I sing, I dance, I talk in a high-pitched voice, and my life partner is a bear. In short, I’m a better gay man than you can ever hope to be. … My gaydar is better than yours. Why is that?
—Megan Mullally, speaking directly to the gays,
ought to get a room with Mila Kunis [via]
Gay is primarily mobilised as a consumer demographic, why be hostile to gays that are also hetero-females?
Oh boy, like Mila Kunis, I bet Queerty wants us to believe Megan Mullally is some kind of opponent to our community.
Huh? This is a weird bug up queerty’s bum today about the straight gals…again, huh? Heh, maybe Jason knows what it all means.
Women saying that they identify with being a gay man doesn’t bother me. It’s endearing. When I was a young gay boy in many ways I identified with lesbians, and I said so. So what? We play to our stereotypes (if we have a sense of humor about such things). Maybe Mila and Megan are all in to tina too, enjoy dressing extra tacky and calling it fabulous, and are the best dancers at a party. Who cares? They obviously support our “community,” and are pretty. And being pretty counts more than anything! So they win.
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Yep we’re all walking, talking, stereotypes.
John in Iowa
I sincerely doubt that Megan Mullally is anything but a staunch gay ally, but Davey Wavey’s Vagina Monologue is right: her “clever” remark manages to reduce us all to a stereotype. But after eight years of exposure to Sean Hayes’ and Eric McCormack’s uber-stereotypical portrayals of gay men, it’s hardly surprising.
Im seriously deleting this site from my bookmarks. The place isn’t even worth a laugh anymore.
Until she is able to shake her tv typecasted image of a drunken lush, she is no asset to gay men. I think what she said is very faghaggish and dated.
first of all i’ve loved megan ever since will and grace lol
second of all i dont think megan is against a community she see’s herself a part of:
In 1999, Mullally commented in an interview in The Advocate magazine, “I consider myself bisexual, and my philosophy is, everyone innately is.”
@MatthewCA: Thanks for the balance Matty. I was vacillating between boredom at a celebrity spouting drivel and annoyance at her glib punch list to gain gay cred. You helped me settle on disinterested.
If living up to all the stereotypes is what makes you a gay man then I guess I’m not gay. Wow, what a relief. I can throw my coming out as not-gay now.
Here I was thinking it was being a guy that liked to suck dick and other fun things with other guys that made you gay. Wow, I was so wrong. Thanks to MM, I am not enlightened.
Her high pitched voice isn’t gay, but it certainly is annoying.
OMFG Queerty and your “veiled” hate towards straight women, try therapy or something
Context, context, context
Let’s calm down.
Megan’s not only one of our staunchest allies, she’s also bi (and from before it was the hip new thing).
@globo: Umm, how is quoting her verbatim showing any hatred towards her? She said something she should have never said, and I hope it comes back to bite her in the ass.
Dearest MM, until you have experience getting thrown out of your home by your parents at age 15 because the reparative therapy they sent you to didn’t take, you will never know what it is like to be a gay man. Until you worry about getting to close to your partner on the street because it might bring upon violence, you will never be a gay man. Until you understand what it is like to not marry the person you are love in because your state just passed a constitution barring such marriages, you will never be a gay man.
In short, you stupid bitch, you will never be a gay man, and making us the subject of your jokes doesn’t make you funny or clever, it just makes you stupid.
@Daez: I’m really proud of you for this post. You’re almost always one to never empathize or sympathize with struggles gay folks have to endure, and in this one post you showed so much compassion, heart, soul, strength, understanding and wisdom. Thank you for sharing the personal experiences many gays do indeed go through.
Having been kicked out of my home at 16 for being gay by my religious family, homeless by 17, and gay bashed to the point of being in the ER a week after my 20th birthday. I know the battles I’ve endured for being gay, have overcome them, and pride myself in them today. It’s always disappojnting when some try to down play those battles by suggesting all gay men have welcoming families, born in welcoming societies, and amazing lives. Highlighting our struggles in a safe environment while showing one another love and support helps us overcome it and realize it does get better (especially with support)
Daez, I hope this is making way for a more kind Daez who instead of picking arguments with every gay poster can hand an olive branch and develope more heartfelt friendships on here. Behind your words is a good spirit.
Yeah, what she said sux. The others above said it all. Queerty posting her quote didn’t really seem to judge her at all, unless the “Milan” reference does, but Idk who that is.
She is not a “better gay man” because she’s not a man, and it’s not even a little bit funny. If she were really an “ally”, she wouldn’t say something so glib. “Hating” this quote of hers isn’t about her being a straight female, it’s just about someone making a joke about being a “better” gay man because she’s a woman. How can she be an ally when she would say something just to be cute that is so shallow, glib, ignorant and immature? ugh.
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These disrespectful women who keep saying these things also don’t seem to give a damn about the gay teen boys who are both struggling with their sexuality and societies views of masculinity.
In light of the gay teen suicides getting aired by the media comments like these are just plain irresponsible.
I still have to explain to straight women who think they’re allies to stop trying to treat myself and other gay men like their pet gay or some character they’ve seen on tv.
I’ve actually had women up and stop speaking to me because I didn’t and won’t jump through hoops for them at their beck and call or even dared to disagree with them in conversation.
A lot of these so called allies don’t even view us as men but some sort of asexual children they can adopt, dress up, and take to the mall. It’s ridiculous, belittling, and offensive.
Even my own little sister does it and can’t seem to wrap her mind around my explanation that what she’s doing is offensive. She too stops talking to me on a whim when I tell her what she’s doing ticks me off.
Most of these women just do not seem to get it.
At this point I only interact with other gay men, lesbians, and some straight men. I find straight women who know I’m gay almost impossible to be around.
I don’t hate straight women at all in any capacity, but television has really warped a lot of their ideas of who and what a gay man is. It’s certainly not just these two women in recent articles. Some of the things they’ll say to your face and around other men to emasculate you are downright disgusting and they see nothing wrong with it.
Time for us as a group to stop taking offensive commentary in stride and speak up for ourselves. Even if it doesn’t offend you personally if you know it may offend someone else within this minority speak up. Kids are killing themselves, men are still struggling to come out, and we STILL don’t have equality. Complacency will get us nowhere in life.
She doesn’t sound gay, she sounds quite abnoxious.
Since when was Megan Mullally a straight woman?
She’s bisexual. Google her.
Megan, darling, you are not a gay man. You can never aspire to be a gay man. You may be bisexual as in bisexual-for-the-purpose-of-appearing-cool-to-sleazy-straight-guys (ie fake bisexual) but you would never register gay to me. My gaydar’s better than yours, honey.
There was nothing even remotely disrespectful about either Kunis’ or Mullaly’s comments. If you’re complaining about this you’re doing nothing but trivializing actual anti-gay behaviour.
But hey, this comment section sure disproves the stereotype of gays being witty and humourous!
Yes of course Jason, this is just the sort of stuff that “fake bisexual” women who are just trying to appeal to sleazy straight guys come out with:
AE: You told The Advocate in 1999 that you are bisexual.
MM: I actually didn’t say that. I said that I believed that everybody’s innately bisexual. … [Editor’s note: The exact quote was: “I consider myself bisexual, and my philosophy is, everyone innately is.”] Many of us don’t realize [our bisexuality] to any degree, and some of us realize it to one degree or another, and it’s just a question of where you’re at in your life and your awareness and that kind of thing. It doesn’t have to manifest as a sexual thing. It can just mean that you don’t have to be afraid to hug, or, like, if you’re a straight woman — quote-unquote — and you have a great girlfriend and you want to hold hands with her … or cuddle, good, do it. That’s what everybody should be doing. But I think that in our culture, we’re so paranoid about any little thing — and particularly men are, as you may have noticed. Men are much more aware of expressing any kind of physical affection with members of the same sex. …You know, I said I was open to the idea of [bisexuality]. I was single when I said it and had I turned around the next day and met a woman who I liked and cared about as a person, then I wouldn’t have said, ‘Yeah, but you’re a woman, so forget it.’ I think that’s just silly.
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