Remember when queerbaiting was just the domain of celebrities with an album to sell? Now it’s social media stars who are talking the talk of queerness without walking the walk. And followers are certainly noticing.
“Every OnlyFans creator is bisexual until it’s time to actually have sex with the same sex,” one Reddit user vented in a recent r/askgaybros post.
“I acknowledge that you don’t have to actually have sex with someone of the same sex to be bi,” that user elaborated. “But when your selling point is you being bisexual, hot, and open, is it not fair to expect at least some same-sex action? Or any, for that matter? This isn’t to say I hate OnlyFans. It’s just annoying to see so much gay-bait being peddled around the internet. The truly sad part is that it, for the most part, works.”
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Commenters on the post commiserated with the original poster. “All the ‘bi’ dudes on TikTok figured out that they could get a huge following on OnlyFans by creating thirst traps and pandering to a gay audience,” one wrote.
“Straight boys gay-bait because it’s low-effort cash flow and ego boost,” another explained. “And it’s a legit industry now; the Instamodels have a whole scheme/handbook they share. Many [of them] pay girls or an agent to manage their online profiles. So you think you’re interacting with this sexy dude, when you’re really being sent pics, vids, pre-recorded voice messages, etc. by his girlfriend or rep.”
One commenter said the “scam” would stop if queer fans stopped thirsting over the queer-bait and started supporting gay or bi dudes or, at least, honest straight dudes. “But wishful thinking gays keep subscribing, so oh well,” that user lamented.
And another commenter said that these queer-baiters are less bisexual than buy-sexual, as in, “They’ll say anything sexual to get you to buy.”
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One person, meanwhile, pointed out some nuances: “There are different layers to this. There are plenty of very obviously bi guys on OnlyFans. Being bi is not gay-baiting. There are also tons of low-effort ‘Come see me and [other Instagram model with a broccoli cut] push our limits (by rubbing our soft bulges together and moaning like llamas getting a prostate exam for 15 seconds in a clip we’ll charge you $50 for)!’ guys. Or those asses who very obviously have a dildo in their briefs/engage in ‘creative photo editing’ whilst spamming TikTok and Twitter with accounts. The latter is dumb (and actually gay-baiting in my opinion), but to say ‘Every bi guy on OnlyFans does X’ is a bit disingenuous.”
What say you? Wish you could say “bye” to the clearly-not-bis? Or are you happy to bite that queer-bait, hook, line, and sinker? Give us your thoughts in the comments below.
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Donston
It’s nobody’s job to dictate other folks’ identities, sexual dimensions, lifestyles, preferences, relationships, where they are in the gender, sexual, affection, romantic, emotion, commitment spectrum. But ultimately, males who make OnlyFans know that their target audience are guys who are legit into guys/have homo preferences. So, it’s all a part of the money and ego game. But there’s no doubt that there’s a lot of tiresome shit: only wanting to “come out” when you start doing OnlyFans or start doing porn, hyping up how “bi” you are while still constantly feeding into and living off of hetero privilege and non-homo superiority, exploiting sex with women and/or trans people for an ego boost and attention and to let folks know how not “gay” you are, using “straight” worship for greater appeal, making folks pay for homo shit while releasing hetero shit for free, doing the bare minimum and making people pay ridiculous prices because you have a decent social media following or because you’re quasi famous. But none of this is new to the trade game or to what many guys in general do in everyday. OnlyFans has just made it accessible for everyone and made it easier to monetize. Just don’t invest in these dudes. Most folks already know the game. So, if you’re caught up on these dudes that’s your problem.
Neoprene
Only 10 commas in your opening sentence “comma list.” THE most bizarre writing style ever.
CityguyUSA
“Making people pay”. Really? I guess we know where you spend your money.
LumpyPillows
Nah, it’s fraud. Simple.
quantum
Yeah but those dudes with dildos in their underpants be straight wild.
esrosejr
If some good looking young (or old) man wants to show me the goods on the internet, who am I to insist on his gender/sexuality bona fides? Looks is looks. Hot is hot. This is all too silly.
powersthatbe
A story old as time. Certain adult entertainers have retired on the strength of the “Will he? Won’t he?” carrot stick. It’s not for every person, but then neither is peanut butter and jelly sandwiches. Who are you to deny a sweet treat with a bit of nut thrown in?
Ken A.
They’re not responsible for their triggers, people whining about “queerbaiting” and crying a river that floods from the lusty tears. It’s all entertainment. And if you’re willing to pay their price, and they know some thirsty sucker is, then they’re willing to entertain on their terms. As someone once said. “There’s a sucker born every minute.” If they do get sucked by some guy then it’s over. They have to keep the money floating in. Chaturbate and the cam show sites like Chaturbate is where customers call the shots for tokens. Only Fans, the stars call the shots. Enjoy. Also hacked too, I bought into the OF thing out of curiosity and signed up to one thing whatever they call it, next my cc was being used to subscribe to multiple sites all girlie sites. I don’t do girlie sites. Luckily I disputed the charges and won. OF got mad at me and suspended me. LOL. Don’t care never going there again.
bachy
It’s a business based on erotic fantasy! Whether the performers consider themselves gay or straight or some other of the 700 contemporary sexual identities is irrelevant beyond the internet fantasy unfolding on your screen. They’re selling photos and videos of themselves performing sexy behaviors with their beautiful bodies. Does it turn you on? Get out your credit card.
Joshooeerr
It’s not irrelevant when they’re passing themselves off as gay or bi in ways that go beyond showing off their goods or enacting sexual fantasy scenarios. A lot of these guys adopt a gay or bi “best friend” vibe to make a connection with their audience. I’ve then seen some give advice on gay relationships or dating. Even the sexual fantasies they present are either gleaned from their viewing of gay porn or their assumptions about gay guys having sex, so it’s several steps removed from actual gay fantasy. However you look at it, it’s a con to exploit gay viewers, and often not a very good con. Sometimes it seems a lot more dishonest than typical gay porn.
bachy
@Joshooeerr: Omigod! Anyone looking to a sex performer on OF for advice on gay relationships or dating is begging for abuse!
Anand
I started following a hot man’s “OnlyFans” page. My first time. He actually identified himself as a “thirst trap.” (I had to Google it to find out what the term means!) He posted some brief, enticing clips. But then his menu of other clips appeared. I was expected to pay even more to see them. His Twitter page was the same thing. “Give me money, give me more money.” I became embarrassed. Here I am being milked (unfortunately not literally!) by a guy entirely wrapped up in himself who actually admits he’s using his looks to manipulate people. “Buy my underwear that I have worn. Buy a sweatshirt that I have slept in. Buy my calendar. Buy my used jock straps and socks. Buy a raffle ticket and win a chance to have dinner with me.” I felt kind of pathetic. I don’t care if he is gay, straight or bi. My loneliness was getting the better of me. If I want to pay a whore, I’ll hire a real person. (Oh, sorry. “Escort.”) If I am tempted to subscribe to someone else’s “OnlyFans” I’ll realize that the best that I’m going to get is some clips to copy and add to my porn collection.
Willt123
Great to know
JromeGervais09
This queer baiting on Fans only or any of those other webs are just like the porn movie studios like Sean Cody who claim they are all straight guys, which is not true and any of the other sites that claim they have straight guys going gay for pay. Sean Cody is a horrible studio to work for with long hours, re-take after re-take and if the top is really a straight guy he usually is an ass that never does bottom, has to have straight videos going to look at and has a hard time keeping it up and get off. Don’t buy into the gay for pay sites either. There are many millionaires made over the decades from conning the gay community with such scams.
DarkZephyr
Meh, if a guy is hot he’s hot. If he’s willing to show off to gay men and is respectful of the LGBT community, I don’t have a big problem with him. The content that turns out to be disappointing I don’t sub to again.
If I want guy on guy action there are plenty of dudes on their who actually do offer that and at no silly extra charge either. Some are gay, some are gay for pay but as long as the content is good, its worth it to me.
Donston
I don’t pay for porn or anyone’s OnlyFans and never will. But from what I can tell, there are guys who constantly promise to hook up with dudes to their subscribers but never do. There are guys who fake sexual engagement with guys on camera. There are guys who pretend to date dudes when they don’t. There are guys who post hetero stuff for free while wanting a lot of money to post homo stuff. There are guys who claim to be non-homo leaning but still feel free to use homophobic language and indulge homo-shaming because they’ve connected to queerdom through sex work/OnlyFans. Once again, it’s not anyone’s place to dictate anybody’s sexuality or sexual journey, identities, lifestyle, preferences, where they are in the gender, sexual, affection, romantic, emotion, commitment spectrum. But all of those behaviors are inherently “problematic”.
I don’t blame a lot of these guys for taking advantage. It serves zero purpose to be mad at them. It’s not gonna stop them, and there will always be dudes willing to pay, often times for crumbs. In the sex work world, guys who present themselves as “straight” or “bi-curious” or “hetero-leaning” have always tended to get more money and have always gotten away with doing the bare minimum. What does irritate me is that queers don’t even want to acknowledge that “straight” obsessions, hetero/non-homo privileges, internalized phobias are things and are each responsible for these guys being able to do what they do successfully. Acknowledge the “fantasy” of it all. And at the end of the day it’s just fantasy. There’s nothing wrong with fantasy. But there’s also nothing wrong with acknowledge why the fantasy exist and why it is so profitable and attention getting to come off like an “open-minded ‘straight’ guy” or like hetero-leaning “bi guy”. You can tackle do both.
DarkZephyr
For my part I would prefer NOT to know their life stories (with some exceptions), because I am in it for a fantasy. But if it turns out that they do feel free to use homophobic language in interviews and such, I that is exceptionally problematic, which is why I specified that they had to be respectful of the LGBT community. I also hate when they talk about how much sex with men makes them uncomfortable or makes them want to puke, etc. It kills any fantasy and honestly, I find it rude. Its fine for them to feel what they feel, but I don’t wanna hear about it. But yeah, I try to support only those performers who are respectful and give quality content that actually appeals to me. Stuff like what you are talking about is indeed problematic.
Diplomat
Donston,
I’ve enjoyed OF for over a year now and like it. And concerning guys who do sex vids your analogy is all bs. It’s evident you have never gone onto the site and bought a subscription. You’re comments are pure inaccurate projections.
And we couldn’t care less if you ever go on any sex site.
Neoprene
If you’re dumb enough to be baited then I’m happy that you’re at least contributing to the economy while being dumb.
henare
Report them to the BBB so everyone can have a good laugh!
CityguyUSA
The BBB has about as much power as your Aunt Godiva.
Leo
Perhaps if you stopped putting their pix up…..
CityguyUSA
A capitalist’s job is to exploit consumers. You may not like it but it works. You aren’t being forced to do or spend anytime on OnlyFans. Thousands of dollars being sucked out of wallets today will eventually end up only on those providing the best value for the dollar consolidation leaving the rest to go back to cleaning toilets and serving food.
If you truly don’t like what OnlyFans does then don’t spend your money on it and bitch that they are able to get you’re money because they are “thirst traps”. It sounds like you’re jealous.
DarkZephyr
The way I see it, they are selling a product to consumers. Consumers have every right to “bitch”. I don’t necessarily agree with them on what they’re bitching about, but its their right as consumers to do it.
CityguyUSA
Guys, this is no different than GQ, or Men’s Health or Playgirl, etc. The only thing new is you don’t have to wait for a month to get your next magazine. There’s nothing new here except Queerty trying to exploit it for their benefit. As a reminder they’re employing other people to shoot images and videos and doing “spreads”, pun intended. It’s feeding a a lot of people for the moment. This to shall pass as the older ones age out and younger ones come along. Right now they think they’re going to do this the rest of their lives. As gay men wee know there not.
Creamsicle
I have 2 strong contradictory opinions about onlyfans and similar platforms:
1. I think it’s great that content creators have control of what and when they post pornographic content. I think it cuts out the middleman or porn studios, and allows performers to capitalize on good work themselves.
2. It’s annoying that amateur porn communities have been flooded with low-effort only fans advertisements. Those communities were exciting when they’re populated by exhibitionists and others who are turned on by attention and engagement. Now they’re a lot less interesting. There are still platforms where guys just genuinely want to show off, but they’re behind membership paywalls now.
But that’s honestly how it’s always been. Only fans just formalized it and gave the gaybaiters a single link to make it super clear what their agenda is. So it hasn’t actually changed anything except how clear who is there to show off and who is there to cash in.
bigrawtop
They think we are easy prey and just dollars signs to them. I give my precious dollars to people who care about our identity, our community, who are authentic. There are enough around if we just build them up. Straight guys will continue to own the world, if we let them own us.