“I didn’t really like that level of visibility and having to work it constantly. We all, as performers, work it to a certain degree, but I’m a very improvisational person, on stage and in my life, and I don’t like being tied down in having to be a certain way for my image.
What I tried to impart in our friendship is, ‘I’m really your friend, I’m not just somebody that’s passing through.’ And, I guess, for a while, we had a real friendship. But it’s hard for somebody like her. She doesn’t really want somebody around who reflects too much of who she is. Therefore, her relationships just don’t last.”Sandra Bernhard speaking to the Hot Takes and Deep Dives podcast about her former BFF Madonna.
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jayceecook
It’s sad because Madonna obviously seems like she has to be “on” all the time. I feel like that is what SB is saying in a way. Most people can’t or don’t want to always be “on”. I don’t honestly think she’s had any real friends in the past 20 years. At least not public ones with fellow musicians and entertainers. I’m not even sure Rosie still talks with her.
graphicjack
I believe she’s still close with Rosie even if they don’t see each other all the time. She also seems to remain good friends with Anderson Cooper and Debi Mazar. Let’s not forget that on top of her career, and some recent injuries, she’s also a mother of six and two of her children are still quite young. She’s also been in a relationship for a couple of years now, so I think day-to-day friendships with people often take a back seat with all that going on in her life. Not saying she also doesn’t need to be ‘on’… that’s a possibility, but Sandra knew Madonna at the absolute peak of her fame and M wasn’t the most kind and mature back then, either. She’s grown a lot in some ways and I doubt Sandra would recognize the M that exists today. That M has kept close with a few really good Judy’s says something. I’ve had deep friendships with many people and while some move or I don’t see very often because they have kids or in a relationship, that doesn’t mean the love and respect goes away.
barryaksarben
Madonna is NOT close to anyone. She is toxic in her refusal to accept reality. She thinks it is her world and we all just live in it. THe great thing about Sandra is her HONESTY. You may not like what she is saying and having seen her in concert I ve seen people walk out because of her honesty and she did not care. I cant see Madonna’s ego letting anyone tell her something she doesnt want to hear
humble charlie
I love Sandra Bernhard. And she was a better singer than Madonna. She just didn’t put up with BS.
As for her relationship with Madonna, who knows what goes on in another person’s head (We’re lucky if we know what’s going on in our own head.).
James
Well that article was NOTHING.
CBHaynes
How sad and embarrassing for Sandra. Pathetic!
ScottOnEarth
Sandra is far too real and grounded to have a lasting relationship with someone like Madonna, who seems to be a one-dimensional narcissist whose only focus is herself, at all times.
bsg1967
Hillirious coming from someone with a dubious reputation, her personality does not bear close scrutiny. As for Madge she’s always been a driven maniac who needs constant attention and affirmation of her talent and fame.
kish
How is this even noteworthy? She didn’t say anything that she hasn’t said a hundred times. Madonna’s brother’s book gives a lot of insight to how Madonna treats her friends. It adds up. But also, Sandra Bernhard seems like a pain in the ass.