Nobody appears to be buying the far-fetched tale of the straight guy browsing Grindr “just for lulz,” and now one man may have more on his mind than whether or not to skip leg day.
Taking to the Reddit workout sub r/moreplatesmoredates, the man explained he “downloaded Grindr” and uploaded a photo of himself “just for lulz and realized all these thirsty gay men were messaging me.” Well, yeah, that’s kind of how it works…
He decided to “take advantage of the opportunity” and seek out some new gym partners on the app.
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“Well I met with one guy at the gym and he’s spotting me in my heavy sets and also encouraging me to go heavy and finish my sets,” he continued. “It’s awesome and we get to be efficient with our workouts and able to get machines or dumbbells easily sharing, then we go to the sauna and shower together.”
Now he’s wondering if he owes his gym buddy an explanation.
“I feel kinda bad because he probably thinks we will eventually f*ck but I told him straight up I’m only looking for friends I didn’t tel him I’m straight tho… Should I tell him?”
If he was hoping for a simple yes or no answer, he came to the wrong place.
“You downloaded Grindr and met up with a man from said app. Just think about that for a few minutes,” urged one commenter, and the sentiment was shared by many.
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“It sounds like you’re questioning your sexuality or something tell him how you feel,” said another.
Others took a less gentle approach, offering sound advice like, “dude you guys shower together just pull an ancient Rome at this point.”
But a tiny minority took him at his word, and if he really isn’t interested in guys, we hope he reads through all the comments to find this one:
“You should be honest with this person. You wouldn’t want to be led on. Right now you’re doing that.”
“Yea be upfront and honest with him,” agreed another. “Leading people on is a pretty scummy thing to do.”
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Donston
Sounds like another silly Reddit story with an obvious answer to the presented trouble. At least the stories tend to be entertaining if written well enough and not veering into too ridiculous.
There are probably legitimately “straight” narcissistic dudes who sign up for those sites/apps for admiration. But most of the “straight presenting” dudes on those apps are looking for money/looking to rob someone, are looking to cheat on their wives/girlfriends, or are cosplaying as “straight” because of ego and fetish. While many dudes can’t accept that they they may not be homosexual or may not have had many homo experiences, but they long for same-sex attention, affirmation, affection and are somewhere in the gender, sexual, affection, romantic, emotion, commitment spectrum.
bachy
Another possible interpretation: I’ve repeatedly read that straight guys have difficulty finding friends. A lot of women report that although they have many girlfriends they rely on, their boyfriends/husbands often have zero friends.
Would it be so inconceivable that straight men might consider the gay community as a source of more friendship-oriented males? A gay male would probably bring better communication skills, less competitiveness, more openness and loyalty to the table than the average straight companion. Even without a sexual/romantic connection, I suspect we’re better at same-sex bonding.
With the modern advent of same-sex romance, same-sex friendship has lost a lot of the cultural prominence and value it once held. It’s an old bridge between the gay and straight experience that needs to be reinvisioned.
Donston
People are indeed “complicated”. The problem is he went to a gay app and claimed he was looking for dudes to be thirst for him. He then engaged in flirting, sex talk and arranged a meet-up. There are guys who go to those apps and claim that they’re just looking for small talk. What he did was extremely narcissistic and not what someone does if they’re looking for friendship. Looking for friendship and looking to be thirsted after and worshiped and then arranging a meeting while you take on a “gay” identity are two very different things.
There are also many chat rooms that exist, friendship apps that exist, and body-building chat rooms and forums if you’re looking for gym buddies. He specifically went to that app because he wanted to engage with dudes who were thirsty for him then supposedly misled someone. So, either he’s an unapologetic narcissist. Or he’s somewhere in the gender, sexual, affection, romantic, emotion, commitment spectrum and can’t deal with his same-sex attachments. Or both. And once again, this is likely another made up Reddit story.
Boybussy
Gurrrlllllll Pleeeeeeazzzzeee!!!
scotty
YNS (you’re not straight)
SDR94103
everybody knows these stories are made up.
BigJohnSF
Sounds like Reddit is the reincarnation of Penthouse Forum.
winemaker
Many gyms cater to both gay and straight clientele unless of course the gym is a well known notorious gay gym, like the ones in San Francisco, West Hollywood and New York. Being upfront with someone is always the best policy when it comes to issues like this. If you’re straight and go to a mixed gym that has gay and straight members and you’re good looking, be prepared to get unwanted attention from the gay guys. Take this in stride and be flattered and even if they’re not your style, be nice to them but let them know you’re straight. By doing this. you don’t come off as a jerk and the tension is minimized and things remain civil. Really, why is this an issue? Why long for someone who won’t reciprocate the desire when there are lots of nice looking gay guys out there who’d welcome the attention.
Louis
If this is true (doubtful), then he told the gay guy up-front he’s only after friends and therefore owes the gay guy no explanation.
Paulie P
He doesn’t have any straight friends to work out with?
None?
Odd.
Hmmmm.
He is looking for the right one to say.. let’s get a drink after the shower and sauna.
jp47
Assuming this is legit (which I doubt) how would he feel if a woman on Tinder did the same to him, just looking for a workout partner? Also there are plenty of straight men at the gym who would be happy to spot and partner with him on the weights etc., but probably wouldn’t be interested in showering and sauna-ing with him.
Musk
I’ll pretend like I care.
mailliw110
I’m bored…so here I am.