A 48-year-old straight-identifying man on Reddit says he can’t stop thinking about large penises and it’s really freaking him out.
“I’m a straight married man but I get turned thinking about big d*cks,” he says. “I mainly like porn (gay or straight) featuring hung guys.”
The man recalls an incident that happened decades earlier, when he was in college. His girlfriend at the time cheated on him with another guy.
“They went out after work, got really drunk and she had sex with him,” he says. “I wouldn’t stop hounding her until she gave me details. Was he better than me, was he bigger than me, etc.”
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The girlfriend confessed that he other guys was “bigger” and “thicker.” Ever since then, the man says, he’s never been able to stop thinking about large dongs.
“I was so f-ing pissed at her and heartbroken and jealous,” he confesses, “but I was also really turned on. I had never thought about a hung guy until then.”
Cut to over 20 years later when the man says he still can’t stop “fantasizing about big dicks in many different scenarios.” To be clear: He says he’s not interested in actually having sexual relations with another man, but the idea of “giving a guy a hand job or sucking a big d*ck does turn me on.”
He wonders: “Does anyone else do something like this?”
Now, the responses…
“I identify as straight but like big d*cks,” one guy writes. “Who cares about labels? I’m not into dudes’ bodies, I’m not into dudes smells, but it’s easy to appreciate a big d*ck.”
“I’m straight but fantasize about the same thing,” another guy says. “It’s not something I really want to do. Bit it is a turn on.”
A third guy writes:
I mean I think it doesn’t make you bi (but even if it did, what does it matter?). But I have a similar experience as you do. I’m a straight guy and I get turned on by seeing male underwear models with their bulges showing on the underwear packs at clothing stores.
I think the reason why is because I imagine myself wearing that underwear and feeling really sexy. I’ve also read an anecdote from a straight woman who said she gets turned on by seeing tampon commercials. You’re okay!
A woman also chip into the conversation.
“Female here,” she writes. “It’s normal. My partner is the same and often when having sex, his dirty talk involves him saying how much he wants to f*ck me while having a large c*ck inside him. Turns us both on!”
“Who cares about labels?” someone else concludes. “That’s why sexuality is referred to as spectrum these days. There’s who-knows-how-many notches between bi and straight.”
Related: Proof that there are way more straight dudes into gay sex than you might think
Brody
I’m unsure why this site and others continuously refer to bi men as straight, simply because said straight man once had a girlfriend.
For the record, straight people engage in sexual congress with the opposite sex, gay people with the same sex, and bisexuals with either/or sex.
jkb
I’m not okay with this. I don’t need to be competing with straight-identified men for big dicks too!
PRINCE OF SNARKNESS aka DIVKID
“Sperm competition cue” according to the excellent A Billion Wicked Thoughts
PRINCE OF SNARKNESS aka DIVKID
Lecture:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=p-A8GvUehq4
Incidentally the book though inguess in the “popular science” genre is netherless endorsed by no less than Steven Pinker
phallictomato
That “A Billion Wicked Thoughts” video was awesome and quite fascinating. Thanks! Very interesting about straight guys thinking a lot about big dicks as one of the top 4 parts of the body we think about the most – who would have thought gays and straights would have that in common! Now I wanna buy the book.
crowebobby
My problem is exactly the opposite. I’m 100% gay and have been very promiscuous in the past (I’ve just turn 80) and though I’m still as turn on by hot young men and gay porn (if I can find the exact right type and right situation) the idea of actually having sex myself completely repulses me . . . and has for the last 7 years or so. I’ve lived in Berlin and still visit, so getting hot young guys (for pay) is no problem and I can still function . . . with a bit of concentration. This is frustrating as hell and is certainly all in my mind, as friends say, but there’s no way I can just talk my way out of it. It makes it easy for me to believe these guys who say they’re attracted to other men, but not to the idea of having sex with them. (No need to remind how repulsive I must be at 80; I’ve always considered anyone over 25 old . . . except for Keanu Reeves.)
Donston
You overreached with this particular parody. Try again.
crowebobby
Donston: I’d probably be offended if I knew what you mean.
IJelly
Sounds like your repulsed by the idea of someone having sex with a person as old as you are.
That said, the line between repulsion and fetish is often very thin.
Donston
This is pretty standard bi-guy stuff, and most bi/fluid/queer/flexible/etc identifying or behaving men into this category. The majority do not have substantial and sustainable sexual attraction and arousal to the entirety of both men and women. They’re usually turned on by very specific body parts (boobs, a penis, a butt, a vagina, a face) or turned on by masculinity but are not genuinely sexually attracted to men or by femininity but not genuinely sexually attracted to women. This is the cliche type of stuff the “bi movement” try to fight against but prove to be the reality of things in many cases.
Also, this site loves trolling Reddit though everyone knows by now that at least half of the stuff there is nonsense.
PRINCE OF SNARKNESS aka DIVKID
Citations for each of your assertions? Your ass though undoubtedly thoroughly peer reviewed is not considered a reputable source.
Donston
Get ready for one of my patented long responses:
Actually read about cluster b personalities and their sexual behaviors and instincts, read about sexuality from an academic and psychological standpoint and look at the results of real scientific research when it comes to bisexuality. The info is all over Google. I would think someone has smart as you would have dived into that info. I think you’re starting comprehend a lot of what I say (or always has), though you’d never admit it. We’re just starting to see more bi-identifying or bi-behaving men willing to admit these things, or at least admit them while being anonymous on the internet.
Also, the guy claiming to be turned on by seeing men in underwear with big bulges because he imagines it to be himself fits into the “narcissism narrative” that you’re weary of, where individuals are on turned by what they admire or aspire to be or turned on by people that ignite their egos. Whether they admire beauty, a big penis, a great body, admire people who simply admire them, admire straightness or they aspire to be famous, charming, to be more authoritative, aspire to be more female, aspire to be more of a male- that’s sexual behavior and instincts and drive elicited by narcissism and sometimes fetish and megalomania not really inherent orientation. It’s hard to say where that type of stuff fits when discussing orientation. But as I’ve said many times, there are a ton of different psychological and sociological things that affects lots of people’s sexual behavior and identify and what can turn them on that have nothing to do with inherent gender sexual attractions.
PRINCE OF SNARKNESS aka DIVKID
A simple “no” would’ve sufficed.
And, yes, I’m all too familiar with narcissism and unwarranted self-importance, Donston. All too familiar.
jamih
Lol
Mkiel
I find this site obession with so called “straight” very annoying who f***ing cares.
Jaxton
It’s a fetish with dick as object. Big deal.
jkthsnk
Reddit, where the lies write themselves.
Nahald
If he’s fantasizing about men’s private parts then he’s gay no matter what he says. Btw, many men first went with women until they were sure about their own sexuality.
DCguy
Oh maybe she cheated on him because he was a closet case.
And Queerty, sorry but if a guy is fantasizing about sex with men, why are you calling him straight? I’m not bi, and yet I’m shocked by the level of bi-erasure this site tries to engage in.