Hard for the money

True confessions: A week in the life of a male sex worker from Dublin

screen-shot-2016-12-05-at-5-19-13-pm

A college student in Dublin tried being a sex worker for a week to make a little extra money. Now, he’s opening up about the experience, which wasn’t anything like he had expected it to be.

“It is perfectly legal to sell sex despite what you may have heard, however it is illegal to sell sex on the street or in a public place,” Joshua Collins (not his real name) explains in a new op-ed titled What it’s like to be a gay sex worker in Dublin.

Prostitution was legalized in the Republic of Ireland last year and since then has seen an increase of an estimated 80 percent, Collins claims.

“Staying within the limits of the law I became a part of Ireland’s booming vice scene online,” he writes, “and with the help of gay dating app Grindr I introduced myself to Dublin’s gay sex-trade.”

Related: ‘Mostly Straight’ Male Sex Worker Opens Up About Being Gay-For-Pay And Much, Much More

Collins wasn’t quite sure what to think when he accepted his first client.

“It’s a strange feeling to describe sitting at home and seeing a man you’ve never met before drape himself on your bed waiting for sex,” Collins says, admitting that it took some time to work up the courage to finally follow through with things.

“It was like that old cliche ‘butterflies in your stomach’ but instead it was like my stomach was lined with angry hornets,” he describes.

Most of Collins’ clients were straight fathers and/or husbands looking for a little man-on-man side action, which he was more than happy to provide… for a price. €150 ($160 U.S.) per hour, to be exact.

“I have had clients show me pictures of their newborn children,” Collins recalls, “and while the interaction was supposed to be strictly business only it was hard to see these men suppressing their sexuality, shackled by an intolerant society.”

Related: Don’t Get It Twisted, These Male Sex Workers Love Their Jobs And Make Serious Dough

If you think that sounds at all sexy, Collins says, think again.

“The first client I encountered was a 47 year old Bulgarian man who had a rape fantasy,” he writes. “I stood there overcome with a fear of the unknown. The confidence I had at the start of the night began to dwindle as I stared into the abyss and it stared straight back at me.”

Afterwards, Collins says, “all I felt was a chilling numbness that both terrified and exhilarated me. But, in practical terms, I now had cash to buy food for my fridge and bus money to get to college.”

“Another client, a 67 year old married gentleman, paid for over-the-phone services,” he continues. “He whispered down the phone for the duration of our session because, he claimed, his wife was asleep next to him.”

Related: This Is Why People Become Sex Workers

But the “weirdest” client Collins had during his week was a drug dealer who lived with his parents.

“The guy in question was 5’3 and we had sex in front of his kitten, Cody,” he writes. “After the session had ended he admitted he could not pay me in cash but only with weed, I accepted.”

Collins says the ultimately takeaway from his week as a male sex worker was pretty simple: It ain’t all it’s cracked up to be.

“Voluntary sex work is far from the way it is often glamorized in pop-culture but for some it is a means of living,” he concludes. “With the current economic climate and increasing university tuition it should come as no surprise that more and more young men are opening themselves up for sex.”

Related: Former Male Sex Worker Looks Back On His Career With Pride

Get Queerty Daily

Subscribe to Queerty for a daily dose of #life #dublin #grindr stories and more

7 Comments

  • Billy Budd

    Prostitution must be legal and protected by the law. Sex workers must have health insurance plans, retirement plans and all other things that are granted to the other professions. There is nothing, absolutely nothing inherently wrong about having sex for money. To me, it is very similar to a more personal (and effective LOL) kind of therapy.

  • Bromancer7

    I worked in the sex trade for about a year, and my experiences mostly match his. Most of the clients I had were older married men, sometimes much older. Occasionally I’d get someone I considered hot, and those were of course a treat, but were certainly not the norm. But overall the vast majority were really nice men who were just trying to scratch an itch that was impossible to do in their normal lives. So I like to think I brought a little pleasure to their lives.

    And no, I don’t regret having done it, not at all. It was a great experience.

  • ChrisK

    @Bromancer7: I think there’s a large % of straight identified married men that use those services. I would have a really hard time with that unless they had kids. I’d be thinking Pussy. It’s 2016 now and you’re acting like it’s 1950.

  • crowebobby

    I worked for a call service back in Manhattan back in 1962, when I was 25 years old, and I loved it. I stopped because I moved to Paris. Despite being a dancer, who later did fashion shows for Dior, I needed the ego boost (I’ve met many hustlers who felt the same way). The clients I had were all just too busy or too wealthy to risk picking guys up off the street; they were all, without exception, polite and friendly. Despite the fact that I told the psychologist at the draft board I didn’t worry about getting arrested because I never picked up anyone old enough to be a cop, I had no trouble having sex with men in their late 60’s. I was turned on by their being turned on by me. (Is “turned-on” still used?) I could never hustle on the street because I couldn’t ask for the money and I couldn’t be a kept boy (though I had several opportunities) because I wouldn’t fake affection. I know there’s nothing glamorous about most hustling and that my situation was the exception to the rule, but there exceptions. Don’t think because you read one book or have known one hustler that you know all there is to know about sex work.

  • Nixter

    @Billy Budd: I could not disagree with you more. Prostituion is immoral and degrading, period. Yuck.

  • Damianmarcus

    I’m Damian from the California, i’m so very happy my Ex girlfriend is back to me after 6 months we both separated. Priest Ajigar did it all for me with his powerful spell, we were separated 7 months ago and i thought i lost all hope of getting her back to me. Priest Ajigar is such a powerful and Genuine spell caster, if you need any help concerning your relationship with your boyfriend, girlfriend, your husband or wife just email him for fast solution. You can actually get your ex back in just 3 days. Here is his email: [email protected] his spells does not have any repercussion or side infect.

Add your Comment

Please log in to add your comment
Need an account? Register *It's free and easy.