Weho Confidntial is reporting that porn actor Adam Faust, who frequently appeared in Hot House Entertainment releases, died Thursday night in New York City:
Strawberry-blond stud Adam Faust was hairy, ripped and all man and he started making XXX movies since about 2004. Although some of his movies are mainstream, he called himself a ‘fisting top’ and described his other specialisms as bondage and S&M. Indeed, he won best fetish escort at the first Annual Escort Awards and has proved a popular figure at Hot House’s Club Inferno Dungeon. He was born in February 1974 in New York, has an MBA and described himself as a great cook. Before his porn career took off, he worked retail in New York.
No information is available yet on the cause of death.
Raziel Kainne
wow- sux. i liked him. without judgment, history would suggest his death was probably drug related… as a human being, he was an entire universe unto himself with desires, dreams, ambitions, fears and friends. people loved him and are mourning for him. what could he have created? what will those close to him do to fill the void? my point is, yeah, he was “just a porn star” but he was also a person, a somebody and i want to feel his death as part of the loss of another living being.
Darren
Rest in peace, how did he die? I may have seen him in a porn but I am not sure since most porn guys from hot house all look the same to me.
Frank
Overdose?
Kenneth Masse
Adam will be surely missed by family, friends, and anyone else that came in contact with him. He was a genuine person whom you could talk to and not just about his porn career. He would joke,laugh at himself, a true gentleman who was taken away from us way to soon. I know I will always remember him and cherish the autograph picture he gave me forever. Rest in Peace Adam.
Kenneth Masse
To put a halt to the rumors before they even get started, Adam Faust died from a heart attack.
Ryan
oh no!…I loved that guy…or at least I jerked off to him regularly for a while.
Great work, rest in peace super star.
Darren
Kenneth Masse-What was the heart attack from? 99.9% of people do not die of a heart attack at 38.
Dave
Did he die from a drug overdose? Most people who are 38 do not die from a sudden heart attack.
Global Traveler
I only knew Adam casually, but he was a really nice guy and I doubt he ever went out of his way to cause anyone unhappiness.
I spoke with his mother this morning. He was back in NY visiting family and contemplating a move back east. He was happy and upbeat about the future. His dad found him unresponsive and despite everyone’s efforts they were unable to revive him.
The COD is a heart attack. The autopsy results (which are SOP in NY for someone Adam’s age who dies suddenly) won’t be back for approximately three months.
I have no idea if his heart attack was induced by substance abuse, but then neither does anyone else commenting on these boards. It is not common, but relatively young people do die from cardiac arrest.
He was someone’s child, so a little restraint and respect is in order.
Matt
GT-People are being respectful it’s just odd that he’d die of a heart attack at 38. If you want to see disrespect for another porn guy who recently died this year queerty ran an article on Erik Rhodes’ death and people there were highly disrespectful to say the least.
Riva Shane
No disrespect but every cause of death is a heart attack since the heart stops when you die. Natural causes are unusual for a fit man of 38 but not impossible.
Jon
I find it hard to believe a 38 year old man who obviously worked out and exercised just died of a heart attack for no reason at such a young age. Regardless of the cause, I think this is just one more of the many examples of how porn is not a good “career” to get into. SO MANY performers seem to end up having a short life span for one reason or another. People should really think twice before getting involved in that kind of life.
Jed
Try dating him.. Had to deal with him slamming and when he slammed he would go on manhunt bbrt adam4adam asspig and find everyone who he could… in 6hours of sleeping one night he screwed/fisted 8 guys from one site..which ended his and my relationship… 🙁 but he was a good guy hence why i dated him till I found out about the others.
Brandon
LMAO I agree Shannon. People in porn are sleazy and not the best people, and yes a lot of them are drug addicts as it appears this guy was. I am not sure why so many people worship them on this site? SMH
Jed-Thanks for explaining it. He was into meth which is itself not surprising. I don’t mean to speak ill of the dead but since he was into meth as Jed the guy who had this guy as a “boyfriend” wrote then it’s not surprising that he died young of a heart attack. It would not be surprising to learn that he was HIV+ since that goes hand in hand with meth and as Jed wrote he went on BBRT (bareback real time).
Nate
@shannon
Obviously you didn’t know the man. He was an accomplished businessman as well as a porn star. He made lots of money for the several companies I knew him to work at and at one point was worth well over a million dollars (before the market crashed and caught everyone). While he did do porn, part of the reason was to demystify and ‘mainstream’ BDSM sex, so in that sense he was trying to be a pioneer for the rest of the BDSM community. Clearly in your perfect world with your perfect self you resent having to deal with anyone who doesn’t live up to your expectations, but I wonder, how perfect are you and how much of that is just pure (imperfect) ego?
While Adam did work out I also know he had several health issues, some from childhood, which would not be readily apparent and may have contributed to his heart attack. While he did get caught up in drugs he also had long periods of sobriety so don’t assume he just died of drugs.
Last, but not least I loved him very dearly, we cooked together, we played together, I have some wonderful memories of him and I miss him very very much. Please have the courtesy not to shit all over my experience of the real Adam from your high horse. The living still have feelings.
Larry
Nate-What he did was pointless, BDSM has been mainstream and completely demystified for decades both among LGBT People and heterosexuals.
Then again tweaked out muscle guys and leather contests are what’s been wrong with the BDSM/leather community for decades and are nothing new.
Larry
Then again he’s only 38 so he wouldn’t know this about how BDSM and leather have been mainstream for decades both among LGBT folk and hets. If you don’t believe this just look at how everyone and their mom is reading the book 50 shades of grey with it’s apparently tame BDSM/kink in it. I have not read it but I know a lot of people who have. There are other examples how both leather and BDSM have been mainstream for decades but then again neither you Nate or Adam were out or sexually active in the 70s and very early 80s.
I have been into leather, various fetishes/kinks, and BDSM for decades and got into it before HIV but I’m 60.
Larry
oops I made a typo that should be “with its apparently tame BDSM/kink in it”.
Larry
It’s a shame that this guy got addicted to drugs, got into barebacking, became HIV+, and died young from being so self destructive with the crystal meth and raw/BB sex.
I’m 60 and I lived through the AIDS pandemic and most of my best friends died from AIDS.
Why some idiot today would now knowingly bareback, use crystal meth, have sex with lots of men without protection both in porn and in his personal life shows how this guy was majorly mentally ill and had a death wish.
I hope that Adam finds the peace in death that he did not have in life and I will keep his family and friends in my thoughts during their time of sorrow.
Jay
With all due respect, let the dead rest in peace and let the family and those who loved him, have their time to mourn. In my opinion, it doesn’t matter what occupation he has chosen, how much money he was worth, who he had sex with, the fact is that he was a young man and is no longer with those who cared about him. I think we should respect the fact that he life, however it was lived, was cut short, however that was and remember that he was someones son, loved one and friend. I don’t believe this is a place for spectulation.
Jake
Speculation? The guy dies of a heart attack at a young age, was apparently a VERY heavy user of meth even injecting it and people are claiming that this wasn’t from drugs?
I feel bad that he died and that he was that self destructive, and that he didn’t get help or get sober.
I found this on another site:
Posted by: NotSurprised
Faust was often seen on cam4.com under the “party” tab. Meths, clouds and then bareback sex all on camera. Not sure why Will Clark needed to imply anything since Faust did it all in public.
He was puffy, bloated and flabby, no longer looking as trim or as athletic as his porn photos. One memorable meeting not that long ago had him visiting another cam4.com cum dumpster who kindly let us know that Faust, who was just off camera, was injecting himself in the penis (3 jabs needed) because he had erectile problems from all the partying.
Brandon
Nate and I’m sure also with “playing” with him (why do so many stupid gay men call sex “play”?) you also used lots of meth and helped feed or enable his addiction.
Too bad he died young from meth.
kevin
@Jon: and I’m sure you’re going to stop watching all that porn you’ve purchased over the years because you know that’s so much of a bad career choice that you are gonna stand on principle and not watch any…right? And can we stop with the judgements? Hypocrites…do you watch porn? do you use it to get off ? then you can not judge any of these guys like…oh i only watch i don’t do…its so different.
Analog
There’s been a recent campaign here to highlight Sudden Adult Death Syndrome.
Young otherwise healthy men do die from cardiac arrest.
It’s not common, but it isn’t exactly rare either.
RIP.
adam
you all are the coldest queens i’ve ever had the displeasure of reading.
something about resting in peace, not speaking ill of the dead, nor casting the first stones, mofos.
hf2hvit
@Philip: With that type of comment, you should be feeling sorry for yourself. I suppose you live without “SIN”????
Brickman
What a bunch of emotional hypocrites!!
Nate
@Brandon: I meant ‘play’ in the context of BDSM, which does not always involve ‘sex’ in the conventional sense. I HATE meth, too many people I know got caught up in it and got damaged in some way and/or died from it. I dated Adam while he was sober. The unmitigated gall of you judgmental fairies is astounding, as is the lack of compassion many of you show. I feel sad for you, for a life without the possibility of love, because you’re never going to achieve love without compassion.
@Larry, I too have been around awhile, I fondly miss Drummer and other outlets that helped mainstream BDSM but I think there are still areas to be explored and still brave explorers out there. Not all porn stars are drug addicted or otherwise self-destructive. It’s very sad that Adam got to that place since he really did have many wonderful qualities and left me personally with some great memories.
I can only hope you reflect on your judgmental vitriol and classless it is to bash the dead (and then the living who cared them. Don’t we all do things in life we aren’t proud of later? Don’t we all have problems at some point? Why is that the only thing you want to remember? Is that what you want everyone to focus on when you’re gone? Maybe your obits will read, “She was a nasty, judgmental bitch who just couldn’t say a nice thing about anyone, I wish she’d never spoken”.
Cam
@Philip:
Yes Phillip, that must be why all of the Bible Belt States have been hit with Natural Disasters in the last two years. They are being punished for their evil anti-gay ways.
DouggSeven
@Kenneth Masse: ”
To put a halt to the rumors before they even get started, Adam Faust died from a heart attack.”
Ah, ok – so drug overdose then…gotcha.
Sansacro
@Philip: Yes, your message reveals just how SAD you are. Hope you have enough Kleenex.
the other Greg
@kevin: You’re going to find this hard to believe, but a lot of gay guys don’t watch porn. Honest! Only porn-addicted losers are sure everybody watches it.
As for “using it to get off” – try getting a life, with real-life guys. Real life – without meth, and with condoms – is a lot more interesting. Maybe you could try it some time.
ron
@the other Greg: Anyone who says they never watch porn is a liar.
the other Greg
@ron: Another porn-addicted loser heard from!
Well I don’t live in a monastery so if this counts, I’ve “seen” porn in passing at a gay bar we go to occasionally where it’s usually on the screens.
Seriously, my boyfriend and I don’t own any porn, or ever rent it, or watch it at any friends’ places. (If we had a friend like that, we probably wouldn’t be wasting time with porn!) From the brief looks I’ve seen at the bar – hardly counts as “watching” – it never looks very interesting and I’ve never understood what the big deal is. It seems to be a substitute for real life for guys who can’t get laid.
dvlaries
Sergio Real in January, Jason ‘Addison’ Andrews narrowly escaping the death penalty for 1st degree murder just after that, Tanner Hayes in April, and now, in less than two full months, Erik Rhodes, Nathan Price and Faust.
*
If I were a gay porn star I’d take the rest of the year off just out of superstition.
Ashton C
Shannon. Are you sure you are not a member of the Westboro Baptist Church?
Rain
You people disgust me. No one will care when any of you die. Let me be clear about that again. NONE OF YOU. You are all nobodies. NOBODIES. No one will give a shit when you die. You all have your own demons, you all live fucking mundane shit lives, don’t fool yourselves. What, you have a nice car? job? friends? abs? Fuck off and die of cancer slowly. It means nothing, you mean nothing. This world wasn’t made for you and all you can do about that extraordinary truth is live meaningless lives and chase money, waste your life in front of a handheld device and anonymously attack someone you don’t even know. And if you did know him, you are even worse of a person for talking about him so terribly. Go fuck yourself. In all honesty, as the kindest part of my heart, I really curse you all and will actively think about your sad meaningless death to come. I hope it is slow and painful.
To actually come on some gay site and shit all over this man is fucking disgusting.
Adam was soft spoken, very kind to his friends and had a wonderful adventurous spirit. I met him at faultline a few years ago and started a long, amazing friendship with him. I never had sex with him, never knew much about his porn career and knew him as the beautiful person that he was on the inside.
We had weekly lunch dates and dinners. We talk about our passions and hopes and future. He had two adorable pups that he spoiled. We traveled a lot around the world together. He joined my group of friends a large group of non-drug using, active, young west hollywood bunch of good people. He never once in his life talked badly about anyone, I never heard him use words in a negative way. He was a peaceful yet conflicted young man. We did have a few talks about his use and he did have long bouts of sobriety. He was doing so much better this past year.
He did have many other health problems that were of their own. A back injury that kept acting up, leg muscle issues among others. He was the sweetest young man I knew and I looked up to him as a friend. He was a human being, better at being simply human than most everyone I have come across. He is most definitely better than all of you.
This sick gay culture we live in. We are worse than straights. The disgusting treatment we give each other instead of being brothers like we should. To show support, love and honesty. Instead we project our insecurities on each other and throw shade, live for money and have the attention span of a Nike commercial.
He wasn’t like that, and I am heartbroken every moment I think about his big heart and perfect smile. We have to bury our friend tomorrow, and strive to live a little bit better because he was in our lives. It was an honor Adam. I love you.
I would ask for respect but I’m a pessimist and an atheist. I don’t expect anything to change for gays anytime soon. Which is the biggest tragedy of all. May I find some peace before my time, when it comes. For the couple of people that will actually care and for the many anonymous strangers who won’t even know I’m gone, or if I do make something of note, take the time out of their sad lives to attack a dead man’s legacy.
Fuck all of you.
Larry
Rain chill out and see a shrink for your anger issues. It’s sad that this guy died and I feel bad for his family, friends, and loved ones but all the barebacking and enormous amounts of drug use were his own choice and he paid the price for it.
I’ll say it again, anyone in this day and age who makes the personal choice to bareback (with strangers I don’t mean people who are completely monogamous and actually monogamous and HIV neg and who do it BB) and use crystal meth has a death wish and is an idiot. What happened to Adam Faust is what happens if you do these things. If you haven’t noticed by now or if you’ve been living under a rock for the past 20 years you’d realize that bare backing and crystal meth use are major issues within the LGBT community and among gay men.
Is it not enough for you that people are saying how this guy should rest in peace and that he’ll find peace and comfort in death that he didn’t have in life?
Or better yet go off and pop in a DVD of Adam Faust or go to your shrine of Adam Faust and j/o to your dead idol.
Rain
He was a friend, if you can read Larry. My anger is quite justified. Sorry everything I said was exactly the truth about your meaningless life. I know you wouldn’t act any different if your best friend just died and was attacked by strangers for no reason.
I never said ‘rest in peace’ or ‘comfort in death’ if you actually took the time to read what I said. I’m an atheist. I don’t believe in that bullshit.
I’m simply stating what’s going on here. A young man just died. His mother has to bury him tomorrow. You should be ashamed of yourself talking about meth and barebacking. You sound like a christian idiot spouting off such fucking nonsense. Who the fuck cares what he did with his life. Everyone has sex. Everyone makes their own choices. Attacking one young man for doing what hundreds of thousands of other people do every day is idiotic and pointless.
You have no fucking idea what actually happened to him or the life he actually lead.
I would love to hear about your fucking boring life. His life did not revolve around meth or BB’ing… he had a decent, active and busy life. You don’t even know what the fuck you are talking about and you come on here like anything you have to say matters, when really what you want to do is feel better about yourself than some poor dead person. Hope you feel like that now. Pat yourself on your back asshole.
Again, I stand by what I say. Fuck off and die slowly from cancer.
Yes I’m pissed. I hate people like you and this shit gay community we have that basically promotes alcoholism, drug addiction and self-hate. If we can’t turn to each other for support, then who?
I had a wonderful friendship with Adam and all you anonymous shitbags want to do is feel like you’re better than a total stranger. Get fucked.
Fox
@Rain: I’m sure the friends and family of the people you just insulted and wished death on–who would also have had weekly dinners and talks about their dreams and thought of them as wonderful people–would care if they died and would have a similar view towards you for what you said. They are ‘nobodies’ to you, but to someone else they might mean the world. To most people Adam Faust was a nobody they didn’t even know existed. He was probably a nobody to some people who did know who he was. A nobody who wasted his life in the porn industry, on drugs or unsafe sex. What legacy has he left for the world at large? How was his life any less meaningless than the people you just condemned? Was he any greater merit to society than the people you just denounced as worthless?
I hadn’t heard of him before this, and don’t know if the things people have said here are true (that he used meth, had unprotected sex, etc.) or if it is all just slander. To me, he was nobody. Doesn’t mean I don’t feel bad that he died so young, even if I disapprove of the choices he made that may or may not have contributed to his death. You knew him, but to others he meant as much as those people you just told to ‘die slowly of cancer’ do to you.
Just being the same (gay, in this case) doesn’t mean you have to withhold criticism of another or call them out on their choices. It doesn’t mean everyone who does is just being negative or projecting insecurities on to others. Doesn’t mean all they do is chase money and sling insults, just like being in porn (or doing drugs/barebacking) means that’s the total sum of Adam Faust’s life. Especially when you’re judging that from some comments on a website.
But ‘fuck all of you’, that was a great example of ‘showing love for your brothers’.
edc415
I met Adam at Folsom Street Fair a few years ago. He was down to earth, sexy, uninhibited and a friendly kindred spirit. I am sad hearing about his passing.
I am grateful that such a sexy man did do porn, and opened up people to different things. He was always sexy with a mischievous glint in his eyes.
Whether his heart attack was genetic or from addiction, why all the hate? Both heart disease and addiction are rampant in both gay and straight communities. Both are DISEASES. Would you treat a sick person with compassion, or with hate? Compassion is the answer.
For all the porn haters: Pornography is healthy, especially done by people like Adam and the companies he worked for. So is masturbation. I am not much of a watcher, but when I do get the urge, it is great to have options rather than have to go out and look for sex.
RIP Adam Faust. You were loved and you will be missed. My heart goes out to your family and friends. Please know that Adam was a wonderful young man.
Nate
@Larry: You really are a poor excuse for a human being Larry, making all kinds of assumptions about Adam without knowing him and all kinds of assumptions about his friends (like you’d have any fucking clue about how old I am or when I came out, please asshole!). I remember the early 80’s, my friends dropping like flies from AIDS, making quilts, going on TV for gay rights, and to get something going on HIV meds, and to make sure they didn’t put all us queers in some death camp there was so much fear. We pulled TOGETHER, we didn’t spend our time trying to pull each other down. Yes, meth is bad for anyone who does it, but it doesn’t DEFINE that person as the only thing they are in life. It take TWO to bareback, it’s a stupid choice but it’s both people’s choice. Adam may have struggled with some bad choices but he was a great guy and he is missed. Bitter old queens like you aren’t. If you can’t say anything nice, then shut the fuck up!
Rain
I have no love for my brothers. Trust me on that. I never spoke of myself ever in these posts, if, again, any of you people read them.
Why are you people pointless and meaningless? Because what I just said in the earliest posts. You come on here and anonymously bashed someone you don’t know. Why is he any better? Because not once in his life did you use negativity or take the time you all are taking to hurt someone. His legacy is none of your business. Just because he was in some porn videos, like everyone else in this stupid x-tube world we live in, you think you have any right to speak about him. You don’t. You never will. Americans are so fucking self-righteous it is sick.
You think just because you suck in oxygen and earn a paycheck everything you say matters. When NONE of it ever will amount to anything.
His porn, his life is equal to your shit life, my shit life. That’s what I’m talking about.
Just because you’re not BB’ing or meth’n the night away like you all were there in his life everyday… Which, he was not… doesn’t mean your boring, pointless lives are any better.
I am angry and bitter, yes. I will someday heal my heart from this loss.
But again, next time any of you people feel like taking a dead man down a peg about shit you have no idea about, feel free to jump in front of a bus instead. Because we’re just floating on a rock in the vacuum of space being pulled around the gravity of the hydrogen and helium ball that is a part a fucking multiverse that we mean shit to.
Sorry if my bitterness gets to any of you. Your astounding disrespect gets to me.
Again, please die painfully when it is your time to go. Thanks.
Rain
And for the record I am 28 years old. I met Adam when I was turning 22.
I do not do drugs, bareback or watch that kind of porn. He was one of my best friends ever. He was a wonderful young man. I will keep saying that till the day I die. I wish I could live as quietly, honestly and sweetly as he did with his time on this planet.
I really wish I was a better person not for hating my community and hating all of you. But I’m not a better person, but Adam sure was.
Fox
@Rain: I’m not American, for a start.
I don’t disrespect Faust nor am I trying to take him down a bet. To be honest, I wouldn’t have posted at all if it weren’t for your comment.
His legacy is no one else’s business. So why are you going on and on about the worth of other’s lives you know nothing about while badmouthing people who do that to Faust? You going on and on about how boring and pointless the lives of anonymous strangers online are, when you have no idea who they are or what they do beyond some letters on a screen. How do you know everyone who was critical of Faust thinks everything they say matters just because they ‘suck in oxygen and earn a pay check’? Maybe they don’t think it matters and just wanted to say it. (And what’s with your apparent negativity towards getting a pay check?)
You have no love for your brothers. Fine, you’re not obligated to do so. So why are you criticising people for not showing a quality you yourself aren’t making any effort to show? Maybe someday you’ll get past that pessimism and stop wishing people were dead because you’re upset over their meaningless comments on some web site. Maybe grieving isn’t something you should be doing in front of a computer as you shout at strangers.
edc415
@Rain: Rain – Thank you for shedding so much life and light about Adam. I am glad you are a witness to what a wonderful man he was.
Sounds like you had a wonderful friendship and he had a profound effect on your life. You have every right to feel angry and sad. Most people your age haven’t had to go through traumatic and sudden death like some of us (I am 50 and experienced the AIDS epidemic first hand both as a caretaker and survivor). I am really sorry for your loss. My hope was that the younger generation wouldn’t have to experience loss at the level we did back in the 80s and 90s.
Rain – Sharing about Adam is healthy. Dispelling mis-information is healthy.
What got me through all my losses was sharing about them and getting some therapy. Self-care is sexy – if you have some resources please use them to keep your sanity and finding ways of dealing with your best friend’s death.
Adam would want you to be happy, Rain. Take the time you need to mourn, express yourself freely, and know that not all gay men are evil.
I appreciate your sharing – it confirms what I felt when I met Adam briefly a few years ago.
Rain
I’m criticizing the people who took the time out of their day to bad mouth Adam. There are over 35 posts of it when I decided to click on this link. I decided to respond, maybe that’s out of my own anger. I am not anywhere close to dealing with this. I am in an airport getting on a plane to bury my friend tomorrow. It is indeed my own fault for clicking this link, reading what people have to say and responding. I felt compelled to. He is my dear friend and I never expected such terribly things to be said about someone I cared about so deeply.
I am young and live with my heart on my sleeve I am well aware of the kind of person I am. It doesn’t mean I cannot defend my friend and attack those who do not know him. Fox, you responded after my first post. I can definitely say what I want just like everyone else in this thread can. I am only sad I let my anger contribute to the negativity already here.
It has affected me greatly and I’m sitting at an airport alone, and decided to search for Adam. Big mistake. I will go back to being a normal nobody who loved a friend greatly. I will forget this kind of world exists and that I am a human, a hypocrite, a flawed person going through grief reacting where I shouldn’t.
Go about your day. and again though, because it does make me feel better when I say it.
Go jump in front of a bus, please.
the other Greg
Okay, okay, OKAY, he was a fucking saint!
@Rain: “He never once in his life talked badly about anyone, I never heard him use words in a negative way.”
Sure, he figured you were doing that job.
“I know you wouldn’t act any different if your best friend just died and was attacked by strangers for no reason.”
That tends not to be a problem, because most of us have best friends who aren’t famous for being exhibitionists. (“Not that there’s anything wrong with that.”)
Well let’s all play “Candle In the Wind” and cry about the evil, awful, non-existent “gay community.” Damn, it’s so annoying when someone goes out of their way to become FAMOUS and then those petty non-famous people feel free to make comments about you! Even when you die! How dare they! Adam must be having a nice chat with Marilyn up there.
Doug
@Brandon:
To all of those who sit in judgement, get a life. Adam was a very nice guy, had time for anyone who said hello and a good friend to many. Losing someone this young is a tragedy. The further tragedy is that his father found him and could not revive him. It is true that he had a problem with drugs but he was excited that he was getting sober. And being relatively young is not exclusive of having heart attacks. I have seen where high school athletes die on the field from it. I also had a friend that had a full on stroke at the age of 17. Young people are not immune to death and illness.
And for all of you who blame porn for his drug problem, seriously??? I have been in dozen’s of porn movies and have never touched drugs. Many of my friends in porn have not done drugs. I live in SF and know a lot of porn people. Most of the guys I know who have had major drug problems worked in the corporate world. Drugs effect people in every life style. The only difference between the porn stars that you see that are drug addicts and the ones who aren’t is that NOT doing drugs is not news/gossip worthy.
As you sit at your computer and condemn others just remember, it is easy to bad mouth others when you have no life of your own to talk about.
Fox
@Rain: But this isn’t a case of people finding a civilian and picking at their life and their choices. Faust put himself in the public eye, albeit to a limited section of the population. Public figures have to endure these kind of comments (whether or not it is right that they do). From just reading comments on articles from site’s like this, you always seem to get at least one person who speaks ill of porn star’s characters ( “So-and-so is famous in his local area for his drug abuse/rampant barebacking/being a horrible person”) followed by people who say the opposite.
But this is no different than what mainstream celebrities face if they die in unusual circumstances. When Amy
Winehouse and Whitney Houston died, people instantly started talking about how it was caused by their excesses and addictions, that the drinking and the drugs killed them. This isn’t a ‘nasty gay community’ thing, it is a trait found across society. The lives of the famous become fair game for anyone.
Insulting the dear friends of other people and telling them they should die isn’t going to help or change that. Nor is putting the blame on the gay community when it’s not something unique to it, even if it is something that might be worth the effort of changing.
Brandon
Doug quit trying to claim that people who do porn don’t use drugs and don’t do it raw. I agree with Shannon’s post and Larry’s post-this guy is a prime example of what’s wrong with the porn industry and you’re in denial and very naive if you actually believe that most of the people you know in porn have never used drugs or don’t use them.
Yes I do have a life and a partner, what’s your point?
Rain-get some help you need it; but so does Doug.
Larry
Thank you Fox! Barebacking and meth are and have been MAJOR problems within the LGBT community for decades! Why do Adam’s so called “friends” want to suddenly push these issues and topics into the closet and not talk about them even though their so called “friend” Adam was a IV meth user and addict, and barebacker that’s HIV+-since he and his partners were into barebacking he purposely infected others with other strains of HIV and got infected with new strains but that’s what happens when two HIV+ people bareback. Then you have guys like Nate who are pretending that everything Adam did was fine and that oh things were so much better in the 80s when we were all dying of AIDS. The only bitter queens here are people like Nate, Rain, and Doug who are mad that people are telling the truth about how barebacking and meth will make you die young.
Adam’s friends seem to want to pretend that he was a perfect person when in reality he was human. I’m not sure why some of them are even claiming that he didn’t die young from meth or that a lot of meth use (particularly IV meth) didn’t weaken his heart and body over time? It’s not normal for someone who is 38 to die of a heart attack. It would not be surprising to learn that Adam also used steroids and those combined with meth are what killed him since this happened to Erik Rhodes who was another highly self destructive porn guy like Adan Faust.
Nate
@Larry: Shut the fuck up already you psycho. Or get off your soapbox and ascend to heaven so us “mere mortals” can live our lives without your incessant pontificating. You know who makes bad choices? EVERYONE including you. You know who’s used drugs? Elton John, David Bowie, The Stones (hell, nearly everyone ho made music in the 60’s and 70’s), Byron, Rimbeau, Verlaine, Freud, Roman emperors, Pharos, Chinese emperors, Bill Clinton, Barack Obama, George W. Bush…and on and on and on. Some struggled and were successful in that struggle, some weren’t and got hurt by it or died. All those people mentioned contributed other things to other people’s lives too. Adam was completely up front with me about both his drug use, his HIV status and some other issues on the first date, I am thrilled that I chose to look past that to the person he could be, probably wanted to be all the time – but none of us ever are that perfect are we? I’m sad he’s gone. Like Rain I’ll miss him very much because he enriched my life. I’m also angry at you because you’re sitting behind a keyboard, talking shit about people you don’t know and have never met, making shit up as you go along, all so you can pontificate about your agenda (drugs and porn are bad, anyone who differs from that opinion is a loser). Well, fuck your agenda, it has no place in my remembrance of a friend. Maybe you should just go join the Westboro Baptist Church or an Islamic Jihad, I hear they have no tolerance for anyone else’s opinions either. Better yet, just be quiet and think about YOURSELF and all the things you might do better before you start casting random aspersions at everyone around you to make up for whatever your damage is.
Larry
Nate you’re the only psycho here.
I stills stand by what I said that barebacking and using crystal meth are only things that an idiot today would do.
yeah right
Nate wants to revise history, in the 80s some LGBT people did come together when AIDS happened, however a lot of gay men were bitchy, back stabbing, and yes most of them were effeminate queens like you Nate and Rain.
It’s as someone else said in another thread LGBT people particularly gay men LOVE to eat our own and it’s been this way for decades.
People like Rain and Nate should join the Westboro Baptist church, or go help out Santorum and the Bachmanns since they’re both on that level with their rage and hate.
the other Greg
“Even when you died, well the press still hounded you. All that Queerty had to say was that Adam was found in the nude. And it seems to me, you lived your life like a candle in the wind… never knowing… if it would be hot enough to cook that meth…” (Or whatever the hell you do with meth, I don’t know how it works!)
@Nate: Well there are drugs and there are drugs. Meth is one of the, let’s say, most problematic. If all those people on your list had used meth for a few years instead of hallucinogens, cocaine, even heroin, they all would have died young. (Or younger than they did.) You even include Bill Clinton, who probably only did pot (inhaling or not). Most of us probably consider marijuana barely a “drug” at all.
I’m unfamiliar with Adam’s work but if he glorified barebacking in his films, how many young gay men did he influence to become HIV+?
Carlos
I agree Greg, this is about meth it’s not about other drugs.
Adam Faust is a tragic example of what’s wrong with the porn industry, and he did it to himself since he made the personal choice to use meth and bareback-and infect others with new strains of HIV and get infected with new strains and mess up his own immune system by getting reinfected and making the choice not to have safer sex.
Adam Faust’s gay porn films include:
LA Raw
Booted
Sweet Spot
Internal Combustion
Cock Hungry Dads
Unspeakable
Knuckle Sandwich
Passio
Depraved
Folsom Leather
Go Deep: Into the Dark
How to Seduce a Straight Man
Michael Lucas’ Auditions Vol 15
Michael Lucas’ Auditions Vol 16
Mister Fister
Ritual
Hairy Rugged & Raunchy
Daddies & Pigs
Dive in Deep
Blond Leading the Blond
The Dicks of Hazzard
Fistpack 4: Nutts for Butts
Fucked
Hole Sweet Hole
Manhole
ManPlay: Boot Camp
Screw 2: Cut to the Chase
Carlos
I agree Greg, this is about meth it’s not about other drugs.
Adam Faust is a tragic example of what’s wrong with the porn industry, and he did it to himself since he made the personal choice to use meth and bareback-and infect others with new strains of HIV and get infected with new strains and mess up his own immune system by getting reinfected and making the choice not to have safer sex.
Carlos
Just google Adam Faust bareback and you’ll see the bareback vids he was in.
Global Traveler
I think Adam would be appalled at the amount of vitriol and the comments coming from both sides on his account.
As usual
Agreed Global traveler.
Yeah he might have been a porn star but he had his family, friends and loved ones as everyone else does. Unfortunately, people in the sex industry in general, porn included, often times get caught up in an extremely seedy lifestyle and have a very hard time getting out, and these guys get taken advantage of by porn directors and studios who see a pretty face, nice dick, and cute ass but couldn’t care less about the actual person doing the porn. These guys do escorting on the side, often bareback sex included and other sex acts that are very high-risk, hard drugs, meth/coke, heroin, steroids, alcohol, constant partying, constant travel, being judged and rated as an individual almost solely based on looks, having men throw themselves at you. It’s a potentially fun way of life but also extremely dangerous and a way of life that can chew you up and spit you out quickly.
the porn industry is toxic
99% of what the porn media writes about some porn star’s background and education are lies. They love to make it look like these guys are just like you and me, intelligent men who simply like the sex but who live very normal, profitable lives away from the camera. That may be true of a tiny few, but for the most part gay porn stars are all messed up, drugged up & diseased losers who turn to porn because it’s the only way they have of making any money. Plus they have easier and more affordable access to the dope (meth and coke) by living in that milieu.
Nate
@yeah right: You need to go look up “rage” and “hate” in a dictionary, you’re using the terms wrong. I’m pissed off that someone is spouting nonsense about my dead friend and nonsense that “oh, if we just cleaned up drugs and stopped porn the world would suddenly be a perfect place”. We won’t, we didn’t with prohibition, we haven’t with “the war on drugs”, the best we’ve done is arm Mexican cartels with our own guns and wasted countless lives instead of helping people stay off them. Porn has been around since at least the dawn of cities and possibly before (ever seen those carved stone fetish dolls from 5000 B.C.?, there’s rude drawings near the pyramids too), it’s always going to be with us. Perhaps all you see is Adam as a symbol, and perhaps all you can see is something hateful in that symbol, well, that’s all in YOUR head, it has nothing at all to do with the reality of who Adam was. I guess I have a rule I generally try to live by, “if you don’t know then shut up and listen and maybe you’ll learn something”.
@the other Greg, yes, meth is bad, so are heroin, cocaine, alcohol, even pot, people have died using all of them. Some people have lives and do great things regardless. Adam was sober when I knew him and trying to encourage others to stay sober too, I respected that. What do you do when you’ve made a bad choice besides attempt to make it right? As for glorifying barebacking he didn’t with me, we used condoms. I can’t really speak to that at all because it wasn’t my experience with him.
@Global Traveler, you’re right, Adam would be appalled, and for that I’m sorry, but he wouldn’t stand down from a fight either. I guess I feel like these know-it-all bitchy queens bashing my friend for no other reason than to get their troll on deserves a response but you are probably correct, I should just bow out, they’ll spew whatever venom they have into the ether and I’ve said my piece.
the truth
A good friend once told me there are 3 reasons why guys go into porn: they’re escorts and it’s advertising; they have major psychological damage (like body dysmorphia, or confidence issues); or they’re sex addicts, or as we like to call them, pigs. Faust was an escort.
Which is not to say that there aren’t other elements that he suffered; he was clearly using steroids (one does not go from 160 lbs with a belly to a ripped 145 — and back — in a couple of months). The root cause of his death, like Rhodes, was probably the stress the ‘roids put on his heart, especially given that HIV, high doses of IV meth, and the meds stress the heart as well. And it was commonly known that he had to use injectables to get it up, a side effect of meth. More heart stress.
The bottom line is that, once again, we have a dead porn star who worked with, ostensibly, the major studios who cared so little about him as a person that they didn’t do anything to help him out and get him into treatment/NA. Well, unless you consider looking the other way as help. Even Will Clark, one of the industry’s most prolific concern trolls, knew Faust was having problems with drugs, and didn’t care enough to pick up the phone or try to get .
I know the studio reps will issue their statements of condolences, noting how hot he was, and such a great guy, blah, blah, blah. You could take the last one (Rhodes?) and just change the name. It’s not just another business, and for reasons too numerous, lengthy and complicated to go into here. It is one of the few industries that relies on a specific set of personalities to exist, and does little to protect the persons behind the facades, and in these cases, takes an active interest in not saying or doing anything to break the downward spiral.
OMO
@Nate: Nate, I don’t know anything about him, but it does not matter on Queerty. It does not matter if you are a pornstar that has passed away or Anderson Cooper these people who hid behind their computer screens will tear you down. I chalk it up to jealousy and envy. The funny thing is that with people who do porn-I’ve seen the same people praise them for their bodies and skills while they are alive and then drag them through the mud after they die. I’m so sorry for you losing your friend and the awful things people have said.
Global Traveler
@The truth
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Very well stated. Difficult to hear, perhaps, but right on the money. But. At the end of the day. Very very sad. No one deserves to die at 38. And certainly no parent deserves to find their dead child or to have to bury one.
I only knew him casually and I wouldn’t be so bold (arrogant???) as to portend what was going on in his mind. . But my limited exposure to him was a pleasant one. I knew nothing of his drug use but then again I wasn’t that close to him.
The conversation I had with his mother was heart rending. She clearly loved him. I have no idea how she held it together. But she was warm and pleasant and addressed me by my name (which must have been in his phone).
So a heavy sigh.
yeah right
Nate reading comprehension is NOT your friend.
Nobody is saying that if we got rid of porn and drugs the world would be a perfect place however the porn industry does attract self destructive and damaged men and women into it. Adam Faust is just one example of many of people like this who had drug addictions and became HIV+ from deciding to do porn and be a wh0re and it’s sad that he let bareback sex while intentionally infecting others with multiple strains of HIV, being in porn, and the meth rob him of his potential as a human being.
the other Greg
@Nate: I don’t see anyone advocating Prohibition here. Some of us are making fun of the ubiquity of porn in “gay culture” (I always put that lame term in quotes) but that doesn’t mean any of us wants it to be suppressed or made illegal.
“yes, meth is bad, so are heroin, cocaine, alcohol, even pot, people have died using all of them.” Uh, who ever died from smoking pot? I’m actually an advocate for legalizing it.
“Adam was sober when I knew him….” Ugh, 12-step psychobabble. I’ve often thought the all-or-nothing 12-step attitude sometimes causes more harm than good, since it often seems to cause people to give up and go wild when they make a slip.
I’m glad to hear he used condoms with you, and perhaps with everyone in his off-camera life, that’s great, but the point was that he did otherwise for the camera.
Steve
I agree Greg that “gay culture” is a stupid term. There’s no such thing as a “gay culture” and drag queens, porn guys, boring LGBT bars and dance clubs, and being a bitchy queen do not make an actual culture at all.
I agree with you that you don’t die from smoking herb or that you’d have to smoke an insane amount of it and you’d probably die from lack of oxygen and not from pot. You can also eat herb or vaporize it.
Adam DID NOT use condoms off with everyone off camera. A lot of men have seen him smoking meth and barebacking on cam4 under the party section as someone else posted. Even the guy who “dated” Adam said how he would use lots of meth and go out and have sex with lots of men as a bottom all without condoms.
The entire thing is sad and only someone who is majorly mentally ill, an idiot, or has a death wish would actually knowingly bareback and inject meth.
Kurt
I agree with you Shannon, these guys are NOT role models and it’s not surprising that they get caught up in meth and other drugs like it, and into bareback sex.
Eddie
Porn as prostitution put a price on sex. So a perfect natural act become vile. Bareback sex tells us that it’s practitioners are careless about themselves and their partners’ health. Everybody knows what drugs do and where they lead. So those who are involved with porn/prostitution, bareback and drugs are living a wretched life.
peter
Heart failure caused from steroid abuse? The pressures, once reserved for women, and now becoming commonplace among young through middle-aged men, to be the perfect male specimen of muscle and mass… must be even greater with guys like Adam and his field of work. The “Adonis” factor is very real and some men will do almost anything to get there – even risking heart disease upon injections of hormones and other stimulants to meet the expectations of the adoring fans. Let this be a lesson to all, sometimes a few extra pounds is truly much healthier.
Kyle
Brandon, brandon, brandon…
For all the BIPHOBIA you fat, old, ghetto thug talk about…you sure do practice a lot of HOMOPHOBIA don’t you? you look like a walking fat turd. that’s why no gay man wants you and you have to pretend to be hetero with your hetero washed “bi” friends.
USC Trojans Fan
@Kyle: Agreed. Very surprised the same Brandon that was screaming about sensitivity training for bisexuals is behind many of these generalizations against gay men, and horrible commentary against this gay man who died. You can just tell he’s cheerful about it. As another previous poster mentioned in the Mika thread, I do believe Brandon is a bitter bisexual who takes out his anger of gays out on these various articles. It’s sad. You feel for the guy knowing he’s a very angry person inside.
Brandon
Kyle or should I say the other Greg, it’s not homophobia to say that the porn industry is full of men and women who are drug addicts, who get offered drugs like crystal meth and other hard drugs, and that a lot of people who do porn get into escorting and bareback sex. I know a straight guy who did a few videos for an amateur porn studio and he even told me it’s like this among heterosexual porn people which is not surprising.
No not all people who do porn are drug addicts, or use drugs, or are escorts but the men and women like Adam Faust who seem to think that you’ll make tons of money in porn, or that being in porn and escorting is a lifelong career are sadly mistaken.
Actually men do want me but I tell them how I have a partner who loves me and he’s been with me for two decades, and we’re monogamous TYVM.
Reality Bites
@yeah right: You’re bashing effiminate gay men in the same post you’re saying gay men like to eat their own? YOU MUST BE one of those bisexuals from the other post. That was their exact wording in knocking down gays and praising bisexuals. You bisexuals are what is wrong with this world. You can’t pick a hole to stick your junk in, and the world sees you perverted freaks for exactly what you are. You deserved to be shunned by society. And then that creates an anger in you, so you lash out on fem gays, and gays in general. NO ONE WANTS TO BE AROUND YOU PERVERTS! You’d sleep with everyone and everything if given the chance. Don’t be angry at the world for knowing you all think about sex 24 hours a day
Brandon
LMAO now even more of the other Greg’s alt posting names have shown up like that foolish Trojan Fan.
It’s not homophobia to write that it’s not good that this man or anyone for that matter decides to do sex for pay, use crystal meth and other drugs, use steroids, makes the choice to purposely get infected with HIV and infect others with new strains of it when they do it raw, and have no other main aspirations or goals than to do porn.
The porn studio executives claimed that this guy Adam Faust had an MBA. If he really had an MBA why did he get into porn and doing sex for pay? The whole thing does sound totally fishy and made up as other people posted.
For the last time I’m a gay man. I’ve never had any sexual attraction to any women, and I have never had sex or attempted to have sex with a woman.
T.J
@yeah right: You sure do have issues with effiminate gay men for someone who boldly claims the community needs to be kinder to one another and unite. LOL the general hypocrisy in many of these comments is amusing for those of us who visit.
USC Trojans Fan
@Brandon: Yet you continue to make generalizations about gay men. I’m not Greg, or even the other poster. I post as USC Trojans Fan and have been on this site, and every other prominent gay blog for years now. Have made a great many cool friends off these blogs too. And you know what those friends have in common? they don’t make ignorant dumb @$$ statements about an entire gay community. People like you with your generalizations about gays are no different than an ignorant Faux News viewer who thinks we’re all drug ridden, destructive, predators. Except you claim to be gay, and should know better than to perpetuate that myth. You clearly don’t know many gay people, and admited so yourself, and hang out mostly with bisexuals, because of your disdain for gay community. That is your own prejudice. But then you take that prejudice and project it onto everyone you ecnounter, all while making claims “all gay people are like this”
how would you like it if the posters here made claims about you and how because you’re a black man you must be (fill in the blank)? Oh, is THAT out of line? Too inappropriate to make generalizations about black men. Yet, you use anecdotes from the gay community to make sweeping generalizations about gay men. You’re not immune from criticism because you’re a double minority, Brandon. That doesn’t mean you aren’t capable of being just as much of a tireless bigot as the next man, nor does it mean you don’t deserve to be called out on it. Which you have been many times on here.
Carlos
The man has passed on. To his family and friends, many condolences, heartfelt sincerity and well wishes sent your way. Know that many people do care and he is probably in a better place, full of peace. May your hearts heal, and may this man rest in peace.
For people who thrive off making attacks at dead people on a public forum, and you know they are not here to defend themselves. Just know…karma exists. It exists in so many forms. It finds those who thrive off cruelty and catches them, and boy does it. Considering all the forms of cancers going around these days, I’d be mindful of how I speak of the dead, and be a little more compassionate, but than again, some people deserve a nice dose of karma.
Brandon
@USC Trojans Fan: I’m not Greg, or even the other poster. I post as USC Trojans Fan and have been on this site, and every other prominent gay blog for years now.
Troll please, give it up. Everyone here on this site knows you’re a troll and you post under other names including The Other Greg. Hell you might even be Jason, Kev C, or even JayKay. You’re not a regular poster under TrojansFan here on queerty or other LGBT blogs and sites. I’ve been reading queerty and posting here for years and you’re new.
If you actually believe that what I wrote about Adam Faust and the porn industry, meth, and bareback porn is homophobic you’re crazy and you have a persecution complex.
Coolcat-Houston
Sorry to hear. May he rest in peace, and well wishes sent to his loved ones. Don’t see why this story has sideswept, but one thing you’ll notice on queerty is there are a few people on here who are truly angry souls and will use any outlet to vent. Don’t let them take up any of your thoughts. Best of luck.
ALS
@Brandon: stop acting like a sassy ghetto black gay. it’s not cute. writing “SMH” and “troll, please” stop acting like a caricature. gross.
Zach
*Yawn* Now you’re going on about Karma again Carlos or should I say Global Hindu.
http://www.queerty.com/mika-is-gay-finally-20120804/#comment-676380
Adam Faust was a public figure, and he would be the first to admit that he used meth and had bareback sex-it was not a secret.
Secondly it’s sad that he died but I also hope that he finds the peace that he did not have in life and I wish condolences for his friends, family, and loved ones.
USC Trojans Fan
@Brandon:
Hmmm, I think you tell yourself everyone who disagrees with you is the same person to make yourself feel better. LOL it’s so obvious. You have a complex where you can’t feel alone. In every post, you have to highlight that you’re somehow winning in numbers and don’t actually argue a point. You just keep repeating how the other person you’re arguing with is one person, and not many people. That doesn’t actually tackle their point, ya know. It just says you’re desperate to be in a pack and can’t stand the idea of being one on one in a verbal exchange. I don’t know who the heck this greg character is, and if it’s the person above babbling about STDs and barebacking and LGBTs, he sounds even more irrational than you.
I do believe you have serious problems with gay people, notably gay men. I also see hints of anger being projected due to unresolved personal issues (Daddy issues?) being projected on gay men. And I also notice you’re getting defensive in having these points brought to your attention. Why? because you feel it will discredit the credibiility of your many other posts where you attempt to bash on the gay man in the storyline? A pattern is as a pattern does, and your pattern has been called out. Now if others wish to see the obvious pattern in your posts against gay men, that’s on them. But it’s important to get that sneaky cat out of that bag you’ve been hiding.
Art Smith
To Adam’s family, please visit the Mika thread on this site. You’ll notice many of the commentators blasting your family member/friend are identified members of the bisexual community. The same bisexual community the gay community has been tangled with for years now. They come on here and pretty much rip every gay person; Chris Colfer, Anderson Cooper, Adam Lambert, or any deceased gay individual a new one. You’re not alone, but you should take away that most of the people showing you respect are gay people, and his angry attackers are known members of the bisexual community. Now you know.
Zach
Art Smith S T F U you’re a troll and spreading lies and hate speech and biphobia about bisexuals, so you’re just as bad as homophobic people are.
puking
@Zach: hate speech? HATE SPEECH? You bisexuals supress yourselves so much by playing straight that it’s caused you to get alll kinds of EFFED UP in the head. No, there’s no such thing as “hate speech” against bisexuals. Wanna know why? 99.9999999999% OF THE WORLD WOULD BE GUILTY OF HATE SPEECH cuz thats how many of us are repulsed by you all. your NOT a sexual minority. your just a confused, sexual hungry, preverted, greedy bunch who want special priviliges and recognition for wanting to sleep with everything in sight. you will never be considered a minority group. well, you all are an extreme minority of the population. and you’ll never have a movement or much support because of it. TELL THE WOMEN YOU SLEEP WITH THAT YOU ALSO SLEEP WITH EVERY MAN YOU SEE. They have a right to know. you preverted FREAKS. it’s disgusting that you have the nerve to lead women on, expose them to your diseases, then sleep with gay men, and bash gays when you want, then go back to poor women who have no idea about your double lives. FREAKS!
USC Trojans Fan
@Zach: What constitutes hate speech? When you bisexuals are offended? That’s when everyone has to wrap it up, call it quits, have their freedom of speech eliminated? Is it then not hate speech to have the horrible things said about a dead man not here to speak for himself, in front of his loved ones? That’s not hate speech. SMH. I have to agree with others, this is alll very enlightening about the bisexual community and how vicious you all operate. This whole time, I never understood the jabs and comments my close friends made about bisexuals. I truly get it now.
To this mans family. Please know that the enslaught of attacks are coming from a crowd of militant bisexuals on here. As I’m sure you’ve experienced in your lives, bisexual men are a very agressive bunch who often harbor homophobia. It translates in their actions and words. Well wishes sent in this time of hardship for you all.
Zach
Trojans Fan-Let’s consider the source here. Why should this guy’s family listen to a trolling, insane bigot like yourself and the other names including puking and The other Greg that you post under?
@puking: hate speech? HATE SPEECH? You bisexuals supress yourselves so much by playing straight that it’s caused you to get alll kinds of EFFED UP in the head. No, there’s no such thing as “hate speech” against bisexuals. Wanna know why? 99.9999999999% OF THE WORLD WOULD BE GUILTY OF HATE SPEECH cuz thats how many of us are repulsed by you all. your NOT a sexual minority. your just a confused, sexual hungry, preverted, greedy bunch who want special priviliges and recognition for wanting to sleep with everything in sight. you will never be considered a minority group. well, you all are an extreme minority of the population. and you’ll never have a movement or much support because of it. TELL THE WOMEN YOU SLEEP WITH THAT YOU ALSO SLEEP WITH EVERY MAN YOU SEE. They have a right to know. you preverted FREAKS. it’s disgusting that you have the nerve to lead women on, expose them to your diseases, then sleep with gay men, and bash gays when you want, then go back to poor women who have no idea about your double lives. FREAKS!
Brandon
WHAT DOES BIPHOBIA LOOK LIKE?
* Assuming that everyone you meet is either heterosexual or homosexual.
* Supporting and understanding a bisexual identity for young people because you identified “that way” before you came to your “real” lesbian/gay/heterosexual identity.
* Expecting a bisexual to identify as heterosexual when coupled with the so called different gender/sex.
* Believing bisexual men spread AIDS/HIV to heterosexuals.
* Thinking bisexual people haven’t made up their minds.
* Assuming a bisexual person would want to fulfill your sexual fantasies or curiosities.
* Assuming bisexuals would be willing to “pass” as anything other than bisexual.
* Claiming that bisexuality in men and women is somehow rare or does not exist as a valid sexual orientation.
* Assuming that bisexual men are usually or are always closeted gay men who haven’t come out, and that bisexual women are usually or are always closeted lesbians who have not accepted their sexuality.
* Feeling that bisexual people are too outspoken and pushy about their visibility and rights.
* Automatically assuming romantic couplings of two women are lesbian, or two men are gay, or a man and a woman are heterosexual.
* Expecting bisexual people to get services, information, and education from heterosexual service agencies for their “heterosexual side” (sic) and then go to gay and/or lesbian service agencies for their “homosexual side” (sic).
* Feeling bisexuals just want to have their cake and eat it too.
* Believing that bisexual women spread AIDS/HIV to lesbians.
* Using the terms “phase” or “stage” or “confused” or “fence-sitter” or “bisexual” or “AC/DC” or “switch-hitter” as slurs or in an accusatory way.
* Thinking bisexuals only have committed relationships with so called different sex/gender partners.
* Looking at a bisexual person and automatically thinking of their sexuality rather than seeing them as a whole, complete person.
* Assuming that bisexuals, if given the choice, would prefer to be in an different gender/sex coupling to reap the social benefits of a so-called “heterosexual” pairing [sic].
* Not confronting a biphobic remark or joke for fear of being identified as bisexual.
* Assuming bisexual means “available.”
* Thinking that bisexual people will have their rights when lesbian and gay people win theirs.
* Being gay or lesbian and asking your bisexual friend about their lover or whom they are dating only when that person is the “same” sex/gender.
* Believing bisexuals are confused about their sexuality.
* Feeling that you can’t trust a bisexual because they aren’t really gay or lesbian, or aren’t really heterosexual.
* Expecting a bisexual to identify as gay or lesbian when coupled with the “same” sex/gender.
* Expecting bisexual activists and organizers to minimize bisexual issues (i.e. HIV/AIDS, violence, basic civil rights, fighting the Right, military, same-sex marriage, child custody, adoption, etc.) and to prioritize the visibility of so called “lesbian and/or gay” issues.
* Claiming that bisexuals somehow undermine the rights of gays/lesbians, or are not for gay/lesbian rights politically.
* Avoid mentioning to friends that you are involved with a bisexual or working with a bisexual group because you are afraid they will think you are a bisexual.
* Calling a relationship or marriage between two people of the same gender a gay/lesbian relationship or gay/lesbian marriage.
Joe Baran
@Rain: Your loyalty is absolutely commendable. I wish I had someone as bright, articulate and loyal defending all of my posthumous detractors when my moment arrives; no doubt there will be plenty. Rain, I don’t think the commentors here really thought it out. Yes, that’s it…no one (or few anyway) thought about his humanness, only his public persona, complete with elements of hidden human unsavoriness that we ALL have. Sort of like the supermarket inquirer rubricks detailing the latest star-cheating episodes, completely ignoring the target’s previous good works. You need a hug, friend. Even though it will sound disingenuous, I am sad for your loss. I am not a regular here. Found this thread by accident but decided to read…I actually think the people writing in here are all pretty good people, though. A heck of a lot kinder than the usual main stream blogs with “Nuke the unwashed Iranian ragheads” and “Death to the liberals,” throughout. Sounds as if you were a good friend to him Rain. Rest in peace, Adam Faust.
the other Greg
@Brandon: “the other Greg, it’s not homophobia to say that the porn industry is full of men and women who are drug addicts, who get offered drugs like crystal meth and other hard drugs, and that a lot of people who do porn get into escorting and bareback sex.”
Brandon, I’m happy to TOTALLY AGREE WITH YOU on that point. If you’ll read my other posts here, I totally agree that the porn business is pretty fucked up. I don’t think it’s homophobia to point out that Adam Faust, who probably had many good qualities, was maybe a nice guy and good friend, etc. etc. etc., all that stuff, but he caused some guys to become HIV+ either thru unsafe sex and/or his glorification of barebacking on-camera and that’s not good.
Yeesh, you are so devoted to this notion that there are a bunch of sock puppets here that you didn’t even notice I AGREE WITH YOU! I went to sleep about midnight EDT last night and I do not post under other names. … And I’ve said it before, but anyone who accuses me of being “KevC” crosses the line. KevC is a smoker and smoking is disgusting!
devon in CA
I’m sorry but a meth addled prostitute dying shouldn’t be a surprise to anyone.
He may indeed been a “nice” person, but prostitution and drug abuse is not defensible.
PRINCE OF SNARKNESS aka DIVKID
@devon in CA:
yeah, and you needed to tell us that. cuz you knew we needed to listen. and well done. give yourself a big pat on the back. bet that feels better now, don’t it!
whoa! you da man!
Basch
@Kenneth Masse: Heart attack at 38? Rare things do happen, but it’s funny how porn stars/wrestlers, etc. always die fairly young. Drugs can also cause heart attacks.
JohnnyBoy
Reading the comments here just reminds me how mentally unstable so many people are. It’s just really sad. I don’t know what else to say.
arbiter
And out come all the hypocrites on their high horses… because we all know, it’s ok watch porn regularly, to consume it and perpetuate it and it’s stigma, it’s just not ok to be in it.
Sad for his family and friends. It must be a shock to lose someone so young and apparently healthy….
Steve
Arbiter-Like others who have posted here I don’t watch porn I’ve seen some of it but I find it boring, scripted, and it doesn’t show real sex at all just edited sex.
Adam Faust was NOT healthy unless you consider being a roided out meth addict who injects a lot of meth “healthy”.
It’s sad that he died but he was highly self destructive.
james
Not really understanding the connection between HIV, barebacking, and a heart attack. Hiv causes many problems in the body, but not usually, high lipids and blood pressure. Steroids of meth would make much more sense.
Steve
James, some HIV meds put A LOT of stress on the heart and that combined with the meth use, as well as steroids is not a good combination.
Stache99
@devon in CA:
Some in other blogs might argue the same for being gay.
Steve
Puking-Conservative people say the EXACT same thing about gay people, stop being a bigot and a hypocrite.
Charles Lemos
@Larry: You have no right to tell Adam who was a friend or me how to live our lives. So shut the fuck up.
Charles Lemos
@Steve: Of course, there is such a thing as “gay culture”. In fact, there are many subcultures within the gay community. Kultur, the German philosophical term, aptly applies to the gay community. For you deny that the gay community has its own long traditions, rites and norms flies in the face of the obvious. People have been awarded PhDs for their study of gay culture, John Boswell comes to mind.
Steve
So some people with useless PhDs in LGBT studies and gender studies/queer theory have been awarded PhDs that does not mean that there actually is a true LGBT or gay culture at all.
TASTEY GOODIES
A METH ADDICTED HIV+ SUICIDAL CUM DUMPSTER (LITERALLY! NO PUN! HE DID BB PORN) DIES FROM BEING SUICIDAL AND HAVING A DEATH WISH AND WE’RE ALL SUPPOSED TO MOURN HIS PASSING INSTEAD OF JUST FEELING SAD FOR HIM AND SHAKING OUR HEADS.
Art
What ever happened to Erik Rhodes? Oh that’s right it was steroids, could it relate here? No one will remember this guy sadly,only his family/ personal friends. Clearly the business continues and makes money off of these guys into substance abuse. That’s sad.
Timmmeeeyyy
It’s really pathetic that so many of you yet again use someone’s coffin as your personal soap box. He was a person like any other who left behind family and friends who are grieving. They and we don’t really need all of your enlightened lectures tearing down another human being who you don’t even know.
Michael
I wonder what young gay men think when they read the in fighting that this article displays.
May he rest in peace
Adam actually was a fairly knowledgeable guy and apparently worked in marketing for a number of non-profits over the years. At least that’s what it says on his Facebook page (I won’t say what his real last name was, but it wasn’t Faust). I knew him a bit through friends, so I can tell you he was very typical of guys in porn and who hustle. He was little and nerdy, not really great looking, has a scratchy little voice and a speech impediment. He was a drug user trying unsuccessfully to stop using, but too dumb, unevolved, scared, or “in the life” to figure out you aren’t going to wake up and be all spiritual, and full of awareness, health and insight while selling your ass, and appearing in pornography.
Sadly in our obsessive “No Judgments!” society, apparently none of his friends was brave enough to risk “sounding judgmental” or “sex negative” to break the news to the poor boy that he was acting like a moron by not quitting prostitution and pornography, if he EVER hoped to live a sane, non-druggy, and non-fucked up life. I had NO IDEA he was doing porn and hustling when I met him, or I would have told him to get off the shit and grow the fuck up before this shit killed him. I was NOT surprised to read of the poor guy’s death. He just had no freaking clue who he was, or how to escape from what he thought was probably a great way to make money and meet hot guys!
Alex
Timmmeeeyyy keep in mind that NONE of his so called “friends” including Nate, or Rain, or the guys who attempted a “relationship” with him did anything to help him or tell him to stop being a prostitute and being in porn.
I had a close friend involved in gay porn peripherally, and in way over his head with meth. I, and a couple other close friends, took him aside after a hard night of play and told him such, but that we were there for him. He fought for a short while, but he made it. It wasn’t fun. That was four years ago. We’ve come to see that getting involved with porn was always a precursor to relapse. Twice, now, and he was just contacted again by one of the big SF porn producers. If past is prologue, I should hear from him between thanksgiving and Christmas.
You’re right, the porn industry is toxic, just by their existence porn studios and drugs go hand-in-hand, and there’s nothing that they or any of us can do.
Che
Art actually Erik Rhodes also abused crystal meth, and yeah he slammed it.
Global Traveler
May he rest in peace
———-
Reading these comments is just so sad. Both from the point of view of people who didn’t know him but feel no compunction at all commenting on and criticizing the choices he made. However if some young boy reading these comments takes heed of the perils of porn and especially drugs and ESPECIALLY crystal then maybe his death will serve some purpose other than heartache.
And from the people who apparently did know him but for whatever the reason couldn’t or didn’t help him.
I only knew him briefly but he seemed to be a likeable enough person. I of course knew about the porn but had no idea about the drug use/abuse. I can chalk that up to my own stupidity (I was going to say naivatee but I think stupidity is closer to the truth since porn and drugs seem to go together with alarming regularity).
Your description of him is pretty accurate and I don’t think you meant it in an unkind manner. He wasn’t the hot rough stud many imagined. He was quiet and soft spoken with a slight lisp and a mild case of Tourette’s. There was a total disconnect from Adam Faust and Adam ********.
My exposure to him was a couple of years ago when he was “retired” from porn and hustling. I guess I imagined him to be like Miss Kitty from gunsmoke….the Hooker With A Heart. I enjoyed his company but just sensed that there was something about him that was tragically flawed and too much baggage to start a friendship with.
My travels will take me back to LA soon and I was going to look him up as he promised to cook me a meal. Apparently one of his specialties. I will regret that lost opportunity. But Im not so arrogant to think that with no professional training I could have helped him.
I hope that he is at peace and that his friends and family will someday be able to think of him with warm memories.
For those of you criticizing his porn. Very few gay men I know don’t consume porn. I’m sure there are some who don’t so before you start piling on me I’m going to believe you if you say you are one. But those of us who do consume it (one of the safest forms of sex around) have no room to criticize those who make it. It’s a bit disingenuous. Sort of like driving a Hummer to a rally to protest the profits of Exxon.
David Torres
Wow, this has generate an large number of comments. I must admit that I was interested in reading all of them. A few points:
– For those worried that “young men” are reading this and getting a bad impression of gays, I have no doubt that many “young men” are writing some of these posts.
– I am dismayed at the large number of Adam’s “friends” writing in to express their comments about his problems, but did not step in to do something about it. With friends, sometimes the truth hurts. But, the truth also helps. I wonder how many of you were simply fascinated with hanging out with Adam that you would never actually be a good friend and help him.
– @Rain: I feel for you right now. You clearly were IN LOVE with Adam. I wish you well. But, your incessant attacks of hatred at people on this board reveal a lot. Still, I acknowledge that you and your flaws are typical of self-absorbed, rude, and pathetic men.
Nate
@the other Greg: Really? You need to read between the lines more then. Don’t fool yourself, people have made bad judgments while on pot too (just as they do while on alcohol) and have gotten into car wrecks, etc. while on that drug. On the other hand, I too advocate for legalization – of everything. First, we could then identify who does drugs and then try to get them help or at lest try harm reduction. For instance, Vancouver BC has a legal injection site for heroin users and they’ve been able to get people both medical and psychological help and have had fewer overdoses, that to me is at least facing the real problem head on. Is it ideal? Maybe not, but it is a step in the right direction. Second, we could take a lot of money out of the hands of various drug cartels, some of whom provide direct money to organizations like the Taliban and Al-Quaida (at least from heroin sales) and put that to use in our own tax base to support programs like children’s lunches or new/repaired roads or something equally useful. Third, we could de-empasize the stupid police state we’ve created where we nude scan the bodies of little kids as they go though the airport or give small-town cops humvees with gun turrets for no discernible reason I can think of.
I don’t agree with “12-step” psychobable” as you term it either, but he was clean when we dated, we broke up when he decided to start using. I had thought the threat of that might change his mind but it didn’t. Nonetheless I stayed in touch for some time after to keep tabs on him and try to encourage him to get back to sobriety. Look, addiction is powerful, and for some people 12-step programs seem to help, at least for awhile. I’m all for doing whatever works to fix your problems (as long as you’re not hurting someone in that process). Despite serval millions of dollars being thrown at addiction prevention it really has become an industry as far as I can tell, where they’re main incentive is money from more addicts entering their ‘programs’ than for actually fixing the problem. At least 12-steps aren’t in it for the money, but places like Betty Ford and that Promises in Malibu sure are.
Look, without going into it, Adam did have some fairly serious psychological problems from birth, which may or may not have contributed to his using or his desire to do porn. He was on meds for them while I knew him. The only serious comment so far about the porn industry has been from @the truth where he goes into how porn industry uses whomever and doesn’t really give a shit. That’s not entirely true, some individuals do make an effort, but the industry as whole doesn’t. That’s no different from many other industries, including all the clients of JP Morgan, HSBC, and Goldman-Sachs (and probably Bain Capital) to name a recent few.
Nate
@Alex: Just how the FUCK would you know if I did anything to help Adam out of porn and addiction? You sit there behind your computer and spout assumptions about something you could not possibly be privy to. He stopped escorting altogether when he was with me, I did quite a lot about encouraging Adam to get sober after we broke up, and I encouraged him to go back to New York where his friends and family were since I thought that might be a better environment for him to re-kick the drugs. You’re just another judgmental asshole on a soapbox, maybe you should deal with your own issues before berating everyone else for shit you make up outa thin air about them.
What the f**k
To all of Adam’s friends,who have been offended by the reactionary bile expressed by the SANCTIMONIOUS BITCHES who have bothered to spew their hate on this thread, you have my deepest condolences. The amount of people posting such hateful shit is,unfortunately,not a surprise. SNIVELLING F@GGOTS!
agape nyx
What happened to tact, sure he was in the public eye but when did it become acceptable to relinquish so much negativity and disdain in what amounts to an obituary. If you dont have anything nice to say, shut up. Even if they are true, putting it out in public is offensive to his family and friends, who i’m sure are devestated enough as it is. Everyone with an opinion on drugs and condoms go picket the funeral instead of hiding behind a computer and see how easily the timing of your flaunted personal morals and objections to others are digested. My regards to his family and friends. My pity for those on here who lack common sense and social graces.
Global Traveler
Some of these comments read like a crystal meth induced rant.
Roberto
I was at the funeral and was able to speak with his mother for a bit. He was in a car accident just a week before that damaged his car significantly. The airbag deployed and that may have caused irreversible damage to his heart. We won’t know until reports come back within some months time. I know some of the people posting in this thread that knew Adam as well and got to speak with them. Their emotional reactions are their own but they are good people who are hurting.
Back to the judging of his friends; you obviously do not know what it is like to deal with someone who is addicted. It is a war, that many people lose. You can do everything possible to help that person, from physically taking them to rehab or therapy. I know Rain personally and I know a few others did help him retire from porn and help with his sobriety. You can only do so much and always be the light, a positive guiding force in someone’s life.
It sounds as if all of your friends are perfect? That your life is just peachy? Are you the friend you should be to others? Are you giving them everything you can to make them a better person? Sure sounds like everyone is a super hero in their own minds here.
You shouldn’t cast such judgements of others. What would you have us do? Turn away from our friend, even when he failed or fell down? No. We stayed in it to the end. It is bleak and heart breaking to look addiction in the face and fight it as best you can, and then lose. I doubt many at all have the courage to go through this with a friend.
Sounds like most of you would throw anyone away for being flawed, being wrong, making bad decisions. Are any of your friends always angry? Are they always drinking? Spending too much money when they don’t have much? Are you saying anything? Are you doing anything? It sounds like you have saints for friends and you are perfect.
The rest of us live in the real world, with real world consequences everyday. We make tough choices and sometimes we’re wrong, and somedays we get lucky. I know in my heart I did what I could to help a friend out and it was ultimately up to him to power through his trials. He made it as far as he could. It is always just up to ourselves when it comes down to it. But I know Adam was very glad to have non-drug using, supportive friends in his life. We didn’t condone his behavior. We showed support in all the good aspects in his life, and did what we could to save him.
You should all focus more on your own lives and take away from this as trying to be a better human being, and the novel idea that next time another human being perishes, have the tact to either offer condolences or not say anything at all. Because no one is ultimately watching or caring what you are doing, except yourself. So maybe be a better person, for you.
Heavens to Adam. RIP
Eric8
WOW! The pure venom and judgements that I am reading here makes me ashamed to be gay. Where is the compassion for your fellow man? Most of you probably want marriage equality and fight against it’s oppression by some members of the non-gay population. You don’t deserve it until you clean up your twisted sense of community and I hope you never get!
Rest In Peace, Adam.
Marcus
I can’t believe. I’m in shock. He was so so cute and so young… RIP
John
@Roberto:
Bravo Roberto, what you said is so truthful. Adam and I were addicts desperately trying to kick “the habit” and were 27/7 talk me down from the ledge partners. He saved me so many times from doing more harm to myself I cant begin to thank himm enough. And to thank you for your loving defense of Adam (i hate to use the word defense but i’m at a loss) . I am at a loss how to replace this void other than to keep his picture with me so i see him everday. Adam, I miss you and thank you for helping me take my life back. You were like a little brother in some ways and a big brother in many ways. You are celebrated and remembered.
Louki
@Brandon: Brandon. What a cold hearted person you are. Pray that you never land in a situation where you are less than perfect and the world gets to find out. Sweep infront of yuor own door before critisizing others.
He was someones son, someones brother and lover. He had people that cared about him, have the common decency to allow them to morn him in peace without people like you trying to tarnish his name at every oportunity you get. I am sure that one day when you pass, you would love people to remeber the good in you snd not the bitter bitch you display here.
Lourens – Cape Town
Louki
How easy it is for people like Larry and Broandon and others to judge. Who died and made them God anyway. Pray you old fart that you die with a clean slate. I am sue that when you die, you would love people to remember the good in you and not all your mistakes.
He was someones son, brother lover. Respect that. If you cant say anything good about him, why not keep quiet.
Lourens. – Cape Town.
nick piston
this last month i lost two peers. one of them a dear friend even. while i am not surprised at the varied and often harsh opinions of others concerning their lifestyles….i am deeply saddened that other ppl feel the need to post them in places where others are trying to honor their memories.i dont expect the entire world to understand psychological disorders or acknowledge addiction as a life long chronic condition.i would hope however, that those with comments of a graver nature would leave the rest of us room to love and cherish our dear friends. there is plenty of room out there in the world for your judgement. no need to infect what flickering moments of light are left for these young men.
Mason
So many nutjobs on here!! A person just died..have a heart!
WOLF
He stole a favorite jacket of mine from me at the gym…I have no fond memories of him, but it’s still a tragedy.
Mpump
I met Adam years ago …. He was the one who actually introduced me to the pleasures of fisting… And he was the kindest person in and out of the sack.
On many occasions we not only shared each other physically, but we had the pleasure of getting to know
on a personal level as well. We talked about lots of things. Food. Politics. Business. Bodybuilding.
Then he started to change…. Uncharacteristic behavior. The desire to become a porn star. Then finally making his move to L.A.
We kept in distant contact and on occasion when he would make the trek back to NYC we would chat…. And he would make admissions..but the industry had begun to swallow Adam up. And spiral him down.
I feel saddened by his passing. A young energetic man with so much potential but unable to deal
with the realities of life.
My heart goes out to his family and his closest friends.
EMT83
As a Emergency medical tech. I have seen this happen more then once lowest age was 27 out of the 20 that i’ve seen and tried to bring back 8 was due to O.D of narks the others were all over stressed by working to much, famliy pressure, bills, things of that nature yes it sucks and as EMT’S PARAMEDIC’S WE DO EVERY THING POSSIBLE TO BRING PEOPLE BACK SOMETIMES IT NEVER WORKS I HAD TO DEAL WITH MY OWN DEMONS ON THAT I’VE BLAMED MY SELF FOR LAST 7 YRS. ON A ACCIDENT INVOLVING 2 1 TON PICK UPS HIT HEAD ON AND 1 BLOW UP INTO FLAMES WHEN I ARRIVED SO WE WENT TO WORK RIGHT AWAY GETTING JAWS OF LIFE OUT AND UP & RUNNING AS SOON AS WE GOT READY TO CUT OPEN THE TRUCK & GET THE PEOPLE OUT DAD , 3 GIRLS RANGING FROM 4 YRSOLD TO 8 YRS OLD THE TRUKS GAS TANKS EXPLODE AND I STILL HERE THE SCREEMS, THE YELLING THE SMELL EXC. SO YES, MY EDUCATED IS THIS THAT HE WAS UNDER SO MUCH STREES THAT HIS BLOOD PRESSURE WAS AT EXTREM HIGH LEVEL AND IN STEAD OF STROKING OUT HIS AORTA EXPLODED DUE TO EXTREM STRESS…..
TxBottomGuy
@Rain: i have watched your posts and the shocking response that some people have posted about Adam — someone they have never known. It’s simply crazy to me how someone would judge someone else whom they have never met and will never know. I am sad about Adam’s death last year. I am sorry for your loss – it sounds like he was a good and great friend of yours.
I met Adam n the summer of 2008, when I still lived in Los Angeles. And though I only knew him for a brief time, I will say that he was one of the most caring and genuine and amazingly nice guys I met for the few years I lived in West Hollywood and Los Angeles. In a city that can be so plastic and surface — Adam was a sweet and gentle man. He never seemed worried about what anyone else thought. And he seemed to have a heart of gold. I will never forget his kindness, and will always remember him fondly. I pray he rests well, young prince.
MarcG
Wow, I just found out of Adam Faust passing….almost 2 years after his death. We had coffee in NYC back in 2008 on 8th avenue. He was a very nice man but decided to move to LA for work…. little did I know it was to be in porn. RIP Adam.
electrongreen
One sleaze bag less, all men like him do is damage the gay community, not support it.
scotshot
@electrongreen: Thanks for your opinion, but please fuck off.
andy0529
@Global Traveler: That was touching and beautiful!
electrongreen
scotshot, No, will not, not everyone on this planet supports people who damage our rights and image, so get over it.
enlightenone
@Nate: “Please have the courtesy not to shit all over my experience of the real Adam from your high horse.”
The only people who could “shit over [your] experience” is you/him! Feel better? Sorry for your loss.
ibernard
Don’t know the guy, never saw one of his movies, but yeah, 38 is a short run.
Here’s what makes me angry: if the HATERS on this site had an opportunity to have a physical (sexual) encounter with him, randomly, fantasy-land, and for FREE, they’d be singing his praises and saying how lucky they were.
But as soon as he dies, turn on the hate machine.
Reminds me of an interview with Anderson Cooper somewhere. He said he’s usually pretty tolerant of the “can I take a selfie with you?” crowd, but sometimes, it’s late, he’s out, he’s tired, and says “I’d rather not, but why don’t we talk for a while” and the selfie-seekers turn on him, with a vulgar remark or three, and leave. I don’t want a selfie with AC, but if he said to me “let’s chat for a while” I’d welcome that more than a photo. And, for all the ding-dongs out there, what does a friendship (usually) start with? A chat in a bar. And that chat could lead to a friendship, whereas a selfie is like masturbation: you come, you go.
I’m 54, HIV neg, lost over 2 dozen friends and two cousins to AIDS, wonder why I’m still here, and am disgusted with the actions and activities of the gay community, or a large percentage of them.
Boy do I miss the bar days. Great music. A ton of guys you didn’t know, potential friends and yes, potential “Mr Right Now” guys, but the dynamic was entirely different.
And I still have two long term (25 yrs +) friends who were strangers to me in a bar at one point.
The rest of you need to grow up.
And that’s my real name up there kids.
Descanse en pace, Adam. Whatever you chose to be, and however you died. You were someone’s son.
Daggerman
…Good Lord what a gorgeous hunk–fabulous hairy chest, nice color (fair hair) and I would like to suck his nuts!
da90027
reading all the hateful comments from people that usually dislike themselves so they attack others makes me sad I’m human much less gay. I miss the 70’s and 80’s when there was no internet and no forum for everyone’s hate.
Over the last 15 years I’ve known a few co workers in my old office who died from heart attacks in their 30’s so it is not that uncommon.