Oh Marc Jacobs… yes you have dumb tattoos of Spongebob Squarepants, an Ikea couch, and the little girl from Poltergeist on your body, but you also have your hunky Brazilian hubby Lorenzo Martone. Or at least you did until Mortone started kissing some woman’s boyfriend at an amfAR after-party. This is just a rumor of course; but we couldn’t help but notice that you failed to mention your hubs during your acceptance speech for the Womenswear Designer of the Year award at the Council of Fashion Designers of America gala this Monday. So tell us Marc, what’s wrong?
Just last Christmas, while you were eating cold turkey and stale dinner rolls, Jacobs and Martone enjoyed a second honeymoon on the beaches of St. Barts. But then in April the honeymoon ended with rumors of Jacobs and Martone splitting up and folks spotting Jacobs at his business partner’s wedding sans mancandy. We also heard Maytime whispers from another New York scandalite that Martone has a pechant for drunken making out. So if these reports are true, and of course they are, Martone is either a cheating manwhore, they really are splitting up, or they’re — gasp! — in an open marriage. Might that explain why they sometimes aren’t together, and sometimes kiss other people?
Open relationships don’t eliminate jealousy — they simply save it for special occasions. And remember, this is the same couple that denied being married even when there were pictures of the event. So while it may be a while before we get photographic confirmation of their break up, I’m confident you can take the rumors at their word. And in the mean time, I’m even more sure that you can make out with Martone, if you’re with your girlfriend and he’s drunk enough.
What’s wrong with an open relationship? Every couple needs to set their own rules. The LGBT community does not have to mold our relationships to the haterosexuas. In our case as well as many of our couple friends, we add a third now and then….and it hasn’t hurt our very long relationship.
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If you are truly in a commited relationship and you really love each other, there is no room for an extra cock in your relationship. The thought of a lover of mine being intimate with another person eliminates all that is special about a relationship. Having an “open” relationship is simply a stop on the way towards the demise of your relationship….
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@Bob: No you are on the right track! You are on the way towards a new word which accutately describes them: “haterosexuasses” :-p
@PLAYS WELL WITH OTHERS: I agree. And why is it that if a gay couple wants to monogamous, they are immediately told that they are copying “haterosexuals”? What if being monogamous suits them? What if it is what both of them want? It has nothing to do with “haterosexuals”. Nothing at all. You do what you want and that’s that. If an open relationship suits you, do it. If a monogamous relationship suits you, do it. But don’t give me this bullshit about imitating heteros!
For everyone that thinks any type of open relationship (even adding a third to the mix) will distroy what you have; it may, if you let it, but then again, it can also enhance your relationship. I and my wonderful partner can attest to this since we have been together for longer than most of the readers of this site have been on this earth (37 years and counting, and yes; we are still alive and active).
I guess after acquiring citizenship status, Mr. Jacobs has become disposable eh?
Hunky accessories from the Islands have expiration dates…American gay men and straight women seem to always forget that. Poor “Stella” [of “…Grove Back”] found that out the hard way…in real life. Lady Gaga’s “Alejandro” paid an homage to this phenomenon. You do not carry out relationships with men south of the border…they are solely GREAT for seasonal flings. That’s it.
@Bob: Well good for you! I’m glad it works for you. But, however, just because it works for you does not mean it would work for everybody. To each his own. It has obviously worked out very well for you, more power to you, just like a monogamous relationship works out very well for others.
But I will tell you this. You are the exception to the rule. In my life, I’ve seen open relationships flopping more frequently than monogamous ones. Location? Circumstances? Time? I don’t know. It’s just what I have seen in my life.
Oh same goes for Italian men…
To each his or her own.
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“If you are truly in a commited relationship and you really love each other, there is no room for an extra cock in your relationship.”
Maybe in your black and white world it is but try not to fit the rest of us into the model of what is right for you……….
You guys are horrible to each other. And very stubborn.
We to believe that every couple has to decide for themselves as to what works. And if monogamy is right for you, that is wonderful and I commend you. What works for some does not work for others. But, the most important thing is honesty. We have had many couple friends through the years that have condemned us for the way we play, and swore to their faithfulness, only to find that they were both cheating behind each other’s backs (no pun intended). We have always been honest and that has kept us together.
@PLAYS WELL WITH OTHERS: I agree as far as MY relationship is concerned, today, but I don’t want to set the rules for other people’s relationships any more than I want them to set the rules for mine.
@Bob: Agreed. Honesty is the key. It is also, unfortunately, in very short supply.
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If ya misinterpeted my previous post,I an not suggesting settting rules for anyone’s relationship. I happen to be a hopeless romantic. I get all gushy and silly when I gots a special guy. It is just that when I love someone and am in a serious relationship the thought of him being intimate with someone else, having sex with them and then comming into my bed then telling me he loves me just kinda sorta ruins the moment for me. The fact that you and you alone are the only one your partner can be intimate with is what makes a relationship special. Anyone can go out and hook, very few can say there is only one person they will and want to sleep with………..
Why do we care? He’s some high-priced fashion designer who is evidently into high-priced callboys.
OK, now normally I am completely unsympathetic to celebs who complain about invasions of privacy etc… I figure, they are getting paid a fortune, this comes with the territory etc… however, I feel a bit bad in this case, because it sounds like they may both be arguing, maybe one of them is acting a bit impulsive and immature, and it can’t be fun to have all of the drama reported. Ugh,
I am not insecure or jealous. (at least not about this). I am not worried about what the children might think. Do what works for you, and I’ll try not to be bitchy about it, and then return the favor.
@PLAYS WELL WITH OTHERS:
I understand where you’re coming from. But it is not a given fact that sexual intimacy is the SOLE factor that makes a relationship a relationship:
“The fact that you and you alone are the only one your partner can be intimate with is what makes a relationship special. Anyone can go out and hook, very few can say there is only one person they will and want to sleep with………..”
It’s those statements, that are just too simplistic for so many people, and (maybe unintended) offensive to people who are in open relationships. You’re telling them that because they can have sex or even emotionally romanctic relationships w/ other people that they are missing the ‘special?’ There is a great deal besides sexual exclusivity that makes a relationship special.
I am still hopelessly in love with my bf of 7 years, and we’ve been sexually open for 6 of those. Do I think that’s for everyone? no. But I don’t make sweeping statements that look to be devaluing of how other people do their relationships, because my individual moral system leads me a certain way.
@Derek: If you are offended by that statement, then you have some serious questions to ask yourself. Usually, not always, but usually, when it offends, it has hit a nerve. Hmmmmmm……
I hate sweeping statements as well. My husband of 10 years and I have had an open relationship for quite some time. We established are parameters and I am just as much in love with him today as the day we met. Monogamous relationships aren’t better than open ones, they are just different. Communication and trust is more important. What works for some might not work for others. Who’s rules are these anyway?
Can we forget open relationships for a quick sec & focus on what’s REALLY important?
Yes we can!
Marc Jacobs has a TATTOO of SpongeBob SquarePants ??
In what alternative universe does someone want to TAP a guy with that tattoo? Or the Poltergeist gurl?
OK, interruption is now over. Back to our regular programming.
p.s. Marc, you coulda just bought the SpongeBob pyjamas..much less painful that a tatt & easily removable.
@SSCHIEFRSHA: What a xenophobic ignorant piece of s”#& you are!
First, foreigners in a same-sex relationship can’t gain citizenship because same-sex relationships are NOT recognized by the federal government for immigration purposes.
Secondly, I don’t think you can call the following “seasonal flings”:
So shut the f up!
It’s the same in Europe – the natives (from all over, not just South America but admittedly a lot of Europeans have this corny, romantic vision of hot beaches etc) just set in and marry get passports and then dump their mealticket for something more interesting. OF course it is not always like this but does happen frequently.
@SSCHIEFRSHA: As a happily partnered white man in a 10+ year relationship with a brazilian man I prove you terribly wrong. Who burnt you so badly that you now think all foreign gay men are never in it for the long run? Hell, if I was one of them I would surely run away from you for such feeble-mindedness. Just because you have the right to say what you wish doesn’t mean you should so ignorantly exercise it.
^well of course that’s why there called generalisations but behind every stereotype there’s some sense even if the truth ultimately gets grossly distorted. It’s sad that con men from poorer regions of the world put such a blemish on the rest of their countrymen. That being said Brazil is a little bit like Thailand for gay men.
To each his own. Open relationships work for some but not for others. Live and let live.
I’m all for open relationships! But once a man is married to another man, that’s it.. no more openness, you’re committed by a bond that is sacred.
Good for them!
I don’t see why people should be condemned to some pseudo-heterosexual nomality. They’re both good looking why not enjoy it. while they can?
I find that a bit hypocritical. I mean, it’s not like you gays can have real relationships anyway. It just doesn’t work between a man and a man! And if this hits a nerve, then you’re going to have to reevaluate your sexual decisions.
Can we move on, please? Marriage was never sacred, it was always and continues to be a tool designed by men to oppress women.
Nothing wrong with monogamy. Nothing wrong with open relationships. Lots of things wrong with judging how other consenting adults conduct their personal lives.
Let’s cut the bullshizz. Open relationships are for insecure people who hate to be alone. Plain and simple.
I completely think they have an open marriage. If all parties agree nothing wrong with that.
Claudio Antonelli and Jose Ganatti
“What’s wrong with an open relationship?”
This is far more honest than wanting “marriage equality”. When are we going to stop pretending we are the same as straights?
Who are these 2 homosexuals and why should we care?
@PATIO: You may have a point. But im gonna go a little futher. I believe many people who do open relationships lack discipline, impulse control and have some sort of sexual addiction issues.Under the guise of, (im just a healthy virile sexual male). What I don’t understand is how someone can claim to love someone, yet risk bringing that person back a disease??
Is outside sex really that important once you are in a relationship?? There is no such thing as safe sex, only safer sex. Condoms don’t always work and no one is gonna give or get a blowjob with a condom on. And there are many diseases you can catch just doing the little bump&grind thing.Skin to skin contact. No insertion ANYWHERE needed. Which brings me to my next question. To all the people who have been doing the open thing for years and years… How many diseases have you caught?? The more people you do-it with the greather chance you have of catching something. So thats worth the risk to yourself and man you love?? Thats the type of love I sure in the hell don’t want.
Last part: we men are very visual and sometimes that can be to our “detriment.” Cute face. Nice body. Big dick and we’re in.
To hell with them being filled with hate,prejudice,arrogance and being just a reprehesible person who treats other like crap. Of course, you just don’t care. It’s the sex/body you want.
Im sure that many times, besides the STDs, this is the gift you gave yourself. A boatload of evil negative energy…
@Tackle: I don’t know, you ever given your partner or family member the flu?
Yes, I know, HIV isn’t the flu. But on the other hand, it’s a whole lot easier to protect yourself from it. The other stuff…basically flu-like and easier to avoid.
And FYI, not everyone in an open relationship is or claims to be in “love.” Some just like having a good friend and regular sex. Why is that a problem for you? Why does it inspire such visceral loathing? Nobody’s forcing you into an open relationship. Just like gay marriage: if you don’t like open relationships, then don’t have one.
@JESSE HELMS spends a lot of time on a gay site. Jesus, come out already.
Is this really anyone’s business?
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