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NY Magazine Discovers “Daddies,” Claims A Rise In Demand For Men Of A “Seasoned Age Bracket”

mavericksexbookbugUnless you’ve been living under a rock for the last decade, you would have noticed the rise in demand for daddies among younger sub-groups of twentysomething gays. We know it, you know it, and HBO knows it, but none of it was official until today, when New York Magainze published an unofficial poll claiming “Daddies” are “on the rise.”

Everybody knows sub-groups aren’t official until a major publication “discovers” them.

New York Magazine reporter Mike Albo offers a breakdown of every type of daddy, from leather daddies to sugar daddies, and “femme” daddies to “young” daddies, in a piece published this morning titled “Rise of the ‘Daddies’: A New (and Sexy) Gay Niche.” It’s new! It’s on the rise! Are you shocked?

via NY Mag:

But like everything else in our culture, where even grumpy cats become memes and multiply, it seems the gay daddies are moving beyond leather land, especially for a new generation of twentysomething gays. An informal poll of men reveals that there seems to be an uptick of younger men who are interested in guys of my “seasoned” age bracket.

Though he makes sure to note the term “daddy” has been around for ages, Albo spends some time exploring how the term “daddy” has evolved over time. Pointing to famous gays like Andy Cohen, Anderson Cooper, and Tom Ford, he says the term has “gone from being a porn thing to defining a broader range of men.”

He continues:

Perhaps the mainstreaming of the daddy trend could be because of statistics: Guys my age — men in our forties — are the largest demographic of gay-identified males to grow old. (The few out and older men I know, now in their late fifties and sixties, are definitely daddy types, because they’re tough, wise, brave guys who survived the harrowing early days of the AIDS crisis.)

The fact that men in their forties “are the largest demographic of gay-identified males to grow old” is a great point to make—one that has value far beyond a silly piece about the “daddy” explosion. For the most part, it’s true, and should be considered a major accomplishment for the community as a whole.

It’s not about getting older or fitting into a sexual stereotype—it’s about visibility. In 2013, a subgroup of gay men have positive role models in the media, a voice, and a glowing review in a major publication to boot. Now that’s progress.

By:           Matthew Tharrett
On:           Jun 14, 2013
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  • 25 Comments
    • Jackhoffsky
      Jackhoffsky

      @jeff4justice: Yeah, I agree. And not so much that but thier videos give a sense of degradation to their participants while promoting smug inflation of douche.

      So to me, the pic doesn’t say “daddy”. The pic says “Old man with a fragile ego”.

      Jun 14, 2013 at 7:21 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Emanuel
      Emanuel

      @jeff4justice: @Jackhoffsky:

      Nag nag nag, you guys look like the gay version of million mom’s. They do bareback not put put guns over people’s heads so the do it too, so get over it. It is a a famous gay couple one is “way” older than the other so it works. i’ve had it officially

      Jun 14, 2013 at 9:37 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Mark
      Mark

      I feel this is outrageous! The only driver to young guys going for older guys is MONEY… The only driver for older guys going for younger guys is a trophy husband to show off… No difference in these guys than Donald Trump, etc. All are pathetic!!!!!!!!!!!!

      Jun 14, 2013 at 9:53 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • jeff4justice
      jeff4justice

      @Emanuel: Go nominate then for a GLAAAD award then.

      Jun 14, 2013 at 10:24 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • davegun2
      davegun2

      Well I’m not going to complain. Anybody want to go to Spain with me for two months while I write a novel?
      Old Gay Guy
      Dave (Fortuna Monsoon)
      65 or 67, depending on who you ask.

      Jun 14, 2013 at 11:04 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Chris
      Chris

      @Mark: Wow Mark, fuck you buddy. I’m 28 years old and I’ve only been attracted to older men my entire life. It has absolutely nothing to do with money, and EVERYTHING to do with the fact that I’ve never been attracted to a guy my own age. For a long time it made me wonder if I was a “true” gay. Put yourself in my shoes and not only tell your family that you’re gay, but that you are only sexually attracted to men over 45. It is rather obvious that you had a thing for a younger guy who wanted a sugardaddy instead, and you’ve been a bitter queen about it ever since.

      It absolutely amazes me how gay people can still be such closed-minded, callous fuckwits.

      Jun 14, 2013 at 11:05 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • davegun2
      davegun2

      :>)

      Jun 14, 2013 at 11:06 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • davegun2
      davegun2

      @Chris: You tell em

      Jun 14, 2013 at 11:07 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Charles175
      Charles175

      @Mark: And if the younger person’s only goal is money from said sugar daddy, and said sugar daddy merely desires to have a trophy “boy toy”, then that youth winds up growing up to be like Liberace’s sugar baby, a horribly ill prepared for real life loser. In the event of the severing of the support (via Death or separation) of the sugar daddy, the sugar baby is left without proper knowledge and wisdom along with the necessary skills to successfully carry on in his remaining life. This is but one of many forms of the hedonistic “lifestyle” that has no future. This totally separate from the issue of orientation.

      Jun 14, 2013 at 11:23 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Jackhoffsky
      Jackhoffsky

      @Emanuel: let me try this a different way. I’m glad there’s a rise of the daddy, great. I’m not into that, but good for everyone who is.

      However… the picture used for the article involves a couple whose porn is purely ego-driven and somewhat condescending to many of their participants (not all). It involved a smug sense of “tagging” and hubristic conquests. (hey, if it wasn’t ego-driven, the young one would get to fuck first…lol)

      Please don’t get me wrong, I’m all for degradation in kink play, but I cannot get into degradation for the sake of ego… and thus, the use of the picture is a contradictory accompaniment to the article and what it’s trying to present.

      Jun 15, 2013 at 1:29 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Errol Semple
      Errol Semple

      Intergeneration relationships are a benefit to both parties.

      Jun 15, 2013 at 5:27 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Kieran
      Kieran

      @Jackhoffsky: Why don’t you just be honest and admit you don’t like these two Gay Studs because you know they’d never be interested in having sex with you?

      Jun 15, 2013 at 9:32 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Jackhoffsky
      Jackhoffsky

      @Kieran: I seriously… honestly, with all my heart… find people who come at me with a conquest-driven ego-based agenda very unattractive. sociologically speaking it is obvious, so you and I must have completely different views on it, but that is what I see with them… not a healthy example of intergenerational companionship.

      aldo I already have HIV from bareback sex. So I require a condom for every sexual encounter, something they do not promote. so there’s THAT.

      Jun 15, 2013 at 10:16 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Aries3dc
      Aries3dc

      @Chris: Yes ma’am! I’m a younger guy (33) into much older men myself, and I second everything you said. Well put!

      Jun 15, 2013 at 10:26 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Niall
      Niall

      If they’re fit enough and interesting enough. Age doesn’t really bother me *shrugs* the thing is though, it’s hard to find older guys who meet my standards of looks in a guy(hope that doesn’t sound shallow) and who we can share common interests. The latter is especially challenging.

      Jun 15, 2013 at 3:09 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Kieran
      Kieran

      Just being a certain age doesn’t make you hot. They’re are plenty of young males who don’t have much sex appeal and will only go down hill as time passes. Youth is a definite plus, but if you’re homely, fat, flabby, boney or generally fugly looking what difference does it make how young you are? The important thing is are two people hot for one another. If they are, than age shouldn’t matter.

      Jun 15, 2013 at 4:12 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Mark
      Mark

      @Chris: Chris-you are wrong on so many levels. Have a fucking fabulous day!

      Jun 15, 2013 at 4:29 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • marc sfe
      marc sfe

      @jeff4justice: I’m looking at the picture at the top of this article and I have no clue what the hell you’re talking about as it relates to bareback sex. For the love of pete, one of the gentlemen has on a t shirt and the other is feeding him a grape. Where’s the barebacking endorsement??? I may be old but I’m not blind.

      Jun 15, 2013 at 7:57 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Lazycrockett
      Lazycrockett

      I didn’t want a daddy when I was 20 and I sure as hell wouldn’t want a son at 40.

      Jun 15, 2013 at 10:49 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • gppm1103
      gppm1103

      @marc sfe: He is talking about them being the Maverick Men. Look it up.

      Jun 16, 2013 at 9:56 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • CleJoke
      CleJoke

      Wow. You all are making my issues button ring. I am 41 and currently seeing a 23 year old for the last 6 months. It’s the longest relationship I’ve ever been in.

      But I always wonder about the generational differences. We play tons of video games together, watch tons of SciFi on Netflix. Recently I introduced him to Buck Rogers who he never heard of. For laughs I was showing him old Wanda sketches from In Living Color realizing he was born when that show first aired.

      He has two years of college under his belt and is currently just working a dead end job to make ends meat and lives at home. I am currently between consulting gigs but have my finances budgeted and am ok. But I have a 20 year head start on death over him. How will he take care of himself when I’m gone? Then again he is a smoker and he could be catching up to me with that bad habit. Plus if he moves in do I have to make a dedicated smokers room for him? because right now he goes outside to smoke and we hang out in my bedroom in the 3rd floor of a townhouse. At least it’ll keep his ass trim like being on the stairmaster :-)

      Is the first ltr I’m in doomed?

      Jun 16, 2013 at 11:32 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Angel
      Angel

      I totally agree with @mark.. wtf!! I’m a 33 year old and I love my daddies.. and not cuz of money I usually make more than them … is amazing that in this time and age some ppl still stuck in this little details..

      Jun 16, 2013 at 1:26 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • mpwaite
      mpwaite

      @ Mark.. You’re just a DEBBIE-DOWNER arent you?!! Who are you to tell people who they can and cannot be attracted to in life; you just sound like a bitter queen who probably was jilted by a younger twink so you’re bitter on relationships.. period. I know several couples that have age differences of 20 or more years, and are extremely happy.. Of course, I know several that are just ridiculous as well.. As long as both guys understand the rules set my themselves going into their respective relationships..Then who the Hell am “I” to tell them what they should do??!!

      Jun 17, 2013 at 5:26 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Mark
      Mark

      @mpwaite: Obviously, you are BLIND to the truth! Let’s put it into prospective; if the older man was a dishwasher and didn’t have a pot to piss in then would you be attracted to him? Probably not! But, you would never admit it. Signed DD

      Jun 18, 2013 at 11:04 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Bopper1
      Bopper1

      …WTF that anyone would have an issue with two people who are actually able to find happiness with each other…I’m late 50s, had a six month relationship with a guy 26…we had a commonality in all things, great humour, spirituality, goals, interests…he was a musician, knew everything I didn’t know…I have life experience that he considered invaluable…I wasn’t a sugar daddy, he wouldn’t have it…the age difference was virtually transparent…what happens in situations like these is “social acceleration” for the younger partner…they either wear it or run from it…in this case, he ran from it…to hear him tell it, it was the best time he ever had, the most he’s ever loved or been loved, the best sex, the best journey, the happiest time of his life…this was all in LA…his family are evangelicals in Indiana…they started asking questions…relationship over…in the end, the age gap WAS a problem…the younger man didn’t have the life experience or self-knowledge to admit his choice and stick by it…it was the best decision for him and I agreed, however sadly…what I know that he doesn’t is that this kind of intuitive bond is very hard to find between two people and it is the reason one would fight for the relationship…in time, he will realise that and probably wonder why he ever ran…so the generational thing is a reality and a factor…it was a great time, nonetheless, and we’re both better for living it…

      Jun 19, 2013 at 3:12 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·

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