8-Year-Old Writes Letter To Minnesotans, Asking To Keep His Family Together

Carter Gustafson, 8 3/4, has written to the people of Minnesota to appeal to their better angels: With a referendum on same-sex marriage fast approaching, brave little Carter, who has two mommies, wants to have a few things resolved—things most young people with opposite-sex parents take for granted.


1) Why does it matter if it’s a woman and a woman or a man and a man? What’s the difference?

2) If this passes, can we still be family?

3) Since this is illegal, can my moms get arrested?

4) Who makes these laws because they don’t make sense to me. For example, isn’t it love that makes a family?

Yes, Carter, that’s exactly what makes a family. But some people in your state (or those just passing through it) have very different ideas about what love is and believe in using judicial activism to rob others of their civil rights.

But that’s a lesson for when you get a little older.

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  • Dumdum

    No child should have to be faced with such issues.When you are a kid one should only have to play,have fun and be loved.Growing up and facing challenges and the unfairness of life is hard enough without being subjected to fear prejudice and hatred. This is shameful!!!

  • Neo

    They harass us as breaking up families and being against togetherness and values.

    More evidence [how sad that we still have to say more and not “in the past” in 2012]that they are everything they hate is right here.

  • SnakeyJ

    This doesn’t seem like something an 8 year old would write on their own. If it’s really written by an 8 year old, then his parents told him exactly what to state. Did Queerty confirm where this letter came from?

  • unclemike

    @SnakeyJ: I’ve been a teacher for over 20 years–this sounds exactly like an 8-year-old’s written thoughts.

    The topic may not have been on the mind of a kid who has hetero parents, but I guarantee this topic is well-discussed in his own family. His parents might have prompted him with questions, like, “What would you like to ask them?” but it doesn’t sound as if they coached him on the words at all.

  • MK Ultra

    That’s why we need to snatch the term “family values” right out from the claws of the nazi far-right.
    They’ve put an Orwellian twist on it so no it means the opposite – ripping families apart as evidenced by this poor kid.
    We need to appropriate family values to ourselves.
    Family values are gay values
    Gay values are family values.
    Bring these families to the forefront.

  • hephaestion

    Whatever happened to Minnesota? It used to be so progressive, and now it’s elected officials are more ignorant than Mississippi’s.

  • Xanderer

    Right on kiddo! Wish I was as smart as you when I was 8 years old.

  • captty1701

    I don’t understand why the law makers think they know what is best for us.

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