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Shelly Bailes and Ellen Pontac
Davis, CA
Bailes, 70, and Pontac, 69, were amongst the first legally married gay couples in California. Under the order of San Francisco mayor Gavin Newsom, the two were first issued a California marriage license in 2004, but it was nullified six months later. After many rallies, demonstrations and a California State Supreme Court judgment in favor of same-sex marriage rights, they tied the knot again in June 2008 (prior to the passing of Proposition 8).
The founders of their local Marriage Equality USA chapter and the political group FORGE (FOR Gay Equality), Balies and Pontac also took a stand against the Boy Scouts of America’s anti-gay policies, help feed the homeless and volunteer for numerous community causes. New York-born Bailes is a representative for the LGBT community on Davis’ Citizens Advisory Board, has co-chaired Davis’ Human Relations Commission and was instrumental in the passing of Davis’ 1984 Civil Rights Ordinance—one of the first in the country that banned discrimination based on sexual orientation. “Anyone can make a difference,” Bailes says, “and it’s important to be who you are.”
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Jim Hlavac
Oh geez, there’s not 6 of us geezers you should know — it’s all of us — all of us 50+ who have put up with the most astounding nonsense you youth can’t fathom. Hell, at least you youngun’s get to have 1/10th, well, maybe 1/4 loaf, now. Oh, well, all of us grey haired geezers have a few stories to tell. Ah, yes, the wonderful bar raids, the firing from jobs, the chased out of places for a slight flicker of emotion — you all are so damn lucky it’s wonderful — I smile at it all. — It has gotten so much better you can’t imagine, though I wish you all to try.
and let me give you a bit of history, not just because I was involved — no, it’s because every grey haired gay person was involved in too many stories that it would be impossible to pick just six. http://thedailymush.wordpress.com/2011/10/13/to-the-barricades-to-wall-street-july-4th-1986/ — enjoy.
Jim Hlavac
Oh yah, I see around here bewailing the “thousands” of gay young men who are homeless — well I remember when it was tens of thousands, millions even, hell, it was near 90% of us. I was extraordinarily lucky, my family loved me just as I am — I got all my vast family to write to the Florida Orange people against Anita Bryant — here, a bit of gay grey haired geezer history: — http://www.imfromdriftwood.com/2011/05/09/im-from-baldwin-ny/
but I remember when every gay bar had a Thanksgiving & Christmas spread, for few of us were welcomed at home. I remember rescuing 1 or 2 young guys a week off the streets of the cities I lived in, for their families threw them out. I was not the only one, all of us living grey haired guys did this. I don’t see this as much any more; it’s diminished 90% or more.
Just like all of us grey hairs helped those in the early and mid 1980s die as peacefully as they could. Six? No, all. All of us geezers.
ewe
I think this thread is sweet. Bravo to all those mentioned.
Chad
Once again queerty misses the mark with their “5-6 people of a category that you should know” feature.
Lawrence Ferber
@Chad: “Misses the mark” how Chad? Let me/us know how to improve our work and hit the mark. Thanks!
xander
Bravo Queerty for this article about our trailbreaking elders. this is a nice selection. More posts like this, please.
Hearing stories of and from our ‘foreparents’ helps keep me inspired when I get discouraged.
chpinnlr
Queerty might consider more posts like this, and keeping tha gay history posts…maybe once a month or so? It’s fine for the rest of the world to acknowledge our history one month out of the year, but surely we, as members of the LGBT tribe could do better than that!
Pep, Italy
@ No. 7 agreed ! Make that once a week!
Daniel S
Dr. sprinkle spoke at our LGBT affirming interfaith service here at Texas A&M University on Sunday and a bunch of us went to dinner with him afterwards, he is an amazing man.
Burch
Shelly and Ellen are great, but you have reversed their names – Ellen is on the right and Shelly on the left. They are sometimes jokingly collectively known as “Shellen.” They applied for a marriage license every year to the county clerk, and often all three women ended up in tears when the clerk had to deny them. The clerk said that when marriage equality arrived she would marry them and pay the license fee herself and she kept her promise, making Shelly and Ellen the first married same sex couple in Yolo County.
Stephen Sprinkle
What a surprise to be honored like this! Thanks so much for lifting up the contributions of older LGBTQ activists like me. Your words of encouragement move me. I also want to lift up the very many courageous LGBTQ people whose work goes unrecognized as they labor of justice to come everyday. In their name, I accept this honor. Appreciation to Queerty!
Steve Sprinkle
Dallas, Texas
ROTHERS
age is a good thing. it helps us to be more open and understanding our own ignorants within ourselves.we learn from each other. thanks for the internet