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Who, me?! 27 telltale signs you might be a “white gay”

There’s been a lot of talk about intersectionality lately. More and more people, especially those in the LGBTQ community, are speaking up about forms of discrimination that overlap or intersect and what can be done to stop it from happening.

But there’s one group that’s still tardy to the party when it comes to honestly confronting systemic oppression: the “white gay”.

Related: 22 tweets that explain what a “white gay” is and how you can avoid being one

Urban Dictionary defines a “White Gay” as:

The “Gay best friend” typically portrayed on sitcoms screaming “OH MY GOD GURL YAAAS”. An unbearable cis queen, everything they do or say has to be over-dramatic. A White Gay, like a White Feminist, is not exclusively White or Homosexual, the only definitive traits are the endless spouting of Tumblr or urban slang and “controversial” propaganda/topics in hopes of getting attention. Most likely a twink, with no conscience of privilege or minority struggles (most likely sexist although they try to act like black women).

Related: Bad seeds: 5 privileged gay men who refused to apologize after acting racist on social media

Now, it’s important to note that not everyone who is both white and gay is a “white gay” and that the two are not always one and the same.

Also, it’s totally 100% possible for a person to change. Minds can be opened. Behavior can be corrected. Ignorance can give way to enlightenment. Someone who once exhibited a “white gay” mentality can stop. All it takes is a little education. And, of course, a willingness to do so.

Now, without any further ado, scroll down for 27 telltale signs indicating you might be a “white gay”…

1. You might be a “white gay” if… you’ve ever referred to your “inner black woman”.

2. You might be a “white gay” if… the majority of your friends are all the same color as you.

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3. You might be a “white gay” if… you voted for Donald Trump.

4. You might be a “white gay” if… Britney Spears is your favorite “diva.”

5. You might be a “white gay” if… you’ve ever dressed up as a person of another race for Halloween.

6. You might be a “white gay” if… you refuse to even entertain the idea that you may have benefitted from white supremacy at some point in your life.

7. You might be a “white gay” if… you still think rejecting entire swaths of people simply because of the color of their skin is “just a preference.”

8. You might be a “white gay” if… you’ve ever tried arguing that your sexual orientation puts you at the same disadvantages as a QPOC.

9. You might be a “white gay” if… you don’t know what a QPOC is.

10. You might be a “white gay” if… you think Lana Del Rey is a “genius” and you own every single one of her albums on vinyl.

11. You might be a “white gay” if… you’ve ever bragged about or broadcast the fact that you are white on social media.

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12. You might be a “white gay” if…  you only follow other white gays.

13. You might be a “white gay” if… you’ve ever uttered the words “Not to be racist, but…”

14. You might be a “white gay” if… you’ve ever uttered the words “It’s OK to be white!”

15. You might be a “white gay” if… you identify as a feminist but still call women “bitches” and “whores” and you have no idea what to make of trans women.

16. You might be a “white gay” if… your favorite meal is brunch.

17. You might be a “white gay” if… you assume all Asian guys are submissive bottoms with small penises… even though you’ve never actually dated an Asian guy before because “No rice. Sorry. Just a preference.”

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18. You might be a “white gay” if… you’ve never questioned whether you might be basic.

19. You might be a “white gay” if… you think that because you had sex with a Latino guy one time that means you’re not racist.

20. You might be a “white gay” if… you’ve never once dated a person of color.

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21. You might be a “white gay” if… you only date people of color.

22. You might be a “white gay” if… you’ve ever been to a Taylor Swift concert.

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23. You might be a “white gay” if… you assume all Asian guys are from China and are unaware that 1. Asia is a continent, and 2. It consists of 48 countries, including Saudi Arabia, India, Turkey, Mongolia, and Kazakhstan.

24. You might be a “white gay” if… you make a big deal about being into sports.

25. You might be a “white gay” if… you’ve ever typed the words “I don’t usually like [insert any race other than white] guys, but you’re different…” while chatting with a dude on Grindr.

26. You might be a “white gay” if… you’ve ever said/typed/tweeted/texted/commented the words “Not all white men!”

27. You might be a “white gay” if… you found this article triggering, offensive, too serious, or “racist against white people.”

Related: Dear white gays: Can you please stop whitesplainin’ your racism to me?