Alex Diaz is a Filipino-Scottish actor and model who lives in Manila. Last month, he came out as bisexual to his 580,000 Instagram followers after a man claiming to be an “online fitness coach” shared screenshots of a private Instagram message he received from the actor.
In the conversation, 25-year-old Diaz asked the man if he “accepted indecent proposals.” When the man said no, Diaz apologized then asked him not to share their conversation. But in an act of deliberate cruelty, the man leaked the conversation anyway, effectively forcing Diaz out of the closet.
Now, the identity of the “online fitness coach” has been revealed.
Miguel Lagman Chanco shared the private chat between himself and Diaz despite being begged not to, but he says he feels really, really bad about it now.
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Speaking to the online gossip blog Pep, Chanco says he has since reached out to Diaz to apologize.
“I have reached out to Alex Diaz and apologized to him. He graciously accepted, and I am so thankful for that.”
It was kind of Diaz to accept Chanco’s apology, but that doesn’t make any of this right or even OK. The guy is still a total jerk.
Chanco then issued a blanket apology to the entire LGBTQ community for engaging in a vicious homophobic act that has often been used to inflict pain and ruin the lives of innocent people.
“I’d like to extend my apologies to the whole LGBTQ community and to everyone who was affected,” he said. “It was an incident that I regret.”
“Looking forward, I hope our respective work can continue to empower people, regardless of gender or sexual orientation.”
Since being outed, Diaz has kept a relatively low profile, going on an extended trip to Canada to “reassess” and “take some time for myself.”
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dustashed
Filipinos are so forgiving— to corrupt politician, officials, etc
Not a lot of places can someone be found guilty and imprisoned for corruption/plunder
Then run for public office after and still win.
And nowhere else can you find senators “working” while being in jail
ShiningSex
IF YOU ARE STILL IN THE CLOSET IN THIS DAY, YOU’RE AN IDIOT.
TRY COMING OUT IN THE 70s/80s.
THERE’S NO REASON FOR CLOSETED PEOPLE ANYMORE. BE BRAVE, GROW A PAIR AND COME OUT LIKE THE REST OF US.
SactoMan
Is this YOUR coming out as a piece of shit?
SamsonSF
There sadly are still manly places in the world where it’s difficult and dangerous, even deadly to come out.
lather
I came out in the mid 70s. I was lucky and had a pretty good personal support system.
There are tons of reasons young adults and older adults still feel the need to remain closeted or in complete denial, family and the family’s religious belief just being one of them.
I hope you can grow some compassion for others who are not exactly like you.
unreligious
Actually if you knew anything outside of your little corner of the world you would know that in much of the world coming out can be a death sentence. While in not a death sentence in the Philippines it is like coming out in the 1950’s would have been. Get off your high horse and try and understand that your little gay haven is not how things are in most places.
j41005
It does not matter where you live, how old you are, or what decade this is; coming out is still a scary thing. To reveal the truest, most intimate part of yourself is frightening.
There are still many homophobic people in society and not everyone is accepting of the LGBTQ society.
When anyone decides to come out, it needs to be for that person alone, and when they believe the time is right.
theafricanwiththemouth
I-DI-OT
masterwill7
You should be ashamed of yourself! You disgust me!! Mr know it all!
RyanMBecker
Are you seriously shaming people who can’t come out as “idiots” and cowards? Do you really want to inflict more pain and shame on gay minors still dependent on homophobic parents? Or anyone else not ready to come out? Think about it.
tdx3fan
Damn straight, errr gay. Stand up and be counted!
buttbooty
you underestimate the power of internalized homophobia… if one of your parents is homophobic then you have a real internal battle in your mind you are unlikely to win
nitejonboy
I”d say DIAZ is the jerk for asking a man online if he accepts INDECENT PROPOSALS!!! The man had every right to share that, shame on Diaz for doing that. Get on Grindr or some other hook up site, but don’t go around randomly asking people dumb questions like that..You had that coming pal.
j41005
Although I agree that Diaz should not have used that forum as a place for a hook-up, it was equally wrong for Chanco to out him. Both were complicit in this drama.
tdx3fan
Absolutely!
JED08
Sorry, not buying what he’s selling for a minute. That was a private conversation. He is a super douche for posting that for all the world to see. Don’t try to make it seem now like you are something other than what you are.
xanadude
“Sorry” now because of all the backlash and HIS name it out there now and is probably affecting his business. He should have thought about that before purposely and maliciously posting something he had no reason or right to.
Bob LaBlah
Oh please. He looks just like what I’ll be he is; a young Filipino twink who loves being barebacked and bred by older white guys. Manila, Cebu City and numerous other locales in the Philippines have macho dancers in gay bars whose bodies and butts would leave him in the dust and those bars stay crowded 24/7. Who really gave a hoot about him being exposed over there? He needed the attention and got what he sought, though maybe not indirectly.
david_warner
Wow … Judgy McJudgerson … you don’t even know the guy and you’re spouting this dreck? Sounds like the green-eyed monster to me.
David Myers
You don’t know this person . . . you can “bet” all kinds of things but all you are doing is exposing your own bigotry, racism, and egomania. Grow up, shut your mouth, and try to learn a new skill . . . empathy.
tdx3fan
All men and all women. Dude probably has a full sling card now.
bowlingbutch
Outing someone else is not okay and you deserve any backlash. As for the actor, if you didn’t want people to know you are gay then don’t “indecent proposals” to men. Both have to accept consequences of their actions
Bopper1
…social media is cancer…
TimothyBeauchamp
Making amends is important. I’m interested in what concrete plans he has to accomplish empowerment. Otherwise, this member of the LGBTQ community doesn’t accept his apology at all.
Ginger Tom
It was not Chanco’s business to report a private conversation. What did he hope to achieve by doing so? To embarrass Diaz? To make a name for himself? At least he should try to find out why he did such a thing and tell Diaz why he did it before seeking forgiveness from Diaz.
Jerry
It doesn’t matter when you come out, it belongs to you and no one else.
batesmotel
Too late.
Trekbike
It’s no surprise to see some gay men on here disparaging another gay man. It should amaze me how hateful gay men are to their own. But, sadly it doesn’t. Who needs the homophobes when we have our own to really shine when it’s comes to putting us down and passing judgment.
scotty
he’s beautiful.