A tweet that claims men who have too much sex with too many women are actually “undercover gay” has everyone talking online.
It all started a few days ago, when user @LadeIsPower volunteered his completely unscientific diagnosis to his 28,000 Twitter followers.
“Any man who has an obscene amount of sex with a high number women consistently over years is a potential undercover gay man,” he wrote. “Being a nympho/deviant is the gateway to homosexuality. It’s why a lot of these rappers are gay. Eventually you get so tired of p*ssy you begin to ‘explore’.”
any man who has an obscene amount of sex with a high number women consistently over years is a potential undercover gay man. being a nympho/deviant is the gateway to homosexuality. its why alot of these rappers are gay. eventually you get so tired of pussy you begin to “explore”
— Lade (@LadeIsPower) May 13, 2020
Unfortunately, @LadeIsPower did not clarify what constitutes an “obscene amount” or a “high number,” which has left countless men, especially rappers, who previously thought they were straight wondering if maybe they’re actually gay.
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Now, we’ve heard a lot of outrageous theories about what makes a person gay, including musical theater, cuddling, recycling, and eating celery, just to name a few. But “too much straight sex” may very well take the cake.
So far, the tweet has received almost 12,000 likes, 2,000 retweets, and 5,000 comments.
And now, the responses…
Now banging other dudes, you see, that is manly and therefore very straight. Straightest thing you can do is bang another dude.
— delerium semens (@EddieVader4) May 14, 2020
Suprise! EVERYTHING is gay now! There is no escape!!!!
— mortgage! | 🗡 | ACAB | (@VVIDE_EYES) May 14, 2020
You see, when enveloped for too long in the caves of Feminine chaos, the penis loses its masculine drive and becomes a feminine penis, which is biologically driven to men
— Jangles ScienceLad (@sjwdebates) May 14, 2020
It was inevitable that someone was eventually going to tweet “Having sex with women is low key kind of gay.”
— Flamin’ Hot Cheetos Rasp (@SeanRMoorhead) May 14, 2020
This is the worst excuse for “I can’t get laid” that I’ve ever seen 😂😂😂😂😂
— diet coke queen (@escaped_ferret) May 14, 2020
There is no “gateway” to homosexuality, even if there was, it definitely wouldn’t be heterosexual sex
— catherine 🏳️🌈 (@pan_demigoddess) May 14, 2020
Oh, but they don’t stop there…
This absolutely true. It’s why I’m gay now. I think y’all should really practice high levels of abstinence to stay heterosexual. Don’t be like me. PLEASE
— Kenneil Rowell, M.S. (@Kenneilreal) May 14, 2020
The manliest thing you can do is fuck another man.
I think you’ve cracked it. Gay sex is the straightest thing a man can do.
— Chuck E. Fuxabunch (@fuxabunch) May 14, 2020
We went in circles and ended up in ancient Rome huh?
— classy boujie ratchet😽💩💩 (@Quigons_miss) May 14, 2020
2020 strikes again
— Adam Lash (@newfoundmass) May 14, 2020
Conversely, a man who has sex with an absolute train of other men is as straight as it’s possible to be.
— Ian Rennie (@theangelremiel) May 14, 2020
New concept Gay Conversation Camp except it’s a Bath House and all the gays have gay sex all the time to make them straight by his logic. They will be so sexed out that they will crave a woman and only a woman.
— TaterTHOT 🥔 – Matt Farnworth 🏳️🌈👨🏼🔬💾🍺 (@matticusmaximus) May 14, 2020
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Mister P
Interesting theory.
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yancha
Oh look another Graham post about heterosexual guys being gay…
how come everything this dude writes is the same shit, get over it, some straight guys are indeed straight and they don’t wanna blow you because you have a Penis!
curiobi
It’s how he rolls, I don’t even have to check who wrote these kinds of articles to know it is him anymore. Since I know Donston is likely to comment, and GG’s articles often leave more shaking my head going, wait WTF now?
Then there is the inevitable debates in the comments about straight men, vs closest cases, vs bi-leaning men, vs full on Bi men; and why is GG always writing about straight men anyway, is it a fetish?
So, now I just make a cup of tea and sip it while reading before bed. I am just here for if now!
Donston
That tweet overly simplistic (as most tweets are) and was almost homophobic. But there can be some truth to the scenario he put forth. Having a hyper sex drive and having anxious physical attachment to females can sometimes be a hint to being overall homo-leaning. Some of these dudes see women as not much more than living sex dolls, sociological protection and baby holders. But they still overall prefer their same sex. This can sometimes be the case with dudes who constantly hook up with tons of random guys and who have an anxious sexual connection to men. They may still ultimately have more hetero passions, affections, emotional longing, romantic connections. relationship fulfillment.
The tweet by itself is basic, but people shouldn’t dismiss his perspective entirely. Lets not forget George Michael going to therapy because he kept hooking up with tons of random women. As I’ve said quite a few times on here, sexual behaviors and identities often do not tell the full story.
Mister P
Looking at you Leo DiCaprio
Kieran
The word homophobia first appeared in print in an article written for the May 23, 1969, edition of the American pornographic magazine Screw, in which the word was used to refer to heterosexual men’s fear that others might think they are gay.
Hussain-TheCanadian
I love it when straight men get trolled – You guys know some simpleton is going to read that and believe it.
Donston
His “theory”, or some versions of that theory, has actually been around and widely talked about for a while. At least they have when it comes to Black social media. While there have been public figures who’ve fit aspects of these theories. I already mentioned George Michael. But remember the boxer who was barely in his thirties who had ten kids with eight women before coming out the closet? People keep telling their truths or we keep seeing different examples of so many different things. Randomly hooking up with tons of women can sometimes reflect not having women as a major part of your orientation beyond the sexual aspects. It can reflect insecurities of manhood or secretly having deeper feelings towards your sex and same-sex affections, romantic longing, emotional fulfillment, relationship contentment. A decent amount of guys over the years have either flat-out said this much or have hinted towards it. Yet, many choose to ignore them because it doesn’t suit their agenda or fit what they understand about sexuality or orientation. Of course, most guys who hook up with a bunch of different women are not secretly really into dudes and really want to be with a dude. But if you’ve kept up with your queer theory and kept up with discussions on things like fluidity and the orientation spectrum, you will see certain distinct patterns with a percentage of people.
Some of this stuff is cherry-picked to paint all “queers” as sexual maniacs or paint “gay men” as manipulators. Some people take certain examples and use them to promote homophobia. However, that doesn’t mean that there isn’t a vast variety of different things out here.
Hussain-TheCanadian
Thank you so much for your input Donston, I dont say it enough but I do enjoy your replies. I think for me, as I self evaluate my own biases, I have a hard time accepting the idea of a gay man having sex with women. Maybe its because I find women sexually unappealing I expect other gay men to be as revolted as I am.
I dont know if it’s my own internal trauma from my teenage years, I had 2 girlfriends I thought having sex with could change me. Having sex with them was so unenjoyable it perhaps left disgust in me for female sexuality overall.
That’s why I find it hard to understand how can a gay man continuously have sex with multiple women??
Donston
It’s refreshing to see someone admit their own biases and admit that there are things that they just don’t get. I’ve had to battle against my biases and struggles to try and understand others more and to be more generally empathetic and less bitter. And it’s still an on-going process. I try to follow these guidelines when it comes to communicating with others, especially when it comes to identity, sexuality, orientation:
1. Genuinely listen to people. It’s very easy to dismiss someone if they say something completely left field of your experiences or your way of thinking. But even if you don’t end up agreeing with someone or understanding them, it’s important to listen.
2. When a decent amount of people claim to have similar experiences, chances are there is at least a kernel of truth going on there.
3. Ultimately, people can do what they want to do. Outside of mandated laws there are no rules. People have always and will always do what they want and say they are whatever they wish to.
4. Everyone is not made of the same stuff or driven by the same stuff. We all have different dimensions, struggles, traumas, priorities. Some people are more inherently sexual than others and are more driven by sex than other. Some people aren’t that driven by sex at all. Some folks are more driven by ego or money or family or religion or their idea of love. While (here I go repeating this for the thousandth time) the gender, romantic, sexual, affection, emotional investment, relationship comfort spectrum is incredibly wide and varied. And there can be fluidity or contradictions depending on the person.
That tweet was basic and problematic. But we do need to be able to have these types of uncomfortable or at first nonsensical conversations. People need to be able to speak on their nuances and struggles beyond identity and politics. That’s the only way to stop manipulations, hate and ignorance. It’s the only way everyone can keep it completely real and live the lives they want to live.
curiobi
… So by that logic women who sleep with lots of women are straight. Men who sleep with lots of men are straight. Women who sleep with lots of men are gay. Men who sleep with lots of men are … wait I’m lost…
Well, I think we can at least all agree that there is in fact nothing manlier than taking it like a man.
Donston
The tweet was overly simplistic and accusatory. He was pretty much saying that being a complete ho with women means you’ll eventually get bored of just hooking up with women. That by itself is dumb. However, if you are a legit nympho/sex addict and you can’t help hooking up with tons of people you are a bit more likely to push your sexuality in whatever direction to maintain excitement. And there have been men who have talked about getting bored of hooking up with tons of men. So, they started to involve women. There are guys who stay getting into bi threesomes despite not being that into men or that into women. They get off more on watching hetero sex. There are guys who view women as sex dolls and play things. They enjoy playing with women’s body parts, but their general passions, affections, romantic longing, relationship contentment are homo. Never mind the realties of fluidity. You should be aware of this different convoluted stuff considering your name.
The tweet was problematic. But we do need to start comprehending and being okay with just how different everyone is and how singular sexuality and orientation often is.
curiobi
You are a treasure on this site Donston! We can always count on you when someone starts talking smack about Bisexuality, all will be explained!
mylinh2504
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Woteva
Does this mean that because I’ve been intimate with hundreds of men in my life (I’m 64) I might actually be straight? Ewww. Nah, I tried it twice (with 2 different women – separately – when I was 19) decided I didn’t like fish and became a born again vagina decliner.
Never look back!
trsxyz
Oh pleeze…..
succubus
yeah right…..