VALENTINE'S DAY

Eight Gay-Porn Couples Who Found True Love Off-Screen—And A Few Who Didn’t


Valentine’s Day is just about here, which has us feeling both horny and romantic. So we decided to combine those feelings and review some of the gay-porn world’s most celebrated couples. Many were famous prior to hooking up—together, they made headlines and a few, like Benjamin Bradley and Roman Heart (above), even became legendary.

Sure, some have split—the course of true love never did run smooth—but in the case of porn couples their volcanic real-life chemistry is forever preserved for posterity.

They are the antidote, together and separately, to robotic hookups and gay-for-pay bores.

Did we forget your favorite porn twosome? Shoot an arrow into the comments section

Click through for some of gay porn’s most memorable on- and off-screen couples

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63 Comments

  • holycrapwhatthefuck

    well at least they are actually gay and not gay for pay

  • christopher_di_crapito

    I remember when Benjamin Bradley hooked up with Ethan Reynolds of Bratboyschool fame. They split up soon after Bratboyschool was revealed to be a complete fraud in November 2007.

  • dvlaries

    I still want to know the facts of the Branch-Harper break up, and who hurt who…

  • William

    Is it supposed to implied that I know who any of these people are?

  • ggreen

    @dvlaries: It was drugs, as usual.

  • Allen D.

    Jesse O’Toole and Damon Dogg seemed very much in love last time I saw them.

  • The Real Mike in Asheville

    @ggreen: And what, pray tell, is a “regular” love life?

    I’ve played with porn actors and have no regrets — always had fun. That was when I learned something new at 40 (12 years ago): moments of love. It is that magical moment nearing orgasm when the passion transcends just sex to, in that moment, being in love.

  • shannon

    WHO CARES ABOUT THESE VIDEO WHORES???? TALK ABOUT REAL GAY ISSUES…SUICIDE…..ELDER GAY CARE…HIV MEDS

  • dvlaries

    @ggreen: I tend to agree with you. I don’t believe you can take the single most physiologically possible act that conveys intimacy between yourself and another man, reduce it to something barter-able or shared with strangers whose names you don’t even learn, then, when you decide you’re “in love,” raise it back to something scared between you and only one other person.

    Not if you have what I understand to be a conscience.

  • Triple S

    I know porn actors do the sex for the money and because it’s their job, but I’m sure not all of them are completely brainless, drug taking sex machines. What stops them from having the stable relationships? The sex with other men may be a factor, but why would they begin a relationship when they KNOW what’s ahead of them?

    And I know this is a little off topic, but does anyone know a site where the guys are more or less intimate with each other? I’m alright with most of the other stuff, but I enjoy the sensual and loving stuff. Granted, it’s probably fake and staged, but I like the look of it.
    Any suggestions?

  • DenverBarbie

    Perhaps an unpopular opinion, but I do feel some sympathy for Harlow. Nothing says “I love you” quite like getting roped into murder.

    By the way, JC Adams, I recently purchased “Gay Porn Heroes.” Tremendously put together! (And a great coffee table read- all of my company has loved sneaking peeks.)

  • Allen D.

    @dvlaries: Vs. those of us who gave it away god-knows how many times for free…? Didn’t save myself for marriage and have no illusions about anyone else doing the same (gay OR straight).

  • Nat

    @dvlaries:

    ‘Sacred’ is play for mythological deities, not for real life. Your perception of sex is the same sort of Puritanism that society uses to devalue women after they lose their virginity.

    I’m not inclined to have sex with a porn star. But sex means a lot of different things to different people; as long as it’s imparted with personal value when it is personal, then what someone did in their past life doesn’t really keep me up at night.

  • christopher di crapito

    @Triple S: Sorry, but a lot of them are brainless drug taking sex machines. Just check any of their blogs and you’ll see for yourself.

  • Nick

    you say that like it’s a bad thing

  • Hephaestion

    What about Adam Champ and Carlo Masi?

  • Patrick

    What a surprise. Queerty is writing about porn instead of actual LGBT issues.

    The whole “gay for pay” thing is just marketing since no actual straight/hetero guy would wind up doing a porn where he has sex with men. I agree with ggreen and Triple S, no not all men in porn are into drugs however a lot are and many are into self destructive behavior like barebacking or if they’re already HIV+ barebacking with other poz guys and infecting them with other strains of HIV or getting infected with new strains, and messing up both of their medication regiments. I do agree with ggreen about how once a man or woman does porn and prostitution they’re less apt to able to be in a stable relationship. I didn’t say everyone that does porn or prostitution is like this since they are not, but the people who think of porn and prostitution as a lifetime “career” certainly are.

  • Keith

    For those of you who have the opinion that it’s impossible for a porn star to have a “normal” love life, let me inform you that you are wrong. I’m not a porn star, but my partner of nearly eight years was. A very well known one, actually. We met through mutual friends and as I don’t follow porn, I didn’t know who he was nor what he did when we first met, but I eventually came to terms with it. You have to understand that porn is just a job. I was able to accept what he did because I’m not a prude and am able to separate sex from love and intimacy. Despite the stereotypes, neither he nor I are drug addicts (I’ve actually never touched a drug in my life, beyond alcohol) and we actually don’t play with others together or separately. I’ve met nearly everyone in the porn industry (including many of the couples on this list) and consider of number of them friends, but I’ve never had a thought of following him into that industry. My partner left the industry a few years ago and now has a great job doing what he loves. His time in the porn industry allowed him to travel and go to college. Along the way, he happened to find me, we fell in love and are still going strong. Our love is as “normal” as any other gay couples, and has lasted a lot longer than most relationships.

  • christopher di crapito

    @Keith: You don’t play together or seperately but he slept with tons of guys while doing porn. What do you think that is?? It’s amazing the lengths some people will go to convince themselves that what they have is real and “normal”. And who is this very well known porn star you’ve been with for 8 years? Why so discreet about his identity? You wouldn’t be ashamed of him, now would you? If your ‘love’ is real, then why protect his identity? Your story just does not ring true. It sounds incredibly phony.

  • Keith

    @christopher di crapito: I don’t have to convince myself of anything. I’m sorry if my relationship doesn’t follow that same structure of the traditional relationship, but it works and I view it as entirely normal (as do a majority of the people in my life). And since we’ve been together nearly eight years, I think our relationship is quite successful. Porn is just a job. Maybe I’m different than you as I can separate physical sex from love. Do I mind that he’s had sex with a bunch of other guys? Maybe I did in the beginning…but then I visited a porn site and I saw the reality of the industry. Sorry for destroying any illusions you have about porn, but it’s not hot or sexy to be on a porn set. It’s all very boring and technical. Once you’ve seen that reality, it’s so much easier to see sex as just a job.

    And the reason for my discretion is because of my own career. As I said, I’m not employed within the porn industry and while I’m not ashamed of him at all (considering my entire fanmily knows of his past), I can’t saw the same for my employers.

  • Kennedy Carter

    It’s always sad to see so many negative preconceptions about porn actors. Some of us have loving, stable relationships. Some us a very aware that it is not a life-time career. Many of us only engage in safe sex, even with our partners. Some of us go to school, and have loving families, and are, well, happy. At the end of the day, it’s just another job, don’t let it carry so many unpleasant assumptions about the moral, intellectual, or emotional character of the people that work in it.

  • christopher_di_crapito

    @Kennedy Carter: What you’ve described are the rare exceptions. There bad examples far outweigh the few good ones. Consider yourself extremely lucky.

  • christopher_di_crapito

    @Kennedy Carter: The odds really are stacked against you as far as being taken seriously. And I’ve just checked out your blog. Sorry but I just can’t take you seriously after reading that shit. You wouldn’t know a healthy relationship if it stared you in the face! Hmmmm, I wonder why people have bad impressions of porn performers. Gee, I wonder why! You guys keep talking about seperating sex and love. Have you ever tried to combine the two? Don’t kid yourself, buddy. All that pretense in your life will wear thin soon enough.

  • Taryn Reiner

    This girl thinks Kennedy and Ivan seem like a lovely couple from what ive seen on Twitter etc. and I would think that whatever industry they found themselves in.

  • SEXXYJAMAICAN

    Much respect to these porn couples because I would not be o.k. with my man going to work and having his dick sucked by some dude, no ma’am, “I just can’t get wit dat homie”.

  • Eric in Chicago

    What about Vinnie D’angelo and Logan McCree? they were a hot couple!

  • Eric in Chicago

    Forget about bringing them back as a couple just BRING BACK BLAKE HARPER! He was the hottest bottom in porno. (well after Joey Stefano died anyway).

  • Seaguy

    @shannon: Skip this topic if you don’t care! Because some of us do care about porn stars!

  • Seaguy

    @christopher di crapito: @shannon: Your making an overly broad accusation that has no evidence to back it up. I read any blog and they do not cite that “a lot” of them are drug taking sex machines. Sure some do take drugs but that is a minority. Just as if some non porn stars take drugs. It’s often due to addiction which is a disease in case you did not know.

  • Cole

    @ Keith, I think it’s sad that some people here are trying to define your relationship and tell you that it’s wrong. You would think some of these dumb queens would’ve learned about how wrong it is to tell people that their relationship is wrong or a falsity. While I certainly couldn’t date a porn star, I certainly cannot be the one to say that your relationship isn’t real or isn’t possibly as loving as committed as anyone else’s. Don’t mind these mo’s.

  • Chris

    @Patrick: “The whole “gay for pay” thing is just marketing since no actual straight/hetero guy would wind up doing a porn where he has sex with men.”

    Really? Do you feel the same way about all those fake lesbians in straight porn? If you think that erections and male orgasms can’t be managed, you need to know about the Viagra, the straight porn just out of camera range, the wives and girlfriends on the set, and of course editing.

    The idea that man-on-man sex is both so compelling and disgusting to straight men that just the act of being with a guy will make you gay is a common theme in homophobic propaganda.

  • Simon

    @ggreen: @christopher_di_crapito: Your comments have the same validity as those nice decent people who say that REAL love is possible only between a man and a woman. How dare you tell other people what they should feel or whether their relationships are real.
    You deserve to be met with bigotry in your own lives until you learn to be tolerant yourselves.
    If anyone was ever in doubt then a coin always has two sides and so it is with sex and love. One side is carnal, earthly and lustful and one side is heavenly, romantic and ethereal. Both sides are a possiblity and one side doesnt determine you more than the other. I enjoy both.
    Its so sad to listen to these scared pussies who are in denial about their own baser side enough that they NEED to troll these threads.
    Lots of people enjoy porn, some enjoy making it im sure. Who cares…

  • christopher_di_crapito

    @Simon: You’re young. And stupid. You’ll (hopefilly) learn. Talk to me again in 5 or 10 years and I guarantee you that your opinions on porn and sex without love will be considerably different. Some of us do like a little depth and substance in our lives and in our relationships. And porn ain’t it.

  • Lulu Fishpaw

    d@Chris: Chris you are a dummy. There are no wives and girlfriends on a porn set you fool. I know you play with you nub thinking about straight men having gay sex but sorry most of it is bullshit. Yeah I’m sure straight guys are lining up to get nailed in the rear end on a film that will be distributed and redistributed for eternity all for a few hundred dollars.

  • Sir Alexis

    Whenever Queerty, which does not bill itself as a hard-news blog, has a piece on porn stars, I’m always surprised by the level of vitriol that results. And what’s with all the angst about what constitutes a “healthy relationship”, and who is capable of having one? Speaking anecdotally, I’d say the majority of the people I know (friends, family, coworkers) who are in relationships are in ones that seem to me slightly less than healthy (but what do I know about what goes on behind closed doors?), and none of these people, to my knowledge, have ever done porn. Porn stars don’t corner the market on dysfunctional relationships; people do! Could it be the result of a culture that demands that a romantic partner be the centre of one’s universe, which of course puts enormous pressure and strain on any relationship?

    And @di crapito, lay off Kennedy Carter. I’ve read a lot of porn star blogs, and while many can indeed be mind-numbing: “worked on my chest today, had a blast shooting such-and-such a scene, etc.”, Carter’s is actually on the interesting side. At least he seems to have interests outside of his own career and the acquisition of new gadgets.

  • Hugh Mann

    Unfortunately, gay-for-pay is real and has been since the early days of porn. If you don’t believe me look up Matt Ramsey (aka straight porn superstar Peter North) also its not that hard to find gay-for-pay guys doing straight porn, since a lot of straight and gay sites are under umbrella studios, you just have to do a quick google search. Just compare the guy’s performance in both and feel your world crumble a little.

    What’s observable on a lot of these gay sites is this phenomenon of gay guys who’ve just accepted their sexuality, loving it, and being a tad overly defensive about it. If they see anything that might seemingly throw their world view into disarray, it’s like they start going through the “5 Stages of Grief”. The most vocal ones on the comment sections are usually somewhere between ‘denial’ and ‘anger’.

    The irony of it is that the way these guys feel threatened about another person’s sexuality and sexual activities is a lot like the way bigots harp about their marriage being threatened by other peoples’ gay marriages.

  • SizeQueen

    ohhhh gawwwd,…I do remember JASON HAWKE and JEREMY JORDAN,…it must’ve been at least 10 years ago that they were the CUUUTEST COUPLE in gay porn (Chi Chi LaRue’s Live & Raw and Channel 1 Releasing),…what fantastic memories,…THANKS!!!

  • Apollo

    @shannon: All work and no play makes Jack a dull boy, though, dont’cha know?

  • Belize

    @Patrick: Ugh… Get down from your castle princess. You’re far too sheltered and naive for the real world.

    “The whole “gay for pay” thing is just marketing since no actual straight/hetero guy would wind up doing a porn where he has sex with men.”

    That ignorant notion is laughable. There are many factors as to why a straight man would choose to do gay porn. The most obvious, of course, is money. They payment a person can get from doing gay porn is exponentially higher than the payment one can get from doing straight porn.

    And before you give me a nonsensical drivel about how there are certain things people won’t do for money, allow me to remind you of these people you called “thieves.” Maybe the next time you read someone getting killed over cash, you would understand. Though, I highly doubt that you’re someone who has ever been robbed before.

    “What a surprise. Queerty is writing about porn instead of actual LGBT issues.”

    It’s funny that you said that and followed up on issues such as barebacking and HIV.

  • Belize

    @Lulu Fishpaw: LOL at your ignorance and naivete.

    “I know you play with you nub thinking about straight men having gay sex but sorry most of it is bullshit. Yeah I’m sure straight guys are lining up to get nailed in the rear end on a film that will be distributed and redistributed for eternity all for a few hundred dollars.”

    LOL! And I’m sure that the next person who thinks about robbing and killing another person for money despite the possibility of getting caught (and even killed in some countries) is enough to make them reconsider. It has, has it? And yet we still have so much of that going on around the world–even in countries like China where corporal punishment remains steadfast.

    A few hundred dollars can be considered big money to some people, dumb ass. And it may shock your sorry presumptuous ass but some people don’t actually think about their futures in order to alleviate current wants and needs.

    For the life of me, I can’t understand why judgmental imbeciles like you would even comment on monetary issues when it is more likely that none of you have ever felt what it’s like to have your lights turned out or to go through an entire day without eating anything. The lack of money is enough to drive people to forgo rationality and seek the most accessible source of income. And if pornography comes to them first, do you actually think they’d say no while considering that this will get published, as you said “for all eternity?” LOL. Dream on.

    “Chris you are a dummy. There are no wives and girlfriends on a porn set you fool.”

    Right. And yet Sienna Splash even participated on a film with his boyfriend Cliff Jensen.

    Go back to your castle, you dumb airhead.

  • Geri

    Gay-For-Pay porn performers definitely do exist. But they are really much rarer than bisexual porn performers.

    NB: If you do both off camera and when you’re not getting paid for it then you are bisexual as far as I’m concerned whether you care to admit it or not.

    This increasingly goes for lesbian as well as gay and bisexual porn these days. Top lesbian porn studio Girlfriends Films has (although the boss is a man) a policy of only employing bisexual women and lesbians – they’re mostly bisexual. There are always one or two lesbians and/or bi women on set behind the cameras and they won’t be impressed with any performers who obviously don’t know what they’re doing. Lesbian owned studios Triangle Films and Juicy Pink Box and bisexual director Nica Noelle won’t employ gay-for-pay girls either.

  • Dirk

    so,
    i know of at least one famous black gay porn couple (jovonnie and city bwoi)
    and marco paris and his black boyfriend marc williams…

    why is this site so devoid of love for black gay porn stars, they exist too.

  • RK

    @Keith:

    I glad to hear that. It just seems that there so many factors that prevent many from having a solid life-long relationship. To me it must not having an addictive personality combined with the ability to separate reality from fantasy and temptations. A strong mind is required. The question is what draws them into porn? Low self-esteem, psychological, etc. Good luck…marriage and kids to follow?

  • jackpapa

    Puritans. Loosen up for god’s sake. Handsome men engaging in intimate acts of pleasure with each other while being recorded so I can watch and join the fantasy? Thats awesome. If I had had these joyous role models when I was growing up in the 70’s, I would have formed a much healthier body image, and a much more free and open attitude toward my own sexuality. You can’t watch a guy like Leo Giamani explore his sexuality, and conjure up ‘shame’ at the same time. I admire adult performers in gay film. They have ed me to a much healthier body image and peace in my mind.

  • Geri

    @Lulu Fishpaw: Re: “Chris you are a dummy. There are no wives and girlfriends on a porn set you fool. I know you play with you nub thinking about straight men having gay sex but sorry most of it is bullshit. Yeah I’m sure straight guys are lining up to get nailed in the rear end on a film that will be distributed and redistributed for eternity all for a few hundred dollars.”

    Actually you do get wives and girlfriends on some gay porn sets and also female fluffers for the guys who need a woman to get aroused. Some of them watch lesbian porn to get hard. There’s also some women directors/producers/videographers/photographers who make gay male porn. Mr Pam is the best known http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mr._Pam
    wikipedia is wrong about her being gay adult’s only female videographer but most of the others who do it don’t specialize in gay porn to the extent that she does as far as I know.

    Having a wife or girlfriend and/or kids as well doesn’t make a bisexual guy straight either. There’s lots of actual bisexual guys in porn. How do you think bisexual porn gets made? Most guys who do bisexual porn do gay porn as well and/or s_h_e_ m**e porn – and some do straight porn too, sometimes using a different stagename. Bisexual porn is big business btw.

    The first porn videographer/cameraperson I ever met was a gay man and he shot mostly straight porn. I was surprised that he was gay for about 30 seconds. But then I was young and a bit naive back then :)

  • villa viper

    @shannon: Shannon most of the time I think you are a ignorant raging c..nt.

    And then you leave a brilliant post like this :-) You are right who cares about these soul-less disease filled mostly white meat bags :-(

    But you are still a raging C..NT :-)

  • pscheck2

    @Keith: Horraay!!! I finally have come across a relationship between two hunks (I am assuming the poster is one, too)that is genuine and long lasting! In film, print and theatre, in general, gay relationships are doomed from the start!We are either into drugs, have Aids (at least HIV+) or commit suicide. It seems the authors of these scenerios can’t think beyound tragedy and being gay is the cross we have to bear! So, horray for our side this time and hopefully more positive stories like this one will be forthcoming? Best wishes for your future!

  • Georgiana

    Surely its a case of each to their own, money or not, what right do any of us have to criticize. At the start of this thread somebody asked about sites where you can see real intimacy and love and the true beauty of Gay love making – does anybody know of one that is not just porn?

  • pscheck2

    I have no argument with ‘Gay for pay!’ except for its faulty image! I don’t understand the gay pron industry having str8 actors? being put in roles of gay performers! There are so many gay hunks who would like to be in porn (and earn this terrific money?) that I find is somewhat disconcerting that they would hire these so-called str8 hunks for gay sex on screen. As a gay person I want to feel that two guys making it with each other are gay and not have my fantasy destroyed by learning they are str8 and only doing it for ‘pay!’ Why? Also, why is it that str8 guys find homosexuality so repulsive? This begs the question: are these so-called str8 ‘gay for pay’ are using this ploy to explore their own homosexuality; enjoying both sides of the ‘coin’ and yet maintaining their status as being str8? Mwthinks this is what motivates many if not most of these guys to get into gay porn!

  • Georgiana

    @Triple S: I couldn’t agree more. There is nothing so wonderful as to see and hear two people LGBT who are truly in love caressing each other in total mutual admiration. Forget the humphing and groaning and false kisses (you can always tell if its real or just for looks).

  • Derek Williams

    As a 60yo relic from the days when you could be jailed merely for fondling another man in the privacy of your own home, I relish the freedom we have to even discuss this topic, let alone the fact that gay-for-pay straight men are prepared to put themselves and their sexual reputations so publicly and irretrievably on the line.

    Porn is for entertainment. Take it or leave it.

  • theGAPguy

    QUEERTY: An UPDATE on this story is needed since you’re running it with regularity. Actually somewhat surprised that J.C. Adams who compiled this piece included the couple you use as your teaser (pic 1). Roman Heart and Benjamin Bradley had separated in April 2011, ten months BEFORE this first appeared on Queerty! Ben is now living in Washington state near his family and enjoying being an Uncle to his nephews. Roman is based in L.A. but is available for travel anywhere in the world according to his Rentboy page where he is also revealed to be somewhat of a germaphobe as he empathically includes the things he WON’T do even if you pay his full price and tip generously. These two men have gone their separate ways. That was true when this article first appeared and is likely more true today. Catch up with the times, Queerty.

  • robho3

    And we care about this why?

  • Charles

    @christopher_di_crapito:

    You’re full of crap, many ppl(not just pron stars, have open or polyamamours relationships. You don’t know Carter’s future or his relationships so you have no room to make presumptions. You’re the pretentious one here.

    And this is all strange coming from someone on a porn related story. What are you doing here anyway?

    Who says they don’t seperate love and sex and then combine the 2 accordingly? Since they are in a relationship I’d like to think they do.

    And don’t come to me with your age crap either. I’m not likely to change my mind.

  • Charles

    @christopher_di_crapito:

    You’re full of crap, many ppl(not just pron stars, have open or polyamamours relationships. You don’t know Carter’s future or his relationships so you have no room to make presumptions. You’re the pretentious one here.

    And this is all strange coming from someone on a porn related story. What are you doing here anyway?

    Who says they don’t seperate love and sex and then combine the 2 accordingly? Since they are in a relationship I’d like to think they do.

    And don’t come to me with your age crap either. I’m not likely to change my mind, not because I’m stupid, because I relaize the relatioship of others isn’t for me to define.

  • Charles

    Isn’t Carter kinda bi? He said he’s turned on about thinking about fucking women but can only fall in love with men. That’s literally bisexual and homoromantic

  • payme2begay

    I wonder if they have pre nuptial contracts. That would be a great to get some feedback on.

  • pscheck2

    It’s interesting that so many of these ‘off-set’ relationships have failed. IMO, egos and a tinge of narcissism infect these hunks and trying to avoid looking for greener pastures, becomes a monumental challenge to their psyche! Maybe instead of trying to have a serious relationship, they should opt for a friendship with ‘benefits’ and go from there?

  • Clark35

    LMAO people in porn having actual healthy relationships that last? LOL

  • Clark35

    @Keith: I’ve never met anyone that had an open relationship where at least one person did not cheat on the other person including the ones who claimed “Durrrrrrrr We only play together!!!”.

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