Tom Daley recently sat down with The Guardian to promote his upcoming self-help book, Tom’s Daily Goals,
The 24 year-old diving champ chatted with the newspaper about everything from coming out, to meeting his husband, to becoming a dad.
Check out the highlights…
On coming out:
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Journalists always asked: “Do you have a girlfriend?” And I always said: “No, diving’s my No. 1. I never said: “No, I don’t have a girlfriend but I’m looking for one.” And then someone asked: “Do you ever wonder why people think you’re gay?” And I said something like: “Maybe because I spend half my time half naked,” thinking: “They can think whatever they like, what does it matter?” But then the next day, headlines were all: “Tom Daley is not gay.” And that’s what sparked it [coming out]. Because I was not having people thinking I’d been lying.
On falling head-over-heels in love with Dustin Lance Black:
It was a real love-at-first-sight thing. But then I had to come back to England so we were just talking on the phone or WhatsApp or whatever. Then he came over eight weeks later. The first night, I took him to meet my friends and said: “This is my boyfriend.” The next night we went on our first date. The next night he asked me to be his boyfriend. The night after that, after a couple of lychee martinis, he told me he loved me. He extended his trip, we were already talking about babies and weddings. So that was in the first week. It was weird. But now it’s five years later.
On becoming a dad:
I’ve been shopping for baby clothes for six years, since before I met Lance, since I was 17 or 18. There’s nothing I’ve ever been more sure of in my life than having a family. One of the things I was so mortified about, so upset about, when I came out, was that I’d never be able to have a family. But then obviously I did more research. Because there’s something so special about passing on what my parents have taught me to children of my own.
Vince
Oh lord. On day 3. I love you Tom. Got the ol hooks in that boy fast. I’m sure it was just all love. Lol
Chrisk
So effing what. Dustin doesn’t have to troll for teens anymore at Bryan Singers parties and Tom got himself a great connection and father replacement. Stop being bitter people.
tham
it’s two adults.
And if you don’t approve…well thank god you’re not in charge of the world.
Vince
Oh f*ck off. I have a right to express an opinion on two fame whores that Queerty covers ad nauseum. They aren’t some gay patron saints of the holy trinity above any criticism.
kiriakis1
No mention of the sleeping with a model on Day 64 or thereabouts?
Chrisk
Tom is around the hottest boys in the world. Who can blame him. Plus, maybe he wants to play the bottom every now and then too.
Brian
Love at first sight isn’t real. That’s not love. That’s chatting on an app. People, get real. Go read a poem at least. Get a sense of what love can be, and speak about your own “whatever” a little more realistically.
DennisBTR
Sorry to call you out – I met a boy and fell in love with him on first sight. That was sixteen years ago. Still together and married two years after we met.
Not sure what you definition of love is, but I can assure you that my love for my husband is very real and has been since day one.
Frank Lee Mideer
Sorry, that’s a load of BS. My husband fell in love the 1st minute we met. That was almost 39 years ago. We have had a wonderful, monogamous marriage from day one. I’m sad for all the guys who can’t find the relationship we’ve had, but it can happen at any age. Keep the faith.
Thomas
sorry mate, I saw my husband almost 2 years ago and said “that is the man I am going to marry”. Well it took 23 months, but we got married on June 15, 2018. I definitely believe in love at first sight.
mujerado
Denying that something is real because we haven’t seen it or can’t get it ourselves is a very human reaction, a self-protective rationalization. That’s all it is, Brian. Don’t try to tell other people that what they found “isn’t real.” You can’t possibly know.
Greg
I believe in “love at first sight”, but apparently nobody else that I meet does.
David Pumo
Wow. Three bitter comments from three bitter queens so far. Sorry your lives are so miserable that you have to be nasty to two people who fell in love are making it work.
tham
totally, bitter, bitter, bitter lonely single queens.
Lacuevaman
this whole site is nothing but a forum for holier-than-thou bitter queens to comment about themselves. check it out.
Vince
You know girls. Ironically I’ve found those that routinely toss out the bitter and queen insults are usually big ones themselves. I can just see you splitting it out with a big ol lisp in your voice.
tham
@vince
Are you “gay shaming” on a gay site? Really?
tham
Hehe Russians are really bad at “gay anger”
dwes09
Personally, I think they should have waited a year or two longer to have a kid, as kids need settled stable environments for the first several years at least (I think straight couples should as well). But beyond that, all that stuff about the age difference, what they get from each other, who’s the top…It is all childish imagining and best kept to yourselves if you want anybody to ever take you seriously.
Prax07
Who gives two sh!ts if you totally believe in love at first sight? Those of us that believe that is utter bullsh!t have a right to think that way. Love at first sight is totally not real, so what? Go get butthurt over something that actually matters. Like what’s going to happen with their baby when one or the other decides he wants to screw around or that one is suddenly too old/young and they break up. Celebrity couples never last very long in the scheme of things, especially when both parties are nothing but shallow fame-whores.
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Donston
These two and some of their decision making and how they’ve presented themselves to the public does make me a tad “uncomfortable”, and it barely has to do with the age difference. But ultimately, there’s nothing illegal going on, it’s their lives, and neither seem like bad people, maybe attention desperate’s who’ve offered up a decent amount of cringy quotes, but not bad people. So, it’s whatever. At least we have a few relatively high-profile, non embarrassed, non self-hating out dudes that truly celebrate and promote same-sex love and commitment.
mujerado
In case you haven’t noticed yet, the “cringy quotes” aren’t coming from Tom and Dustin. They’re right here.
Donston
“Cringy quotes” and trolling is really nothing new here. It’s nothing to get up in arms about any longer. Just engage the comments and people you feel are worth engaging.
Hussain-TheCanadian
I honestly would find it “interesting” if someone im dating told me on day 3 “I love you”, and on day 6 started talking marriage and kids – Logically speaking isn’t love based on action more so than on “sight”?
I’m just skeptical, I don’t know if we are cynical or simply read “Romeo and Juliet” to the end.
mujerado
Romeo and Juliet’s problem wasn’t with each other, and it wasn’t being too young. It was their families.
Greg
People say “I love you” all the time. I wish somebody would say it and mean it.