Imagine this: One of your favorite adult actors reaches out to you and starts flirting. Then he asks you if you’d appear in a video with him. He even throws in a plane ticket. Would you take him up on the offer?
That’s the exact prospect one Reddit user is facing. “He is [an adult film star] I’ve been crushing on for years so I really want to do it but not sure,” the guy wrote in a recent post. “I looked at his profile on Scruff on the Most Woof’d section, and he messaged me right away. After chatting and flirting for a while, he asked me to do a video with him and that I can wear a mask if I wanted.”
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The problem, this guy said, is that he has a job and that he plans on enrolling in professional school next year, and so he’s worried that he’ll tarnish his reputation by appearing in the video, even if he wears a mask. “I want to do it so bad but also worry about the consequences,” he writes. “Would you do it with a mask on or just decline the offer? Are there any guys here with professional jobs that do videos? Has this affected your career/life in any way?”
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Unfortunately for this fella, commenters on the post didn’t reach any consensus. Many sent strong words of warning.
“There’s no way back if the video is posted, so think wisely!” wrote one. Commented another: “Absolutely don’t do this.”
Another guy said a video he made “definitely affected” his professional life. “Depends on the field you are going into [and] whether it’s a big deal or not, I would reckon,” he added.
Multiple users, meanwhile, said the offer seemed fishy. “Seriously, he could make a video with anyone,” a commenter wrote. “Something’s really weird here and it would set off red flags for me.”
Other dudes, on the other hand, didn’t raise as much alarm. “If you don’t maintain an account and you’re just a ‘random hookup’ from his video, you won’t be easily recognized except by friends who are watching his videos or on Twitter looking up clips,” said one. “I know many professional guys who maintain smutty Twitter accounts, do go-go dancing on the side, or even do full-on OnlyFans without much cause to worry. If you are in public service or work around children, I would give a little more pause.”
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And some encouraged this guy to go get his. “I think you should do it or you will regret it forever,” wrote one. “Wear a mask, protect your identity, and have fun.”
“When would you ever get the opportunity to do so?” asked another. “If you have a mask on, you’re pretty much in the sea of countless guys who have released stuff with a mask on, as well. And think of the amount of [adult content] out there. What’s the chance yours will still be seen a few weeks months or years from now?”
What would you do, dear reader? Does this sound like a dream scenario or a mistake waiting to happen? Give us your thoughts in the comments below.
Neoprene
Don’t go! The dude’s gonna stab you and eat your liver.
rdb2010
Even with a mask on, you might be identified. Scars, Tattoos, etc. And make damn sure that plane ticket is round trip.
QJ201
The best is porn performers trying to get fans to play with them on cam… while they collect the subscriptions. There is one who is always posting in Grindr and Scruff in NYC “looking for fans to f*ck on cam”
Catholicslutbox
Yup. The one that exploits naive minorities… Austin wolf
Troysky
@rbd2010 is right
@Neoprene is probably right, too. the porn performer is caught up in the dazzling novelty of this (like a vampire with a new victim?), but don’t count on him being loyal or respectful to the dude.
my pervy self wants the dude to do it, but that part of me is a selfish dumbass that likes the sexual rush. yeah i said it. ….can’t see this dude getting more advice than all that has been shared.
Chrisk
I made that mistake many years ago and yes regretted it. I just did it for some fun and a little bit of coin. I didn’t think about the consequences.
I ended up on magazines year after year, posters on the outside of Dance Clubs in Weho/San Diego, advertisements for you name it, and even post cards. Some of it was even international. I noticed a few in Russia. Once you sign away that release you’ll find your image being used in many surprising ways. I was so effing embarrassed.
Then there’s the whole live on through Google. Thankfully I’ve gotten older and less recognizable.
Man About Town
I thought you looked familiar!
Heywood Jablowme
Oh ChrisK, I always suspected you had a wild past!
Chrisk
Ha. Yep. I guess I should be grateful there was a time when people wanted to see my ass. Ah..memories..;-)
TMBisAOK
I really doubt in this day and age where “everyone” seemingly has an onlyfans AND he will have a mask on, that he has much to worry about on the level of what you went through. Not a lot of low production onlyfans screen grabs ending up on magazine cover or postcard. Am I missing something here?
Norm
Unless you want to change professions, I’d pass. Maybe fly out on your own, invite him to a hotel and make sure there are no cameras rolling.
QNetter
Given the fact that a former well-known bareback porn slut (and friend) is now a member of the California Bar, I would say there is a lot less to worry about today…
Karrnal
DON’T.
barryaksarben
DO IT. Wear a mask and that will give you plausible denialbitiy. You may regret not doing it when you are older. I was such a prude when young and realized midlife that no one really cared that much but me. Took years to loosen up but so glad I did
Gourmet Guy
There was a gay porn star named Tom Steele, which is also my name. I got some very interesting phone calls during his heyday.
Doctor Benway
I’m kinda bored of people who can’t decide for themselves.
He has all the informations now.
Yes, of course, there could be consequences. Not just because it’s porn. Even if you play in a simple movie, there could be consequences on career, depending on what you’re doing in life.
But if you wear a mask, if your job doesn’t involve children… I’d say “go do it if you really want it”.
WSnyder
So, the choices seem to be: have a one day [more like 1-2 hour] fling with your dream porn star vs. the potential to ruin your career, your self-esteem and your reputation for years [or the rest of your life]. My question to the guy would be, whose’s asking? Your brain, heart, soul or pen*s?
My answer for him would be: get yourself an guy who looks like your porn star [or as close as you can, maybe an Escort], go to a nice hotel, f*ck your brains out, live the fantasy w/o the consequences and don’t look back. I’m just thinking of what will go through this guy’s mind on that plane ride home and it won’t be good. Not in any reality. Instead, do the ‘next best thing’ and live w/o the regret.
Onecaddy13
@WSnyder, agree 100%. Don’t do it. (Mask or not) There will always be someone that knows what you have done (and will have it on film forever,) that potentially can’t hurt you, your family or your career down the line. Why this guy,? There’s just too much “D” out there for you to be hung up on this one individual. I think the majority of the comments here are looking out for your best interest. Keep this in mind, once all the releases are signed, the studios will not be liable if your career is ruined. It’s always about the coin for the studios.
HaguePeter
Is it worth the risk of (permanent) STD’s?
southernscot
Wanted? First check did he mean a covid mask to stay safe during the outbreak or a full face mask coz you ugly? It’s like Sophie’s choice 2.
Josh447
My motto: never put on film something you might regret later.
Onecaddy13
Josh447 AMEN !!!!!!!!!!!
LumpyPillows
I have real problems.
Night
Do it. If it comes up later, grow into the man who can face it down.
toronto
Just say it is a deep fake created by a bitter ex.
Kangol2
The “deepfake” excuse is going to become more and more plausible with each passing year, and people won’t have to blame a disgruntled ex either.
CityguyUSA
How do you even know this isn’t a huge catfish or worse?
Spidey137
I agree with most of the comments. Still, if a porn star I was really into invited me…honestly I’d probably rationalize it that the people watching it wouldn’t be stupid enough to expose my “exposure.” But I would definitely want to FaceTime before to make sure it was legit. If we could all have such “problems.”
Preppy1000
DO NOT DO IT! Trust me–it will follow you for the rest of your life.
GayEGO
This does not appear to be about love, so don’t do it. I was in the Navy when I found a man I loved so I chose to move in with him…….as my roommate! We were together for 57 years, married 15 years, and he passed away last year.
stan2015
I can ware a mask and have sex with Zak Spears hell yes
jackscott
Not worth it… video is forever!