Milan Christopher is coming to R&B singer Tank’s defense.
Quick backstory: While promoting his latest album Elevation two weeks ago, Tank told an interviewer that a man performing oral sex on another man doesn’t necessarily mean either of them are gay.
“Here’s the thing,” Tank told the podcast Lip Service. “Twice is excessive, but let’s dig into it. He sucked a d*ck once and then he’s like, ‘I’m not sure if I liked it or not. Let me try again.’
“And then he says, ‘You know what, it’s not for me, I don’t like the taste!’ It doesn’t mean he’s gay. It means he sucked d*ck twice… because the art of being gay is being gay.”
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The remarks didn’t go over so well with certain people, mainly homophobes on the internet who don’t understand the concept of bi-curiosity and/or are terrified by their own deep-seated desires.
Now, Milan Christopher has weighed in on the controversy. Speaking to paparazzi from Too Fab, the self-proclaimed “rap phenomenon” voiced his full support for Tank, who, by the way, is a longtime LGBTQ ally.
“If you saw me writing with my left hand, would that negate the fact that I’m right-handed?” Christopher pontificated. “If you saw me eating a salad, does that mean that all of a sudden I’m vegan?”
He then talked about the handful of sexual encounters he’s had with women and how that doesn’t mean he’s straight.
“I spent my whole high school having sex with girls and eating p*ssy. I ain’t seen one person saying, ‘Milan Christopher is straight.’ So, we can’t be as judgmental.”
Christopher then went on to say that people are allowed to experiment. It’s how we figure out what we like and don’t like, after all.
“It takes experimentation. We’re human,” he said. “If you want to get technical, I don’t think a sexual act with a person is what makes you gay or straight. I think having love for that person is what makes you gay or straight.”
Word.
Related: R&B singer Tank says sucking d*ck doesn’t make a man gay
Cam
(Snicker) yeah, because LOTS of people suck a d*ck TWICE because they just were’t sure they liked it the first time.
So 2 years from now he’ll be living with a guy and saying to himself “Hmmmm, after 201 times I’m not sure if I liked it yet….I better try it 202 times”.
Hillers
False equivalency. People eat salads because they’re healthy for you and some people enjoy them. Sucking dick is not a dietary choice, but rather a sexual one.
You can also have deep love for someone and not be sexually attracted to them. We’re delving way deep in the grays here because saying you’re gay is still, on the surface, stigmatized.
Donston
I do take issue with him equating “love” to “gay” and “straight”. You can love someone but love may not at all be attached to passions, sexual love, romantic love or even relationship contentment. “Love” is often a nonsense word in these type of discussions.
Godabed
False, people only eat salads when doctors tell them they are 1 steak away from a heart attack, eat a f*cken salad.
Vegans are as real as wizards, witches, or warlocks.
At the end of the day something has to die for people to live. Equating one life is more or less valuable is a false equivalency.
Let them eat grass, beans,tofu, nuts, fake cheese if they want. And also Let them eat meat, processed foods, sugary drinks if they want. Variety is the spice of life, and you only get one life. All that matters is if you enjoy it.
PLAYS WELL WITH OTHERS
Lots of reasons straight guys suck a cuck…..
#1 being certain substances completely erase inhibitions…
QJ201
No one old enough to chime in with famous line from “Boys in the Band”
Once a experiment (or drunk)
Twice a phase
Three times he likes it
Donston
Some will accuse him of “bi-erasing” with these statements, and he definitely could have given better metaphors and given better insights. But I don’t disagree with his overall perspective. We place too much weight on sexual behaviors and attractions. (Behaviors and even attractions don’t equate to passions or even enjoyment). We don’t allow each other, particularly we don’t allow men, to freely experiment without embarrassment or identity pressures. Lots of folks refuse to acknowledge and respect the romantic, sexual, affection, emotional, relationship spectrum. We use identities too much as dividers, and we constantly argue about what this or that identity truly means. It’s not about identity. It’s about getting to the point of letting each other truly be honest, be free and be okay with every aspect of themselves and their experiences. That’s the only thing that’ll kill homophobia, internalized homophobia, gay shame, hetero dominance and superiority.
But of course, this is another article from Graham about “straight” men and dudes who are with women but have/have had sex with guys. The obsession is off-putting.
innocentgay
Milan Christopher is straight.
Donston
To “innocentgay”. I don’t think Milan is homosexual. And he’s used his connection to the “gay community” as more of a marketing scheme than anything else. But I do believe he has overall preferences towards males at the very least, has overall male ambitions, and he does likely “feel gay”. Folks need to start understanding that these words are mere identities. People often don’t fit perfectly into your definition of things. And people’s sense of self, their journey and their circumstances are often too individual for us to continue to be so identity-dependent and have extreme restrictions.
Some of these “queers” are about straight-worship or about maintaining a proximity to “straightness” or simply about maintaining their own self-identity, which is why they give these “straight” men passes from having to present themselves as “queer”. But even if they are driven by stuff like that, the end justify the means. Telling people that they have to alter their sense of self or embrace whatever identities because of curiosities, experimentation, fluidity or simply because they’re not hetero or homo just eggs on resentments, manipulation, misunderstanding, and hiding behind identity and/or behaviors. It doesn’t assist progress. I care more about honesty, practicality, self-comfort, people doing what they want to do and being with/loving who they really want to be with/love. Identity is less important than those things.
Brian
It wasn’t mostly homophobes that disagreed with Tank. At least half of the comments on the article disagreed with him too.
I still don’t know why so many people care about this. If a guy likes to get it on with another guy now and then just because it feels good, but would never consider being in an actual relationship with another man, I don’t know what that “officially” makes him. Nor do I care whether he calls himself straight or bisexual. He likes what he likes, just like the rest of us do.
Donston
Homophobes and people who are hyper obsessed with identity and the meaning of things are the ones that made a fuss about it. Tank never even said he had any experiences with guys. The conversation had nothing to do with sexuality, identity, experimentation or being “bi-curious”. The people he was talking to took the conversation there in an attempt to make Tank look dumb. “Queers” got dragged into a conversation that had nothing to do with us. And the fact that folks highlighted those comments and made a big deal out of them reflect how male homophobic many still are and how hyper focused on identity people are. Ultimately, just keep it real with yourself and others and do what you want to do. We should all know by that peddling identity and definitions isn’t helping anyone and isn’t really working.
Donston
One thing he says that doesn’t sit well with me is talking about people “needing to experiment”. There are plenty of folks who don’t care to have any type of sexual encounters in their life beyond one gender. And that’s fine. Not everyone who is straight or gay identifying is bisexual, fluid or “bi-curious”.
chupacabra
so what’s he been eating since high school?
Donston
He probably still hooks up with chicks on the low every now and then. He seems like someone who isn’t afraid to sexually engage with anyone. And no matter where a guy is on the spectrum or what type of fluidity he experiences, once he has a decent amount of sexual experiences with a certain kind of person it’s never a big deal to hook up with them again. While he likely gets hit on by a decent amount of females. He’s definitely saying what he’s saying partly out of probable straight/hetero-leaning worship but also because of his own dimensions and experiences.
Although some of his perspective is misguided, it is about time we allow genuine experimentation and sexual freedom for men while also demanding we keep it 100 with each other. But identity/sexual politics, male homophobia and ego are such guiding points for many that I’m not sure we’ll ever get there.
hansniemeijer
I bet that “doesn’t make one gay” is kind of slang for meaning “being gay is not good”. Just another homophobic remark.