Here’s How To Be Gay, Hook Up And Find Love In College

safe_imageAh, college. Four transformational years of binge drinking, bad sex, broken hearts and self discovery. Though summer has only just begun, in a few short months teenagers from across the country will be packing up their suitcases and heading off to university.

We think of college sort of like we think of our 20s in general: It was fun, but we have no desire of ever going back.

Video blogger David Levitz has some great advice for gay teens who will be starting college in the fall — from how to meet people, to keeping an open mind, to dating, sex, and more. And some of his advice doesn’t just apply to college kids. For example:

“Now, we all know there are dating apps out there and those can be helpful in terms of meeting people, but you’ve gotta have your expectations set realistically for what they really offer.”

Touché, David.

“LGBT communities in colleges are rather small. Everyone knows everyone. And if you aren’t careful, everyone will know everything.”

Ain’t that the truth!

Check out David’s video below.

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  • blondella

    David is so much better than Davey Wavey. Please stop shoving that naked narcissist down our throat, Queerty.

  • Kamuriie

    God, he’s pretty. “Just based on my personal experience..”

    Yeah, I imagine being a 10/10 changes your experience a little bit, dude. :P

  • bmz

    @blondella: I concur :)

  • JungleBoi

    @blondella: Amen.

  • middleagespread

    Also, keep up with your studies. Don’t fail out chasing after someone. Romance doesn’t pay the bills.

  • jwrappaport

    Some curmudgeonly but good advice to gay men starting college: Focus on your school work. Getting your heart broken is a great way to tank your GPA, and you do not want to spend the rest of your years there salvaging it.

  • jwrappaport

    @middleagespread: A man after my own heart. Beat me to it, but I seldom take my own advice.

  • Bee Gaga

    And…that’s why I sleep with straight boys lol they’re not telling for obvious reasons, and I don’t tell people my business anyway. As far as my LGBTQIA Alliance is concerned, I haven’t slept with anyone on campus lol

  • sejjo

    He’s cute, oh my goodness, he’s really cute. Those eyes, flawless teeth, I think I’m in love.

  • Sebizzar

    @Bee Gaga: Erm, then you mean “str8” boys :P

    Anyway I love this guy’s personality and how he’s always smiling :D
    Very good advice! I hope I can move to a bigger city to start college :(

  • Bee Gaga

    @Sebizzar: If they identify as straight, then that’s what ima call them lol I’m practically a woman, I get mistaken all day everyday for a female in my regular life. Mind you, I’m wearing basketball shorts, sneakers, no make up and a t-shirt with maybe some studs in. So….yea lol

  • Billy Budd

    I like him.

  • iltman

    I’ve been following David on YouTube for a while and he is one of the kindest,sweetest and most level headed people who vlog, he is also a really talented actor and singer. He is also roommates with the equally sweet Neil MacNeil and the two of them together are adorable!

  • Lvng1tor

    @blondella: Since when is voluntarily going on a website and making a choice to click on a link “shoving” anything down your throat? Y’all sound like the same people who complained that ESPN was shoving Mike Sam’s kiss in your face. Ya don’t like it don’t sign on here….A quick google search came up with millions of links for “LGBT Entertainment News”

    As for the video. He’s cute and right College is a microcosm of society at large. If ya didn’t learn in high school (an even smaller example) Don’t be a tramp or it will get around and choose your friends and confidants wisely. While you should never be ashamed of who you are not everyone is worth knowing or knowing you. When it comes to being gay double that! You’re going to college at least pretend to use your head.

  • dugman

    The mentor advice is good but also cultivate a best friend, that you explore bars and coming out in general with. A relationship where you act as each other’s wing man keeping track of each other and alerting each other of potential danger! Oh and participate in and enjoy the LBQT campus events: in my day the dances were great and a great way to meet/meat people!

  • James Hart

    @Bee Gaga: If those “straight” boys are sleeping with another man, they are called gay boys.

  • James Hart

    @Bee Gaga: If you’re “practically a woman,” did you ever think of getting a sex change operation? I’m gay, but I also like being a man.

  • EthanG95

    I live in a catholic college and the “gay culture” is very different. The majority of people who are gay, bisexual, or transgender are closeted to all but close friends, which I think is a good policy in this school. Being bisexual, I feel like it’s almost not worth it to chase guys due to the fact that the sheer number of people within the college who are LGBT is so small. Last year,there were only 3 other men in the school who I knew were gay or bisexual, and two of them graduated. Your best bet in a more conservative school is to find someone outside of the college or have a confidant hook you up.

  • Bee Gaga

    @James Hart: No, identifying as a specific sexual orientation and sexual practice, are not the same thing. If someone says they’re straight, but they may sleep with a man or transsexual every now and then or to pique a curiousity, that doesn’t make them a different orientation. There are tons of gay men who slept with/dated women before they came out of the closet. Does that make them straight men, by your logic? Bisexual maybe? Anyway, whether I like being a “man” or not (which is relative) is beside the point. As I said, I’m practically a woman, because I’m extremely feminine naturally and as I stated above as well, even when I’m wearing nothing special (t-shirt, basketball shorts and sneakers) random people mistake me for a girl. So.

  • sesfm

    The unspoken tip here: Be physically attractive and everything will be a thousand times easier. There’s no chance he encountered anything near the level of difficulty that many students will. What frame of reference can he possibly claim????

  • MacAdvisor

    @blondella: I rather like Davey. I met him for the first time at the SF Pride Parade and he was a decent fellow. He interviewed the people in my group (we build a rather elaborate space for viewing the parade) and he stopped by with his camera crew. Due to a glitch, he stayed with us for about ten minutes and he was charming. I’ve signed up for his newsletter and have enjoyed his videos a great deal. I am not some young muscle boy either, I am 56 and grossly overweight, but he was just a doll and treated me very well. I think you’ve misjudged the lad and should give him a second chance.

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