Unwanted advances

Drunk old man aggressively hits on straight guy on the subway in this truly bizarre video

Weird stuff happens on subway cars all the time. But this is definitely one of the weirder of the weird.

Joe DeMarini was traveling on the metro in Singapore recently when he was approached by a gentleman at least 40 years his senior demanding he have sex with him… tonight!

“I was with a friend and he approached me–drunk–and said he was gay, and that he wanted to f*ck me. He said, ‘I know you’re gay, so let’s f*ck,’” DeMarini writes in a Facebook post.

For the record, DeMarini, who’s from Pennsylvania, identifies as straight, though he says he’s often mistaken for being LGBTQ, which doesn’t exactly bother him, but it can be a nuisance at times.

“I don’t exactly fit the ‘masculine’ mold of society, so oftentimes I am mistaken as queer,” DeMarini writes. “For example, I’ve caught flak for carrying a ‘man purse.’”

When the man approached him on the subway car, DeMarini tried to keep his cool, despite the guy repeatedly saying “You’re a f*cking gay. I’m a gay. … I’m your friend. I want you to f*ck me tonight!”

Someone ought to tell this dude he needs to work on his approach.

When DeMarini turned down the man’s advances, the belligerent stranger proceeded to swat at him. When other passengers stepped in to intervene, the man tried flipping the script by claiming it was DeMarini who had come onto him.

The whole thing is truly bizarre.

Watch the video, which has been viewed over 655,000 in the past 24 hours, and read Joe’s full post below…

Hey Singapore friends: just a heads up, this guy physically assaulted me on the MRT, so if you ever see him, be on your…

Posted by Joe DeMarini on Wednesday, April 19, 2017

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  • ChrisK

    Poor guy. This is what a lifetime of repression will do to you. His drunken moment is when it comes to the surface.

  • Donston

    Been there before. A few times in fact. I remember being in my mid twenties, alone the bus coming home from work at 4 in the morning. The only other person on the bus was a deaf guy who was oddly cute but I’m sure he was drunk or high. He was sitting across from me. He kept grabbing his crotch. I tried to ignore him by looking out the window. He eventually sat next to me and dry humped me. I kept politely signing “No thanks”. But he persisted with the dry humping for a couple minutes before re-treating back to his seat. And of course the bus driver pretended they saw nothing the whole time.

    Men are messy.

  • Thad

    Whew. For a moment I thought they were talking about me coming home from the bar last Monday night.

    I was so relieved to see it happened in Singapore, not Philadelphia.

    Guess I wasn’t that drunk.

  • TristtheTwist

    “Straight” Right…. That guy couldn’t pass for straight if he tried. He’s got the gay voice as well. It’s ok, I’ve known guys like him who swore up and down that they were just feminine and were straight only years later to come out. I knew one poor guy who didn’t come out until 2 years after graduating college, and he was just like that dude saying he was straight and just was feminine. I can’t tell you how many feminine guys I’ve known who swore that they were straight only to come out as gay. Every single one that raised my gaydar alert but swore they were straight later came out as gay. There is a science to a gaydar. It’s not about feminism, that’s a cop out. Well I hope he comes to accept himself, but despite his obvious sexuality that does not give the other man the right to harass him,

    • jim18901

      Please don’t berate the victim. From this video, you know nothing.

  • jim18901

    Gay or not, inappropriate is inappropriate. Once it got physical, the victim was within his rights to defend himself. Drunk is no excuse. The older gentleman was lucky he left the scene intact.

    • silveroracle

      That was horrendous.

    • Sluggo2007


  • He BGB

    This says a lot about society and how gay men are viewed.

  • Shadeaux

    Well, Can’t make this sh’t up! There is no way I would believe this happened!

  • MediaGuy

    Gay boy. Not that there’s anything wrong with that. But, just come out, okay?

  • SportGuy

    Wow, talk about awkward!

  • startenout

    I’m so happy about the woman and man who stepped in to help instead of just standing by and letting a verbal and physical assault happened. “No” means NO whether you’re gay or straight.

    Even if the kids were gay, he’s not obligated to sleep with some sloppy queen that hit on him.

  • lelandjr

    So you just sit there and let yourself be humiliated in public? Maybe that’s why people keep mistaking you for being gay, because your ineffectual.

    • ChrisK

      Just like people might mistake you for an asshole. Oh wait..

  • Richard 55

    I would want to check on the Asian man’s anal hygiene before even shaking his hand.

  • Sluggo2007

    If Kim Jong-un had a son . . .

  • stevetalbert

    The tourist must have enchanted to older man. Taunting him with his beauty. I wonder if he had his man purse at the time. A bewitching talisman of desire. I wonder if the old guy went home and blew ping pong balls out his ass.

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