Ex-Gay Ex-VP Of Exodus Ministry Apologizes For Hurting LGBT People

Screen shot 2013-07-24 at 8.54.50 AMI participated in the hurtful echo chamber of condemnation. I gave lip service to the gay community, but really did not exemplify compassion for them. I placed the battle over policy above my concern for real people. I sometimes valued the shoulder pats I was given by religious leaders more than Jesus’ commandment to love and serve. That was wrong and I’m disappointed in myself. Please forgive me.

I directly empowered people to co-opt my testimony and use it against the gay community. There were a few times I almost worked up the nerve to confront them, only to hear them invoke my name at an opportune moment. ‘Of course I love gay people,’ they would say. ‘Just look at my good friend Randy…’ It was very selfish of me to back down in these situations. I apologize.”



— Randy Thomas, former executive vice president of now-defunct ex-gay ministry Exodus International, in an open apology to “the gay community” on his website.

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  • ngblog

    The sincerest form of an apology is promising never to do it again. Randy Thomas (and Alan Chambers, can’t forget him) are still profiting in the pain their belief system caused and created. Until you hear them speak these words, “I Am Gay, Always Have Been Gay,” all bets are off.

  • 2eo

    I see bland platitudes, and conscience easing, I see no apology here.

  • sfbeast

    Now that he’s issued a completely insincere republican christian type of apology, what does he plan to do to make amends?

  • ouragannyc

    I saw that man campaigning against ENDA. Watch it on youtube.
    He is a VILE man.

  • Cam

    Their groups were discredited and were becoming the targets of lawsuits…so they disband and reform under another name.

    Basically the gay Community has had a harder time fighting for rights because these two queens had too much baggage and decided to form support groups for bigots.

  • Fitz

    This is one of the most insincere apologies since my first BF…
    Absolutely nothing redeeming here. Maybe if he off’s himself I
    will accept it. I encourage him to find out.

  • MK Ultra

    blah, blah, blah, blah
    These phony, fake, contrived apologies are really getting boring.
    What he’s saying is, “since ex-gay therapy now has a bad rep and we got in lots of trouble for it, we’re re-branding it as a kinder, softer, gentler version”.
    Whenever an anti-gay religious group goes from 0 to 60, “we hate you” to “we’re sowwwwwy” the next day, be suspicious. Be very suspicious.

  • stfallon1028

    I apologize that this jerk feels a need to apologize. As long as people like him and his ‘ministries’ (what a word!) exist, we can never have peace

  • murphy0071

    Sexual orientation is scientifically and medically proven to be biological. I first wrote about this phenomenon in my doctoral dissertation at the University of Washington in 1971. When I began my research, I had no idea why people had differing sexual orientations. It was only after years of study, particularly in the German scientific literature, that I came to this conclusion. I have written a paper titled: “Sexual Orientation: Science and Society” with over 450 authoritative references from peer reviewed and scientifically accepted journals. If you want to know about sexual orientation, including the mistranslation of the Koine word for “child molester” which is translated by many as “homosexual.” All you need to do is Google Dr. Norman C. Murphy of Oceano, CA and you will find my phone number and email. I will send a copy to anyone who wants to know facts and not the anti-Christ message of some ignorant Evangelicals and their ilk.

  • Bob LaBlah

    @murphy0071: I remember seeing this one a while back and wondered if things like this were available for your research:
    I hope all enjoy the nostalgia and just how far we have come (regardless of how hard these “converted” assholes try to send us back to this era depicted.

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  • Ogre Magi

    I hate christians

  • MK Ultra

    And how come all these “gay in denial” freaks look like they’re fucked up on something. Look at this guys eyes! “I’ve got a pound of E in my ass!”

  • Kangol

    I’m confused, has he admitted he is gay? It doesn’t sound like it.

    Ultimately it would be better for all of us if, instead of using religion as a tool of oppression because these sick, closeted people can’t deal with their personal issues, they would just immediately get psychological help until they are doing better, and leave the rest of us out of it.

  • Bruce

    Again trying in some way to make MONEY on the bodies of the dead, the heads of the depressed, confused, and conflicted. The last thing a book shelf or virtual “E” store needs is a book of truth that you and that sorry bunch of opportunists turned into lies back to the truths that are and have always been available. You want to EARN forgiveness and not be “sorry,” stop ministering, writing books, and blogging. Instead, help get homeless gay youth off the streets, especially those who have been kicked out of their “homes, “disowned” by their conflicted, homophobic parents, building shelters for the AIDS-inflicted, challenging hatemonger churches and those cowards YOU continue to “protect,” etc. And last, but certainly not least, get over yourself and be the loud and proud gay queen you know and have always known YOU ARE!

  • jar

    I guess someone’s looking for a job.

  • hf2hvit

    @jar: Yeah…a blow job

  • Billysees

    @Bruce: 15 Bruce

    Very well said, especially ” Again trying in some way to make MONEY… ”

    Excellent comment.


    @ngblog: 1 ngblog

    Your last sentence says it perfectly well —

    ” Until you hear them speak these words, “I Am Gay, Always Have Been Gay,” all bets are

    off. “

  • balehead

    “Now give me your money”….

  • Harley

    Yikes…the damage created by his organization is impossible to measure. How many teen killed themselves because their parents wanted to believe in the evil within this man.

    He seems to be on a sympathy tour. Nobody wins. Damage done.

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