Greg Barrett recently spoke at the Katy Independent School District school board meeting in Texas. He was there to talk about the issue of bullying. Lance Hindt, the superintendent of the Houston-area district, was also in attendance.
Barrett took to the podium to explain that he was often targeted as a kid because of his legal name: Greg Gay.
“I was bullied,” he said. “Unbelievably bullied.”
“I started out and I had teachers that bullied me, I had kids that bullied me, even the coaches. I had nobody to turn to.”
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Then he launched into an emotional story about the time a gang of classmates assaulted him, shoving his head in a urinal and kicking him while he was lying on the ground in the fetal position.
Barrett was left with a busted lip, covered in urine, and feeling suicidal.
“Well, I went home and I got the .45 out of my father’s drawer and put it in my mouth,” he recalled. “Because at this point I had nobody–nobody in the school system–to help me. Is that the way this is going to be?”
Then he looked directly at Hindt: “Lance, you were the one that shoved my head in the urinal.”
To which, Hindt responded… by laughing.
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Afterwards, Hindt released a statement denying the allegations over “a bullying incident [that] occurred more than 35 years ago” and accusing Barrett of trying to “impugn my character and reputation.”
But a few days later, another man, Christopher Dolan, came forward to say he witnessed the assault and that Hindt was a known bully throughout middle and high school.
“I do remember, recall, one incident that happened where Lance Hindt took Greg into a bathroom,” Dolan tells ABC-13. “He was in the bathroom and put his head, into uh, into a urinal.”
“He was a bully and he let people know that he was in charge. Nobody messed with Lance Hindt, not at West Memorial Junior High and not at Taylor High School.”
Watch the confrontation below.
tnguy222
What a little puss. There were two types of people in High School, just as there are two types of people in the world– Sheep and Wolves.
As a wolf, for sure I was a bully. Often, the bullies go far in life because they are popular enough to marshal people to a Cause (ie bullying in High School). If you are not sitting at the table, you are on the menu.
My advice, leave the victim mentality behind– it will only hold you back. Become a wolf. Not a lone wolf, but a wolf who works well with others to achieve an objective. Become a Bully.
wiredpup
I bet you’re proud of being a jerk.
ChrisK
@tnguy222. I’m sure you were girlfriend.. Eye roll.
Darkly Moron
Okay, so why is this “wolf” acting like a “little puss” and denying it? If it’s such a noble thing to do, such a part of the natural order, why not just own-up to it and see how many people come to your aid? Why? Because bullies are just scared and damaged people who lash-out at other people to protect themselves. People who are really comfortable with themselves, don’t need to trash other people.
M. Roncevaux
“If you are not sitting at the table, you are on the menu” is the sort of thing stupid people think sounds smart. It completely ignores the complexity of human interaction. There’ve been a few centuries of sociological writing you might want to catch up on.
greg87
OK, Cersei Lannister … either you are rotten to your core, or you are just a common internet TROLL.
happiness17
What a piece of crap Hindt is. A lot of people who I’ve heard of who bullied other kids as a adults realize that they were wrong in doing so. Some have even sought out the people who they bullied to apologize to them. I’m glad that a witness came out.
isa
wolves don’t bully.
wolves who do are ostracised. live and die alone and lonely – if they are accepted in another troop, they are on probation: bullying of any kind and they are out – sometimes a lone wolf wises up, and stops his bullying and gets adopted but until then he sleeps alone out in the cold – where the pumas eat him
DCguy
So in other words, if somebody is assaulted it is the victims fault?
So if somebody is raped it’s their fault?
What a shock, you just admitted to committing assault while you were in school and you’re defending other criminals. Child molesters, Rapists, and Drug Dealers ALL defend each other.
tnguy222
Settle down, kids. I can tell that I have struck a nerve; I trust that I have an audience who were likely bullied ruthlessly as kids.
Every human is confused, incomplete, and vulnerable as a child. Some deal with it by pushing those insecurities onto others. And others have their insecurities doubled by acting as a target.
Whether healthy or not, those who dump on others free up time and rid themselves of mental anguish for more ambitious pursuits.
I, myself, was able to deflect issues of my sexuality on others, and was therefore able to push forward safely my career ambitions as a lawyer.
I have since been able to come out safely because I have the power of ownership.
Domination and subjugation are the natural courses of life. Either you call your way to the top by being a bully, or you are the magnet for everyone else’s crap.
isa
there are too many types of people in high school to number
real people are too involved to care what bullies are up to because they are boring, and usually not very bright.
bullies have high opinions of themselves but behind their masks loneliness
isa
quote ‘Domination and subjugation are the natural courses of life’
all of life is not BDSM:
domination and subjugation are the natural courses of life in a chicken coop – even Terminator could figure that out
isa
it’s funny really
quote “tnguy222 Settle down, kids”
the bully thinks he can still get away with bullying by belittling everybody
🙂
CastleSF
I can see tnguy’s point of view but bully is such a dirty word. It seems like you mean an aggressive high achiever.
darren michaels
Wow..gloating with such pride for being an asshole.?!!
In fact, my own experiences have been watching bullies who strive so desperately to create an illusion of being a “wolf” go through life thinking and pretending to have succeeded but the reality is they end up being nowhere near the success they would like people to think they are.
Studies show that bullies lack prosocial behaviour, are untroubled by anxiety, and do not understand others’ feelings. They typically see themselves quite positively. Those who chronically bully have strained relationships with most everyone, including parents, partners and peers. Its all a charade put on with the intention of hiding their own overwhelming insecurities. Bullies are most often individuals who have been hurt themselves and feel their outlet for retaliation is to treat others the very same way. “Hurt, people, hurt people”.
Very few bullies, or “wolves” as was suggested, manage to get through life independently they need others who they can then hurt and their actions then register to themselves as having succeeded. Stepping on others feels as if they have gotten ahead.
Newton’s third law of motion tells us that every action has an equal and opposite reaction. In physics, this means that when an object collides with a target, there is an equal force going into and away from the target. The law of Karma generalizes this rule to all areas of life, beyond just physical motion.
When a person exerts a force on another part of life, that force will go into its intended target, but it will also return back to the person. We experience the truth of this if we give someone else an encouraging word or a helping hand. We send out a force of compassion towards them by what we say and do and instantly we feel that same compassion in ourselves by feeling good.
When we send out positive or negative energy we cannot avoid the inevitable return of that energy back onto ourselves. Sometimes it comes back right away, and other times it may take a while, but it will ALWAYS circle back.
The president is a bully, and whether he accepts it or not he continues to experience his actions coming back to him. No matter how well he thinks he might have covered his tracks.
Bullies most often put on a big show when they’re in the company of others but personally, when they are on their own they are not happy people. Their lives very rarely feel complete and fulfilled to quite the extent they would like others to believe they are.
“Do Unto Others As You Would Have Them Do Unto You” is, in fact, the reality of life, treat others unwell and it will come back. I’d be willing to bet YOU THINK your “something special” but those around you very likely think your anything but special, more like day old.
Juanjo
Now there is the classic Social Darwinism argument if ever there was one. If you get bullied, it’s your fault. It is all part of natural selection. It not too eloquent but it is no different from the argument Hitler, Stalin and numerous others made while murdering opponents.
startenout
And then when the bullies have victimized them into violence, just like this ignoramus you’ll plead innocent to having done anything. “We knew he was bad news.” No YOU made him that way.
CastleSF
No tnguy is not a troll. He is just a little defiant today, which is kind of cute.
ChrisK
@CastleSF. CastleSF aka Danny595. Yes. A troll defends another troll. Kind of counteracts it though.
PinkoOfTheGange
Haven’t we determined that you never finished uni and never even inhaled the air of “law schools”(sic).
It has been months.
btw real alphas never howl on the internet, nor support an obvious blight on humanity.
Juanjo
So TN, you’re an attorney? Right. And I am next in line for the throne of Great Britain. I have been a lawyer for 35 plus years. Guys like you never have successful legal careers. The attitude you display means that you would suck at rainmaking, the other lawyers in your firm would not trust you, judges would not believe a word you said, and opposing counsel would screw you every time they got the chance.
Trekbike
I was very popular in school and never once bullied anyone. I’ve been extremely successful in life being kind and honest. If I had to diagnose your problem I would say you’re a genuine sociopath. I’m damn glad I’m not you.
dwes09
Ah, nothing like as assH*** that has no idea they are one.
I have been a leader and organized of events and people for years without once being a bully, and know a blowhard when I see or hear one.
You are pitiful.
Tête Carrée
“I, myself, was able to deflect issues of my sexuality on others, and was therefore able to push forward safely my career ambitions as a lawyer.”
So you called the other kids “fag” to deflect attention from yourself? That’s just being a lowlife coward, or in other words, a heterosexual. Then you have your sock-puppet CastleSucksFarts to agree with yourself and kiss your own ass. I know people have low opinions of lawyers, but you just sound sad and loony. Did your mommy write that for you? Good thing she’s got a v4gina, she’d never make it as a writer.
Now pick up that broom, the floor isn’t going to sweep itself.
tnguy222
Briefly reviewIng deals on which I have worked for the last three years, I would estimate the value at about $4.5 billion. I don’t imagine that most of you have ever dealt with 1% of that, so is it is unfathomable. Granted, I did not see the vast majority of that money paid in fees, but very rich and powerful people have trusted my firm, and myself, to handle due diligence internationally.
It might be difficult for the more provincial lawyers or NGO leaders among us to understand that those with real money are often narcissistic bullies who respect only other strong personalities.
The whole point is that bullying is not a default state of mind, it is a tool to be used in conjunction with carrots in order to achieve a goal. Whether by a charm offensive or salient threat, the aim is to marshal people to your causes.
DCguy
@tnguy222 Said…..
Settle down, kids. I can tell that I have struck a nerve; I trust that I have an audience who were likely bullied ruthlessly as kids.
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Awww, the Anti-LGBT Trump supporter tried to attack victims, and then tries to deflect by attacking the people who pointed out it’s inhuman response.
ChrisK
@tnguy222. As I recall you’ve said prior that you’re mid twenties. 4.5 Billion is quite the resume in just a few years. It’s amazing you have enough to time to spend here. DC guy is right. You not only support Trump. You sound exactly like him. As in both being sociopathic liars.
tnguy222
Lol. My resume isn’t even that impressive. I could email the ownership summary page of one $3.55 billion contract alone, but you’re not even really worth it.
If you’ve ever been to an elite school or had any real ambition, you would understand that between 3-5% of the population does most of the truly impressive things. The rest (ahem) subsist on reality TV, pop culture, gossip, and mediocrity.
This comment thread is a classic example of how the bullied of the past become the bullies of the future. All are cowards in person — but strong when a popular viewpoint arises online.
Where is your courage to confront your boss? Or the confidence to confront your abusive father? For your weakness, you deserved every bully….
The pink fascists can have an online comment thread, Id rather try to be like gays like Peter Thiel anyways.
Oh yeah, Trump rocks.
CastleSF
tnguy, defiantly rebellious. You won’t get many heads nodding here but I support that we need to allow various viewpoints , no matter how disagreeable they may sound.
JAWIWA
That may have been how your emotionally (if not physically) abusive parents told you the world was in high school; but that is not how it actually was. Yes, there are damaged peoplw like yourself who are insecure due to the abuse they experience at home and lash out at kids they perceive as more vulnerable (and really because the vulnerability of those kids reminds the “wolves,” as you insist on calling them, of the vulnerability they feel at home at the hands of their own abusive family members. And, yes there are some kids who are shy, or quiet, or on a spectrum, or physically weaker. But the vast majority of kids are neither. They make friends, stick up for each other, stand up for bullied kids, steer clear of assho/es who like to pretend that they are apex predators, and go on to lead meaningful lives.
Valueadded
You are not a wolf, so don’t try to make yourself sound that way. I like how you are trying to control this conversation to prove to us that you are the leader and we all need to follow…This isn’t high school and being a jerk (like you clearly are) is not leadership.
Troyfight
…wow. powerful.
Thad
Use that white male privilege for all it’s worth.
Dwik27
The jerk looks like someone’s grandmother with shoe polish in her hair.
radiooutmike
All I can say is wow.
I was plenty bullied growing up. And while I can commiserate with the bullies who had shitty childhoods (as I did); it still does not make it right.
And then the a-hole can’t even admit to it? He calls himself a man?
darren michaels
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chris33133
If someone carries around that hurt for these many years after middle school, he needs some serious therapy.
And as for the a**hole super who couldn’t even get up the courage to apologize for what he did, he’s a small man and certainly not worthy of being in charge of schools where so many kids are being bullied. He should be fired for the safety of today’s kids in that district.
Daniel-Reader
So if there is a witness that confirms the bullying, the guy is going to step down, right, for the sake of the kids since it becomes a matter of trust being broken with the public?
Daniel-Reader
Also, good for the gentleman for speaking out about bullying.
Jaroslaw
I will second, third and fourth the comments of Darkly Moron. If Lindt is such a bad ass, he shouldn’t be a pussy now and deny his actions. Yes, also agree with DM they are “damaged” people, but new research shows they are (mostly) not scared and protecting themselves, they know exactly what they are doing. There’s more, but I don’t remember- it was a long article, but conventional wisdom has been debunked. Bullies need to be put in their place with zero tolerance. Period.
Jaroslaw
This fits here (from the worlds worst jokes) – My coworkers must be Gay. Every time I walk by, I hear them mumble “what an ass.”
phallictomato
I was bullied at school too (like most people these days), and what sickens me, is that the bully that pushed me into other people and tormented me all throughout school, is now a police officer. You know, the people who are supposed to ‘protect’ people.
The ironic thing is, bullies conveniently have ‘selective amnesia’ when they’re confronted with what they did in the past, but the abuse that was inflicted, ALWAYS stays with the victim. This video just proves the bully doesn’t give a shit about anyone, and that’s not the kind of person you want to have as a school board superintendent.
o.codone
Looks to me like name-calling Trump supporters (as idiots, morons etc.) is against the recently updated Queerty comment policy. As well it should be. After all, that behavior is just another form of bullying and intimidation. I caution the readers against such name calling because it stops any actual discussion in it’s tracks, and because it violates Queerty’s rules about civility. Bravo Queerty for putting an end to the free-for-all that used to occur here in the comments section.
Kevan1
TNGUY222 Do not buy it. Castle SF and tnguy222. My experience in life is that bullies end up without any one who really loves or respects them. Most friends are not real friends. Most of us let bullies think they are right and just dismiss them because they are a lost case. Bullies are never loved or respected.
Fear does not equal respect. Most bullies if not all are sad lonely people who have a lot of insecurities.
Just my opinion. Hope my opinion is not removed.
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