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Is Bryan Safi a Misogynist or are the Real Housewives Homophobic?

The latest That’s Gay tackles that oh-so-pesky problem of Real Housewives and the gays who fawn over them. According to Bryan Safi, this phenomenon sucks: rich vapid women who surround themselves with gay sycophants! Dreadful!

One lady even goes so far as to “emasculate” her “gay boy toy” by making fun of his cock size. Of course, if one gay man said that to another, everyone would go “whooooooooo” and cackle approvingly.

But is there the possibility that there’s something creepy and anti-woman going on here? Could it be that men — even gay men — resent working for women? That the idea of a woman boss just rubs us the wrong way? When a woman jokes about cock size, do we consider it more emasculating than when a man does it?

After all, the gays on these shows are employees. They’re working gays, and the housewives are their bosses. They’re not necessarily friends. They’re professionals. And if the boss thinks of her employee as an employee, well, what’s the problem?

Well, to answer our own question, the problem is probably that the women don’t just think of their gay men as employees, they think of them as “gay ornaments” and say mean things about marriage. Well, yeah, that’s an problem. Misogyny can definitely be an issue for gay men — we wince a little every time Sassy Gay Friend says “you stupid bitch” — but you don’t have to hate women to feel uncomfortable with the way the Real Housewives treat gay people.

For example, observing the grill at a gay cookout and commenting “hot dogs … of course” is pretty much the height of idiocy. STRAIGHT PEOPLE EAT HOT DOGS TOO YOU STUPID BITCH.

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  • QJ201

    More please

  • Armand

    She’s Black. Of course the gahys will use her to their advantage.

  • Mike

    To be fair, the Atlanta Housewives would insult anyone, male, female, white, black, gay, straight.

  • TommyOC

    Actually, the media culture nowadays goes out of its way to paint men in general as idiots devoid of integrity and intelligence.

    (Don’t believe me… just watch any commercial. The woman always gets the upper hand; men are idiots always getting in trouble; they have a one-track mind, blah blah blah…)

    And so that’s one of the reasons women apply a double standard to men. Women are entitled to everything; men are supposed to worship them, without question. In relationships, equality has gone out the door.

    On that note, gays are seen by women as even lesser men.

  • Fitz

    If you live your life as a cross between a court jester and a lap dog, then you have no right to complain that people don’t take you seriously. And as far as misogyny– these kind of women are, themselves, more misogynistic than Archie Bunker.

  • Mike in Asheville

    I’m not sure if the author knows what misogyny is? Or is it being unaware of satire?

    Safi, once again, explores homophobia, and how there are gays (and lesbians, but not this video) who are willing targets of that homophobia.

  • Ryan D

    I don’t think Bryan Safi’s video is misogynistic, he was commenting on how some straight women treat us like pets or accessories. There are many straight people who don’t treat us like equals; it is not anti-woman to point this out.

  • jason

    Female culture is based on vanity and narcissism. What’s there not to like about it?

  • Jake the libertarian

    I love Bryan Safi, and I hate the Housewives. If that makes a misogynist then I’ll just have to deal with that.

  • MMDD

    @TommyOC: (applauds loudly) You hit the nail right on the head. Equality has been not-so-subtly replaced with female superiority. And if you complain about it, you’re labeled a misogynist. The media has completely de-balled and dissed men while simultaneously disrobing women and putting them up on a pedestal.

  • Digby

    Wait, so they can’t critique the bosses because they are women? Have you been so stripped of your critical skills, to see everything through a sexist shade. The women on those shows are horrible. Don’t go to the other side of the spectrum, where women can’t be critiqued because they were oppressed once.

  • bird

    I would say that the fear of the feminine (misogyny) effects these gay men way more than these women. Why can they be treated like lap dogs? Because the people that surround them don’t see them as “real men.”

    I would also like to say that if someone is your boss, they are even LESS allowed to treat you this way. i’ve had a lot of bosses, and none of them ever commented on my penis size.

  • Devington



    If a male boss were to openly comment on the size of his secretary’s boobs, people would be outraged and she’d win a sexual harassment lawsuit in about five minutes. A woman makes a crack about her male employee’s dick on national television, meh, who cares.

    The problem with modern feminism is that they want all of the benefits and privileges men have had over the years but they don’t want to surrender any of the perks that have come with being a woman. They don’t want equality, they want superiority.

  • Rob


    Do you even know what third wave feminism is? You’re not referring to anything close to what “modern” feminism is.

  • semencupcakes

    who gives a fuckin shit

    all these “desperate housewives” are nothing but famewhoring losers who are way to old and nasty to break into acting so they do this instead

  • Cam

    I have to ask. Was the author of this a bit confused or were they purposely trying to invent a headline?

    Safi’s post, although humorous was pointing out the sometime insulting ways the gays are treated by the women on the show…hiring them, depending ont hem for everything, then saying that they are opposed to gay rights because of “Faith” etc…

    And yet the headline starts out asking “Is Bryan Safi a Mysoginist?”.

    Why wouldn’t the headline be “Are the Real Housewives Anti’Gay”?

    You finally make the determination that he isn’t a mysogenist far down in the article. If this was a real story in a legit paper you would probably have to print an apology for running that headline.

  • prohomo

    @Digby: Right on, DIGBY. Sexism works both ways. Women are not immune to bad behaviour and anyone has the right to call them out on it.

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