Gay couple having sex

A Reddit user asked the members of the r/askgaybros for unpopular opinions about sex, but the responses below all turned out to be popular, with dozens of upvotes apiece.

And as hundreds of comments came in, themes started emerging: It seems like our fellow gays are looking for emotional connections with the dudes in their bed, and they’re not necessarily looking for penetrative sex. (And when they are, they’re not looking for rigid roles.)

Here’s a variety of comments from the thread, all of which received at least 24 upvotes.

“No matter how hot the other guy is, if you haven’t established the proper connection beforehand, then it’s very dull and forgetful. The looks fade fast. Some of the hottest guys I’ve been with have been the most ‘meh’ encounters.”

“Sex in a long-term relationship is way better than causal sex.”

“Gay men won’t admit it, but despite sometimes sleeping with 10 guys a week, most of us are still not sexually satisfied. Slow, cuddly sex with an average-looking monogamous partner is way better than being f*cked rough by a muscle masc top who’s a 10. Also, cruising in public spaces should just remain in porn. Don’t do it in real life.”

“Cuddling and foreplay is hotter than the actual sex.”

“It’s still good sex if nobody gets penetrated.”

“69 is overrated.”

“You don’t have to choose only top or bottom.”

“The most ‘genuine’ form of gay sex is penis-to-penis contact… since it’s literally both male parts connecting. I never understood why genital-to-genital contact isn’t more popular with gay guys. A long, slow mutual jerk session with frot and edging together is hotter than anything else to me.”

“Hybrid opinion: People don’t take sex seriously enough in a relationship and how the lack of it can make your relationship suck, and at the same time, [they] take sex too seriously outside of a relationship when it’s just meant to be a casual way to have fun and connect with people. Basically, everyone should f*ck more. We’d all probably be less stressed if we did.”

“Meeting with someone just to have sex isn’t right. I mean, I would like to form a connection and emotions first. Durning’s sex, I want to be able to smile and laugh with my partner. Sex is something we should respect and make with someone we really really really enjoy. Not just meet, f*ck, bye. If you are horny, then just jerk off to some porn. Wait for that one person you want to share your body and life with.”

“Intimacy doesn’t equate orgasm.”

“My hand is better at taking care of me and giving me mind-blowing orgasms than another person will ever be able to. Solo sex is the best sex.”

“Cuddles, blowing, rimming, fingering, edging is more meaningful than penetrative sex.”

“Everyone should be vers.”

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