and they take it personally meaning their egoes are threatened that men would prefer another man to their greatness and vaginal goodness and why would they prefer a man, etc etc. I know at least 3 women like this in my life. It’s ignorance because they haven’t taken the time to really understand how being gay is a real thing not a choice. This girlfriend sounds like one of those to me. She is insulted that he might prefer a man to the goddess that she is.
tomk1of1
There is so much ignorance about men enjoying anal sex,with or without a partner.
And a whole lot of cognitive dissonance….
Listen would a guy be worried his girlfriend was a lesbian because she liked dildoes??? Of course not.
Now there is a lot of difference in what men and women are like regarding sexuality in general. But the prostate,an extremely orgasmic pron organ is got to thru the anal cavity. Like it or not. THAT IS NATURE., GROW UP!
tomk1of1
@tomk1of1: sorry….prone is the word above…,why can’t I find a way to edit my comments on this site???!
tomk1of1
There is so much ignorance about men enjoying anal sex,with or without a partner.
And a whole lot of cognitive dissonance….
Listen would a guy be worried his girlfriend was a lesbian because she liked dildoes??? Of course not.
Now there is a lot of difference in what men and women are like regarding sexuality in general. But the prostate,an extremely orgasmic prone organ is got to thru the anal cavity. Like it or not. THAT IS NATURE., GROW UP!
Chris
@Minerva pomerantz: True, dat!
azani64
I think it’s hysterical that from now on straight guys are going to have to try to convince women of their sexual preference! “No, really, if you want to explore your sexuality with men it’s fine with me as long as I know about it; Can I watch?” #rotflmao
Steve
Totally messed up situation
natriley
@robho3: The Reddit and Whisper are original and permit conversations with real peple!
dean089
The good news is that he’s lucky to be rid of this psycho bitch. The bad news ois that he’s not yet 100% rid of her.
andrew_h
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eAEiI_x71Ko
surreal33
Life must be wonderful living in an alternate reality on fantasy island!
Evji108
Computer says “No”, this is a fake story.
da90027
If this is a real story the woman is a crazy bitch plain and simple he should be glad he dodged a bullet
GayEGO
His girlfriend is obviously misinformed about sexual desires and needs to be educated about gender identity and attraction. Guys have prostrates which may be stimulated through anal probing and it has nothing to do with gender identity i.e. a gay or straight man. He needs to undo the damage she has done by educating his parents and friends about who he is.
Tripster56
Well it looks like your little sweetie has no idea that that is how a man gets stimulated whether in a homosexual or heterosexual act or she just isn’t into pleasuring you that much. Maybe finding a book on the topic will help her understand the male anatomy better.
dwes09
@surreal33: If straight couples did not do this sort of thing, they would not have a slang name for it. Go to any hetero porn shop and you will find media depicting women doing men with strap ons. You are rather naive regarding the breadth of sexual expression people enjoy.
dwes09
@surreal33: Additionally, though they do not have prostates themselves, there are quite a number of women who enjoy anal sex, and men who enjoy giving it to them. Does that make these women gay men?